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Babzrockman:
We are here in Kano waiting

jesmond3945:
with gpt4 and other tools? Can she compete?

dahgifted:
Good day Nlanders!

I'm a graduate of Business Administration, hoping to serve next year, 26 years of age and i really need an input from experienced persons.
i want to learn digital skills but I'm confused on the exact one to venture into citing the skills with high demand in both home and abroad that reeks back bountiful money.
secondly I'm also considering going for masters but also don't know the exact discipline that will be pleasant since i already have BSC in business administration.
I just want to make the best decision on which Career path to follow.


PS : I plan to travel abroad it in few years time as nothing seems to be working here in Nigeria.

jesmond3945:
data science

Islie:
As Badaru assures prompt payment of entitlements




https://leadership.ng/just-in-113-generals-retire-from-army/

mrrandomguy:
1. Surrender your life to Jesus Christ, let God be the captain of your ship, and be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit.

2. Don't fall into sexual sin. Avoid every appearance of sexual immortality at all cost.

3. You see all those women with waist beads, leg chain, nose rings, long painted nails, dyed low cut hairstyles, etc, run from them. They have ruined many destinies and destroyed many glorious men.

4. Also be careful of undercover witches and marine agents in holy holy churches like Deeper Life, MFM, Assemblies of God, Chosen, etc. These types always act godly and homely, but they destroy slowly like cancer.

5. Improve yourself professionally by every ethical means possible.

6. Surround yourself with people of good reputation.

7. Be wise in how you spend money. Invest in your career and tangible things like real estate.

Ulunne777:
Their problems are reconcilable.He accepted stu..pid suggestions from red pilled NLs.

The Op used to earn 50k.Op removes some for tfare and the other to his mom in the village and wifey 30k at a time girlfriend now wife had triplets.Complained that 30k isn't enough to cater for the op,his sick mom,the wife and 3 newborns.Nl boys said she should go and get a job if she wants more.

The kids were not in school which the op could't afford
Pray tell me who will take care of those under 3 triplets if she decides to go find work like y'all suggested.Op also said there was no money to set up petty trading at home.

This lady got a job in Lagos(Op concludes it's Ashawo work),she took the girl among them along(I guess to avoid hearing sexual molestation story and I would do same).You don't know what it means to see your kids hungry and you are helpless.

Now all of a sudden the Op has more money to rent extra rooms and common sense did not tell you that his priority is to gather his family?
How long would those babies live apart because of his ego?

Sirchiboy:
Made a stand to stop sleeping with hoes coz I came into full awareness that nothing is so special about sex.
It will only drain your money and leave you in a state of perpetual regrets.

PornLegend:
Read the topic.
As for me, my own na this type of gown/dress
Oh lord, if my woman wears this thing come enter room with me, I fit promise am anything I swear
My brain wee kiss switch off

What about you?

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh. During combat, professional soldiers cover their faces.

Newton2024:
They are both gallant and beautiful.

happney65:
Iyalaya e lo finish . Oloshi

ijustdey:
President Tinubu Budgets N10billion To Renovate Gbajabiamila’s Official Residence, Another N570million For Travels



https://saharareporters.com/2023/12/06/president-tinubu-budgets-n10billion-renovate-gbajabiamilas-official-residence-another

dre11:
https://dailytrust.com/akpabio-cancels-dubai-trip-amid-outrage-over-nigerias-cop28-1411-delegates/

MikeofKd:
Good day Nlanders, pls I need the wisest counsels of wise Nlanders. I have a problem which is lack of commitment to women, ive been this way since I left uni, and pls know that this isnt due to masturbation or any sorts, cause I havent done that thing since my teenage years.

I meet a woman today , we vibe, connect and all but i'm just damn too scared to commit any woman no matter how good she is. I'm scared that if I continue this way I may likely find it really difficult to get married.

