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Am I the only one reading this and shouting? What happened to us o.. wait o. Na because of the church involved na I’m make these rubbishy talks. What if it was families coming? As in I don’t just get it.. wait so this is the mindset of the average Nigerians. God help o. Unbelievable, I can’t imagine the things am reading here. Some people even said the guy gave her trauma by his actions, some said he is forcing the woman. As in ehh. Well am consoled by the thought of the fact the the commentators maybe mostly unmarried folks or kids. The husband has done everything right from what we read. In short una good night

Nooil:
And you didn't see the wife has compromised once and it left her scarred for life. I'm advising the man on how to reduce her psychological trauma and you're here typing rubbish. Better receive sense o. Isi aki!

Which trauma again naa.. my friend u are a child, you know nothing about what you talking about. Go and play with kpangolo.. am done with u

Nooil:
It's your type that will get married five times and still end up lonely because you know nothing about human relation.

Are you serious? Five times? Lol well I see you and your degrees in human relations. If you only know one thing about human relations then you should know that compromise at times is essential in human relations... just go ahead... continue I pray your husband treats you like this. ISI Aku

This matter pain me sha, especially with the commentators.. well make I Dey go.. even the reasonable men these days doubt themselves because the evil ways are now the popular opinion. I see now that mankind has really lost it. As Christians, when they celebrate Christmas. How much food do they cook? Oh because it’s about hosting the church committee, there is an issue. When you are self centered and not accommodating this is what happens. A woman should always be happy to accommodate and ensure everyone is happy at home. For all u who thinks that by your wife cooking for an occasion at home is stressful, make una continue. My brother all I can do now is pray that God blesses you financially so that you would be able to run this home peacefully because this woman get issues o

Nooil:
Uyi says you're a troll, maybe. But let me advise. You told your wife to cook and serve a guest of 20 when she was 5 months pregnant.

Do you know why she accepted then? She was a new bride, eager to do whatever will please her husband. But do you know the effect that cooking had on her both physically and psychologically?

Now every time she remembers that cooking, not only does she remember how you were inconsiderate in asking her to cook for such number of people with her five months of pregnancy, she probably also have shivers running down her spine when she remembers the stress she went through.

The main reason why she is refusing now is the psychological stress. She remembers the cooking as unpleasant and stressful. And she is not willing to walk that part again.

What to do?

Apologize. Let her know how sorry you are for letting her to cook when she was heavily pregnant.

Let her know that you only need her to price stuff when you go to the market.

Let her know you only need her to add the ingredients to the soup.

Let her know you'll wash the pots and plates before and after cooking.

Let her know you'll buy her Coldstone ice cream (or whatever relaxes her) after cooking.

Let her know you're too broke to afford a caterer. Talk softly to women if you need something from them.

If you're too proud, go and hire a caterer.

I feel like insulting you but no need. When u marry do your own like that.

greatcrown:
Talk to the leadership of the group that your family is not ready to host them now. Let them look for another person that can accept it at short notice.

Tell them you will inform them when you are ready.

God help us o. See watin person suggest. God I will be more careful in life now. This world is not the same. Mind you this is not new o. This things are happening in homes all over women have become something else. What a world we live in. Don’t worry when u are married if you not married , your wife will do same to you so you can take your own advice. I am more angry with the commentators than the woman self. This life na God go deliver the few good people left. Please my good brothers never change because of this group of people who have lost it. Imagine!!!

TheLasyBuddha:
This just confirmed to me that you may not make a good husband. Do you think it's by prayers?
Read his concern again. This time do it without thinking someone has called you to comment.


Don't just jump into anywhere your moniker is mentioned.

Damn, na wa o. Prayer can do all things. And at this point he needs lots of prayers.

JERRY1925:
You are right... Very right.
But lets view it from this perspective.. U know sometimes a woman can be angry from something entirely different from cooking for 25 men...she is probably just using this medium to pass her message to her husband.
What if the last meeting, the husband did not help in clearing or cleaning of the house after eating?
What if she needed some money and he has not given her and yet want to host 25 men?
What if, he got the money to feed 25men from a family savings?

