₦airaland Forum

dayokanu: Did you read the aricles at all? First of all, No where in that article does it posit that there are more Africans attend Ivy league than Asian or Whites. The point they are making is that though Affirmative Action was meant to benefit Blacks- mainly AA, Africans are the ones taking their slots in the said policy and getting into Ivy league than the intended recipents of the policy.

Actually a higher proportion of Wealthy Afdricans made their money in the diaspora. many came here as indegent students or migrants and worked their way up.

Go to Jail records and check how many are Africans or Nigerians. Nigeria is the most populous black country but they are not the most populous Black group in America

If AA are more than Nigerians in population doesnt it make sense that AA should dominate college enrollments?

Where did i posit the article claims there are more africans in ivy league institutions? The key word is proportion and I got that from here;
"A larger proportion of immigrant black high school graduates attend selective colleges and universities than either native black or white students in America, according to a study by sociologists at Johns Hopkins and Syracuse universities"

Now I'm assuming elite and selective are reffering to ivy or at least top universities. Not sure how the US university league system works but it should be a safe assumption.

I'm not saying African American's are the same as Migrant Africans, any fool will know that is not true- we are very different and have been so for the hundreds of year's we've been seperated.
I'm saying regardless of the educational rates you want to pull up (and please let's not forget most of these people DO come from middle class families in Africa, you cannot deny that) they are still equally likely to commit to things less appealing.

TisaBone: the whole world is a ghetto.

i've seen plenty documentaries that highlight and showcase the despair of people all over this world.

people choose to believe what they want to believe, and its no surprise that Nigerians feel the way they do about African Americans because that is what is force fed down the throats of anyone who partakes in American television.

there's no point in arguing trying to change people's beliefs. I am just so saddened. posting on nairaland is like posting on stormfront.org. it is very disheartening, really, to see this division among people who the white man is still going to regard as the "N-word" no matter your nationality. They don't know the difference, believe me. only we draw those lines, and it needs to stop. This is insanity, and hatred will destroy this world.

if a nuke doesnt destroy it first? and there's always global warming, something about polar bears I didnt get that memo. The point is, it's the truth.
African Americans have had a rough start, for that I give them the bod, but seeing the way Africans behave (even though we are VERY different) isn't encouraging. It's been a while now they are really meant to fix up. How is it, in a country like US, AIDS is killing off young black women? IN THIS DAY AND AGE!!!!! AIDS!!!
On a serious level we need to fix up, there is no standing together if the men refuse to act right. The same goes to African men to!

Right to the article that claims a higher proportion of Africans attend ivy league universities in the us than asians or whites- I will take with a pinch of salt, I will go through it and other peer reviewed journals for comparison but I can say now I highly doubt its true, probably bias at some point. I hate to be soo cynical about these things

@nene you might be right, she is talking about blacks as a whole but her point still stands- Black women outdo black men given the chance, black men don't do much given the opportunity.

And yes the argument does go two ways, mainly because a high proportion of the wealthy africans living abroad have brought their wealth from Africa. If we're to compare the situation in a relative sense it goes without saying that black men will still be at the bottom of the totem pole.

To the comment about affluent Nigerians, before you walk around giving people the impression that all Nigerians are wealthy (lets even forget about the state of corruption in that country, many using stolen money to purchase this education) lets not forget it's the most populous country in Africa, it makes sense the likelihood of bumping into one is high. And yes, that does include prison, there are migrants in prison, there are more than enough Nigerians commiting crimes to completely rebut the claim you are trying to make. This is despite the fact that MOST migrants will come from middle class homes, meaning they originate from relatively better positions, out of the frying pan into American fire.

Why am i not surprised? Black men don't like to hear the truth- keep teaching them Mrs Chima, they go listen by force!

they strut around as if they are the top of everything, the only thing they top is prison and bas.tard baby rates.

khiaa: I ask this question because I am attracted to Nigerian men but some nigerian women believe nigerian men would only date women of another culture (especially western women) for fun and have no serious intentions because of different cultures, men is this true?

