Easyincome24: What if she asked to know if you are a stingy type? She may be a responsible girl and in her last relationship, she spent most on the guy. This time, she just wants to play a prank on you. Imagine she asked you for #100k. You could talk her down that you could afford #20k. To such lady, you already passed her test as you have shown a concern. But a stingy fellow will look over without offering shishi.
All these things are red herrings
1. Do not bring baggage from a previous relationship to a new one. 2. Do not play pranks - are we kids now ? 3. Do not " test" a partner unless the parameters are the same. By " asking " for money you might have failed his. When you ask, It has to be for a common goal. Example - Honey I need to get groceries, the list is 50,000, I have 20K could you give me 30K? What is his response, I do not have money or don't worry honey, I have got this, you cover petrol for the vehicle.
I will tell you a closely related story.
I have been dating this single mom who is in let say Abuja. I drove from Lagos to abj to see her for a few days. Stayed in a hotel so as not to confuse the child. So travel cost back and forth, Hotel stay, Misc expenses all covered by me. I asked her to cook some dishes I could store in my fridge in Lagos. I had asked her during my stay how much the dishes would cost, she said not to worry that she would not tax me. I said okay. A day after I returned home, I get a long text - the nitty gritty of the text contained the following - She felt used, that I didn't leave any money for her for the food she cooked. And that what I even bought for her even though it was useful was not a necessity. I had a panic attack. So I calmly asked her again - How much would be enough to cover the expenses ? she said she doesn't have to tax me but that whatever I feel I should give her or if not I should leave it alone. So I sent her N100k, the next text was that she was sorry, It was too much money.
Couldn't she have covered the cost of the meal ?
I told her I have sent what I have sent . Now she is wondering why the relationship isn't like before. She's soiled the bed and I can't lay in it.
Why should a lady ask for money ? Once you ask me for money, you have become a glorified escort in my eyes. If you are asking for money to cook lets say N10,000 and I give you N6000 and do not add the balance, you've become a glorified escort in my eyes.
Prostitute - It happened in an Hotel. Hookup potential but for the thieving aspect. This is why I do not do overnight . I keep my passport in the kitchen under the fridge.
danvon: Olosho is #2000 - #5000 Prostitute is #10,000 - 15,000 Hook up is #16,000 - 50,000 Escort is #50,000 and above, it can vary
To clarify Olosho are not the cleanest they are usually stationed in Brothels and could have you in the bush. Dress Code almost non existent
Prostitutes - Ply the roads. They dress in all nines, usually wearing their Sunday best clothes . They hop in the car with you and take you to a nearby hotel for service.
Hookups - Most of these are thieves and robbers. You meet them online and they ask you for transport money first ( in which they do not show up ) however those that do are amazing and nice. Its casual transaction and are articulate in expressions. They are classy.
Escorts - They are posh and polished. They are discrete and some of them live in posh areas. Most of them are university students that need the money to get them through school. They do not leave their apartment for anything less than maybe N30k. They will not be found by the side of the road or engage in anything in vehicles. They are very clean and are gf and wifey material.
mayDtolu: Earlier today, a stunning young lady entered the restaurant where I was eating. She sat next to me, like a regular might, and for a time, it seemed normal that she did until it didn't. She very immediately started making some feminine motions in my direction.
Her intense look cut through the vest I was wearing. She was approachable yet reserved, forward yet uneasy, and if she hadn't eventually made herself known, I might have done the same. She did anyway, but it was awkward and she stumbled over her words in the most innocent way possible, despite the fact that I really liked it.
In actuality, that marks the conclusion of this thread. She lost her temper in the nicest manner, and I think it's normal considering that women rarely approach guys while striking up a good convo. She eventually typed them on her phone for me to see, letting me know what she was trying to say. "Could I please have your phone number, sir?" It reads.
I'm still perplexed as to how she was unable to utter such words, but as I already stated, women initiating convos are not valued in this side of the world. Even better than I had anticipated, our chat continued for a while. And by the end of the day, she and I both had gorgeous smiles with mine reflecting, "I am in command." I find her admirable as I reflect on this.
To be able to think like she did, she had to put in a lot of effort. And I believe it is imperative that I leverage it preach to the ladies on here. We are past the point where it is a man's obligation to strike up and fit a conversation. Now, it's a two-way street. It takes the commitment of both parties to create a relationship that will last. In reality, most men aren't eager to click with women who rely entirely on them.
Wow ! Wow ! Wow ! You write very well Sir ! Paragraphs, Commas , Spacing . I really enjoyed it. I was able to visualize the setting.
By you saying " How Nigerian Girl approached you " means you are either Caucasian , African American or mixed heritage. It is not uncommon for ladies to make the first move, it's just rare in that part of the world. It will take another generation for it to be more common due to culture.
drlateef: What nonsense is this? I have travelled from abroad, went Abuja by flight and took Abuja-Kaduna trains several times within one week. I won’t tell you what I went to do. Your guess is as good as mine. Yes people warned me, but all warnings went to deaf ears.
