Fmartin:
I am dating a lady, and we are about to get married. She's already carrying my baby.
I have taken her to my parents. I have never taken a lady to my parents before. I have seen her parents too, and have communicated my intention to marry their daughter.

The only thing holding me now is to get things in order before paying her dowry.

The main problem now is that we keep having issues, coz, she's always making calls with her exs. i have confronted her on Several occasions, we have had fights, physical fights as well.

She told me she dont have the guts to tell them to stop calling her. She can only keep playing them till they walk away.
I told her i dont have that Luxury of patience. She has to choose between me and her exs.

Now, the issue is that she's pregnant and I have already taken her to my parents, they all like her.

I would have broken up if not because of the pregnancy. Coz, I wouldn't want to leave her with the pregnancy like that. To make matters worse, She have a kid out of wedlock. Though the father of the baby and her are not in good terms.

I have told her to stop making calls with her ex, but she seems sturbon.
She's ready for me to Change her sim card but I want her to use her sanity and end things with her ex in a boldly manner rather than hiding under the guise of changing sim. I have registered a new sim, but It's still with me, I have not given her.

Am confused, I need you guys advices for way forward.
No think insult, coz I gaht over dose.
Peace.....

Bro., shae you no notice all this red flag before you give am belle...?

Baby Mama get class i swear., some go find themselves in that position., learn from their mistakes, make the best out of their lives.,become a great independent woman,raising thier child along side.

"Neemah and Rashidat" of blessed memory.
But you see the others ehn., na that time market start, dem go open the shop between their legs., start another child shelling or oloshoism.
Kudos to all the decent baby mama's out there.,though the society frowns at you., but all i can say is that everybody have a story to tell. I stand with you.

You came, You Saw and You conquered.
You are a true warrior.
May God continue to Strengthen you all.

We guys can't be part of this problem of this baby mama stigmitization and also be condemning it.


Back to you Op!
Unfortunately for you., you just buy market from the shop your intended wife opened., you're just a customer.
Just collect your goods in her tummy and go your way to find the needed peace of mind.

Cosmatikka:
The insecurity and killings in SE today is still part of the marginalisation we've been talking about.

For those who don't know history, when Philip Effiong led the Biafran troup to surrender to Nigeria, supervises by Obasanjo, he said that if the injustice that led to the war continues, the children and grandchildren of the soldiers will one day rise to pick up arms again. That's what happened with IPOB.

When IPOB started, the boys were only armed with flags. Buhari ordered his soldiers to humiliate and kill them, instead of dialouging with them.

When the boys were pushed to the wall, they learnt to pick arms to fight back, then started the killing of security personnel.

Now instead of the coward security ppl to fight back man to man, they go about killing innocent civilians and sacking towns to avenge their members killed.

Recently the town of Okigwe and Ihube were burnt down for a female military personnel abducted, which everyone including myself condemned here.

But another military personnel of the same rank has been kidnapped in the north 2days ago, we're yet to hear of any town sacked, or the innocent residents doing frog jump.

The Buhari FG has done all these to give Igbos and IPOB a bad name in order to destabilise the region.

In 4months, he will be out, and Nigerians will have another leader who can turn fortunes around for SE region, and Nigeria in general.

Why now, why buhari govt?
Is it because everything under his govt., went sour even though na all of us dey bear the brunt.

When someone from southwest and southsouth was in power., why didn't biafra or ipob agitators come out.

Under a govt. ravaged by boko-haram, infact an inherited insecurity., do you expect buhari to handle or allow such agitation to turn into another menace., even though it has finally metamophose into what he was avoiding?

Endsars is a good example, yes peaceful protest as planned by the organizers., it ended up been hijacked properties looted and destroyed innocent lives even lost., imagine if your properties and businesses are among the destroyed how would you feel? Two wrong don't make a right.
We can't be taking one step forward and ten steps backward.

I bet you Obasanjo will do worse., if he were to be the president currently.

Now they pick up weapons, arms and ammunition., to fight back the government., unfortunately., the fight is against their pple, their own blood., Is that the way to go about this..?
I actually expected goodluck Jonathan., to more for the south south and south east region.,but No!