No woman, would reject her husband when he is in need of her assistance if all is well.
The man must have done something wrong probably in the last meeting of which she kept waiting for this time.

We need to hear her side of the story.

Please rest jore. Something wrong like how? Did not help the last time and this how she lays it bare? My dear the man needs to really find a way to stand his ground in that house. The woman has a lot of bad side that would manifest latter.

I am shocked to my bones, the replies are scary. I am short of words to describe the fear of the world we now live in. My God does this mean that the devil has taken over the world. A church gathering? Just to host them and she wants God to bless her and her family. The is, this woman would give you lots of problems in the future but I pray for God to change her. All of you talking about getting someone else to cook the food. Remember that it’s her house we are talking about here. I am so worried. Words truly fail me on this matter. My brother from what you said you are a good man. I advice you to get someone to cook the food, ignore her, and observe her always and pray. I know it can be difficult hosting people but after your pleas, wow she is suppose to just go ahead and cook the food even if she does it grudgingly but to totally say no is beyond my comprehension. To all the good men out there, God will always watch your back. Women have become bad to the extent I am wondering what happened. God heal us all.

It’s confirmed, they have been caught though further arrest must be done, one or more of the suspect is still at large. The fat woman you see in the picture is the mother to one of the suspect still at large. Hopefully they will all be caught

Aladdin1:
Bro.you sure say this news legit?why tv/radio stations never carry d news for benin?.

Don’t worry u will hear the news soon. Besides it was on EBS 8 clock news.

GboyegaD:
Waiting to read more information.

The complete information would be out in an hour

News coming out suggest that uwaila,the Uniben student who was killed in a church, killers have been found. We await further information. Six persons have been arrested for the death of Vera uwaila omozuwa. They confessed to the crime of killing her in connection with ritual purposes as they were sent by a certain woman named Mary. After they knocked her out with a 2 by 4 wood they raped and killed her with a fire extinguisher then wiped her blood with white clothes. They were caught by the police through uwailas phone which they sold to a phone repairer who was tracked. Good job by the police, now they will have to face their own doom. They were given One million Naira to kill the girl and get her blood with a white cloth. Police is still investigating.

Wshjba:
This is big lie...the salary can be small but I tell you nobody takes home less than 85k in all for federal higher institutions(poly, uni, coe). The minimium entry level for graduate is 7 which has a take home of at least 89kplus.

U lie, it’s 79k before the so called minimum wage. State the uni that earns 89 at entry level.

contigiency:
Because Obaseki has joined your PDP party? Your assessment of him before he joined your PDP party was a terrible one. So what has changed?

Politics is dynamic. In this regard, in comparison to both personality. Obaseki is better. Note I am not in any party. I am just an independent observy

contigiency:
I have been saying it that events had revealed that Obaseki is very unpopular and so he will be defeated with a wide margin, but the same people who hailed Saraki, Dino, Shehu Sani, Atiku, Fayose etc, into political oblivion were busy questioning why I said so. No problem, September is just few weeks away.

Is this country not bad enough, how long will you continue to do this, you are benefiting from this nonsense. Izeiyamu is a thief and you know it. Obese kids is not a saint but he is sure better than him. Nigerians who do is like this. At least make we Dey grow small small. Izeiyamu will take us backward.

Bihari has failed us but to doctor videos and all and post here is unacceptable. Please Lord who will deliver us from this nonsense? Lies like this brought us this far. We need our noses oh lord

That mother is the very overly strict and harsh type. “ mummy calm down” that’s what her husband tells her when she is in rage. The child learnt well.. assumptions which I believe is correct.

