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tosik:
op abeg why can't girls date without asking money....just curious to know ni??

There are girls that actually date without asking for money. Change the circle you roll with.

There are such men out there. I've known some. The big BUT is that they could secretly be cheating with someone else behind your back (not necessarily all would be like this, mind you...I always give benefits of doubt), especially the ones that see sex as snacks and if the relationship is long-term. But outside that, they'd do right by you and may really give up their wild ways, when it's time to wife you. So on your part, best be prepared mentally, 'cos you could be bound to notice certain shadiness and may need to start mastering the art of turning a blind eye.

Again, don't expect such a man to just let you be. He will keep asking and trying to get you to change your mind, touch you even, but that shouldn't warrant a breakup, unless you suspect he might use force somewhere down the line.

Incidentally, that kind of man may as well be the man you are with, right NOW.

There are only so many hair-plaiting men that have decent jobs in Nigeria. If you are not in entertainment or own your business, or do some other unskilled work, then you are generally perceived as unserious. Some will even still be wary of an unskilled laborer, with a mane of hair.

Now that you say you are broke, don't you have plans to land some job, anywhere in the near future? Establish your priorities.

Hmnnn...

pocohantas:


If you are staying with people, the least you can do is be useful.

Isn’t this the same reason some women prefer their family visiting, over their husband’s own? So why can’t the little girl fetch the damn water! She no dey fetch water for her papa house? She should fetch it without being told if she was properly raised. It is a daily routine like any other.

There are little things that wins the heart of your host. When next you are coming, they will look forward to having you.

Well, it's easy to stay on our little soap boxes and charge others to behave in a certain way we say is ideal. The conditions of the people you help must not be servile, to qualify them as having proper upbringing, sweets. Or aren't such the sad tales, most newbies in The Abroad tell? The story might be doctored, but not so much as to make us unsee that she wanted to cook. So why aren't people acknowledging that, at least?

NevetsIbot:
Here I am, disappointed in this comment and the fact that it came from you........... You call someone’s that has been staying with someone since January a guest?

She doesn’t fetch water in her own fathers house??

Well, what if she doesn't? She was going to cook. Have the decency to admit that that is no easy chore in itself. Cooking is a social construct and not hardwired to women's gene, so y'all better stop thinking it's a non issue. Unless clearly defined from the get-go, every help you render shouldn't involve a quid pro quo, anyways.

And you're disappointed in me? Awwww

donvoice:
You said a host not a slave. Does that mean if you visit someone, you can't help them out with anything?

Women and their shallow thinking

Why do some of you even quote people, when it's almost as though your brains can't process written words? How does what you said now, correlate with what I wrote?

But she clearly told you that she couldn't cook due to unavailability of water. You are the host and very likely the one with the muscles. I don't see how fetching water for your guest to prep your meal is a big deal. Unless, you want her to pay for the roof over her head, by doing all the house chores, I'm certainly not understanding what really prompted this fight.
There's probably more that you are not telling.

You may take advantage of the nairaland search feature.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, I have been hearing this one name all over Instagram and often on anorak and about this girl named ‘Erica Nlewedim’. Please who is she and what’s the hype around her?

Is she locally known or something?[/color]

You'd be amazed by how much, Google can reveal..

b0rn2fuck:
Funny truth, as if he wife isn't the owner of the home except when divorce, if you own 2 or more cars, you don't even need to give your wife any except she can't drive,na she go select the best car for herself if you want peace

Lol. You know what you are yarning.

What a shame.

bigpicture001:
All this your English will lead you to premature death in marriage, u think men who stab their wives to death do it intentionally..? It usually comes from anger resulting from talking back to hubby when during quarrel, especially when you realized he is visibly very angry..

Babe continue.. We all know how it ends...

And you would know because you are a serial killer of women who talk back at you.
As your expertise is championing barbarism, you must also know how you will end up; wasted.... as do lots of barbarians who must go on to spread like fools on the bed, shutting both eyes to the reality of their oppressed women, also knowing how to wield a knife.

