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@Poster

Congrats. A lot of good things happen on forums like Nairaland. I'm really happy for you and your hubby. Take care. Cheers.

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Mr Hope Nwachukwu should thank his stars that he is living in the UK though he is in detention. Some other countries would have removed him immediately without regards for the Rule of Law.  I have no reason to doubt Nwachukwu's claim that he is gay. Believe me, I've come across Homosexuals in Nigeria while I was a secondary school student. My school was for boys only and some of my seniors were gay. I know a number of them that did all kinds of things with their school sons . Some of my mates while I was in JSS 1 were feminine in nature [ One of them was really girlish and handsome that he was harassed by other boys ]  and I saw them being fondled by some seniors. One senior tried it with me but I was not really moved or interested.  I know a lot of the homosexuals back in my secondary school days would have grown out of it by now and are probably married . The same scenario obtains in Girls only schools in Nigeria. What I'm trying to say is that there are homosexuals and lesbians in Nigeria and this Asylum Seeker should be given a chance to prove himself. I hope he wins the case and is allowed to stay in Britain.  Though I don't like gays, I believe they have a right to life. Cheers.


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I am not an authority on Dating and romantic matters  However, I agree that being financially stable and having a good job helps a lot when you're trying to impress women these days. The poster gave a lot of tips when you're out on a date with a woman for the first time. The tips are okay and I've learnt a thing or two from the posts.  However, we don't have a specific set of rules that we must follow on a first date or in relationships generally. Women look for different things in a man and some relationships kick off no matter how successful the man was in impressing the lady on the first date.  Dating differs in different countries due to economic, cultural and and social differences. In Nigeria, many women will date you if you look comfortable to an extent. Due to the high level of poverty in Nigeria, many women are attracted to men that can take care of them. You don't even have to take them on a date. Just strike up a conversation with the average Nigerian lady and you can both take it from there. You don't have to follow dating rules or techniques to woo a woman in Nigeria

In the Western world, it is a different ball game all together.  I've come across women in Britain who are not interested in whether you have a deep wallet or nice ride. The more you're trying to impress them, the more they get pissed off.  These set of ladies are just looking for love. They just want a man they can call a friend and move on to better things with. Some ladies are just out to have intimacy. If you can satisfy them in bed consistently, they will stay with you. Dating in Europe and America however entails the etiquettes the poster mentioned- Being Nice, Not bragging, Being well dressed, having your own place,  having a job [ not necessarily being a banker and all that ] and being honest.  Women in the Western world have different reasons for dating. Some of them are after rich men and you have to be loaded to date them. Others are weird and are sex maniacs. I'm not much into African women abroad for reasons personal to me.  I'll leave that area for those who know better.  My advice is this: JUST BE SINCERE TO ANY WOMAN YOU WANT TO DATE OR MARRY. Cheers.


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Chai, I have a relative working at Spring Bank o I pray she will not be put out of work soon. Na wa o.


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May his soul rest in perfect peace. Amen. The other Anyanwu I know is Blessing Anyanwu who was a defender at Japan 1993 World Cup with the Golden Eaglets. Blessing is still playing in Belgium.


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Hmn, this na serious matter o   CNN has finally decided to create citizen journalists out of Nigerians. It will be easy for some people to take pictures of some renovated areas of Lagos and Benin City and send to the CNN in order to show that things are working in Nigeria.  Yeah, some Governors are trying to improve the living standards of their people and they've constructed new roads and refurbished new schools. The truth is that their efforts are tiny drops into a ocean of hopelessness and mismanagement.  We have very short-sighted leaders in Nigeria. They have refused to package and sell the country as a place to invest and settle in despite her numerous problems. South Africa has a high level of crime and many black townships are just a little better than Ibadan and Akure in infrastructural terms. Yet investors are sinking vaults of hard currency into South Africa's economy. I'm not saying there are no investors in Nigeria, but we should have had more of them coming in if the Federal Government knows out to woo investors by putting basic amenities in place.

I feel pictures and videos of Nigerian Entrepreneurs who are doing well despite the harsh business environment they operate in should be sent to CNN. We need to post videos of the Dundun and Akara seller who has sent 7 children to school through the proceeds of her roadside business. Stories like these will touch the world. Cheers.


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I was shocked when I read the story of the racist behaviour of Locomotiv Moscow fans towards Osaze Odemwingie. The fact that he has a Ukrainian mother did not even help matters. I hope FIFA and UEFA took the matter up seriously. Osaze has always been a dedicated player for club and country. He is going to do well in the English Premiership as he has the pace and clinical finishing that top strikers are made of. I just hope he keeps his focus and is not easily distracted by the organised social life in England. He should learn from the likes of Didier Drogba and Michael Essien who respect their wives and are not extreme clubbers. I wish you the best, Osaze


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Everyone and Every Nation has a day of redemption. Yeah, Nigerians are seen as being dishonest and fraudulent, but we should start thinking of reinventing ourselves. We need to start fielding very young players in FIFA cadet tournaments so that we can do well at the Senior Female competitions. Many of our current U-17 and U-19 players will soon run out of steam because of their real ages. Female football should be encouraged in our secondary schools right from JSS1. Then we can start picking gifted players for our female youth teams from the big pool of female soccer players in our schools. Cheers.


