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He should be casterated.

dasparrow: You get time for this tout my sister. Have you ever read some of his recent posts? He is a bitter uncultured individual. Engaging someone of his calibre in a conversation is like engaging an illiterate area boy in an intelligent conversation. Notice he cannot hold an intelligent respectful conversation without being downright rude and verbally abusive. This is the world wide web and hence attracts all sorts of people including emotionally unstable human beings, psycologically sick human beings, touts, illiterates and semi-illiterates and everyone in between. I choose whom to engage in a conversation with online because some folks are not worth having a conversation with either online or in person. The only people I truly feel sorry for are women stuck in Nigeria with animals in human skin like the poster. Luckily, all my female members are married to kind hearted good men from other countries and are enjoying their respective marraiges so I don't have to worry that any of them will ever run into a demented chuvinist like the ones crawling on Nairaland.

Thank you!!! Noted!!!

HMMMMMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ( short of words).

ZUBY77: Lol. Your big nyash would never allow you to be able to match up with anybody not just men. Who in his right mind will marry an imbe.cile like you.
We are not talking about beating anybody here, we are talking about paying for something... Cars, dogs, lands, women, etc.
Why is it that the only thing we cant own after payment is women? Well we have decided to add them to the list of buyables and until we remove the money payment aspect of the marriage process, you gals remain our paid items.

Zuby77 you really don't wanna go down that gutter of name calling with me, stick to your opinion, i stick to mine, if you are my hubby and you misbehave, you will be flogged, pants down. Whether you pick the woman by stealing her from the stall or being a man and pay her bride price like all respectable men do, and you think you can tongue lash her or misbehave? Boys go flog you!!!!! Gba!! be!!! (take am like that) no long thing or hard feeling.

Hello guys how have you all been doing??

Logs for monday; 44 minutes hip hop dance.nice, was already sweating during the ''warm-up''
Tuesday : 35 minutes intense cardio, i felt ripped after the workout, my waist still hurts though.

Today: don't know yet, maybe will be going for a run, the whether is beautiful, time to get kicking outside.

My meal is changing, increasing my calorien intake a bit, so i can have enough to burn. still weighed the same from last week but dropped some inches.

Big deal!!!!!!

ZUBY77: We are learning something here. Maybe we can change the course of our future. I believe if nothing like money is paid for a woman, the domestic violence could reduce to 50% or more. I came to this conclusion because there is no way people can beat or maltreat what they dont own or pay for.
And for some of you who are bragging here that even if a hundred million was paid for them, the husbands will never own them, You people should learn to understand the society you live in. You girls are always fast to embrace western cultures like 'never touch a woman, women have equal rights, blablabla' but never wants to embrace their own marriage concept. I have seen situations where boyfriend and girlfriend have many kids and never get married.
Here in Nigeria, you girls wants traditional marriage, wedding, bride price etc, just to impress your friends without even considering the man's capabilities. Then after all that, you still want to enjoy the same rights as western women. I sense greediness here.

Zuby77 that your conclusion does not hold water, my parents taught me well, and just so you know, to hold my head up high, and i don't need a man to help me turn it this way or that way. Oh!!! so you want to tell me that only married men maltreat their wives? in that same Naija, you have not seen men maltreat their girlfriends that they have not even paid bride price for? Just say you don't have the money to pay and stop drawing fake conclusions here!! I will repeat it again and again, if you marry me and pay billions and think you can maltreat me because of that, i will get guys( since i cannot match up with you strength wise), they will lash you buttocks on that same matrimonial bed and i will attend to your wounds later on!...don't even think it and serve you food that you must eat by force and fire.

The caring capability of the person in question,
Attitudes (humble or arrogant), selfish or selfless
Habits (remember somethings you can't change)
Religious background( muslim or christian, defintely not an Atheist)
Family ( what is his family background like?)
Culture (important!!! don't overlook anything!!! they might come back to be a stumbling block)
Temperament ( hot tempered? easily flares up at every little thing?, if it yes, then run!!!!!!!!).
Social life (you don't wnat someone that eats and sleeps in clubs)
decency. (there are decent men out there)
And i also hope you have the desired character too?

agiboma: That is not the issue, we are talking about a human being here and no one belongs to another, not even our children belong to us they are individuals. No one can own another person its just wrong, so no i dont belong to any man and will never be the property of any one.