What other qualities have you managed to catch in pictures? Share, let's discuss.

You are poor in your choice of a woman. If you are going to be archaic and egotistical like that, at least look for a deaf mute to be with, that would keep looking impassively at you, whenever you become manic and feel like conversing with yourself. Say, someone who is close to being brain dead, that would probably only ask how high, each time you ask her to jump. Why bother with a completely formed human whose self esteem, is of no value to you?

And you'll ogle forward thinkers, who have blazed glamorous trails in industries.. You think all that happens by not being assertive or opinionated? Sorry for you. I hope you are getting libations on the daily, for slapping and not condoning disrespect from anybody at all in your life...?

How much are we looking at here?

The problem is that the episodes are too many. Who has that time on top Korean mata...
Anything more that 16 or if e too bad, 20 episodes, count me out.

Having sense to call your own.

PeaceIlya:
Coming soon

...until then.

Saintmary:
Yes, you should have.
As a parent, if you prove your empathy, or even pretend to be nice in school settings, it will help your child with his/her own interactions with her classmates and teachers.

Interesting point to note, with thanks.

CrazyMan:
TripleDdotcom has hit the nail on the head...so I have very little words to contribute here.

But nevertheless, I feel you should have at least sent a condolence message, it won't cost anything. Deaths isn't as regular as birthdays, weddings, dedications... etc. So when it comes in its unexpected manner the least one can do is to show that you're grieving with the family of the deceased by airing your voice.

Sometimes people just want you to be there for them in their grieving moments, they want you to stand by them, if you fail to do that, why should they maintain any kind of friendship with you?

You didn't do well.

Alright. But do you really feel that I should have done that on the online PTA? As in, prove to other people, that I am empathetic to other people?

^^There is that, yes. And I did end the start of something, maybe, with her. But then, there is the case of consciously trying to improve oneself...which is why I still came here, I guess.

@TripleDdotcom---I did console her at the time we had the conversation, since she could be bothered to call my attention to it.

Thank you, papa .

Thanks so much, people. I mean to show empathy to those who are grieving, alright. Only, I did not feel like they were part of the PTA. But as someone has tacitly suggested, it might be out of place to assume that the only people that should be truly bereaved are family members, who probably, do not have access to the online association.

My empathy as I know it, comes from a deep place and I put myself right in the "mind space" of the grieving person, so I may sense their feelings and emotions. I wasn't making that connection with the RIP posters, so showing empathy on the forum, was kind of deprived of pragmatic significance.

The Director and owner of my kids' school just passed on and pretty much everybody, who's never had an opinion to express, but has been present since the inception of the online PTA platform, swivelled into typing tributes, RIP-s and ish-s.

I for one, have never been big on even sending congratulatory messages or wishing every single parent's child that I do not know, a Happy Birthday, simply because one - People are so many, that someone celebrates a birthday, everyday. I take my wishes pretty seriously and would really like to always mean them.

- I don't necessarily feel obligated to exude niceties, on top the tuition that I pay for. I don't seek to offend but business should be business, I believe.

- I really really detest that herd mentality of do-as-I-do.

Which makes me wonder if my views are bizarre to others, when the Head Teacher accosted me to ask why I did not submit nothing to the platform, upon hearing of the man's demise...

Should I really have done differently?

So what do we call this? Returning to the closet?

Good one, Mr Bayo, but your real reason for choosing the wedding reception, can't be too far removed from the matter of the party Jollof

Urgent, indeed.

Awww. How cute...

Now that's how you convey a message, intelligly.

AsherAmari:
Op, take that girl to see a doc and be responsible for the bills because only God knows how the disvirging process went that perforated her intestine.

Make sure to go through it with her. No be only to enjoy.

Girls, please receive sense and stop giving your bodies out to be destroyed by men.

Hahaha. You're too cute. Perforated indeed.