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light099:
If Ned doesn't marry another wife, how would all the hungry, gold-digging hoes littered all over the face of the nation survive? When many have been earnestly waiting for the next vacancy.
As it is now, BBN and Ned are the only two saving graces of most Nigerian ladies.
The hope and plan A of every Nigeria bitch is to walk into BBN audition, get selected, get into the BBN house, get popular, come out of the house and start cashing out with her Clitocurrency. But if plan A fails, Ned is the plan B.

Majority of Nigerian bitches have been bathing with gallons of bleaching creams and mothers bathing their daughters with bleaching creams in preparation for the next Ned audition.
Some have been consulting the oracle to receive the favour charm that would hook Ned on sighting them offline or online. Others have been seriously abstaining from sex and applying tighteners in order to tighten whatever crumb is left of their dilapidated, oversized pussies, since they know the virgin hunter, ancestor always want it fair and tight.

Are you sure you did not receive training from NwaAmaikpe?

I hope when she gets a divorce, she wouldn't have any problem dividing her properties

Zabiboy:

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I'v been quite busy man...
How about you??...hope you're doing good

Yeah I'm great.

TheExclusive:
Do women get emotionally attached when the spend on men?

It is left for them to figure that out.

Zabiboy:

As usual...
After so many years of marriage, everything begins to get rough and then she starts saying it's the man's fault....
If we interview this your husband, i can bet a million bucks that his story would be totally different from yours......
Now tell me, who was paying the bills at the beginning
Anyways..whats my business...

I don look for your post tire. Where you go since?

MozB:
i dont have to be the cause of predicament to feel sorry for her. To feel sorry for her simply means to pity her. That what humans are suppose to feel, except you are not human.

Then, it's quite a pity would have been the right words to use.

MozB:
I'm really sorry for her but justice must be served.

How can you be 'sorry' for her? Are you the cause of her predicament?

pcguru1:
A man's life is different, we are supposed to figure life out before settling down, handle bills, deal with a society wey no send man, bottle up alot of emotions. It is no wonder most men are de-sensitized, no one has time to be remembering a first time sex partner. When wahala dey 24/7 abi nau

Well said.

pcguru1:
Nope ....doesn't affect me at all, the person was my oga at work sef 8 yrs older. all those things are for sentimental people or women

Tankio! Forget all these emotional train wreck of men. Being emotionally attached to your first sex like it's something... Lol... They should bed three more girls and tell me if they will even remember their first face.

Silentgroper:
That is what works 4 him.

for me i would be emotionally attached to d girl, is why i avoid virgins except it's marriage 0'clock.

Nah bro, you'd never be attached to any virgin girl, if you doubt it, have sex with a virgin.

Sex with virgins is almost the same with a non-virgin except that she's tight underneath, and will bond with you. The bonding is from her because of the sex, not from you because of the sex. You would get attached to for non sexual materials she possess like submission, prude etc... Not because you banged her.

You will also be attached and perhaps clingy if you invested heavily on her monetary wise.

Zzor:
Most are saying it has no effect on them, i think ladies should really be very careful with this men, you can compare the way they beg for sex and their reactions here smh

Zzor, I want you to understand something. Having sex for a man is the same thing as women receiving monetary valued gift from men.

Reason this with honesty within you. Assume we have met and for some reason known to you, it turns out you don't like me. But I keep forcing you to take gifts from me, with the hope that one day you will like me. Now let's ignore [i]"me forcing my gifts on you with the hope you like me" [/i]and focus on you actually receiving those gifts from me.
Will my gifts make you stay against your wish when you meet someone who fits the kind of man you have in your head?

Whatever you answer is how men view their first sex, and sex in general.

pansophist:
Abi o. The more I dig deep trying to understand gender dynamic, I keep seeing evidences that truly, we are nothing but a pencil in the hand of the creator.

Look at it this way. Female hypergamous instinct is even hardwired in their biology, hence, they bond with the strongest man they can find. As we all know, women are quality-oriented. They mate above dominant hierarchy, not below. This also suggest why polygamy has always existed and not the opposite. The women sexually bonds with their husband, but for the men, its all fun. Just negodu Ned Nwoko. As far Regina no turn feminist tomorrow, Ned will perform his husband duty. Just be a good woman, that's all.

This is why sex is important for men in relationships, because he is biologically wired for pleasure, and will keep hustling to retain that pleasure in his otherwise disposable life. So when a man is not given brain shattering sex, he is more likely to cheat, leave, or just go go fulltime soapy mode.

Chikina! You don finish the whole tory.

pansophist:
But seriously, it has no effect on men. You see why I told you to stop being a feminist ? Men and women are not same. Ok, I'll support this with a generally agreed fact in the scientific community.

During sex, women release oxytocin (generally known as the bonding chemical), mind you, men do not release oxytocin, but dopamine (also known as pleasure hormone). So women fall in love with sex and bond more, but for men, its nothing more than pleasure. Men do not love women because of sex, but how she made him feel, and if she is a good woman.

