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Olami90: d no of years 4 courtship does nt rily matter..compatibility shld count nd pple tend to b careless during courtship to notice wot is needed to b corrected claiming to b in love..courtship shld b d tym one shld b blunt nd examine wot he or she is doin thoroughly if u can cop wit it or nt..dnt manage d basic thinz nided,jst b decisiv nd mov on if d basics u needed are lacking.Change is constant nd u shld xpect to c more wen u marry him or her..i dnt succumb to 3months courtship...nd dia is notin wrong wit 5yrs nd abov courtship as far as d 2 parties are sincere nd positiv minded witout takin advantage of each other

Type in proper english. You attended school, didn't you?

Tgirl4real: Well, there are no guarantees. How each individual will react varies. Personally I think, if u both remain sincere with eachother and u keep doing what u do for fun, and if you still hold each other in high esteem despite the less attraction, there shouldn't be any problem except one partner is wanting more.

Another thing, this sincerity, honesty, maturity etc are things that take time to judge and ascertain their durability.

All these is why I find it extremely helpful to get to know someone for a good while to (1) judge their qualities well and (2) build a bond with them so when attraction fades, there is something to fall back on.

Tgirl4real: People change over night Sagamite. All it takes is a lil shift in priority. U can't calculate the human emotions and always arrive at the same answers. There will always be a probability.

Doing (1) and (2) helps reduce the risk.

More so, when dealing with women.

BizBooks: In addition to the players mentioned above, Man U has more foreign players including

Hernandez - Mexico
Park - South Korea
Rafael - Brazil
Fabio - Brazil
Lindegaard - Denmark
Pogba - France
Berbatov - Bulgaria

But if you notice, none of the foreign players is from an African country. Sir Alex himself
said he is reluctant to sign African players because he cannot afford to lose them for one
month during the African Cup of Nations. Well, when Chelsea won the league in the 2009/10
season, they did it without the services of Drogba, Essien, Mikel and Kalou who were all
away for the Cup of the Nations. So it can be done.

Yep!

That does not mean if he decides to sign them, then they can't succeed in Man U as one cretin said.

And the fact he is not willing to sign players from places that might affect their contribution to his team and title chase is not racist as the second cretin said.

maryini: *subscribing*

Did y'all have a checklist of your spouse must haves during courship? What was d grade u needed, to know if ur spouse was marriageable out of say 10 things? My Aunt keeps saying any guy am considering must have 9 out of the ten things I need or I would be unhappy. Seems way too high for me.

I am very good at maths so I have been developing my algorithms and writing the computer code for a long time.

https://www.nairaland.com/312247/gf-material-vs-wife-material/1#4390898

jennykadry: Come on now, which man can resist omo to dun like me?

And if you had had a little more patience, you might have had Sagamite all to yourself. [Gives her the head and lip sideways twist a teacher gives a naughty student]

Tgirl4real: very true. And I also agree 100% that marriage is a risk. There are no guarantees. Just go in with a correct head on your shoulder and hope for the best.

Well said again.

And the longer you know your partner, the more likely you are reducing the likelihood of the risk and can even mitigate against the impact of the risk.

Dem dey teach all these things for Risk Management classes na.

Tgirl4real: It's not. I don't believe in long courtship too esp. when you know what you want.

I was just telling Geomac that because it turned out right doesn't mean it couldn't have gone otherwise.

U will see people that will tell you it's cos they courted for 6 goods years that is why their marriage is working. Then, look at u and Geomac that courted for less than 6 months having a blissful union too. So, its relative really.

The bottom line is knowing what you want and going for it instead of going in circles.

Well said.

Tgirl4real: U see . . . that is a relative one there.

I think we all should have our priorities set in order of preference. Like a list of important things and another list of less important things. When you find someone that meets your top priority list and you meet hers too, and you both are attracted to each other, and you both are sincere with each other and have genuine interest for each other,I believe you are good to go.

And when the qualities in the priority list changes (by your desires changing or by the person changing) and you are both less attracted to each other in a few years as you both change physically, what do you do then?

Yep, it does.

Though it is not a guarantee for success, it does help in aiding successful marriage.

Before you marry someone, get to know them well.

And the longer you court, the more likely you would know them.

cowgurl: Wow, so our person hero Sagamite finally relaxed afteral, cool to know that.

Now come be my pet so she can work on your anger issues cos you darn in need of some therapeutic touch bro, promise to be the 'P' in professional!

Ps...Now you are a CERTIFIED arse, please don't come @ me with that person ish cos I find it intellectually lame and boring

Now where tha hell is Coogar?

You are a person!

Run!

That was about the only sensible action you took in 24 hours yesterday.

ugly Betty: Is there anything bad in writing all these things in full. After all you are not sending a text message. Don't get use to writing like this, you won't know when you write it in a more serious environment.

Don't mind the lazy foool!

There have been a lot of ignorant comments on this thread.

You can lose weight without exercising but it would take some self-discipline.

- First of all weigh yourself.

Your metabolic rate is likely to be: Your weight in pounds multiplied by about 11. Your metabolic rate is the rate your body burns calories in 24 hours without you doing shyt. So if you weigh 200 pounds, then your body will burn 200 x 11 = 2200 calories in 24 hours even if you are in a coma or just sat on a sofa for 24 hours.

The less you weigh, the less your body burns.

