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Kelvin1019:
100k divided by 30 days average day per month is 3k plus 10k surplus
So u need to manage 3k per day
If transportation to work is free which is workable and expected for low salary of such
Feed 1200 each day
Rent is 300 per day for rent of approximately 9k per month
If little transport is involved say 500 per day
Domestic, medications and daily running 500
Total is 2500 u can save 500 per day plus initial 10k from the original money.

Warning... Avoid family problem, numerous ladies, habits that consume money and police case.

Am OBEDIENT to plans

People don’t understand! Budget is key to success. Don’t spend what you don’t have especially in this economy where we get paid every 30 days.

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

Dude we are In the 21st century. Before I tango and cash with my S.O. She told me how much she makes, I told her how much I make and how much I contribute to the household.
Anyone who wants to have a homemaker as a wife does so at their own peril.
Budget is the key.#100,000 is a start a foundation - why must I spend so much money on wedding when I can go to the court house and sign a document. In your 10years together and saving you can have a lavish wedding and talk about your humble beginnings.

Unless this is a false ad.
Your looking for love advice in the wrong place.
You don’t want to have sex before marriage that’s admirable. Yet your finding it hard to find a caste woman.
You can find a bunch of godly single women in every parish of the RCCG. There’s literally one at every junction.
Invest in the relationship- you ll find your wife.

CheapHomes1:
Mendy is 28years old. Pls multiply that by 365days. If my maths is correct, it will give you 10,220 days.

What this lady is saying is that Mendy had been having sex since the day he was born

You can have group sex , groupies , sex 3ce daily .

CheapHomes1:
How does having sex with 10,000 women make Mendy guilty of rape? How is this information relevant to the rape case?

It’s shows he’s boasting about his prowess. Like women are a toy to him. That he has no control . Sees women as objects as collections to use and dump as he pleases. He does not hold them in any regards .

Mrshape:
I show this comments to him he no agree o, he say una way day Nigeria na him day tell am all this one say he friend way day USA done clear am the code, he no need 95% of the things you list up there.

Ok 250K bet day on ground na make you win the bet, he say he no get time for that one.

Lol una do well abeg this guy be just wan mess on my intelligence one come day make me get more regret why I still day this country.

Then to everyone he's own.
I've worked and lived there so I know.
As long as his way is legit and not cheating the tax man - My offer still stands.

zed7:
Why bother? Most people are delusional. That's why they take to crime so much after relocating, they realise that life isn't what they expected, they start looking for short cuts.

Exactly ! If it were that easy as he claimed to be people wont be busting their asses to make ends meet. People have 2/3jobs. Some get paid under the table so the tax man doesn't get them. How can expenses be 8k annually ? LMAO..

Mrshape:
Please I really need this information if an average worker in the US earn around 75K dollars annually, a man said his expenses yearly will be around 8k,
Please those in the Western countries I need first hand information, please I never go before. I am just trying to rationalize it,
Please your input is appreciated,
And lastly I tried Google the expenses the man said I should not depend on Google that Nigerians abroad have a way they do it.

So gross is 75k
Net is about 45-50k . Let’s say 50k after taxes
Divide by 26
About $2000 every 2 weeks
Rent =
Or Mortgage payment=
If mortgage payment then property tax =
RRSP=
Feeding=
Clothes=
Vehicle payment =
Insurance for vehicle
Misc = car maintenance, gas or bus pass, restaurant expenses.
Bills = Internet , TV , mobile phone , electricity, water bill.
Are kids involved ?
Family insurance =
Kids daycare bill =
Kids clothes =
Vacation = ?

Plus when you file income tax- the tax man could still garnish you for not saving or giving money to charity .

100m is about 150,000US you can’t save that in your life time without some form of investment plan . Like permanent policy. In 3 years never.
If anyone claims otherwise I’ll wager N250,000 to show me proof.

Baronthecelebri:
My guy focus on making money, and leave sex. Why will Nigeria progress when men like you is thinking about sex, instead of thinking how to invent things. Leave woman.