Before you say i'm a buharist or Tinubu supporter., unfortunately I'm not.
I just hope we can all reason logically and put sentiment apart.

Those pple or families, who have been killed in cold blood, whose properties were destroyed., only their families can tell you what they are going through.

You are entitle to your opinion., so am I.
But that excuse of buhari attacking them which makes them retaliate., i don't agree.

I served in Abia State and i know how peaceful the state was not to talk of the neighbouring state, imo, anambra..and others.

My own is just that every person(s) supporting all this evil people parading themselves all in the name of biafra agitation., God will visit you all in many folds what you did to the innocent lives you take. (Amen)

I said it on previous thread, that the pple feeling the brunt of this menace can never bear the support the stupid "ekpa" and the biafra agitation., this is definitely not the way to go about it.

Now that the evil they planted have grown into what they cannot handle, they are now call on the said authority they see as their enemy.

I guess their families have been affected., hence the call on the Finnish govt to fish him out., abi., where are they all this while when the carnage against their fellow igbo's are going on..?

May God punish every person(s) who support this evil all in the name of biafra agitation.

Na all this their Gun killings O.

One insane person go just wake up., dey shoot pple upandan.

Also., Racism.

Deltafirstson:
I just dey pity this G5 and Tinubu.
You claimed to be fighting for equity and fairness and only Presidential candidate came out from your mind is Tinubu?
Since 1999 till date, Yoruba have produced 2 term President, 3 to 4 speaker of House rep., 2 term vice president, with so many key political appointments.
Where is the equity and fairness within the southern Nigeria?

It's not about the president, v.p.,speaker and house of reps positions alone bro..

Ike ekweremadu., pius anyim pius., Ngozi okonjo iweala., prof soludo., the current cbn govenor emefiele, nddc heads...even goodluck jonathan., all this guys once held nigerian ecomony at hand. The question is how much impact do they have on the south-south and south-east region when they are in this positions?

Just see how the polices of Emefiele alone dey affect nigeria economy., either good or bad the impact can be felt.

The fact still remains that the south east region is divided., your leaders or representatives are only after their pockets., even to help their fellow brothers into positions they will rather dance to the tune of the northerners.

Buhari became president., see as he pack all him hausa brothers full positions, and those ones even put their families and cronies for strategic positions.

You guys need to play the politics right down there., build connections and trust with all other regions., because na trust issue dem get with you guys., most especially from the northerners.

My question still remains., with the little position held, how much impact do they have on southeast as a whole?

DenreleDave:
Mynd44 lalasticlala seun Dominique justwise oam4j


Front page material..


Ip0bs and igbos at large have refused to comment on this bcox it is a family affair.. They shout on top of their voice if anything happened in Lagos or in the north but when it comes to their brothers killing themselves and outside, they run into their shell and will refuse to speak up...

May what Ip0b does to people befall any igbos that have refused to condemn this evil behaviour from Ip0b..

Igbos are quick to speak up whenever bad things happen in Lagos and the north but when it comes to their land, they feign ignorance. They give excuse for their gunmen killing people. They will tell u tinubu is the reason agbero do this and that, Atiku cud nt condemn Deborah's killer yet even their fake man Peter ob as yet to condemn Igbos.. Two face hypocrites

Nigeria will be at peace in Jesus name.. Amen

Amen!

DenreleDave:
https://www.nairaland.com/7501545/unknown-gunmen-kidnap-female-soldier


https://twitter.com/IjeleSpeaksNaij/status/1608479469878009856?t=y4dPffhESGiNJy9UrV6mIg&s=19

You no go hear anything from their *Ohaneze Ndigbo* now., na yeye things dem go dey fight about..

Your igbo sister raped.
When she's not related to them.

Rubbish pple

flexyrule:
My dear Igbos,

Between 2010 to 2011, I was in Mubi, Adamawa state when the boko haram Insurgency started making headlines.

"The locals" then hailed the actions of Mamman Yusuf and his boys, claiming that, it was the Islamic way of sanitizing the corrupt Nigerian system.