My dear, a couple should belong to eachother, the ''owning'' they are talking about, the figurative part is that, the supposed ''bride price payers'',(some men in this case) think they can misbehave in a marraige and the woman should not have a say because they have paid a ''bride price''.

free2ryhme: it means you are owned shekeniah

Even if my hubby pays 3million even 100million to my people HE DOES NOT OWN ME!!!! if he cannot take it, He should go and collect his money from my village, Any unnecessary straanger and mouthing, people will treat his Bleep-up!!!, i am not a woman to sit in a home and be receiving blows from a man, if you cannot respect me, my views, my person, because you paid one ye-ye bride price, my dear that man go take. and that is not a blunder.

free2ryhme: They collect something no matter how small they sha collect sometin.. what if nothing was collected and taken how would you feel? no lie ooo .. why you yorubas ue the comment olowo ori mi? Paying your dowry makes you proud.. Mdm stand one side abeg

you are making a point and crucifying yourself too. , if you are in support of the collection then we are on the same page.

The guy should ''ask'' if the lady wants to be his wife, only because, it is not every relationship that ends up in a marraige.Or better stil, if the lady is expecting the man to ask and he is not making any move, she should better ask him, where they are both heading.

I can't even read the yoruba....too bad, why did i drop, Language in school?

debrief08: I agree reaching out to everyone is too ambitious and inpractical, I was responding to what I would do if i saw these kids doing this instead of taking pictures and posting. Anywaylet us reach as to as many as we come accross, even if it is just one who listens God will thank us for that single life saved. Even as Humans whom God created he begs us everyday to shun sin and only few listens yet He is never tired.
Let us not be weary in doing good and the right thing

Right!!!!!, if it was me, i would just get hold of a broom and sweep them out from under that table and scream so that the whole world will know what i had seen and come out to help me ooooo, i will do typical yoruba woman scenerio there.

free2ryhme: my question is if the woman is free say it from they very minute not collect somtin and return

They ''collected and returned'' that same day, BIG DEAL!!!!!

debrief08: Hence the need to educate them and stop them from knowing it the hard way. The best thing to do in this scenerio is to teach them so they dont find out the hard way. "Too bad for them", we all live in the same society and are affected by each others actions, one way or the other if we dont teach "them" them will fnd a way of affecting us. Instead of taking this sick picture best case would have been to stop them and talk with them. I will get no happiness or satisfaction becuase someone cantracted HIV, one way or the other it affects us all

You are right, but practically speaking?? Nope, how many young girls can you reach out to? even their parents need more of that adult education than the kids. It is sad, but that is just the way it is, some will listen, some will not, Majority of the problems are with the parents, with a better understanding on how to raise a ''female child'' especially, the better.

doofanc: this is what we should be advocating. Even if the money is indeed paid just for the sake of the ceremony, i would expect any woman who values her worth to return it then and there.

The woman is not given the money, her family (at large and not just the immediate family) is in control of the money. My wedding list came from the chief in my fathers clan (or whatever) it did not come from my parents.

free2ryhme: @Kingmax, what tribe r u from? Dont get me wrong. Soemthing was collected and returned right? y do u have to collect something if you know you will return it eventually?

CULTURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, Somethings have to be done, and the husbands understand during the return that they are not collecting the bride price from them/him, because they have every right to take their daughters back from the men, if the women/wives are being maltreated.

KINGwax: guy, one ronkë in this thread already told u her parents returned the bride price and in my family too, we will collect it right in front of everyone and return it to you in from of them since they aint selling her to your, there're giving her to you. Most yoruba families do this. Do your research

it is usually returned infront of family members, infact, the chief in my family did the returning to my hubby not my dad.

