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Happy birthday seun. Do not regret getting older it is a privilege denied from many people

Cheers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can discuss anything but don't be too LOGICAL

sistawoman:
Listen I am not going to tell you to keep the baby or get rid of the baby but I will say this, being a single mom is no fucking joke.

People think it is easy but what if this man walks away from you and that child and wants nothing to do with it. What if your family moves or you move or your family will have nothing to do with that child. What if you turn around and have no support system but yourself to raise this child, support this child, love this child, care for this child.

I love my children with every fucking breath in my body but being a single mom having to do it alone day in and day out is no fucking joke. There are no days off for me, there are no emotional breaks for me. The only break is get is 6 weeks in the summer when the kids go to New York to be with their grandparents. My ex-husband and I divorced 6 years ago when i was pregnant with our last son and he has not seen his kids since. My parents live in New York (they moved) and live in Baltimore - 5 hours away so there is no support system- until i married my husband. Before him they got sick- I took off, doctors appointment - i took off. You can't manage the jobs i have lost due to missing time from work to care for my children. The field trips i had to miss because i really needed to save my time incase something happened, the days i came home from work and just wanted a break but had to be a mom.

Being a single mom is like working two full time jobs and the second has no annual leave policy.

Think about this careful and do what you feel is right for you at this time in your life.

But please do not mistake this for me saying that i don't want my kids. I love my kids more than anything in heaven or on earth and would walk through hell with gasoline drawers on for them. When I have had that hard day at work and come home to their smiling faces nothing I tell you nothing makes you feel better. It is alot of hard work and not everyone is cut out to do it.

God will continue to give you strenght each day and you will live to reap the fruit of your labour

@Poster the ball is in your court. My own advice is listen carefully to your instinct 99.9% it does not lie

By age

Esss:
i have studied the trend of this thread.

Like 95% of womenn will say, "I will adopt". My question is have you finished raisng yours that you are going to carry another mans burden??

Dont get me wrong o! If you don't have one of your own and you feel like adopting, more hydraulics to your elbows.

But ask for adopting when you already have your own, Hmm!! I see free house help written all over it.

Give to the poor and needy, Sponsor a motherless babies home, Sponsor a needy child, Scholarship for the orphans all these are good, and I can do, but why go as far as adopting??

Anyways, I'm sure that most men would nott agree to this adoption rubbish.

God bless you for that nice input!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gamine:
@Rubi, married?

abeg o, im adopting babies please o!!!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gamine:
i would surely want to adopt after my kids hv gone to university

This is a true life story I know of couples they use to live in canada whom their kids have grown and even finish university later the man move back to nigeria there is this small girl that comes around to help them each time they travel home soon they saw how helpful the girl has been to them they decided to adopt her when the wife came back to live in canada because she has not retired yet the man fell in love with the girl and married her adoption has it's ups and down

echelon:
Amarachi = God's grace
Ebelechi = God's mercy

Thanks for you nice input

Women like men who are confident/sure of themselves know where they are and where they are going in life if that is missing in any man it is going to be hard for any girl/woman to fall in love

Ogboraph:
Well i have never done too mush chase on a woman, first i study you 2 knw your kind of person i wont even give u attention. And once i see u are a litle intrest on me i back off. But when u re not i give a surprise chase and once you try to play hardto get or hard taget i back off then u beging to wonder i tought he will kill 4 me and she relax, i love women who don't pretend. then a suprise take her out before you knw; u re screeming ayaa my leg and Ooh please don't stop. I belt u they never want to miss that experienc again they just end up confessing their sins that Raph, honestly how did u get me? I wanted to play u but now am in love, please promise me u 'll not leave me can i trust you? And i would say the bible says woe unto him that put his or her trust on men. No man is to be trusted ecept God.

Take it easy

ademiller:
of because i will attend, so that if they get to the " who here has a reason for this couple to not get married please put up your hand" omo pastor no go talk finish, i go raise my hand and walk to the aisle, chikena Grin

I can't stop laughing

saintkola:
Thanks rubi

You welcome

I love igbo names so much but I don't know why they always begin with chi
is it that we love God too much or what.

chinyere - God gives
Amarachi - Gods grace/mercy
oluchi - Works of God
Ezinne - Good mother
Ezinna - Good father

@ chineyeN nwee ogologo ntachi obi n'aru nwa nne gi biko

@ ifyalways kedu ka imere biko anam eche moi-moi- nkem

HR.hotness:
Chei

na my boyfriend u dey cuss like this oh

saintkola:
Its obviously Denzel Washington, Most of Will Smith's movies are over hyped, mediocre & don't always live up to expectations!

nice input

Let him keep calling it is him that will be tired

lady u:
what da bleeping hell does virginity's got to do wt respect and making a good partner?

word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you attract him he will make a move

janami:
what is there to feel pain about an overfed maid that steals? stop being over dramatic abeg. it doesn't really suit u

Who is dramatic? your only concern is the advanced salary you paid to his parents please give that child hope and future you owe him that

I will not it will look as if I have an eye on him/her before the break up and I was the one that secretly caused their break up

janami:
@rubi
feel a stranger's pain . . . . strange

I feel his pain based on the post I don't have to see him we communicate on the internet

Tell her

janami:
e be like say u sef don dey hear the boy dey cry for night

I have never heard him cry for night but I could feel his pain

@ Poster I understand you, try considering a little perfume not neccesarily big size small size I think is fine

dorleey:
if he tries it (whether good or bad), i will know that my secrets are not safe with him. there will be no trust and this might lead to our break-up.

gbam!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Radiant:
There are many words to describe the truth including "rude". I understand that. Ain't taking no letter of my words back.

You were the one who told us how you've beaten the boy to the extent that your hands hurt. You can't edit that now 'cause we've all seen it. So please, do feed him so that he'll have energy to endure your beatings. Useless thing.

I can't stop laughung

Let him not quit his job plaese untill he has the visa in his hand even he has the visa he should take some leave of absence and for couple of months to see what the situation is when he travel Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think there is something going on in Nairaland I just came out from a post can you date a man with mouth odour now it is can you date a girl with mouth odour are is it a question or some kind or competition going on?

lady u:
not true,you're attaching so much emotions to this

a man can be wt his friends ,and his friends might be discussing about how terrible their girls r,and also their bad characters and so on

and then your man opens his mouth and says that

"well I'm lucky to have my own wife/partner/lover ,shes quite diff from all this girls u people r talking about,shes a God sent to me,shes got a good character and gives me peace,i love her so well"

now tell me if that guy has no respect for u,if he does not have respect for u,y did he say so many good things about u?

The poster said intimate If you understand what intimate means not general compliment. I don't know whether you are married or single but when a man discusses his intimate relationship with his friends that is not acceptable

lady u:
yeah i get u ,but wooing a man is not meant for d singles alone,but for also d married

That is why I said It is as easy as ABC for d married but singles I kind of disagree to some extent

lady u:
even if hes your husband

If hes my hubby that one is ABC. I did not do it when I was single so don't know how it was.

whitelexi:
Your partner discusses u (intimately) with his/her friends. . .  How would u take that?

You said friends that means he or she has no value and respect for you and cannot protect you
But if it is a friend I can say it is fine to confide in someone experienced and matured ( a friend in need is a friend indeed)