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I'm really impressed with this thread. The problem with Nigeria and Nigerians is that we do not take the time to look for information before we comment on issues. I've always known that there are social workers in Nigeria since age 6. It is just that the government has not promoted the idea of asking people to be social workers. Unlike Nigeria, Social Workers and Social Care professionals are highly cherished in the western world. I don't know of any Nigerian University that offers Social Work as a degree. However, I know a proper research through the Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board [JAMB] might reveal one or two Higher Institutions offering the course under a different name.  A lot of NGO's in Nigeria failed because the people behind them did not really know what they had got themselves into and were not equipped with the patience and skills that sustains such projects. I hope more publicity will be given to Social Care work in Nigeria and that a bill will be passed by our senators to make Social Work a noble profession in the country.

@Aisha2, keep up the good work. I admire people who follow their dreams with a passion. Cheers.


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Alao Akala is really funny. It should be clear to him that his second term as Governor of Oyo State is not guaranteed. There is too much bitterness among politicians in the state. Oyo State has not had a progressive Governor for a long time. Even Lam Adesina and Rasheed Ladoja have not done much to really raise the living standards of people in the state. Alao Akala should not be blamed for the infrastructural rot in Oyo State.  Ibadan's decadence as a great city in Nigeria and Africa started a long time ago. Akala became the Governor of the state through the back door and a flawed process. He should have concentrated on reinventing himself when he got into office by taking governance seriously. We've seen cases where politicians came into office through rigging but turned out to be the hero of the people they govern.  Oyo State needs a neutral, young and dynamic Governor to take the state to greater heights. It is really a shame that Oyo State is stuck in a state of underdevelopment with all the potentials around it.

I can't wait to see Oyo State being led by a dynamic and innovative leader. The state needs redemption as quick as possible from the corrupt cartels running it.  The Labour Party and Action Congress of Nigeria need to win back Oyo State from the PDP. Cheers.


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Hmn, I don't know what to say.  Though I'm more of an introvert, I feel a woman would love to date me because of my nice attitude, high creativity and intelligence.  I am just someone that does not like to be stereotyped or put into a box. I am a focused young man with strong dreams. Cheers.


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As much as I don't want to be seen as someone that does not like girls as children, It is very clear that Africans, Asians and Arabs desire to have male children as their offspring. I've got an Arab guy as a friend and he dotes so much on his son whom he had with a White British lady. They are divorced now and this Algerian guy is presently married to a woman from his country. They have a daughter but my friend is fond of his son who looks just like him. He takes him out and proudly shows him off to his friends at events. His Algerian wife keeps complaining that my friend does not care for her and his daughter as much as he dotes on his only son from another woman

One of my uncles had 4 girls as children and he kept looking for a son. When his wife could not give him a male child, he went out to look for a young girl in order to get what he desired. The girl he married was younger than his first daughter. Anyway, the girl also delivered a baby girl for my uncle. I've not seen my uncle for some time now and I feel he is still looking for a Son.  I don't mind having daughters but I must have a son I will be proud of .  Cheers.


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Students in higher institutions in other states should follow suit and destabilize IBB's campaign machinery when he comes to the states they school in. The students that demonstrated at the IBB campaign in Abeokuta should have come early enough. They should get right the next time. I'm expecting the National Association of Nigerian Students [ N.A.N.S ] to issue a press release distancing itself as an ally of the evil genius towards the 2011 elections. The fight to send IBB back to Minna has started Cheers.


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There is no currency that cannot be forged these days. With the coming of sophisticated computers, printers and colour separation machines, it is only a matter of time before any document is forged. The good thing is that with the extra features being put on official documents and bank notes all over the world, it is actually easy to detect forged, fake or counterfeit documents. As long as there is a demand for official documents and money for global applications and transactions, there will be a black market of forgers. It is just a fact of life. Cheers.


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This seems to be a very good antidote to the widespread rigging and thuggish behaviour that we witness during elections in Nigeria. I believe the game is up for selfish politicians who will do anything to get to power. I have always believed the future of Nigeria lies with the youths. If we channel all the anger we vent on Nairaland, Facebook and Bebo into ensuring that credible polls are held in the country next year, we will achieve something together. Change will come to Nigeria if we believe in ourselves that we can be the change we want to see. I have noticed that a lot of socio-economic organisations in Nigeria are interested in the 2011 elections. The youths are also planning and testing out a lot of strategies to stop corrupt rulers from holding on to power in the country. Videos of electoral rigging and violence [ Snatching of ballot boxes, beating up agents of rival parties, harassing voters etc ] can be uploaded on Facebook immediately with international news organizations picking them up for their news stories.