If I was a lawyer, I would fight for this man. I weep for my country. No jokes, I feel so hurt by the events in this country. Nigerians wake up, wake up please. We can’t continue like this, haven read through most crime news over the weekend, I mean community crimes. All I see is hunger induced crimes and our leaders have failed us on all fronts. The real Nigerians have been relegated to poverty

RenaissanceGuy:
Be wise, young man. Do you know what it means to have zeal without wisdom? That's exactly what you are demonstrating by calling God and Jesus in every comment you make.

If you don't pause and think of a better way to do this, sooner or later you'll find yourself being a victim of trolling and cyber bullying like manna-bbqgrill and may be forced to deactivate even if you open new accounts. Be wise, young man. Do you know what it means to have zeal without wisdom? That's exactly what you are demonstrating by calling God and Jesus in every comment you make.

If you don't pause and think of a better way to do this, sooner or later you'll find yourself being a victim of trolling and cyber bullying like manna-bbqgrill and may be forced to deactivate even if you open new accounts.

Who made u a judge..u are already guilty of what you trying to prevent. Weekend greetings

kenny714433:
That's why it's called "Adventure". It's risky and the risks makes it more fun for the adventurers.

I remember what happened to me after reading King Solomon's mine. Damn! A book that told horrifying journey into a dessert just to discover a mine filled with diamonds. Most of the characters died due to thirst and snow.

I smiled, decided to become the next adventurer.
Since my place is quite near to blue river of Azumini, Abia state, I considered the river.

The lush vegetation and crystal blue river made the place resemble Caribbean sea. "Oh! Capt. Jack Sparrow d second is here" I boasted to all those who cared to listen.

As I stepped into the cold blue river, it gave me a scintillating and sweet feelings. Little did I know that my egungun is already dancing to the express and my village people won't stop the drum.

One small boy pushed me inside to check my skills and even ran away bcoz they were playing pursue game. I tried screaming for help, the more I did the more gulp I took. I fell like lead and was lucky to push my legs against the river floor.

A hand picked my collar and dragged me back to life. Instead of those little imps to feel sorry, they burst into uncontrollable laughter.

Na so swimming take end for me. Till today the only water I love is the one inside cup. My eyes red as if I smoke expired weed.

When I arrived home, I wrote in my diary "Today I survived shipwreck and was marooned in the island of blue sea. And my next adventure will be in the Bermuda.

Truly, you have read too many novels. I miss the time with my novels. Life truly is somehow.

anonymous1759:
Leave the will of God out of it. For you to be a successful politician even in life you've to loyal to get What you want loyalty is not blind it's being smart. Strike when you've All the advantage like I said he was Dumb fighting when he's vulnerable.

I believe in ur terms, osho is a successful politician, was he loyal? Striking when you have an advantage as if it’s a military strategy. Well all the cards are not out of the bag yet. Let’s wait and see. I agree this is a battle, that you threw the first blow does not mean you have won. Osho daughter this similar battle. He won because men of conscience were behind him. This is just the beginning. Until the end of the election, osho baba fall hand for the men of conscience that was once behind him. For a start who is osho in edo state politics before he became governor. Believe me the war just began my friend.

anonymous1759:
That's how you guys were pushing Ambode when he was making unnecessary press conference .how did Ambode chickened out?

Ambode fought till the end, you guys think politics is played with emotions .you've to be loyal ,be calculative and don't burn too much bridge if you're not strong enough .

Ambode made a clever move by eating his Humble pie is political career is not dead yet he might Still recalled his loyalty is being tested.
At some point Tinibu ate his humble pie with Akerelodu did he decamp? Obaseki was listening to people like you that's why he's in this mess.

Obaseki is Dumb if you've something that can terminate your political career like this ,all you need do is to be loyal ,won't be surprised if his advisers are working for oshiomole. If any Governor is scared of direct primaries after 4yrs it means he didn't connect with the grass root that's not oshiomole's fault but obaseki's.

At the end of the day These politicians are playing with the gullible ones not me all of them na The same. Look at how obaseki played the pity card to turn oshiomole as the villain but when he was handpicked by the same person we didn't hear any noise.