You don’t need money to have sex - see God has blessed us all differently.
1. Mine growing up was the gift of tongues- I could sing , talk , dance till I swoon the lady. I can’t tell you how many ladies would ask for sex and I’ll say I am tired. Those girls would get money from the group below to give people like me.
2. There are others who were rich and arrogant. They got the lady simply because they smelt rich . Had a fat wallet and a vehicle.
3. Group poor and could do double time on the lady. They had no money but once they could handle a woman. These group also were paid by the second group.

It just depends on what type of lady your dealing with.

daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

Okay my 2 cents - this won’t be popular but ….

Well before you decide on what to do- you better take advice from someone who has walked in your shoes.
There are many men who have cheated on their spouses . Their wives know or may have a hint but the husband will never confess. If the wife brings it up - they may admit it.

Let your husband open his mouth and ask you. For the fact that he hasn’t and has had sexual intercourse with you over the past 10 years means either :-
1. He’s cheated/ cheating and believes you both are on level playing field.
2. He knows nothing but your guilt is betraying you.
3. He knows and has forgiven you already.

The option 3 man does not exist.
There is no way a man will not bring such an issue up. We are not wired that way.

So my advice and what I do to rid my conscience of guilt. Is bend over backwards for things I would not do for a certain period. In short I’ll try and balance the scales.
So for instance let’s say cheating on my spouse counts as 100 Naira.
I might clean and mop the whole house ( 20 Naira ) - something I detest doing .
I might take the kids to school for the whole week ( her role) 20 naira
I might take her out to a fancy restaurant ( my treat) 20 naira.
Etc to etc till I balance the scales.

You cannot take a chance he will forgive you if you tell him. That’s for the tv and books . Confess to God and live your life . ( it was a one time thing)

The truth is you don’t ask a girl for sex.

You set the mood first and the rest will follow.

1. You set the table with 2 chairs.
2. A bottle of wine or two
3. A jar of cold water
4. candlelight
5 some nice R &B music
6. Some little flirtation .

Must:
A pack of condoms
Clean sheets


Backup :- . A romantic movie just Incase the food was heavy , you want to relax on the couch get cozy and steal some kisses and some boobs squeeze and then …..

Praxis758:
If true, the DSS operatives involved in the distasteful act should be jailed

And the girls might have conceived before the arrests

Or this is a propaganda to malign the image of the DSS.

Truth is always a casualty in incidences like this. Time will reveal the truth.

common dude !

[quote author=sleek82 post=115865747]or doing what I'm thinking [/quote

Lol .. dude you're on your own mate !

Jennifer663:
Corruption everywhere..
More especially... youths of nowadays.

Its a trickle down effect.
Stop from Corruption from politicians and people in power and youth will take notice.

IJEYdiamond:
I see.... hmmmmm.. maintenance shaa ooo..

Him follow sha spoil Nigeria... but worst of all is Buhari..... Na only God know the achievements.... that man go get for history books.... All only God!!

51 . Killed Dele Giwa
52. Annulled Abiola election

osazsky:
he wont get hiv but there are deadlier disease he may contact

Deadlier than HIV .... hmm maybe .

sleek82:
how would you know is the big question...cockpit is always locked

Pilots occasionally doze off / nod off or read a magazine. Its not that there are traffic lights . It would be rare for female pilots as they would be gossiping talking all through the flight.

Wow, this is an easy fixed.
Have the stewardess do a 30 min check-in or have the pilots press a button every 30min to alert the crew that they are awake.

On a lighter note. The noise the autopilot would have been making would have been crazy ..... wowowowowowowowowowobeeepbeeepbeeepringringrorngringring... -------------- would have woken up.

splendyuniQ:
Did you say she lubricated your penis with her spit? And you were laying down screaming "baby don't kill me naa". Wait for the symptoms to appear first naa before disturbing Nairaland

There is nothing to be done - so either go and do a HIV test and have peace of mind or wait for symptoms to appear and run yourself man

NeedHelpNow:
I had a meeting with a hooker and she spit on my penis twice touching it with her hands as per lubrication,

Do I stand the chance of getting hiv? Never had penetrative sex with her neither did she put her mouth on my penis. Opinions needed cause am soo scared.