Bro that is you ! I do not think you can simply disregard his fears because you are single and were fortunate. He has phobia of being kidnapped.
freshkpomo: I have this secondary school mate who we still write to each other frequently after around 2 decades of leaving secondary school and he wrote to me about his current challenge which I just opened but so not really know what to say to him at this junction. There is this girl he loves so Much and wants to get married to, but the family lives mainly in Abuja and Kaduna (though they are all Edo people too just like my friend). The problem now is the kidnapping in those roads have made them to keep shifting the introduction date so that they can then make plans for marriage.
This girl according to him have been in Benin since she graduated from school where he met her and she has been an integrals part of his currently booming business. Now the problem here is that the Father wants him to wed the daughter or she should return back and stop wasting her time because he does not want her to end up in Shiloh after been used by ine man, then his own family on the other hand including the girl as well feels yhe journey is not safe and are scared of getting kidnapped.
Just yesterday when they finally agreed, he sent me a screenshot of the link to the lady kidnapped in Abuja with her family that was killed after Ransom. This link was sent to him by more than one family member and they may start discouraging him to leave this girl and get a girl close by because they can't afford to pay Ransom or get killed by Fulani people as they called them. One who they are age mates even jokingly told him that what if Fulani guys kidnap your wife to be and use their uncircumcised deek to rape her while going to rape her, won't that be worse than you waiting till maybe you can afford a plane for everyone.
The reason why i brought this here is because this dude seems worried because even without me writing back, he keeps typing like a robot and it also hurt him that they can't havw children yet because of this delay and all his friends are already with children, some are already grown. This money again I got a funny message from him lol that they will wait, if obi wins to see if things will change
Mynd44, lalasticlala
This is easy: Here are your choices 1. Pay for armed security transport to Kaduna and back 2. Have them perform whatever rites in your absence. 3. Leave the girl. Kidnapping scares the sh$t out of me and its no joke. 4. Fly to Kaduna and Back
ogwumgbe: Bleep off queer, I don't discuss with incest infested psychopaths,
Miss me LadyBoy ! Still can't get a hardon looking at the missus breasts. Pathetic excuse for a living breathing being. Taking up and using oxygen meant for the rest of us.
Why would prosecutors go for 1 count murder for crying out loud??
1. There were no discussions to kill the woman. 2. They had not known her previously 3. There was no intent 4. She was waved down and she didn’t stop. 5. This is manslaughter at most not murder ? 6. Stop sensationalizing the case and change the charge to what will stick !!! 7. It was an accidental discharge
Hizzojay: I knew it will come to this. I was equaling discussing with someone, sometime back, about this scenario of this man pleading “not guilty”. And of cos, he is not guilty of “murder”.
The State Attorney is very stupid for charging him with only one charge; “murder”. Which obviously the accuse will win this case against him. “Murder” wasn’t the best charge that would have been charged against him, but, “Manslaughter”.
“Murder” are always argued to have been premeditated before it was actualized. The prosecution won’t be able to prove beyond reasonable doubt that the accuse planned the crime before he actioned it out on the poor lady.
Nigerian judiciary are just some useless sets of idiots. His lawyer obviously saw the loophole and requested he pleaded “not guilty” cos he knew he’ll be able to defend him.
The preferred allegations would have been “1st degree, 2nd degree and perhaps 3rd degree Manslaughter”. This, he wouldn’t have been able to plead “not guilty” to.
Exactly ! And this is 3rd degree Manslaughter not Murder. Why Prosecutor is charging with Murder , koyemi ?
brendan007: Can a lawyer please tell me the rationale behind pleading NOT GUILTY to a crime one actually committed, only to plead GUILTY later?
To me the Issue is Murder. Murder implies it was premediated, deliberate, orchestrated. Manslaughter would have stuck. You killed someone unknowingly without intend to cause harm. That would have been 3 counts for 3 people as I heard that she had twins. Plus the fact that there were people there, so they could have charged him with 7 other counts of endearing people for illegally discharging his firearms.
So why Government lawyers would hang everything one 1 count is weird.
So the dude didn't intend on killing - so its NOT GUILTY. The guy has 30+ years with no disciplinary action on file. It will be hard to stick murder . Then government would have to prove that a fetus is a child or living being. At what age is fetus considered a boy or girl. 1,2 or 3rd trimester. But why 1 count is very strange.
He plead guilty if the prosecutor isn't sure its a slam dunk or for a lesser punishment.
AntiTerrorist: Peter Obi, presidential candidate of the Labour Party for the 2023 election on Monday said Nigerians have nothing to worry about if his party is not the majority in the 10th National Assembly.
