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I say this with every sense of responsibility: ur wife is a BAD woman, judge me all u can, she just showed trace of what is yet to come. I wish u will be able to reach me and confirm to me the day she will openly disrespect ur mother especially if i don't nip this rubbish in d bud!

LiegeMan:
Anger And Vengeance Is Taking The Best Part Of Me

hello nairalanders,

Sorry to disturb your peace but this has been going on in my mind for long and I really need suggestions on how to overcome it. I gave in to ire/anger and it's gradually taking the best part of me since I made a little discovery about my wife's past and how she lived her life while in the campus. I will try and make it as snappy as possible in order not to make you spend much of your time on my case.

Now, it goes this way, my wife came from a middle class family and she attended one of the best and prestigious higher institutions in the country, they're not too rich and they're not poor, infact, their family name can't be in the same sentence with poverty. She had everything she needed and lived her life to the fullest while in the campus, she flirted with and dated the best guys in the campus, she visited many night clubs and other exuberant and flamboyant life style that pertains to the campus.

Now on my own part, I attended one of the Colleges of Education that littered our country,
I did everything all by myself, I sponsored myself throughout my stay in the college, I did all manner of odd jobs to survive, sometimes, I would miss lectures due to lack of cash, no one to assist, all these limitations made me not to pay attention towards the opposite sex as I was busy struggling to survive and hoping unto God for a miracle.

Right now, all I am feeling is anger, ire, all I want now is vengeance knowing fully well that while I was suffering and struggling to survive, fasting without praying, carrying bricks and block from one floor to the other, jumping from one market to the other hawking my wares, that my wife was busy somewhere enjoying and partying away her future, right now, I want to have my revenge, I want to live those life that I wasn't opportune to live, I want to flirt and have fun with many ladies both young and old, I want to visit as many night clubs as possible now that money is flowing in, I careless about the consequences and how she may feel, these are exactly what I'm feeling now.

this can't keep troubling me that's why I brought it here for suggestions and elderly advice.

You didn't state in ur write up if u were already dating during the time u said u were going thru hardship. From my understanding u didn't even know her then, all u know about her you were told!
The question u shud ask urself is if she is faithful to u now or still living that kind of life. If say u want to do all u said in the name of vengeance, guy u will kill urself and another man will marry the and f*ck her even on top of ur grave! Everybody has a past u were only unlucky u had the type of past u had plus she was not the cause of ur hardship back then. Bros just let the past be in the past and enjoy ur marriage. U don't know the kind of life the next girl would have lived. If she is faithful and fulfilling all her responsibilitiea as a wife pls brush that thought off ur mind.

yomi007k:
Let me lay out certain facts or opinions;

1. Most people dont like their jobs-we just do it becos we have no choice.

2. Employers/ Co-workers will always talk. Even if you are doing better and get promoted, you still have a chance of getting bitter energy.

3. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. This is better than complaining or feeling bad. You have gained experience, apply for other jobs.

4. Plan your life and try to do what works for you. That means you need to please yourself and serve your organization as well.

5. Remember you are your number 1 cheer leader. Only you can choose to stay positive or negative even in a negative enviroment.

I don't think i need to say more than this advice! No 1 & 3 are golden!

Olam09:
What does it mean when your girlfriend update her WhatsApp status with Tiwa Savage's music "Somebody son go find me one day" i commented saying what about me and she said it's just a song.. this is a red flag for me oo.. is better somebody's daughter start finding me too.. i no chop breakfast.

Have u proposed to her? If u have not then she is still open to be taken by someone's son someday.

Oga op, the said lady has actually not done anything wrong o! Even me no dey sit-down for middle, if middle is the only seat available, I'll go enter the next vehicle. So i dont k ow why u are fuming plus the car is not ur car and u were the last passenger to come! Were u expecting to be treated like the owner when u are just a passenger?

If the car is sounding like the plug(s) is/are bad, they should check the coil! That's the device placed on the plugs. One or two of the coils may be bad! Had that experience sometimes in d past!

Nnamdi Kanu dey tweet from prison?

Barims:
I want to study law but I realized without government I can't study law so that's why I was to seek for advice if there's any other course I can do with my o level results

@op, follow ur heart, if it is law u want, go for it! If u get into the university without study what u want, u might end up regretting it.
Your result should have been a one time sitting result but u didn't handle the govt well.
Even me thatvwas a science student i have sat for and passed govt without being taught. However, u need to up ur game, u will need more effort when u get into the university! Best of luck!