Please stop using the word loyalty like you know what it means. Loyalty indeed. Ask osho why he was not loyal to the lots in his first tenure. Loyalty loyalty. Please loyalty is not blind. Loyalty is not foolish. Loyalty is courageous, loyalty has eyes, loyalty is calculating. Can a man who has two eyes be loyal to a blind man. It’s a pity how ignorant my people have become. If it’s the will of God obaseki would win. The prophecy over his life must be fulfilled.

emeijeh:
It is obvious he will crosscarpet to the PDP.
But is this how American politicians defect from Republican party to the Democratic party or other parties?

Our politics too different.
Our politicians too useless.
Nigeria is irredeemable.

Mind you Obaseki, it will be difficult for you to wrestle Oshiomhole in Edo election and win.
Very difficult.
The man na master super power RIGGER

Forget stories. A lot of osho boys here, pretending to be neutral. One thing is sure, that is not how it is done in other climes where parties disqualify candidates because of personal interest. Shame on APC.

Tareq1105:
Sorry o, it's like you're in pain over this.

Sincerely I am in great pain over my people inability to see the truth. This whole nonsense is dragging the development of this state back. This country needs deliverance and na arch bishop benson Idahosa na him go wake up from grave to do am.. genuine potential is wasting, poverty driving youths to unexplainable crimes. Though poverty should be never be an excuse to crime but see! This country need total overhauling.

majamajic:
Why do good fathers always have upper hands , upon u a are sitting governor
Look at cases of governors ngige, Ambode and now obaseki
Why do these old politicians still win the battles over these younger sitting governors ?

Because of the masses who refuse to librate themselves. Let me tell you. This is the singular reason Nigeria may not get out of poverty. When the ancestors are on an individuals case, imagine what happens. The ancestors have refused to let Nigeria grow.

Confirmedzombie:
With the documents released I doubt PDP will be foolish enough to give obasike her ticket.

The governor ruined himself. No matter what he may do, he cant fight APC and go free.

My advice is that the governor remain in APC, make peace with all those he offended, support APC, take a bow and retire in peace.

Those comparing Ortom matter to that of Obaseki should remember the time of Ortom , it was a general election comprising many states.

In the case of obadeki, it's just Edo state, APC will deploy all Arsenal to ensure they retain power.

Without the police, DSS, Army obaseki cant do anything. The question is who controls this forces.

Those advising obaseki to decamp and work against APC dont mean well for him

This is just the beginning... everyone of you will be surprised in the end

bluefilm:
Hahahaha

So obaseki been dey use mago mago safitikate all this while naim im still get mind dey fight im godfathers?

Na wa o!

Truly, those who live in a glass house should never throw stones.




I think his political career has been sealed with this latest revelation because any other party that choses to dine with him will have to contend with this his magomago safitikate scamdeminomia!

Oyibo!

Shhhhhh

Na wa o

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright


Not true brother
They are the simplest to understand

I know you won't understand
Humans hate what they don't understand
Na only for north person go give you accomodation and food without you nor get




money
They are too simple and easy
The simplest people on planet earth

The only thing you should say is that when they are angry they take it to the extreme

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UzorChinonso:
Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.

I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....

But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...

I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is?
He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment!
What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.

What do I do ?

From your tone. You will definitely get a divorce. Finance in marriage is a very delicate area. I bet you, your husband does not need your money. I believe he just wants to know you can be open to him even with your finances and all that concern him. Besides u don’t seem to trust him why. Except u married for a child like I already believe since u are already old. You are 80 percent the problem here. Besides if u still want the marriage to work go and learn communication and openness in marriage. I wish u well

Everyone say obaseki has lost this and that, I potty you all. To make the issue worse I have a feeling they are edo indigenes who want to continue being a slave. Obaseki has done nothing to no one. Oshiomole should rest already. Can’t forget his first tenure as a governor in edo state. I can’t believe he is this kind of man. Obaseki will overcome. Mark my words. This is a battle between light and darkness.