POLITICS NIGERIA reports that speaking at the Chatham House, Obi, a former governor of Anambra State promised to “do the right things” if he is elected president in next month’s election. “I have been through this as a governor. As long as you are pursuing what is right, everybody will go with you.
“It becomes a problem when you are pursuing transactional policies, which will benefit you, or you are engaging in nepotism, but when you adhere to the constitution, which has already stipulated that the system will include diversity, you would carry everybody along, and there would not be a problem,” Obi said.
I am sorry dude - American democracy doesn't work that way neither does the british. Democrats - Liberal and Big Government. Reps - Conservative and Small Government. You need Independents that are in the middle.
They do not care about states. Other states did not send the representatives to Abuja . They will only care about what concerns their people. What you need to do is position yourself with a party which closely aligns with your policies - In this case PDP.
If you ever become President align yourself with PDP. or else you'll be frustrated and be the first one term president. Corruption and nepotism is steeped in the country. You cannot do it alone.
ComeToJesus: They are afraid that Meffy has constricted the flow of cash meant for votes buying for the unfit wannabe president.
Sagay was crying blue murder already that APC will lose the polls.
Their next target na INEC man.
This is the only thing that makes sense . The deadline to prohibit the old Notes is too short. The campaign to sanitize people is almost non existence.
Obidient4life3: That will not stop the old Nigeria note from being taken out of circulation come Jan 31th.
It will or what is the purpose of all this wahala. I mean when the president submits names for positions don’t they get vetted ? Why would someone a sitting CBN governor for that matter get involved with sponsoring terrorism ?
ogwumgbe: Mother raper get off my mention, I don't need your opinion, you have raped your mother to death, your sisters are next in line, psychopath, region where daughter bleeps father and son bleeps mother, cursed immoral idiots. Bleep you queer
Hey Lady boy . You deranged ape . Only you would be turned on by their mum breasts.I am sure you still bed wet thinking about what you saw years ago. I’d say you were disgusting but that would a disgrace to ape.
ogwumgbe: Bleep off, I have no time for low life like you, YOu will pay for you drugging and raping your mother to death you idiot
Ladyboy, Truth is, I have your time , so I will be your nightmare. You asked for answer and I responded and you decided to go low, Ill go lower instead. I am sure that's what happened.. You saw your mum's boobs or even your sisters and that imagery is what you see all the time when you see a woman's tits. Solution, gorge your eyes out .. one at a time.
Lostchild: I have a neighbor, a very nice woman who love the word of God. She is very peaceful, humble and meek in nature. She get super excited each time she sees me and often brought gift to me. I know why she get excited which is very Godly and good.
Day 1 The first time she saw and met me in person, she was very much afraid of me and wonder where I came from. She knew I am not from the land. When I tried to talk to her, she instantly refused and reject me not to talk to her. She was very fearful. She is a woman that avoid trouble and hardly trust people.
Day 7 I brought some fruits to her. She took them from me but I found out she later threw them away. I knew she was afraid to eat from the unknown stranger.
Day 9 She apologize over her first snubby reaction about the first day when I tried to talk to her. I accepted her apology.
Day 11 She brought to me some fruit too. I accepted them and ate them lmmediately I had the chance.
Week 2 She has asked me. Did you go to church today?
I replied her, no.
Why, she asked?
Me told her, I don't go to church. I know what to do and I know where I belong. She became afraid of me more which I understood.
When I scan her person, I saw she was harmless and good woman. She was a person of peace and harmony. I then start treating her with agape love as natural to me.
I knew in my heart, she will instantly submit to love. For love seek not the upper hand, but the lowest place of service.
In time being, she began to observe my speech, behavior and way of life. She saw I was an immaterial person. She became more confortable with me and told me she is happy I move here to join her.
One Day She asked me, why don't you wanna go to church?
I told her, everyone has their God, and my personal relationship is between me and my own God.
She agreed, but insist I should forsake not the gathering of thy brethren.
I quote the scripture (Isaiah 57:15) when God said. I am the high and Holy God, who live in a high and holy place, but I also live with those who are humble and contrite in spirit, so that I can restore their confidence and hope.
She agreed and let me be.
The more she experience love from me, the more she submit and was full of happiness. She then told me I have the qualities the church need and asked me to join their church.
I told her, I can't join any Nigeria church for now.
Why, she asked?
You will also not understand my journey I blurted, but someday, you will.
Why can't you go to church to listen to the word of God, she re-asked me?
I told her, these Nigeria pastors are fake. They all selfish materialistic men. They don't understand the deeper ways of God, nor do they practice what they preach.
She was sadden over my words but nodded her head in affirmation, and told me, not all pastors are fake.
I told her, Ok. But I see them as business men who love to do what they enjoy doing.