Good result but u are still an average student. And why would u have F9 in Govt? Didn't u write anything?
I cant recommend any course for u but will only tell u to follow ur heart, moreso u have dream and passion, where does ur passion lie?

Having mentioned how dangerous this job can be, the writer fails to mention at least a bit of how rewarding the job is or can be. To be honest, i am a trained engineer working as a HR practioner in a similar organization but the life the writer has just described has always been what i wanted (as an introvert) but never got the opportunity. The writer should also know that the organization will only keep u in that position for a few years, u will begin to see the signs when they begin to take u off the list when the times come for u to go back offshore so make the best use of whatever u make from the job in terms of reward. But nevertheless, from the write up, the writer knows her onions and she got things under control! I wish her the very best in her career!

Look at this one because ur ashawo don dey collect dollars now, u wan dey form posh? Na wa o!

Another bunch of unserious human veings! These ones will become politicians in future and will to NASS and start discussing irrelevancies!
Na so dem dey start!

These are just a vunch of unserious elements!

You are not in a position to offer such advise!

Nairaland is obviously not the best place to come seek solution to whatever issues u have!

Shame on sahara reporters, shame on the FG, shame on NAF if they can't all provide the name of the said politician!
This should not be allowed to go just like that!

BluntTheApostle:
I don't believe this story.

So, one big man used an NAF jet to ferry girlfriend while the Chief of Army Staff could only use a small jet?

I don't believe that nonsense.

Looks like u don't how power drunk politicians are! Cos if u do, then u will understand why that is possible!

Blackfire:
All this southern newspaper trying to downgrade the North will fail


Yoruba fraud
Igbos drugs

Abeg who is this? U be Hausa or Fulani, bandit or herdsman, pls i want to know!

Even though i dont like this woman, I agree totally with her!

It took the govt of the UAE to uncover the financiers of the dreaded boko haram vut suddenly they now have a link btw Igboho and boko haram! I laugh in spanish!

I keep saying it that most of the girls of nowadays have sawdust in their heads! No single brain! Nor be the rich ones so dey chop una kpekus, video una and post am so? Yeyebrities!

PrimadonnaO:
What's the crux of the matter?

The crux of the matter is that what the woman displayed is just humility because she is sensible and if u dig deep, that lady is matured, not thinking the way girls of these days thing. Mind u humility at that point though a good trait but does not make her a good wife material.
But read the comments, a lot will miss this

Many nairalanders will fail to see the crux of the matter so they will mis-inteprete the story.

Hausa/Fulani will never ever protest, simply because the poor are contented with their poverty while the rich especially in govt are more determine than ever b4 to loot the country and share #1k to the poor every Friday. They have no life and no future, so what will they be protesting for?

This man is the worst ever information minister we have had in this country! I hate the man with passion.

There is no doubt in my head that most of the girls of these days have no single sense! Na sawdust dey their head no be brain. Imagine the trash this one is saying!

Terrier99:
Since the VAT Battle started, fulani herdsmen had reduced their attacks. Now that the Vat agitations have temporarily left public consciousness, they are resuming their madness.

Those pushing for FIRS to collect Vat are the same people behind the genocide by herdsmen.

Even though ur submission is just a theory, it however makes some sense because i can postulate from ur statemy that if FIRS have less funds the people sponsoring terrorism will have less funds to throw around! Makes some sense!

I like not to comment on ur grammar, rather I'll comment on the crux of the matter! Bros take ur daughter away from her, that will lessen the burden on her! If u succeed in doing that, anytime she calls u for money pls remind her of the time she use to insult you when u were jobless, that will make her avoid youfor a long time. She is actually using your daughter to to get thru to you. And pls don't let her come near you if not you will end up sleeping with her and that will be disastrous for u!

Se as hunter turn to hunted! Scammer come scam scammer!

E be like say dem lace the air for that aso rock with strong Igbo! Na him make these useless, good for nothing people dey talk rubbish all of the time!

How will u generate enough? When states don collect VAT from Una hand! And quite frankly, the FIRS have never disclosed the true Value of VAT they collect from states, these guys pocket most of these monies, that's why u see their staffs living large beyond their means! Quote me anywhere!