Seeing and experiencing different complains of men in real life and on the forum as made my commitment issues with women only worse. I'm currently working, fair pay, got my own place, I'm doing quite well for myself. Ive met different women this year that were good women, but I fear if I give my heart to them they may switch up, women are too complicated naturally to cope with.

This fear of commitment is seriously holding me back from getting a serious relationship. My only fear is if I continue this way I may not get married. I need the counsels of wise nairalanders to advice me on what to do concerning this commitment issues cause it quite depressing no lies.

I form hard guy, but deep down I really be craving for a romantic relationship, I'm just too scared to give any woman my heart cause ive been hurt in past relationships . So hurt that even when I had a good woman I couldnt see it and I lost her.

Your Wise advice and counsels would be deeply appreciated thanks.

Shalommy:
Chaii... They'll rape this gal to nonsense. Oh lawd!!

mukthar2000:
This remind me of one stupid Oga in my office that carry work for head like say no any other person can handle the job except him, even the yearly leave the don't go thinking that the nobody like him, the year management forced him to go on leave, was the year they send him his sack latter on his leave .

Laird:
Did.the job force or make the person work.on the job 24 hours a day, 7 days a week


Did the company stop the person from resigning or changing jobs


If where you buy food shuts down, won't You find an option

Please it's good for opinions to be balanced

Even the Founders and.Owners of Businesses Pass on too

Don't they pass on and Business still.continues

I entered a mortuary and saw a picture.of.the Founder who is now late

So.the mortuary Should close down because the founder.is.Late

A place nearby had the owner pass on

The place is still.running

Businesses would continue even if the founders or staff are no more

Even.overseas, many companies are still running even though the founders are no more alive

TheSPEAKER:
He's human too. Isn't he?

Wifeoflgbo:
I was previously heavier at 90kilograms but I didn't look very big. He told me at the time that he liked it. And that he liked my body.

But recently I have lost weight. He told me I have done okay but to not gain anymore weight. But to lose more if I can. Even though I am feeling sick from lack of food. My medication is what keeps myle chubby. So I have to eat very little just to lose weight.

I said "I thought you told me you liked my fatter body?" He told me "I was just trying to be nice. I'm not a mean person. But I didn't like your old body. But this one it bust my head!" I felt really upset by this. So I asked him if he was still attracted to me back then and he said "yes" and I asked if he would leave me if I gained more weight. And he said he would never leave me if I'm skinny or fat. I asked him again why he said he didn't like my old body, and he told me he "never said that" 🙄🙄🤦 after he got super excited about my new body for another 20mins, he told me to stop bringing it up and that he needed to get some rest.

So I let it go. But part of me still feels hurt. Feels self conscious.

My husband is igbo and lives in Owerri and I am a white westerner. So maybe I am misunderstanding or the cultures are clashing here?

lordfemzy:
Hello friends,

I am please asking for all the genuine help i can get right now to deal with an issue that has tormented me all the days of my life. I am open to criticism if it comes my way.

Situation: my mum (biological mother) is extremely lazy, lacks discipline, difficult to advice and very manipulative. However the laziness aspect is my main issue.

A brief history of myself, i am currently in my late 30s, firstborn and only male, with 2 sisters also in their 30s. I have been managing her case for the past 30 years since our father passed. I should mention that her mental health isn't that perfect and she suffers breakdown at least once a year whenever she misses her drugs. The nature of her breakdown is that she will keep on talking about most events from the past and view them in a negative way, she gets violent at times and uses foul words while cursing anyone who she thinks has wronged her. I pray non of us reading this will experience this in their families.

