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Dimaya:
There's a psychology behind ghosting.


More often than not, it's young women who frequently ghost men for this reason:

If your girlfriend is between the ages of 18-25, she's always being hit upon (toasted) by several men. It so happens while she's dating you, she will meet guys who are better than you. Rather than break things off, she will take a break from the relationship to try the new guy out. She won't return your calls, spend weekends unavailable, appear to be moody. She's testing the waters with new guy while still guaranteed your commitment. At that moment, you're her backup plan.

If new guy is better/richer/funkier and if he offers commitment, after a month of ghosting you, she will break things off officially. If the dude doesn't match you, she'll make up some BS reason to return. Ghosting is the warning sign your competition is auditioning for her affection.

Don't just take my word for it, there are countless examples where this actually happened. Listen to the guys in this video narrate how their girlfriends ghosted them for over a week and a month.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrXVbs-1fhA

Now ask yourself if that's not what happened. If a woman ghosts you, 100% there's someone else.

My advice: Cut your losses and move on.

Your response is apt!!! I can testify to this! Funny enough, the girl and I are still together but with much much less commitment from my side. If I see u, I see u, if I no see u, I eraze u from my mind. And am doing this with serious caution!!!

That's a slam dunk! Am waiting for Ike's own!

fineboynl:
PMS = fuel

Obasenjo N64
Yaradua N45
Jonathan N85
Buhari N200
Tinubu N618

We will all be lucky to still be here after 4yrs of Tinubu's rule! Am certain he doesn't have anything to offer, all he wants is to bear the name 'Mr President' and we will rigmarole for the next 4yrs!

These muslims are a big set back for this country and the world at large. They preach peace but act violently. This world will certainly be a better place without them!

They are now replacing themselves with their children! I swear it is only divine intervention that can change this trend!

MercyGaming:
Recently I fell in love for the first time with this 23 year old. It felt great. this was the first time someone is calling me baby and having sleepless nights because of me cry(before you people begin to ask how old I am, I was born in 1992) About three days ago we were texting on WhatsApp and I asked her how many ex she had had and her reply was "I can't remember". I was shocked 😲 I asked her if there are too many that's why she can't remember and she said "yes". I'm concerned.for a 23 year old to have dated many men means she has multiple body counts. Will this affect me in the long run? What advice do you people have for me? her pictures tells me she's a Virgin

I'm not a virgin

You havejust started digging the pit where that your relationship will be buried! That info will never leave ur head!

The worst thing that can happen to you is to be a muslim! They preach peace but act the opposite!

This has happened many times and I attend to the most pressing issue at the time. Could be transport to work or lunch or even giving to someone that needed it more than I do! Like I did on Sunday. My estate security approached me and said his little baby does not have food to eat and he has never asked me for such so the human part of me kicked in and and I had to release the only 1k I had on me to the guy! TBH, i felt good doing that because it involved a baby!

I still don't understand the reason behind this BBN concept! Where the give so much to one person for doing all the rubbish in this world while those that have the capacity to create jobs are languishing in abject poverty! Are we sane in this country or we are just lackadaisical about our future? I still don't understand.

A rich guy paying subsidy for his people! Kudos!

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Then what are u still doing in d marriage? Are u gonna wait until u are truly dead? If u love ur life u better get out now that u can b4 u end up dead!
Apparently you are not meeting the expectations she had before u guy got married.

madridguy:
I pray Lagos State don't have a weak man as Gov. Sanwo-Olu again. Gov. Sanwo-Olu is too weak for a state like Lagos.

Meanwhile, explanation upon explanation is not needed again.

But baba at the top will not like someone that can think or talk for himself!

gabmanuel:
1... A woman's money is her money, but a man's money is the money for the house/family

2... A woman will almost always chose her siblings and her children over you.

3... A woman will always be comfortable with her family members staying around, but will never be all happy if it's the other way round.

4... Never tell your wife about all the money you have, because her demand will increase.

5... As a man, be ready to spend and double your hustle because you must provide ooo, whether nah Tinubu or Obi wey be president.

6... Be ready to always tolerate and forgive, never allow any issue with your spouse to cross 24hrs, irrespective of who was wrong, peace is paramount.

7... You will be considered lucky if the both of you are ready to learn, relearn and take corrections , because in marriage, you will keep seeing new things from both parties.