This is why premarital and reckless sex is bad for women. The more sex a woman have with numerous, the harder it is to bond with one man, and her sexual elasticity breaks off. Remember the biblical story when God instructed moses to kill off all the males and women, but only spare children and virgin women"? Yes, there is your biblical answer.

It is an historically acceptable truth that sex bond with women, so a captured virgin women after having sex with a warrior, will easily identify with the tribe if she gives birth.

Thank you. She wants to convince herself men feel the same way after sex (first sex). Nah we move to another and try to conquer.


Men release oxytocin when spending. Psychologist should go investigate the spending feeling.

Zzor:
Most men will tag that gold digging, I'm more interested in the effect the topic has on men

The effect is none! When I had sex the first time, tbh, it was nothing to me, although I wanted more, but it wasn't specific with the same girl, in fact I never had sex again with that same girl. I don't even know where she is right now, and I'm sure it wasn't her first time.

Zzor:
Do guys get attached emotionally or in any other way after loosing their virginity? Or do guys get emotionally attached to girls whose virginity they take? The rest of you should answer me please, also does the lady who took your virginity have any strong grip over you till now ( like kind of make you do things you will be stubborn about ordinarily,vulnerable and succumb easily to her requests) ? Don't insult or abuse anyone here please

Virginity can not and will not control a man. Whether it's his or the woman. To get a grip on a man, take his money. Not sex, not even being wife material as Pansophist said. Just his money. Get him to invest in you.

Dasol.

crackhaus:
LOL... anytime I come across a female who has issues with men who place their mothers on a pedestal, I automatically group her into one of these two categories:


1. She didn't/doesn't have a good relationship with her own mother and hence can NEVER fully understand that bond a man can share with his mother.
This first category is based on psychological trauma – meaning, if I wasn't so close with my mom, then you (my husband) shouldn't be so close with yours either.

Psychologically, women don't have that bond with their mothers. Right from childhood, they see their mother as competition over their fathers attention.

Same with every man born on earth. As a son, you father will see you as a competition for your mother and his wife attention, it's completely healthy. It's different ways both genders bond. It's no biggie.

Juliusdaughter:
I like your view because it points out my main issue. Why do men place their mothers above their wives and not their fathers?

This is not your issue. You are trying to move away from your issue as you have seen that man has boxed you there. You are being sly now.

mariahAngel:
Are you (going to be) the selfish kind of daughter in-law who's very possessive of her husband?

Ah yes. The question!

Juliusdaughter:
I feel mother-in-law that is troublesome is one that didn't enjoy her own marriage. "how will you enjoy my son when I didn't enjoy his father" these women seek out security from their sons cos they lacked it from their own husband. Hardly will you see a fulfilled wife turn mother-in-law trouble her son's or daughter's marriage.
It takes special grace to see your daughter-in-law enjoy all the privileges that you didn't and not feel threatened

Perhaps you should change the title of this thread, and the content of your first comment too. As you have figured out the problem is with women. And stop making it seem like it's men's fault.

A woman loves her son, the world is at peace. Suddenly, that son decides to love his mom back, guess what? Everywhere explodes! Because there are other people (women obviously) who are jealous that other people (women) are getting loved more.

Right in University, during psychology class, we were taught behaviors of humans from infantile stage to a full blown adult. And how that adult relates with other adult and children. In a healthy family of father, mother, and children (divided into males and females), just as opposite sex attracts each other, it plays out in such healthy family. Daughters will cling to their fathers, and mothers to their son. Most times this become a major issue in such families as either of the parents will get jealous of the other. From baby hood, the mother develops strong bond with her sons and fathers with their daughters. Bonds so strong the other parent would think their wards wants to take over their spouse from them. Now when the son grows into a full blown adult, he feels the responsibility to reciprocate the love for which his mother has given him since infant stage.

Now op, I will take it that you did not know about the psychological effects family has over children and will let this silly attitude of yours to slide as you if a woman will pose a huge threat to your daughter in-law because your son will want to reciprocate all the love you give him. Why whine now when such will play out in your time?

Believe me, there's no amount of teaching or talking from you that will change the order of things. Unless of course you are either gonna die before your son could get to an age to actually know you or you will be a bad mother. If the latter, you should never consider marriage as you are not fit.

So after all these yapping from you and your silly friends backing you up without the knowledge of psychology, you would still experience such play before your very eye.

@bolded is the most underrated cause of divorce and broken homes. Take note.

GLYCOLYSISS:
My apology for the delay Bro.
I have tried sending them, even to the other guy, they just end up in my outbox.
Service issue, I guess

OK, here is another option, you can download them at pdfdrive.com,use the search engine to do just that.

Thanks.