So you got a BJ and are scared. Always walk with a Condom in your wallet dude.

Channah1:
I'm not a fan of the conventional fried rice because it's not always spicy. So I made mine with a little tweak to please my tastebud.

Pics1 ingredients

Pics 2
Steamed chicken with seasoning cubes, thyme, garlic onions and fresh pepper with little water. Then allowed to simmer very well before adding more water to cook and form broth.

I parboiled the rice and set aside.
I fried the chicken and after it's dried, I added onions, curry powder and fresh pepper to sauce and pepper the chicken. Then I took it out and poured the chicken broth into oil. Covered and let it boil very well.

Pics 4
Add washed rice to boiling stock and covered to done. That's the base for my fried rice.

Zonefree allow me post the method finish before you jump in to condemn.

Y'all minds have been conditioned to only see faults and condemn.

You just keep tormenting me its not fair. Do u have a you tube page I can follow for step by step instructions ?

Jennyclay:
Go to the trenches where you belong and eat your desired amount of food that would lock your stomach!

Living large can't be for everyone!! So please stop complaining for just 2k food.

I ate a small quantity of rice & beef yesterday for 7k at a nice restaurant here in ajah. I didn't complain.

You Broke men should stop embarrassing yourselves!! Enter a low budget canteen and eat to your satisfaction with ₦150 and stop ranting please!!

Ouch ! The guy offend you ?

yemite100:
I want you to advise me on what to do, I'm finding it hard to ask this girl for sex, she has been with me for the past three days now, we sleep together on the same bed but I'm always scared to touch her in the night, even as i type this message she is beside me watching Korean fil
It's really giving me sleepless night, I don't know how to ask her for sex I cant even touch her body..
I need your advice guys..

SEND HER A TEXT MESSAGE !

thesicilian:
My mom is the only person I can trust to do this kind of thing for me when I travel out

For me it would have been my pops - my mum would spend it on the Lord's business.

Hmm my 2cents
- the main issue here from my POV is the lack of respect you sense he feels towards you. The food is secondary issue.
And because you don’t feel loved ( flowers , verbal support, holding hands, male chivalry) you are not bulging on the issue of food.
There is a communication gap. I am not sure if you both are Gen X or Millennial age range.

Personally, as a Millennial I could never tell my S.O that she’s only good for se.x and food. ( except jokingly but nah - I wouldn’t want my future daughter seen in that light , so I would never alter them even as a joke ) That’s just raw and is an old mentality ( like baby boomer , people born 1946-1960)

What do you do -
1. Fix the food issue - if the man doesn’t want beans or whatever. There are 2 options - let him cook his own damn food !! Or you make the adjustment. The latter is easier to do in order to maintain peace in the house.
2. Work on communication and educating your husband on roles & responsibilities of a career woman and wife. You have to sit him down and somewhat bring this topic up so his thinking is renewed .

Goodluck

apache22b:
Obidient's urchins will continue to wail till eternity. In Obasanjo's inner mind and with the smiles on his face, he knows Bola Ahmed Tinubu will be the Best Thing to happen to Nigeria .

Falseprophet1 thank you for your prophecy is coming to pass . We all shall enjoy Tinubu's government.

Obidient's should bury their heads in shame .

Welcome onboard Tinubu our incoming President

Tinubu all the way 2023

Lets have a debate on nairaland between supporters for Bat and Peter Obi.

There's nothing to this - A candle melted in the middle.

He must have flown past the Ogun State Side of the Lagos-Abeokuta ExpressWay. What a terrible Terrible nightmare of a road.

Mine was to be a porn star.
But now I just watch porn .

TheSourcerer:
Police college Lagos 1972
Dominique
Lordreed
budaatum
Hopeful landlord
Peacefull
CAPSLOCKED
Starbuck
Sinkhole
Puvo
NoQualmz
Dyt

Those guys would be rolling in their graves knowing what the NPF has become.

Idiot with a phone.
You better give yourself up and perform community service to the police community.