Fast forward to 2013, two years after I left the region, Mubi and the neighbouring towns became strongholds for the boko haram insurgents.

This Unknown gunmen, IPOB and ESN you guys are playing with, it is gradually metamorphosing into a regional civil war.
Just like the boko haram Insurgency, it is a war of Igbos against Igbos.

Today, the east that used to be the destination of every Igbo man during the Christmas period is gradually being deserted. Igbos outside the region cannot return home to celebrate Christmas, those at home cannot move around and sleep with their eyes closed again. Someone having the best of life overseas is inciting you people to kill yourselves.

Do not be fooled, the crises going on is a war of Igbos against Igbos, and it doesn't affect the government in anyway. You cannot cut your nose, to spite your face!

Your population is growing smaller, and the region is gradually slipping back into civil war... Just that this time around, it would be a war of Igbos against Igbos.

Thank God you guys know that in this country, we already have more than enough problems, and nobody gives a sh*t about anybody.

The government would just fold their arms and watch you guys kill yourselves...

You've said it all bro..
Those who are supporting this guys are the ones whose family has not been affected.

When the menace reach their side too., mayb they will where it really pain., ask the igbo's whose family has been killed.

No be person wey motor hit go dey look for plate number.

All of una wey dey support the stupid biafra movement posterity awaits you all.

Vickky555:
My nugga babe sent him a voicenote while they were having a discussion online and she was pausing while we could hear a pa pa pa sound behind. The funniest part was that we had to connect the phone to a Bluetooth speaker to analyze the sound better so we won't just make assumptions. We analyzed it and thought about different things that could cause the sound maybe she was cooking but she said no when my Friend asked her. So what I just want to say in essence is that please if you know say Dem dey Bleep you abeg no do voicenote coz my Friend no dey okay since morning even we had to delete it so he wont go back to it again coz nigga down.
Why do ladies even do this in the first place?

Person wey dey youth fellowship.

You guys just dey analyze nonsense., how clapping dey sound.?

Sha dey check on your guy before he cross to the other side because of woman...Shioor

OmaAlumagidi:
I will start the story by 5pm
Let's take row call if you are online signify

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Justbehave:
So what does she do for a living since the op said she doesn't work or into trading?

You should ask the OP not me.

He can't say he's in a relationship with a lady for a while and not know some vital details about her. Moreso, that doesn't give you or the Op's mum to conclude or judge her.

Religion has brainwashed alot of pple., any small thing spirituality.

Let your mum to tell you whatever spiritual stuff behind her reasons., someone she has not met., yet she's already judging her from afar.

No be every lady wey dey make monee be olosho get to know pple before you judge them.

She need to be send to a rehabilitation centre.
I hope she won't end up been killed las las.

gaddafe:
Just read above and look at the nonsense advice given to the OP. If the gender roles were reversed you would have seen feminist all over the place. Someone was even asking how old the guy is. As in, if it were a female would we be asking this?

OP this is sexual abuse whether we accept it or not and you should speak up quickly before that Jezebel start to manifest her plans ( Satanic people everywhere)!

i really like this version of reasoning., as funny as it seems., i can't deny their is an iota of truth in what you said.

Some pple may not agree though

noble71:

Thanks for this information



Meanwhile sell your Pi to us at good rate.

How much?

Those who are clamoring for the said biafra are far from the east, settled in other part of nigeria or abroad.., whose family has not been killed by the ipob terrorizing the eastern region.

Ask the those whose families has been killed, they will tell you they are not interested.

War is not the solution.

If you like make una finish una self.
Posterity will definitely Judge you guys.

Etemma1:
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mightyleks:
Final day tomorrow for your USDT


Don't miss it.

Ammmy:
It's not easy being a single lady without a job now o. The economic situation of this country is now that bad.

When a man meets a woman in Nigeria now, he starts asking her where she works, what she does for a living, especially those hungry guys looking for a woman to compliment their finances.

If u say u don't have a job, they stop talking to you, forgetting that someone who has no job may be financially okay.

When has it become a must for a woman to have something doing? Men are meant to take care of women and spend for them and not the other way round.