We've already seen the Judiciary restoring stolen mandates to their rightful owners [ Oshiomhole in Edo State and Mimiko in Ondo State ] and I believe things will get better if the youths stand up against corrupt leaders at all levels. For once, let all the bad boys on our campuses take the 2011 elections seriously. If the Gangs on our campuses stand up to the thugs of the politicians [ Both sides will be evenly matched. Political thugs will be afraid to cause trouble when they see young men who can stand up to them ], ballot boxes will not be snatched . I just believe we are not a wasted generation. God bless Nigeria.


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I believe Personality is more important, though looks also play a vital part in relationships. However, there is nothing like having a well behaved lady or guy as your partner. Cheers.


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@gamesb

Are you high on something? Is this where you should post a news story?

Whats your problem?


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This is a classic case awaiting investigation by the EFCC. The money could have been laundered on behalf of some politicians or Ministers in the country. It could even be money that has been approved for a concert. A lot of strange things go on in Nigerian Banks and I won't be surprised if other innocent Nigerians accounts are being used to launder ill gotten money. This story is really mind blowing


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@Poster,

Wahala dey o   You need to sacrifice some hours at work to make your husband feel like a man. Your marriage should not be toyed with. Act fast before your husband starts imagining himself with another woman. Hmn.


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I served in in Akure, Ondo State some years ago. I would have loved to be at the coronation of the new Deji of Akure Ondo State has a lot of potentials. I am going to visit the state in the near future. Cheers.


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Atiku is a man that cannot be trusted. The Igbo people should ignore him. It is now that it is getting very clear that he won't win the next elections and might never occupy the top seat at Aso Rock that has suddenly become a mouthpiece for the South-East. The guy is a chameleon. He should go and tend to his University and businesses and forget about being respected in politics again. Hmn.


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Thanks for this thread. I once worked for a dude who was starting out as a publisher in Nigeria back in 2006. This guy launched his Magazine about a month before I joined his firm. I had just completed my NYSC and was really looking for a job. My dad was not helping matters as he said I had to get a job and start planning to start out on my own. Due to my love for writing, I applied to many Media houses and Advertising agencies to no avail. I was nearly employed by This Day Newspapers but because I was still a Corper, my appointment was delayed until the end of the service year. After the service year, I scurried down to the paper's offices in Apapa, but I was told the company had finished recruiting new people.

Anyway, I got a 'job' with this guy I'm talking about. I started churning out stories and carrying out interviews for his Magazine. My salary was 15,000 Naira [ I'm just laughing as I type this ], yet this publisher could not pay me for months. He hired about 4 of us as writer-reporters and had a secretary. He could not pay the editorial staff and was always avoiding coming to the office. Sometimes, he gave us the Magazine to sell ourselves. I would sell my copies and he would collect the money. I discovered that I had more knowledge than the guy when it comes to publishing and Media Matters. It got to a stage I was trekking to work. The funny thing was that Mr Publisher was dressing well and sending his secretary [ They were from the same state ] to buy food for him in a big flask almost everyday. It was a horrible period for me. I was frustrated, angry and hopeless. Anyway, God had other plans for me. About four months later, I left Nigeria and I'm flourishing where I am now. If you cannot manage a business effectively, don't start it. Many Nigerian employers dabble into business because others are doing it or it seems to be profitable. God help us all.


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These kind of stories make want to start a Revolutionary Movement against our leaders. Having spent 2 Million Naira on stationary [ I imagine these pencils, pens, markers, rulers, notebooks etc were manufactured in heaven ], what positive laws have they made that has made life better for the average Nigerian? Governance in Nigeria is mainly an avenue to plunder the country's resources. It is just sickening


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Very difficult to understand, mainly unreasonable, mainly ignorant but could be loving when you are patient and make them realize their mistakes.


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Vincent Enyeama is good and I feel he deserves to be the first choice goalkeeper of a club in the main European Leagues. It is just that there is a way the football system works in Europe. African Goalkeepers are not really focused on in Europe and that may be why Enyeama has not got his due recognition. The Clubs that were interested in him due to his wonderful performance at the World Cup might have considered his long term usefulness before deciding not to sign him. As long as Enyeama does well in Nigerian colours, I'm okay with him. Cheers.


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I just read online that Ahmed Musa will be moving to the Dutch League very soon. That is really good for him. It should be a starting point for the youngster. Thanks everybody. Cheers.


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I hope all the home based players doing well today will be properly integrated into the Eagles team. More home based players should be called up for other matches and lets see how they will perform. Has anything been said about Samson Siasia?  Or we should be expecting another coach to take charge of the Super Eagles? Hmn.

@Honeric01,

Thanks for the info  

@Arkinses,

All I want is quality information. Honeric01 has done well so far. It is just that some people on nairaland are known for their solid analysis. Cheers.