The chaos we experience whenever there is a breakdown is something i don't wish for my enemy at all, the effect is draining financially, emotionally and in various other ways you can think of. Infact looking back i owe God a lot of gratitude for the strength and courage he has given me and by extension my sisters in managing her very tricky situation. The shame, embarrassment, wasted time and efforts, lost opportunities that have come with her condition can only be imagined. I have had to sleep over at the hospitals various times whenever she's on admission running into weeks at times, i have had to represent the family at functions she was suppose to attend but due to ill health. I was lucky i didn't fail any of my last papers in Uni cos she was on admission, i missed a second class upper courtesy of my mums condition, the only 2 courses i ever failed in my 4 years at the Uni can be linked to her condition. I had to practically plan and organise a wedding for our last born cos she was on hospital bed. Some of her breakdowns happen whenever an occasion or celebration within the family is about to happen... my 21st birthday, final exams leading to graduation in uni, weeks to my wedding, weeks to her second born wedding, a whole month to our last born wedding, funeral of her mother in law, funerals of our grandparents, her own 60th birthday... the list is so long and at times i almost consider it spiritual but i am better informed.

In the last 2 years or thereabout i have been able to connect a few dots and patterns based on what i have experienced and seen. When my mum and her siblings (five) were being raised, the kind of family setup was such that cousins, distant cousins and relatives lived with them. This was because her late dad was a University lecturer, probably the 1st in his Hometown and granny was a primary school teacher, you know how it was in those days. I was able to understand that my mom and most of her siblings except one practically lived a life free of stress cos they had other relatives who were willing and at disposal to do major chores and take up responsibilities at home, they sort of lived a carefree life. I have stayed and lived a couple of times with these other siblings of my mum due to various reasons like holidays from boarding school, moving to another location for job opportunities etc.

I can practically tell from what i have seen with this people. All her life, things were being done for her and she's just free to do anything she wants apart from chores. Even her building project though her own money and sweat was an initiative of her late parents. They were practically her project manager and support system throughout their lifetime. Its a good thing to do but not setting limits and not being hard has it own detriments eventually, cos till date she's entirely reliant on anyone available to do even the simplest of chores. Let me quickly breakdown some of her acts and attitude which is very injurious to her own health.

1. The first on the list and perhaps the most annoying one is her laziness and OMG it reeks to the heavens. She avoids responsibilities and doesn't do house chores and generally procrastinates. My mum will use the toilet in her room and even living room and not flush properly on a constant basis. She does this even when she travels elsewhere. My mum can eat but cannot wash her plates and utensils, she will leave her plates in the living room for days or just anywhere, pots will pile up in the kitchen and will not be cleaned until every other option is exhausted and a new meal must be made. She will not lay her bed or change sheets constantly. She doesn't dress smartly and lacks good wardrobe management. She doesn't sweep, her corridor may not be touched in weeks same with other rooms in her apartment. Shes doesn't bother if she's unkept. Whenever she eases herself, due to her carefree attitude she will leave stained urine on her clothe and she will wear this throughout the day causing mayhem wherever she goes. Just add anything you can thing of as examples, you will find it with my mum. The annoying thing here is that if you advice her or suggest a change, she will rebuke you and tell you your are insulting her.

2. She's carefree and lacks good financial management. She earns well over 100K per month as pension and if we calculate her expenses per month she should have over 30 to 35k as savings. You can never account for how she spends her money! 10 days into a new month, the money is gone. Most times her friends abroad send her free money from and she will just squander the money on frivolities. She has a small shop that she runs, but for her to even stock the place sef na issue, she doesnt have a separate account for business and no stock is taken end of month or at least a quarter. We actually warned her against the line of business as its very common and the profit isn't much. We have practically considered her carelessness, carefree attitude and inability to keep things safe and warned against the shop idea. In the last 3 years she has lost 2 phones of high value. As if she likes to brag, whenever shes having discussion about money that is in her favour, maybe salary or someone abroad sends her money, she will begin to speak at the top of her voice such that an average person passing round can almost get full details. We have severally warned her against this but no luck at all. The consequence is that she has been defrauded a couple of times, you can act as a fake customer care agent of any bank and ask my mum for sensitive details like card number, password and she will give you immediately without a second thought despite the fact that she has been warned repeatedly. As a matter of fact she doesn't listen to her children's counsel or advice, but anybody from outside will give her advice and she ll make us of that one. She once told me off that i am not in any position to advice her that shes older than me and it should be the other way round. But when all the shit happens yours truly will be the one managing d situation.