LOL what of all the men that marry for papers?

If i were to settle temporarily in Nigeria it will be in Abuja or Lag. Preferably lagos because of the terror attacks.

lmao the nike cake and divorce cake.

i dont like 'designer cakes' it's tacky and senseless.

some of the cakes are too pretty to eat, others too scary! lol

it is a little shallow we have to admit but if it bothers her it bothers her. You can't switch that off lol.

the truth of it is neither of them will look the same forever, even if he loses the weight I don't think she is truly attracted to him. She's simply looking for excuses.It's better for the guy if the OP leaves him, at least he can end up with someone that appreciates him.

doesnt take a genius to tell dude wanted to bed her with minimum expenditure, don't get sucked into what you see, if he didn't make an effort he's not worth it. m2c

Your mother only has herself to blame, unfortunately it's easier to blame someone else and even easier the dead. She has to let go, make peace with her mistakes. She should have worked, yes she should have, but she didn't and the time has gone. She can only pick herself up now and be grateful for what she has.
That is where you come in, it will only make things worse if you agitate the situation, just try and be a comfort to raise her spirits whenever she's down. Eventually she will get over it.

luckgames: Really
You have being misused by men
Sorry
Tired of sucking D now you are hell mad at all men

o we have some psychics here on nairaland. Someone call 911! bloody f00l

OP you have every right to feel the way you feel, sexual attraction is as important as anything else in a relationship. If his way truly bothers you then you have to hold off the engagement and express your feelings.
He may or may not be willing to lose weight for your sake- that is his choice alone, just like the choice of you staying with him regardless of how he looks.
Another woman WILL love him regardless, but that doesn't mean you cannot find someone equally compatible.

scribble: may not be the poster's fault. Some women are so used to men treating them like crap that when they see a potential Mr. Right, they are to suspicious to appreciate such a development.

The guy will probably dump her after a while, because she will take his kindness for weakness. At that point, the poster will be back on d market for her type of men

i didnt want to jump to conclusions but you might be right, kmt I thought having an emotional boyfriend was a good thing rather than a man who grunts and groans and pretends as if he can't feel anything at all.

abeg

OP- define emotional?

SO what exactly is the problem I don't get it? Did someone steal someone elses boyfriend in secondary school? I find find any problem or reason for litigation whatsoever?

Probably have some previous scores to settle.

Unless you also don't believe in marriage then it's fine.

chuks49: You can't be serious

im very serious you got a problem?

Enrique has not done well at all, tut tut. Such a waste of a fine fine man! Women will be dissapointed! lmao

Saw this on MSN and thought i'd share;

Enrique Iglesias made a public declaration of independence this week, when he announced that he'll never marry his long-term girlfriend, Anna Kournikova. "I've never really thought marriage would make a difference," Iglesias explained to Parade magazine. "Maybe it's because I come from divorced parents, but I don't think you love someone more because of a piece of paper."

While the rest of the female population let out a sigh of relief and set about booking tickets to Iglesias' hometown of Miami, 30-year-old Anna must have felt at least mildly hurt by the statement. Because no matter how sensible and reasonable your partner's reasons for not getting married may sound, it always feels as if they're really saying, "I love you. But just not quite enough."

So what should she do? What should you do in this situation?

1. Believe him
Love may be blind, but it's deaf too. When your partner says anything about your relationship, himself, or what he wants, you must stop and listen to him. We say that men never talk about The Relationship but in fact, they talk about it all the time. Phrases like, "You're too good for me," or "I'm not looking for anything serious right now," or "I don't believe in marriage," are important information, but we choose to brush them aside and think he'll change his mind when he spends more time with us. He won't. Instead, he'll carry on with a clear conscience, knowing that he's laid down his terms and conditions and that you - by continuing to date him - have accepted them.