In those days, nobody cares if a woman earns money or not.

Ofcos., who no like better thing?., i don't know of some other guys though., if i see a lady that earns more money., decent and generous. I swear i go chase am.

Some guys just need a little support or leverage to acheive their dreams, financially and emotionally., not all guys are leaches.

Since ladies don turn to highest bidder get the package., guys wey never hammer sef dey there lane and the one wey dey yahoo ladies too open shop.., na why you reason that way.

Like i said, not all guys are leaches.
Me too, I'm small boy looking for my big Goddess��

Babara1994:
We met on Facebook, exchanged numbers and few days down the line, she asked for a date.

Fine, I obliged, but she didn't know I'm always on Dutch mode when it comes to dates. LOL

So we got the place. A very expensive eatery. She was well-dressed but was all bleached - a big turn-off. I actually like light-skinned women, but not the bleached ones.

Okay, fine. She ordered a plate of rice, a bottle of champagne, a cup of ice-cream and three pieces of meat-pie. I began to wonder if we came for national eating competition. Anyhow sha, I ordered a plate of rice and a bottle of malt.

When it was time to pay, I paid for mine ONLY and told her to settle her bill. It led to an argument and all eyes were on us. I left the place and insisted she settled her debt.

A big lesson to all women out there. If you come across me, I won't pay a dime until you're my wife. Why should I act like I'm your husband when you aren't my wife?

And if you're a guy reading this: Spend what you're OK with and don't make yourself a fool. If you go broke tomorrow, you'll be forgotten.

PS: I'm not a redpiller and I'm not a feminist; I'm just human. Humans THINK.

Bro, it's not fair now., shae you tell her say na dutch mode you dey before you agree to the date?

You for clear am before hand.

Naso all of them dey talk., he took advantage of me., He rape me, he force himself on me.

She carry lamba give you., you wan go report for station., my guy think with your brain., and not lust or emotions wey you carry for head.

He go shock you say.., she don bang wella..

You dey wait make she ripe, while some don dey chop am unripe like that.

You even say you wan nurture am..., it will end in tears

Life2020:
Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.

The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.

The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.

Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.

Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.

I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.

Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.

Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce.

If you're my sister, i'll give you my support �
You have your life to live and children to raise.,
That man will destroy you and your goals if he stil remains in your life.

He can never change

A woman like you is rare., unfortunately for him he is the big loser here.

Go for what makes you happy..Ma'am

Wordsfrombimpe:
You see this talk of when men says I don't have enough money to settle down

Na lie

If you wan settle down you fit settle

Just have an understanding partner

And that include make use of birth control as you dey think marriage

To pity innocent children

The best thing that can ever happen to a man is a good marriage even when money no dey

An understanding and a supportive wife

People wey marry for Yankee you no the house Dem dey live make we no talk Africa

You start small

And then with time it will get better

copyright Digital Bimpe


You see when I said with time it will get better I implied

Patience will be needed and endurance

The best phase of an individual life is the ability to endure before you enjoy that way you can appreciate what you have more and stop bothering about what you don't have

In marriage

You need to understand there are days you will enjoy and there are days you will endure

You have to have that mindset put in place

No be everyday person dey chop chicken

Some days you will eat egg and some days you will eat fish

So is marriage

If you end up with a materialistic partner who believe in I must live large and look large to suit societal Standards

Then it's your business to deal with life situations when it get hard

If you end up with a non materialistic partner who enjoy simplicity

Simple lifestyle

copyright Digital Bimpe The Coach

Understanding and non materialistic partner in this age and time...

Let me know if you see one...

Aside, the things i learnt from your write up., this your loan is for nigeria market.

BadRadio:


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/09/revealed-how-we-conquered-hackers-from-asia-inec/

This ones are just talking rubbish., wetin dey INEC wey dem no fit hack.?

Dem never get una time...

Karen2024:
My boyfriend ditched me for another lady few days ago. Now he discovered she's a chronic cheat and he came begging me to forgive and accept him back.


Should I accept him back? I still love him.

Watchout for part 2