3. She's manipulative. My mum is a master in this game and i am ashamed of her actions. I can't even mention some of the things she has done to my wife and I on this platform. She lies, deny incidences and things she has said. About her drugs, there is just one rule, do not skip any of morning or evening doses. Whenever she does she will never own up to you and when the effect is now seen, she will still try to cover up by saying she can't remember.

4. She's unforgiving. My mum is the last person you want to offend, even things that shouldn't be considered will be used against you when the time comes. For instance my mum may give someone raw food out of her own freewill or maybe the person asked for it, but months from that time the story can change that the person is the one stealing raw food or looting her house.

I apologise this is a long read and i can't even explain a quarter of what is going on at the moment, but the summary is that her laziness and lack of motivation is driving me nuts, i always have to bear and manage the consequences whenever shit happens. Its not easy for me cos i have my own family to manage and the responsibility is killing. Currently her househelp resigned 2 months back and the house has been a mess since then, she does practically nothing. I have been attending a workshop for the last one week and heard she's been feeding on puff puff and cornflakes every other day without making stew or soup and eating real food. This is a woman that money on her, even if you are lazy to cook, why not indulge yourself and patronise eateries till you have motivation to enter kitchen. Why not even make an arrangement for someone to come cook food for you everyday amd pay the person weekly or daily. We have to think for her and suggest things that require no initiative in most cases. I had to go and buy beef and made blended stew for her last weekend for example to motivate her amd assist like i always do. When i got back the following weekend, the stew wasn't even half used and there was mould on it indicating that she never cooked a serious meal, she was probably buying bread and removing the meat until it finished and lost interest in even heating the stew to warm.

Its more like if i don't do things for her, she will make herself fall into a state where she will enter deep sickness or starvation or depression such that people will see me as a bad person if anything sould happen to her. Already she has created that impression and she's living the lifestyle. Its been two weeks she's has remained indoors for no reason, no opening of shop, no cooking, no cleaning, no laundry, no strolling out and always expecting unknown help from anywhere it comes from. I have told her to pick herself up that help is something we must give ourselves. I have to go out to work daily not sitting down to baby sit my mum who is not an invalid. Her body is complete with no defects but i can't just help her laziness and attitude anylonger, its choking for me and i can't take ot anymore or do more than i have been doing. I have literally carried this woman for the most productive part of my life and done nothing wrong just loving my mother unconditionally. I have come to a point where i have to move on and break some unnecessary connections for my sanity and future of myself amd immediate family.

Please help and advice me guys on what to do. When she not in good health mentally na wahala and serious commotion and when shes stable, i have to battle with laziness, constant manipulations, carefree lifestyle, lack of discipline and vision and lots more. I have endured these cycle for too long. Also note that my sisters are married and are not even available at all, one is overseas and the other in a faraway state. I may not have touched some areas cos the issue too plenty but if questions are asked i would digress into it and share details truthfully. God bless

Moderator Sir/Ma, i beg you to help me push this to front page. I am not feeling good at all. Thanks

hisexcellency34:
In China, he would have been executed

CoronaVirusPro:
Bunkum and balderdash!

Did he replicate same gestures in Anambra, and what was his achievements and legacy`s?

Coming from same man who stashed money in safe havens to avoid taxes and investigation!

Anyone can scribble the gibberish he put up there.

From the way Peter talks, one would think he has some outstanding legacy`s on ground which puts him in position to make such composition, but the reverse is the case. Even the present Governor of Anambra attested to the fact that, poverty increased in the state during his administration, and here we have same Peter oinking on what's not!

rockok:
How does bullying affect someone in an environment especially academic environment. I am actually in an academic environment and I am being bullied. I believe it is having an impact on me.

I am thinking of leaving but I have spent a lot of money and don't want to leave. I want someone opinion on what to do?