2. Consider the practical issues of a non-committed relationship
We think about marriage as an emotional commitment, but that's misleading; marriage's true power is the legal rights it gives you as half of the couple. There is no such thing as a 'common-law spouse' - you're either single or married. And if you're single, things are much more complicated in the event of a split. One woman who found this out the hard way is Eva Gabrielsson, who lived with her partner Stieg Larsson - author of the bestselling Millennium The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo trilogy - for 30 years. When he died aged 50, she inherited... nothing. Larsson's multimillion-pound estate passed straight to his estranged family, leaving her struggling to pay the bills. It sounds unromantic to think about death or splitting up when you're in love, but you have to protect yourself. You can discover your legal rights as a single or married person here.

3. Don't live with him
Never make the mistake of feeling that living together is a step towards marriage. It's a side-step away from marriage. When your partner can get 24-hour access to you, marriage becomes just a moot point. You're a done deal. If you want to get married, you have to make being unmarried uncomfortable for your partner so they are motivated to change the situation. Maintaining some distance, living your own life, letting them occasionally long for your company - this works. I'm not advocating you play games: in fact, I'd advise you to be very honest about what you want. In his book Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others, John T Molloy interviewed over 3,000 US newlyweds and found that, in 73% of them, women had put considerable pressure on the man to get married. Not by mutely moving in and auditioning for the role of Wife, but by standing their ground and saying, "I'm not comfortable in an uncommitted relationship." If this feels difficult, it's nothing compared to having to read in the newspaper that your partner of 10 years feels marriage is "just a piece of paper". Anna - I have a piece of paper right here. How about you use it to tell Enrico where to forward your mail?

As much as I don't agree with a woman manipulating a man into marriage I totally loved this article. It's the truth!

OMG! im gone!

eye rolling mode- next the bible thimpers will be telling us going to the cinemas is a sin.

Dual Core: Please stop reading my mynd and posting it in public. Just cuz you can read mynds don't mean you should spoil market. Ok now she knows I want her up there, just the two of us... stuck landing gears and enough fuel to hover round on autopilot for about 5 hours. Now this will never happen cuz you don tell am.

its not your fault.

also if that was meant to be innuendo i soo do not get it

joanana: I hate it!!!! I don't like it when a sweet cute guy has three months pregnancy in front. it really piss me off

ok for the guys how will u feel if ur girl has two tires on her belly, one side is Michelin and the other side is dunlop elex. Will u kall it sexy? definitely not

omg!! lmfao!!!! i can't lmao!!!!

[quote author=~Killz~]Hah! Have you for breakfast? Are you that tasty?

08 is not that long ago though. . . [/quote]SHARRAP! lol!

its not! :p

sharrap! both of you!! sharrap dia!

[quote author=Mynd_44]My home or no, atleast from there I noticed that Nigerian Airways is outta business[/quote]seriously you want to do this again? i will not be a part of it!

[quote author=Mynd_44]But you have got to imagine the fun we were having watching you argue this.
It was classic[/quote]its not funny! nonsense! lol

Dual Core: No disrespect Queensmith. I'm just a web developer and I missed most of my English classes but when a person says "The Nigerian Airways Cabin crew have to be the rudest customer service team on this planet". To me this doesn't pass as if the person was talking of something that was in the past.

I don't think anyone woke up this morning angry with you (except your bobo most probably cuz you have been telling him you are on red flag. . .this is the 7th day) but just give everything a rest and let us all have a joyful 8am.

Then again, you coulda been talking about Air Nigeria. I see them as a sequel to Nigeria Airways. Econet, Zain. . . you know the drill.


Bro XY, give us another thread and I will tell you another story. The thread must hit homepage o, I don't ply my trade in these sections.

om dear lawd almighty. i CANNOT this early morning, It CANNOT be done. i will not even attempt it, think what you like

[quote author=~Killz~]Nah, just Virgin Nigeria. . . Tell me, when last were you home?


Yes o. . . They have issues! [/quote]fck off! you guys will not have me for breakfast.

Dec 08

[quote author=Mynd_44]That is disgusting dude[/quote]don't say that about your home!