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Dual Core: ^^ This early morning you wan spoil person day. She meant Air Nigeria

THANK YOU! i didnt even see this! common sense exists here!

xynerise: I can lend you my pictures you know?

no i want to send him photos of a pretty one like LHR not the lighless airports of Nigeria :p

[quote author=Mynd_44]oh you finally realised your mistake huh? It was fun while it lasted sha[/quote]sharrap! its the same thing, taking the piss out my life early in the morning! proper making me think i'm going crazy! nonsense! :p

[quote author=~Killz~]Nigeria Airways is defunct baby. . . It later became virgin Nigeria. . . I think it's Air Nigeria now. . . Me sef no send them! They'll soon change again maybe. . .

Xynerise, cobweb is an understatement. Pls look for something heavier. . . [/quote]to virgin NIGERIA AIRWAYS?? dear lawd you guys have issues *rolls eyes*

[quote author=Mynd_44]Yes cos you could not have boarded a Nigerian Airways plane three years ago cos they had gone outta business ode.
Stop feeding us with lies here you have not been inside an airplane before. Intact the only time you saw an airport was in you outdated Black and white TV. I wonder how retartdeens like you get on the web[/quote]drinking some serious haterade dude, calm down. Boarding a plane is not a big deal believe it or not. You don't have to take offence. I understand your life sucks but it's not my fault. Seeing an airport is nothing, trust me. When next im in one i'll send you photos.

Feel better?

nigerian airways= virgin nigeria airways= whatever you want to call it abeg!

is it hiw wife? or his daughter? the picture is cute

[quote author=~Killz~]Errm. . . Did someone say Nigeria Airways?

Queensmith, was that you? [/quote]seriously? is there something wrong with saying Nigerian aiways??

no I travelled with them yesterday, dumbass!

^^ well i don't think they'll hire people to carry their bags. Even celebritities carry their own bags. Nigerians just have the wrong mentality.

[quote author=Mynd_44]you see. The airline has shut down for more than Seven years and you still refer to them. You really need to be updated about reality chick life does not end on NL[/quote]your a slowpoke, i travelled with them 3 years ago, now I know your just looking for my attention. Your never gonna get it!

^^ i hope your joking!

[quote author=Mynd_44]seriously, when was the last time you were at any airport? Because the last time I checked, Nigerian Airways was outta business[/quote]So? what does that have to do with anything? The cabin crew were still very rude? So now theyve shut down they are also not to be mentioned? Sit down and sharrap

if it's a bad idea to buy a car in Nigeria, can't you buy it in another country nearby to save the waiting?

The spokesman should sit down and sharrap, of only the police force were more transparent, is he going to say only 3 people have been slaughtered by serving police officers?

The BBC had picked up on Nigerias police brutality years ago, we all know how they go about killing innocent people and claiming they were 'armed robbers' killed in cross fire. Killing unarmed children and old men, it's about time the police are called out on this. Enough is enough, who will believe the police are here to serve the people and not the other way around! kmt

loool ndidi your story is funny! and your right what kind of a name is sinmisola, your husband has been watching too many yemi my love movies and wants to act out love scenes for you!

Abeg tell him to sit down and sharrap, I think he might be joking sha he doesnt sound very serious.

seriously? She must not have been Nigerian. The Nigerian Airways Cabin crew have to be the rudest customer service team on this planet.

o god no!

It just seems wrong for a man to be out of a shape, somethings just dictates that a man should be fit he looks all sorts of wrong when he's not!

^^here we go again talking like guys have money, is there something i'm missing here?

Of course! Angry bitter Nigerian men have made it about themselves! Why not? They are faultless and blameless in their affairs? Thats why there's no prostitutes in Nigeria spreading hepatitis to married male professionals in the capital.

Enough of that, the woman is foolish no doubt but most of you guys are loking for an opportunity to vent your anger, abeg don't do it here we are talking of a serious matter that the OP wants to resolve. At least she has approached her problem, most of the men here will simply go looking for their ex and start an affair. Don't even deny it everybody knows how you billy goats behave.

^^ Thank you

owo2390: why are people so judgmental, she started the thread seeking help because she knows that her residual feelings towards her ex is detrimental to current marriage. Attacking her doesn't solve anything, I understand that people have a right to their respective opinions but all the assaults on the poor woman's character are unfounded and uncalled for.

We are doing so because we pity the poor man that married the OP who is obviously still in limbo with her feelings, she is selfish and confused, she had no right to drag another man into her foolishness. She should have dealt with her problems before jumping into marriage. Its downright wrong what she has done, the insulting is even not enough, she should be flogged mercilessly! marriage is not a joke!

People always think this, theres meant to be fear of the unknown not a longing towards it! lol

OP trust me when I tell you your ex is not the perfect man you believe in, in fact he's the complete opposite. Which is the reason why you probably broke up and he is now your ex.
I think you should make an effort to look forward into the future rather than waste time pondering about your past. It's not fair on your husband foy you to harbour these thoughts and you owe it to him to forget about all the nonsense and focus om your marriage.
It's early days and you are already carrying on like this, I fear for the future of your marriage!

^^ I have the feeling your psychologically imbalanced but I will respond to you nonetheless.

If you read the OP you will see the husband has been ignoring her, that is what he has done wrong.

You cannot keep to yourself in a marriage, you stay alone for that luxury. Nobody cares why, so long as your putting your partner in a position to make her second guess you, you are doing wrong.

ronkebp: Queensmith when you are married please i want to be a follower of yours, i would like to know how you will handle matters in your marraige with this '' misbehave and am out'' attitude of yours. only because i want to learn too, you see people learn every day. and no insults intended oooo. incase you mis-interprete it.

