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Consultant:
How do you know that? .

@Consultant
I don't know that. I believe that. It's my opinion.
Dumb
Smart
Maybe crazy
It's still mine.

And I respect urs, except the questioning aspect of it though.

Courtesy!
Tolerance!
Almost extinct like the Australian dodo

Ngozi Okonjo Iweala
Charles Soludo
Pat Utomi
etc

These are professionals; professionals in what they do. They would make a very good cabinet, but would end up as 'bad' heads of state.

El Rufai
he sounds more like a politician, but still has a lot to learn as regards being diplomatic and skillful in conflict management. Given time, he will make a good leader.

Clinton was a very good leader, not because he knows how to prepare balance sheet or predict the economic or because he was an outstanding lawyer, but because he is a charismatic character, who can get gather together numerous egg heads and bring out the best in them. He manages people well.

I will not be suprised if the next president of Nigeria is either an ex-president or a nobody in terms of popularity, as we speak. I only hope that he will be ready to employ the services of the Iwealas, Soludos and Utomis, known and unknown to continue the task of salvaging this country.

Remember Tofa?? He nearly made it to Asorock.

my 2cents shaa.

Nigeria & Misaligned priorities:

The Minister of power and steel made it know 2 days ago that electricity will only be stable in 2056

THE Federal Government yesterday approved a master plan that would enable Nigeria send an Astronaut to the Space by 2015

utah
umuahia
uyo
uruguay



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Tolerance! Tolerance!! Tolerance!!!


This is one of the key virtues that Christ preached and practised.
It is also one of the most deficient virtue in the lives of "christians" today.
Remove the plank from your eyes in order to see the speck in the eyes of your neighbour.

Live and let live!

Even our idol worhipping Christ-ignorant ancestors preached that.

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Curiousnja

Ah still wanna luv u

warri


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Fresheva,

Your man is simply and honestly exhibiting his gradual growing love and affection for you.
Like it or not, the last bus stop most times na bed (his or urs doesn't matter)


What can you do?

- make sure he continues beyond that last bus stop; or
- enter another bus before u reach that bus stop

Just my 2 cents

Wonder shall never end

Neglecting the plausibility of the story, I think the guy must be a 7th century fool to offer you N2m for the girl. Are you the girl's parents?
You dey collect bride price in proxy?

Don't think twice about collecting the money if it's been offered. A rich man wants to dash you money anyway, so go for it.

If your girl has ditched you (it clearly seems that way), you could hit her back by "peddling" her for N2m.

C'est la vie!

I personally think it's the combination of un-adventurous dressing and courteous decent behaviour (be it for 2hrs) that does the trick.

[b]Silence of the lambs[/b]You know what you look like to me, with your good bag and your cheap shoes? You look like a rube. A well scrubbed, hustling rube with a little taste. Good nutrition has given you some length of bone, but you're not more than one generation from poor white trash, are you, Agent Starling? And that accent you've tried so desperately to shed? Pure West Virginia. What's your father, dear? Is he a coal miner? Does he stink of the lamb? You know how quickly the boys found you, all those tedious sticky fumblings in the back seats of cars, while you could only dream of getting out, getting anywhere, getting all the way to the FBI.

[b]A streetcar named desire[/b]What you are talking about is desire - just brutal Desire. The name of that rattle-trap streetcar that bangs through the Quarter, up one old narrow street and down another.

[b]Scent of a woman[/b]You sharpshootin' me, punk? Is that what you're doin'? Don't you sharpshoot me! You'll give me forty. Then you're gonna give me forty more. Then you're gonna pull K.P., the grease pit! I'll rub your NOSE in enlisted men's CRUD till you don't know WHICH END IS UP! YOU UNDERSTAND?

[b]Casino[/b]A lot of holes in the desert, and a lot of problems are buried in those holes. But you gotta do it right. I mean, you gotta have the hole already dug before you show up with a package in the trunk. Otherwise, you're talking about a half-hour to forty-five minutes worth of digging. And who knows who's gonna come along in that time? Pretty soon, you gotta dig a few more holes. You could be there all fuckin' night.

tpbm

had better be Rhodalyn

At 15, it's possible to meet someone who touches your life in so many inexplicable ways. You have to let him slip away. You love the time you once spent with him. You don't love him. You will have loads of better memories in the near future with ur dream man.

This guy fits the profile of a natural born bully.

Let him slip away. Stop swelling up his ego by sticking to him.

Luc966,

Before I can proffer any advice, have u had sex with this guy?

The words "I love you" confers meaning when love is first manifested, and later on said.

From experience, love has to be felt first. I don't need to hear those words before I know it's there. However, when it is spelt-out, then it reinforces all that's been done to manifest it.

You cannot fall in love with someone within a day. That's infatuation.

When that persists to an extent that you start moulding your life around that person, then love sets in.

Girls would want to hear you say it. And you better be staring them right in the eyes when you do so.

If you don't want children, then you look for a man that doesn't want children too.
It's all a matter of choice.

Where can u find such a man

No she shouldn't, but she could.

After all, she was not raped. The sex was done with consent of both parties,a nd aimed towards a goal. If not, they should have gone for the condom.

I know that some couples resort to pregnancy before marriage as the only way of getting the families to fully approve of their marriage. Works well with parents that ask for heaven and earth as bride price.

