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^^^^^^ Naso, little wonder you do everything with ''over power'', mechanic like you.

Naso!!!!!!! jazz ko jazz ni!!.

^^^^^^^^ True that!!!

The poster has done something to make her want to stick with him by all means, that is what you get for cheating on your girlfriend in the first place and flirting around. Kai!!!!! how difficult is it for you to say '' bia, girl, i have a girl friend and i am not, will never be interested in you, no matter how you try''.?

Good to know some people still have principles.

Sagamite: Really?

I wish you could have spent a day in their shoes.

Sagamilo, i thought you are good in maths, how come i did not see you on my ''statistics thread''? Abi naa arithmetic you sabi?

Women should please go and learn how to fight, this abuse in marraiges is getting too much.

If a guy asked me that question, i would have dumped him, obviously he is having a re-think about the whole affair thingy.

phemi3: I hope not! Why do you sound so precise?

Have you ever seen a woman openly declaring that she would kill a man if he dumps her? if someone does, it should not be taken with a pinch of salt, it is becomes a serious matter, and if that your friend decides to damn whatever the consequences might be, i pity him, because he might not be able to come back to tell us the story.

Oh!!! yes, she will surely kill him.

maclatunji: It is a 2-way thing, no sensible young man wants a gold-digger for a wife and at the same time he should learn to be responsible. He should set a minimum standard for himself. The relationship should be symbiotic.

I am not saying all men have money but a gold-digger will always look beyond her husband to satisfy her material desires if she cannot gold-dig from him.

As if we don't have many men looking beyond there wife's sexual prowess to satisfy their sexual needs and when you ask, they will tell you it is in the nature of men to cheat, it is also in the nature of women to like comfort and money, it is just a matter of self-control and priorities.

Femosynthesis, nice one, i like "we all have the choice to choose to be remembered or forgotten''.

dayokanu: OP,

They have told you the best thing you can do

Take him to court , social services etc and feed them Garri till they make a ruling and force him to pay the money.

Even if the court or social services fail to make him pay, Continue feeding them Gaari

Good luck

Whatever!!!!! (rolls eye, hisses and sommersaults). ''Fluid donor'' like you.

dayokanu: So the mother cant beat the child? Or the mothers new Boyfriend cant be molesting them?

She came here to complain that she cant take care of the child alone and you are insisting the kids should suffer with her? So its better for her to keep the kids, malnourish them with garri, Send them to public no good sch, or maybe send them to go hawk in the street

JUST TO PROVE A POINT??

I WONDER WHAT the motive of women are when getting married, Is it just to use the man as a sperm and get a child just to prove they are not barren or make the child succesful in life?

D1 i understand your point since you are talking from a potential fluid donor perspective...lol, Some men are just ''fluid donors'' and you know that, let me just leave that angle. Say what prove what point The lady decided to leave a man who has been beating her, kicking her on the floor, spitting on her,And you think he cannot beat the kids up if they misbehave If the husband can use beating as a way of correcting his wife's mistake, don't you think he will result to the same, when he is trying to correct the kids?,She should try the social welfare and drag him to court first, lets see the result of that. And the case of her spanking her kids, so you wnat to compare that with blows and kicks from a man?

Pipo for don beat the man tire for yonder!!!! nonsense wife beater, and for those saying that the man should keep the kids, so that he can be beating the kids and shovelling them to one corner because their mother left. Nope!!! i don't support that, let the mother and kids drink gari together they will survive.

I don't know any woman that does not like 'money' and any man that does not like 'sex'. God has divided it equally, if you don't have enough money to spend, (go for men), if you as a lady do not have enough time or strength for kpekusing then go for women. It is simple, no need for wahala.

That is so funny Mac, nice!!!

EEEEyah, too bad, that is what happens when you agree to ''arranged marraiges'', you are now experiencing what your heart should have experienced with your wife with another woman, there is nothing to be done, or what do you have in mind? to send your wife and kids packing so that you will marry the other woman? or do you want to run away with this other woman? Whatever your answer is, think about your children and the effect your actions would have on their future, there is nothing too small or to big to sacrifice for your family, let that feeling of lust ( which is usually temporal) go with the wind, and love your family.

No deliverance will be acheivable if the lady/ or man does not denouce such attachment or convenant, you have to ''open your own mouth'' and scream it, that 'i rejet you, i am not your wife/hubby', if you really want to be my hubby/ or wife, come as a human being, scream it and use God's words to fight it, Say it has been ordained by God, that the man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to the wife and they shall become one", SAY; The word of God says'' He that findeth a wife, finds a good thing'' declare for yourself that you are a good thing, remember we are not fighting against flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers...etc,

debrief08: Lol thanks dear, I know that but sometimes i just wonder what if what if they are right lol. The nightmares have greatly reduced and am told in time they willl be a thing of the past. Thanks jare. Oya no more fighting, you want to beef anybody for saying divorce, na me you go beef. lol.

Deshort, i say give me that your ex- hubby's number and address, let mi gals treat his f-k up!!!!! you no gree, because he might be unleashing strength on another woman oooo. i don talk my own. ;d

aWWWWW!!!!!! sO SWEET GUYS!!!!! don't have anything to add, except, poster, go and dust your sneakers, get nice booty shorts and head straight to the Gym, that will also keep you busy, add that to your todo list.... for other advices, mail me at ronkebp@yahoo.com.

hey guys how yall doing

Logs for yesterday, 45 minutes Zumba dance. loved it

@ Burntcoal, i used to have that problem with an itchy body after exercising or during, i was introduced to a vitamin, and it has been helping, you need viatmains though for anywork-out.

@HG, eeyah..pele, don't worry itwould help with the weight looss...lol.

Take care all.

Instead of you to pursue him with broom infront of every....you are here asking questions,

poster, just say it has to do with financial issues, and there is nothing wrong if it actually is, you can wear as many old suits as you would like....

it just feels good to wear something new, like a suit on ONE'S wedding day!!!!

I don't know if you ''can'', can you?

Poster, my mum was in that situation too, my dad did not want my mum to work or further her studies, he just wanted her and the kids to be available to him 24/7, but my mum, for where? she went to school, did her NCE, Bachelors and has her masters, infact she was thinking of going for her doctorate when we all screamed, for what??
My point, your mum was supposed to motivate herself, let her know that it was not your dad's fault but hers, if she desperately wanted to go to school, she would have sought the means to, i did not talk about the fights that happened between my dad and mum because of her school thingy,(that one is a different story) but she was so determined, and now, it is paying everyone, especially herself off.

I think she should buy a whole cow to pacify her inlaws, abi!! what else can be done

From an adult who is supposed to know right from wrong, yes!!! but a 4 year old I don't think it is that serious. You have to look for ways to discipline him, My son is 19 months old now, but he soo knows when i ask him '' if he wants to go upstairs'' immediately he sees me pointing to the staircase and sees frowns on my face, Oh my!!! he knows that maaamaa is so not in the mood, and he behaves himself. So you will have to figure out how to discipline him, Time-outs, no tv, small spanking (and i mean very small), he is still very young so there is little you can really do to really, really discipline him.

Culture will not prevent me;

irrespnsiblity and uncertainty would prevent me.

I don't know what a 4 year old would do that will annoy you that much.