No im not married,
tbh with you most men do not behave like the billy goat husbands of Nigeria. There are men that respect, love, cherish and care for the woman they marry. The odd woman that desperately jumps into marriage with morons suffer the fate of the OP, I do pity these women. If they had laid their principles down from the beginning of the relationship they won't land into trouble. A man will give you as much as you take.

[quote author=Miss_Ife]queensmith, I think we are all here advising the op to hang on there because there is no proof yet that the husband doesn't love her or that this marriage is doomed. Over half of my married friends could have said more or less the same thing about their personal life after the 1st child was born. It is a major change and their marriage is still young. None of us here know if the man is not willing to make things work. We just don't know that for sure. There is a possibility that he has given up on making efforts for his wife, it happens, and in that case I would strongly encourage the op to not stay in a loveless marriage, but to reach that conclusion it takes way more than "crying twice to your husband without seeing changes". There are adjustments in a marriage that take months or even years to achieve. When I read the op's post I mainly read that she is bored and tired that her husband is not responsive. This is a very common feeling, and I believe they can overcome it, together.

All the advices we are giving here are to help her initiate a change in their relationship. The objective being that her actions will open door for better communication with her husband that will allow them to make things better. There is also a possibility that the op is bored for reasons not directly related to her marriage. She could be going through postpartum depression or being bored at her life in general, and focusing her frustration on her marriage. We are just here giving advices on how she could go about it. That doesn't mean she has to slave for her husband and accept to be disrespected, ignored and taken for granted for the rest of her life. I still believe it is way too early to give up on this marriage, with time, she will know what to do, but before doing anything she should think about it seriously and not take actions that she might regret in the end.[/quote]I'm not sure what the OP is meant to wait for? It is possible the husband is going through some midlife crisis- but if he really did care- he will show an attitude that proves it.
He doesnt care, it's as simple as, the proof is in his attitude, unless you want the OP to wait until he leaves and never returns then I don't know what you expect she hang on to?
I don't believe a child should seperate a couple, when that happens it means the husband (or atimes the wife) is alienated from the child, that is never good. This is why I encourage involvement from both parties, it's not just for the benefit of the wife, also for the child AND the husband. He will know exactly what she's going through and not be such an ingrate!
if he has made any effort the wife will see it, he certainly wont be ignoring her, lets not allow our imaginations runs wild, I know women like to see things that are not there but for the sake of ones sanity we should reason with the evidence at hand.
You can only communicate with somebody willing to communicate with you, you can only build a succesful marriage with the other party wanting the same, you can have a loving husband when you have a man that wants to love you, anything else and your fooling yourself.
Her only chance is to tell her husband what her problem is and give him a chance to solve it or she walks, and she will be better off for doing so!
If she is depressed then it's most likely aggravated the more by her husbands despicable behavior. Seriously I cannot grasp why our women like to worship these goats?

@armyofone of course! what else constitutes a perfect marriage? The OP should just pretend as if nothing is happening!In fact she should take your number so you can teach her how to truly be in a delusional state- how to imagine her husband loves her and talks to her once in a while, i'm sure your well equipped on that.

Now i know not to listen to most nigerians when they talk about marriage, no wonder theyre soo full of shit. You can't pretend forever, the day will always come when you will look back on your life, realise you wasted it on your husband and possibly ungrateful children (who grew up seein no need to respect mommy) and regret all the pretense.

You ladies better wake up and smell the morning coffee, life is not that bad, its not by force to be in a loveless marriage!

agiboma: @queensmith Well if OP is cold and unresponsive and hubby demonstrating the same behaviour, where does that leave the marriage? Straight up shi.t creek thats where. Look in this situation OP needs to be the adult, if she moved out of the bedroom she needs to move back in, if their not having sex she needs make him interested in their bed again, for this marriage to survive. Everyday in a marriage is not paradise where you floating on air crazily in love with your spouse, if that ways the case their would be no divorce. I think Op and hubby are just starting to settle into marriage life with a baby and that's difficult ground to establish. @ the end of the day OP please beginning to communicate with your hubby like you did when you guys where dating, start from thier and move on to other relationship building activities.

are you intentionally ignoring this?

anny101: We dont sleep in the same room,he prefers to sleep outdoor while i prefer to sleep in the room where mosquitoes wont bite me. I have really tried to spice up this relationshp. I ve cried to him twice about the gap between us, but he hasnt acted otherwise. He prefers to be on his own, go out on his own and do things on his own. What else can i do?

I dont see the OP being in any fault, how is she to lure an uninterested man into the bedroom? How much is she meant to bend to please him? Especially if he has no interests in pleasing her? abeg abeg all this abandon your baby, turn into beyonce, pet your man this your man that your man DOES NOT WORK!! If it did, nigerian women will be more happy in their pathetic marriages and the men won't run around spreading infection.

25omega: abi o help me ask the business man who is afraid to marry a career woman
the poster is afraid that she would earn more money than he would so he wants to escape before that happens

how can anybody say no to extra income?

@op imagine the fancy car you will be driving up and down when your wife qualifies! in fact I feel like marrying her myself!

ooo you wish!

in that case the solution will be for the OP to take her husband to see a psychologist and not do a striptease for him when he returns from work!

case is closed!

the difference between all you have mentioned and the OPs situation is that she is dealing with a HUMAN BEING, not the clockwork of fertility, not a malfunctioning car, not a job!

She is dealing with someone who is unpredictable and self centered, they are not working towards a common goal! No amount of work on her part obliges him to care more or love her! She will be wasting her time!!

dear lawd almighty, this is a sercious question?