Every Week I do tell her sob stories of what happened to others, and always end it with virtuous message. She likes and enjoy my short gist
She then told me, you know a lot ot things about spirituality, yet you don't go to church.
Months Later She fully submit to love and we became good friends. She start sharing some of her personal life info unto me, including...
She will always give me gift and money without me asking her. Paying my bills, self including food and wanting me to feel comfortable in her house. All these are the consequences of my actions. I, myself can never reject the consequences of love. She is a person that is humble, so seeing her own kind always filled her with excitement.
She believes I have the character which God need. She tried to heavily pet me to be going to church.
I told her, God has remove me from Christiandom. I can never go back to my vormit. She was like, what Christiandom?
I lauuuugh and told her, you will not understand.
Everytime we see, she will always gives me a Godly smiles. She said, since I move here, she has never seen me go to church. I always stay at home on sundays. She wants me to embrace and accept God by going to church.
She said if I start going to church, things will turn around for me and financial breakthrough will come.
I sternly take a look at my good friend and smiled.
I have seen more wickedness in this country than you can now imagine. She told me I should not look at the wickedness of men. I should accept Jesus and be going to church.
I told her, I don't belong to Christiandom. But until this so called Nigeria pastors start preaching love and start practicing that same love they preach, I will not listen or see them as men of God.
THE MESSAGE
I recently walk up to her. I asked her, do you know that there are more church in Nigeria than anywhere in the world?
Yes, she nodded.
Nigerians have more religious centers and practice more Christian spirituality than anywhere in the world. They go to church always. They pray a lot. They sow seed and pay tithe to pastors always and believe in God more than the white men. But their ways and daily life is more closer to that of the devil than of God.
Take a look at the white men. They are not that religious like we Nigerians. They don't practice spirituality like the average African black man. But their ways of virtue and disciplinary lifestyle is more purer and closer to God than that of the black men
The scriptures (Mathew 5:8] clearly says; Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
Easy Peasy, I had two such people in my life. I told the first one simply, she is very pretty and I would like to sleep with her. And that if she would agree , I would start coming to church. She left me alone tout suite.
The other called my bluff but said I have to attend church first. So I came with ear plugs and had a hoodie on and sat at the back. After, I asked her to fulfill her side of the deal, she started dragging her feet, so I told her its either she stop the harassment evangelism and stop talking to me. She stopped talking to me about religion.
Anyone who is forced to accept Christ IMO and doesnt come on his own volition wont value it and is just for show.
ogwumgbe: Idiot, your peeped her while she was undressing, saw her nipples that make you crazy, drugged her and bleeped her until she died, idiot common get out, region known for incest, father fucking daughter, you think everyone is sexually useless like you trannie pig
Ladyboy, why are you angry. The truth must hurt that you saw your mum tits and therefore you are no longer attracted to boobs. Do the world a favour and choke on my d$ck.
ogwumgbe: PIty for the old woman for giving birth to a trannie, next time she should ask questions and abort potential psychopath before being saddened with sorrow all the days of her life, Bleep off you trannie ass fucker
Ladyboy, your pity is worthless. Stop deceiving yourself and grow some proper balls will ya !
Preciousgirl: I am highly convinced that my boss is interested in me I can't imagine that my boss left his office yesterday to my office and sat before me. He was jittery all through his convo with me and it wasn't work related. He told me he has a surprise gift for me
Is this also not a clear sign? Also, as a married woman, can I accept his gift?
Thank u
1. Usually a boss when giving any unattached gift would send an intermedia. By coming himself means he’s attached personal interest .
2. You said surprise gift - wetin you both discussed that would make him get you not only a gift but a surprise one.
3. Most times a woman’s intuition is right -
In Summary - tell him that you cannot accept the gift. You appreciate the effort and thought that went into it but you are married it will be misconstrued as an acceptance of an affair.
P.S full disclosure if my female boss gets me a gift , I’ll keep it .
I think we should start a segment - true or false to determine the veracity of such stories.
Personally I believe it’s true. 1. We used to travel home during festive period. 2. It’s almost impossible to determine where everyone would be either in with friends or out visiting friends. 3. My parents would certainly have barged in and given us a lecture with us half naked or naked. ( I posted a similar story where my mom caught me in a similar compromised situation from which I decided henceforth “ no more home games for me “
To answer your question - not under his roof do you get freedom for such privacy.
ogwumgbe: I always hear folks making noise about different shapes of women's boobs, flat, pointed, etc but women's breasts have never for once turned me on at all, I am rather charged instantly when a woman sits and flashes a little bit, is it a medical problem? Please I need good counsels here
Sorry bro You are gay . Just pointing out the obvious z
Romance › Re: How Long Should A Lady Stay In A Relationship Before Asking For Money? by rickleye: 9:58pm On Jan 17, 2023
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