GLYCOLYSISS:
"i came across this thread on front page of NL"

No Nairaland moderator is going to make that "fatal " mistake, no matter how drunk she or he is.
Of course, lots of crazy and useless posts makes front page by "mistake " on daily basis, but those "mistakes " are not meant for any thread that will enlighten and empower men, like most redpill threads on nairaland does.
Or, are you trying to say you saw a link those these thread shared by someone on a post in a thread that got to front page ?

Hi. I didn't hear from you again. About the books. Howdie anyway?

Skepticus:
I think the general problem in forums where issues of the black pill (MGTOW), and the purple pill are discussed, is that guys on both divide project their biases on others without thinking of the in-betweens and the biases of others on the divide.

First guy says having kids or catering for kids is simping or yapping about how women are bad and nothing can be benefited from dating or being married to them in a permanent arrangement. He may naturally not be attracted to marriage or may have had a very bad, not-easily-forgotten experience with women.

Second guy comes saying that marriage or some form of permanent co-habitation with women is the best for men as far as he is red pilled.

All the submissions above are right in whatever path a man chooses, even if it is the blue pill (yes, I mean it).

My own opinion on this is that one can chose to tow the path that fits into his life. Men get married every weekend, even in countries where they know that the risk of it going the divorce route is high, or he loses more. Some other men are dumping the same institution of marriage for whatever arrangement suits them.

Both sides talk about their position being the best and project it on others. Some erroneously think that the red pill is a solve it all. That's bullshiit.

I'll clear things up soon by sharing my own opinions on the benefits of the red pill, black pill and purple pill. I'll also share the benefits of being blue pilled (especially outside of dating) too. Everyone can make their judgements and decide their own course without the need to shame others who don't share the same ideas.

I await your opinion. Do well to tag me.

GLYCOLYSISS:
OK, I will do just that, but that will be later in the day.

OK. No problem.

pansophist:
Home is definitely an achievement. It is an essential material achiement in life such as cars, getting healthy, and degrees/qualifications. If home does not qualify as not an achievement, then what exactly qualifies as such? Giving your life to Jesus Christ or forming woke? Lol.

The irony is that such lady will not even look at a man without those material achievements, or I'll put it this way. If she has to pick between a man that has a mansion and a man that doesn't have, I can bet my kidney that she would choose the man that has one. The hypocrisy and how some women can live with two contradictory outlook towards life calls for a psychological evaluation.

Also, the very fact that she has to go online to announce what constitutes achievement only proves her envy, a desire to be at the spotlight and a polish to her vanity, which of course, she fails woefully and have an opposite effect. It would be a shame to see if she buys a house in the future. But well, we shall see.

Tarh! She go still buy house, term am Grace. In fact she will not remember to delete her former post. And when attacked so bad, that's when she will apologise and say she repented

IAmSkinny:
Damn! How do you by pass this shit? I don't see myself spending on any silly kitten. I've never and would never.

By doing the complete opposite of everything on there. She'd be puzzled as to how everything she's taught isn't working on you and will try to make it work on you. That's your cue

How does people who earn meager salary want to invest in another and not themselves, sleep at night?

I mean if you can save up to 60k by January, why not get yourself another source of income. Start there and build your empire.

If you build that girl without building yourself, she will definitely leave you for another guy. If she still sticks with you, then she's got issues with her esteem.

Y0rubakwe:
Igbo obsession.

It must suck not to be Igbo.

It must pain to be an afonja.

Inferiors will always be obsessed with their superiors.

Try yo get the humor in it. Gee!

Skepticus:
When you start demanding, the same northerners will counter-protest that you want to take down Buhari's government.

You better channel your emotional energy somewhere else.

Lol you sabi.

Chill, 2023 them go pick another weh worst pass Buhari. It's a matter of time and 2k.

NwaAmaikpe:




Like they say it in Onitsha.
"Odumeje e bu nye go ya ike."

Zubby Michael walks into Crunchies Fastfood in Asaba and not even the guards directing his white Lexus RX330 look at him more than once.
He takes an okada from HeadBridge in Onitsha to Toll-gate in Asaba and the bikeman charged him extra.

He steps into Lagos and they make him feel like Michael Jackson. I honestly doubt if Odunlade Adekola will get this reaction in Kenyatta Market, Enugu not because he is not a great actor but because we are real and too busy chasing the dream. We don't fake what we feel.

Ironically it is the same people who show him hate on social media, claim not to have seen any of his movies and call him a gutterboy that are mobbing him.
This is hypocrisy and backstabbing at it's finest.
Zubby shouldn't be carried away by the lovely smiles from fake hearts.

I know you may have missed my point.

My point is; "this life no balance".
One man's dumped ex is another man's flaunted heartthrob.

You deh craze no be lie!

crackhaus:
Isn't this sex without consent, something they call marital rape?

I'm surprised the thread has gone this far and none of our resident woke girls (some already present) identified this error.

The point was noted though...
Females could be quite confused about what they really want or what they really mean.

I saw it and I have pointed out and I didn't know someone has already pointed it out. I was surprised no woke girl saw that error. Na wa oh