Zuby77, Have you ever heard of culture?? this is the culture here in Nigeria and most African countries, whether you pay cash or buy goats, cows and other things, it is not that you are buying or paying for the wife you want to marry.

It all boils down to appreciation, the men or family of the man, appreciates the woman and her family. If a man decides to pay 250,000 naira or so, to his wife's family and think because he has paid therefore he owns her, he is mistaken, he should better go and collect his money back... because (read my fingers, since you cannot see my lips) HE DOES NOT OWN HER, in anyway, but the man and the woman Belong to eachother ( they are properties of eachother), how many of the items that he buys and gives to the family of the girl that the lady brings to her matrimonial home?

Debrief, i know one thing for sure, it is either they know the consequences the hard way (contacting HIV or getting pregnant or other diseases) or ( there is no other way) in a case like this, it will always be the hard way, too bad for them.

Thank God my hubby did not pay bride-price, he did but was given back that same night, so technically he does not own me, but we belong to eachother.

[quote author=Miss_Ife]Gosh, I wouldn't trust my husband with that kind of cleaning.I'm sure he'd just go and buy a new TV.. a BIGGER one [/quote]if buying a bigger T.V will help in the cleaning, my legs are already crossed on the sofa, .

[quote author=baby.me]I'm sure y'all will spank them before any cleaning. Why are y'all behaving as if a little spanking kills? Oh well [/quote]My dear, if it was like a 10 year old and 12 year old kid, we will all wear the same trouser that day. But please help me look at those munchkins, which part will i spank i will just give them time outs.....and rest, i no fit shout. Infact these days, nothing bugs me oooo, that is the 2012 Ronkebp. See them, posing for picture!! they are so cute!!!

2buff: My eyes would twitch for a little while.
If to say none of them ate the paint, then I will walk away, come back with cleaning equipment.
They will be the ones to do the cleaning, especially that big one.

@ronke, you don't want to go and sleep while the paint dries, especially not on that TV. You can atleast cover the floor with a rug.

Oh really!!!! that is going to be my husband's job for that day.

feminine A: There's no need to be afraid iya baby. Your son. Is trying to be economical with your money so no big deal allow him. Most mum will do anything for their baby to stop feeding on all this processed food. The only thing which I see as a liTtle issue is to ensure he eats balanced meal.if its amala make ewedu add iru with little stew. He loves fish which is good stock your house with it and make sure he has enough.you can also introduce him to soft beans,yam, fried egg,ogi,akara, moi moi and the likes. I hope he likes fruits too even if its only oranges?

Infact just to add your list, he needs milk too, for his bones, i guess he will get the vitamin from the fish, he still needs milk.

I think he is teething, and he lacks apetite, do you nurse him or are you still nursing him?

[quote author=Miss_Ife]It actually looks like the little one drank some, doesn't it look like paint on his lips?

I would certainly not let such young kids alone with paint, but if it was to happen for one reason or another, I'll clean and wash as it has to be done. I think the mistake is more on the parents side than the kids. Paint (as well as any other chemical/dangerous stuff) should not be stored in any place accessible to children.[/quote]I actually did not think about the health part, i hope they did not taste the paint?, (on a second thought) i would be rushing both of them to the hospital first, incase of poison,( if the kids are well and ok) come back home, take a nap and deal with the remaining situation after am well- rested.

OMG!!!!!!i would just leave them first, go upstairs and take a nap, will deal with the situation after i am well- rested.

chima12: there is some sense in what you posted,but hausa/fulani have not conquered jos and southern kaduna are presently liberating themselves from hausa/fulani.the hausa/fulani are always looking out to conquer other tribes and expand their territories,which is why we have tribal wars in jos,southern kaduna and benue,but the people of jos,southern kaduna and benue are actually resisting the hausa/fulani and fighting back.I agree with you that kogi and kwara have been conqured.It seems hausa/fulanis are looking for access to the sea and feel lagos is an easier bet for them than maybe delta,rivers,akwaibom or bayelsa.As you rightly said,the SE should be proactive,a hausa/fulani socio-political expansionist jihad movement is at work.

If they don't desist from lagos, they will all die in thier millions.....