However, if pregnancy can be averted, then it sounds better. But I don't think it's a crime. Some men would not go to the altar unless the woman is confirmed pregnant (even though the church frowns at it).

Debbieolat,

I think you have a very blissful marriage in the making. You must have worked very hard to get it to this level. Keep it up. You must havebeen very receptive to your man's parents. I hope we all can emulate that.

I strongly believe that the immediate family cannot be excluded in any marriage. They have a very vital role to play in its success.

I'm not married yet, but hope that my wife-to-be (with my support & her cooperation) will relate well with my folks, and vice versa.

Seriously,

I'll have to ask myself if I've been doing my job as a husband. If I can answer yes to that question without batting an eyelid, then the marriage is as good as skunk faeces.

If I've had kids with the woman before this happens, then it further complicates issues.

Malicious & gruesome murder or manslaughter may be in the offing

Sacks & nuts could gets crushed like over-ripe berries

A man gives up his surname for his wife's
After all, the world is changing at a breathtaking rate

So, let's add these to the list then:

- women propose to men
- men start bearing kids (not forgetting the breast feeding part)
- women start paying groom price

Not exactly the most embarrassing, but ranks high up there on the list:

I finally get this red hot chick over to my place after months of relentless pursuit. It's time to get it on, and I remember I left the rubbers I bought in my car packed outside, with three unfriendly rottweilers roaming the compound. 3 different noisy generators are on at the same time in the compound so the maiguard can't hear me calling for him.

More like a wasted night if u ask me. And no second chance 'cause the girl changes her mind the next day and the others after .

Life can be like that

Funkybaby

If you really love this guy, then you should not entertain any fear. Stick to your man and continue to shower him with ur unalloyed love. It seems you are being indecisive all of a sudden. That usually happens with people that think they have multi-options (as regards potential partners). I wonder where the serious guys where when u had no one but the UK guy.

I know a relationship that matches the profile of yours 95%. They dated for 4yrs, then the guy went for his studies in the UK. All of a sudden, the girl bloomed like a rose in the desert, and had a plethora of guys besieging her and promising her heaven and paradise put together. At the same time, the UK guy was going through some hard times (career wise), and the girl cashed in on that and started rubber-ducking in Naija.

Word got to the guy, and after several cautions, break-ups and make-ups, he finally called it quit. He's happily married today to a girl he dated for 2 months only while on vacation in Naija. To add to that, the guy is having so good, that he's settled down in the UK, owns a house there and a flourishing career. All happened in the last 3 years.

The girls in the UK pose no threat at all. If u should lose sleep, do that for the girls in Naija. I know a lady happily married today who waited 10 years for her man to come back. He did and she didn't regret it. If after 18 months, u feel like abandoning the "unserious" UK guy, then always remember u made ur choice. Good or bad, live with it.

Goodluck.

Marriage is there to ensure the pre-planned continuity of the human race.
Pre-planned becaause children will be raised in a more structured manner. Yes, single mothers and fathers can raise children, but

Personally I would want to marry because I would wish to consolidate the love I have for my girlfriend. I would liken it to consolidating wealth in an investment policy. You invest your love and commitment and watch it grow and flourish. You invest wisely, you reap wisely.

Takethat,

Your boyfriend is pretty pissed (angry) and that's normal. The situation calls for that. You have to explain everything when he cools down. He needs to hear it all. Lay ALL ur cards on the table like it is. He wants the truth. Make sure ur story has one single version. Dual or multiple versions implies ur lying.

And as a lesson; someone on ur suspect list does not deserve an sms. Text mesages leave trails. I'm not saying u should cheat on ur hearthrob. If u must reach out to those on the[b] barred list[/b], then better a call. Sometimes we need to reach out to EXs to just to say hi. If that must happen, then call them Calling is more expensive, but sms is more intimate. You cannot send an sms by mistake. You must have thought about it over and over before even laying ur knuckles on ur phone.

Goodluck. You can still salvage the relationship, if ur man wasn't looking for a way out in the first place.

I think it's like this;

Eating the meat last during meals is a trick employed by parents to motivate kids to finish their meals. Most kids feast themselves on biscuits and confectionaries which have very little good nutritional value. During the main meals they tend to be picky and reluctant to eat.

Hence, when u give a child a plate of (say) rice with a lump of chicken in it, the chicken usually is the main attraction, but is presented by the parents as a prize for finishing the food. Hence the tradition to leave the meat till the very end.

I still do that myself, consciously or unonsciously

Life's like that u know

Well said Rottweiler

PH women and money,

It's quite normal. We also have our Oyibos to blame. A very familiar sight in PH supermarkets would be a typical ash'ma tagging pushing an overloaded trollery filled to the brim with everything, including dog food, with a senile looking oyibo tagging behind.

As a promising bachelor, u can never be too cautious. Resist the temptation of giving these girls a lift, even the one you meet in church, unless you are ready for some sort of relationship.

And if you are privileged to work in any of the Oil majors in the city, then you are automatically a target. If ur car doesn't give u away, ur fragrance, clothing, carriage, well-manicured nails, even the fresh strands of hair standing on the back of ur palm will give u away. Catch ur fun in clubs and hang outs, but maintain a firm grip of ur stuff especially when u progress from bottle to bottles (I presume u drink shaa).

Overall, the city can be fun, besides the usual traffic jams her and there. So enjoy, cautiously.