I think if people should just be behaving the way they were during Dating/courtship, there won't be much issues.


NB: There can be 1% exception.

What I don't know is if u are married. But u nailed it. U were on point!

The problem of bad roads will forever continue if that dichotomy of federal and state roads still exist! Whatever happens to fixing the roads in your state? That is how you know a working government! If u talk about shame, they will never be ashamed because they will come and tell u it is a federal road and so it is the responsibility of the federal government!
Useless politicians!

Acekidc4:
Alcoholism is Bad, I have been Sober for 3 year 7 Month Now. I drink for this life oooo!! Too much of a Thing is Bad.

Thank God for your life, a lot more are still battling from alcoholism.

Jogs1900:
The bank only accepts letter of administration which you can process from any probate registry in any state.

Oh ok, thanks for the update.

Jogs1900:
Nothing called POD form in the bank.

Pls enlighten us if u are a banker. May be the form is not called POD but u can educate us on what it is called.

This is what has happened to most girls! You will just know from their attitude!

Cashsteady:
I’m not bad financially tho ..she’s a good girl but I just don’t know how I got to the stage of over loving her

Bros becareful, because if or when she dumps u, u will be depressed the way u are going and the girl will move on withindays.

Na wa o! The pain is getting real!

She will eventually dump you and your eye go clear especially if she one of those girls that want rich bf and for ur fave she go hook up with another guy!

Amen

Your sponsor does not earn enough to be able to sponsor you and u didn't sound convincing about coming back to look for a job. Then your documents may not show enough proof of all you said.

Am sure you can find everywhere except Delta. If you are a guy all you will see here in Delta are hungry, stupid, entitled and useless girls that have been used, abused and corrupted by yahoo boys!

This is a sign of insecurity. And yes u are overreacting. If it was you that bought it, will you include your husband name in the documents?

And u think this country can ever be better than it is? The so-called leaders of tomorrow are already taking giant steps to further plunder limited resources and we all want a better tomorrow! People will keep quiet now and not go against all these anomalies them later they woll be complaining! There is actually no end in sight to all the utter rubbish going on in rhis country!!!

Why do some people talk like these? If u increase minimum wage to 100k, it will only drive higher an already over bloated inflation. If for any reason govt can even afford the minimum wage, what about the private sector that is already stifled due to hike in cost of operation?

Middle class has long fizzled out in Nigeria. You are either poor or rich! More than 85% of homes earn less than 200k (all income) these days. So where the middle class wan come from?

My take:
1. A lack of good job will definitely make u loose control in your relationship
2. Women worldwide knows that he who pays the piper dictate the tunes so they will control you as long as u do not contribute as much as they do in the home.
3. If as a man for any reason u earn less than ur partner, u have somewhat lost respect.
4. If at the beginning u were earning more and somehow by twist of faith she begins to earn more, same rule applies, u will still loose ur respect.
5. Women these days have equated submissiveness with u having to provide. If u no fit provide, then u have lost ur respect and dignity as a man!
6. Women are the same worldwide! If u think u will leave one because of the above reasons, I can tell u for free that u are a joker.

Dem don start! Some of these northerners like to whip up sentiments.
Without supporting tribalism, where was this guy when Buhari was sharing 5k to poor notherners in d name of supporting poor Nigerians. I remember many northerners came out then to confirm that they are beneficiaries but never read about a single southerner! Where were u then?
However, am not in support of sharing money to any Nigerian in d name of palliative or whatever. What govt should be concerned about is creating enabling environment to attract new investments and sustain existing investments through their policies!

jackcanfield:
Okay o ati gbo .. Always retrain your men on firearm usage , and don't shot when you're not shot at .

Do law enforcement agents shoot in populated areas where there may be heavy civilian casualties? Just asking because am not a military or paramilitary person! Now the drug baron escaped, an officer was knocked down in d process and an innocent child has lost his life while another child is fighting for his life in d hospital. How do u console the parents? The whole operation smells of unprofessionalism!

Abeg op, whenever simon Ekpa declares sit-at-home, gunmen come out to enforce it. Are these gunmen not igbos? Plus, the Nigerian government are behaving as if this Ekpa guy is invincible, can he not be arrested thru the finnish government? This question beats my imagination till date!