- So start targeting eating less than the calories your metabolic rate burns daily.

You would have to start counting your calories and understand everything that goes into your mouth. So if you weigh 200 pounds, you want to be eating something like 2000 calories a day, and as you drop in weight, you might need to reduce the calorie intake slightly. Never go below 1500 though.

Note that because something is healthy and good for you does not mean it does not add weight to you. There is a difference between healthy and caloric value. One small coconut is more calorific than one bar of chocolate. Even Olive oil is highly calorific.

To help you ensure hunger does not encourage you to go over your daily target calorie intake, you need to understand what type of foods you eat's Glycaemic Index (GI). The GI is the rate at which food is broken down in your body and your body absorbs its sugars into your bloodstream. If you eat something like chocolate and pastries, the sugar is released fast into your bloodstream because of the high GI and later you are quickly hungry again. GI has nothing to do with calories, just sugars. Foods with low GI figures are better for you as they last longer and make you feel less peckish. The highest GI number is 100, lowest is 1.

Add the GI index of all the foods you eat and average it. Keep it under 40. So you can actually have some high GI foods as long as you balance it out with one or two low GI foods.

Uncooked and unprocessed food tend to have lower GI than cooked and processed foods. E.g. Raw tomatoes have GI of 10, Grilled tomatoes have GI of 42; 1 slice of wholemeal bread has GI of 45, 1 slice of white bread has GI of 92.

So stick with fresh juices, brown rice, fruits and fresh vegetables etc. Cartoned juices, bananas, melon, soft drinks, crisps, cooked carrots, tinned sweetcorn have high GIs. The last 3 even have higher GI than a bar of chocolate.

Note: The average GI is what matters, not the whole combined GI. To judge quantity to take, use calories intend of trying to reduce total absolute GI. So, for all I care, you can eat 20 food items with combined GI of 800 in each meal 3 times a day (hence, 2400 GI a day), the fact the average GI is 40 (800/20) is what matters. Just make sure all the 2400 GI foods don't give you more than 2000 calories.

- Be more active.

The reality is that it is unlikely you will be in a coma and not do anything in one day. Every movement you make burns calories, not matter how small.

Even though you don't want to exercise, walk more and be faster in everything you do (E.g. walk faster), even you burn more if you walk uphill. Walking 1 mile on flat land would burn about 80 calories (depending on your weight). If you do it faster and uphill, you would burn more.


Now lets just look at how it works daily for someone weighing 200 pounds and does not do any exercise:

Minus
2200 calories - burnt by her metabolic rate.
100 calories - from simply movement and doing daily stuff.
80 calories - from a light 1 mile walk daily.

Total calories burnt: 2380.

Plus

2000 calories - from consumed food.

Total calories taken: 2000.

Calories differential in a day: 380 in the negative. This equals weight loss without exercise.

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Is there a problem? [/quote]Na you I talk to?

If you know say you get mouth to talk, I would suggest you go back to the Timi Alaibe thread and answer the questions I asked you there.

buzugee: Sagamite. what it do blood ? how the queen treatin ya mate ?

The mooron requested for an intellectual bashing, and I was looking for intellectual suya.

I no dey speak to mama queen again jor. Imagine she no invite a whole SAGA to Buckingham palace for Diamond Jubilee dinner.

Yorisb: Bingo! ID has finally saved the day jare, 'cos I was beginning to worry about these sanctimonious 'walk away jeje' comments.

Even u, Sagamite

Never waste your time with a useless woman.

Toss her out of your life ASAP. Don't even stress yourself with arguments when you can be watching Champions League.

cowgurl: I forgive you for what you did over there bro, #yawns# , twas nice meeting you Sagamite

You are a person!

So you realised you could not make sense?

cowgurl: Freedom of speech ain't a justifiable excuse to propagate your stupidity Sagamite. You are now a CONFIRMED arsehole. Smh! Thought she told you she was cool with your logic? Didn't know you possessed a toddler's cognition, cool I tell ya! Now relax in a yoga position and breathe in and out, dammit!

You are a person!

Where is the sense in the junk you put up there?

Oh, it is friday. You have never heard of puff, puff, pass?

MRbrownJAY: @OP
the first time she loses her temper, you sit her crazy ass down and you give her a warning NOT TO DO THAT SHIIT AGAIN....... if she does it again, you tell her that this will be her last warning, the last time around, you dont even listen to her shiit, you just get up and forget this insane woman. no need to waste your life and energy with people who have issues in their life(trying to bring it on to you)

Here is your answer!

Yorisb: How did I miss this thread, Sagamite?

Lol!

I am just doing my best to let guys into understanding "the rules".

cowgurl: @ Andromida, loved your responses

You are really a person!

You want me to intellectually cut you into shreds?

I will gladly take delight in doing so, just purely as a matter of fcking principles.

amaba: Foolish man. Welbeck is an english player. African players don't succeed in Man U. Name any. He is should move 2 Chelsea & fight 4 his place afterall most of chelsea new signings are his age mates

What a person!

So because no African player has shined at Man U, then African players can not do well at Man U?

Can you all see how Nigeria's education system churns out bloody cretins?

sadyeek: [size=16pt]why am I seeing fomer english player?



Those guys look like bad deal if you ask me.. The kind of lukaku signing.




What?? That racist club, all their players na english players, how do you expect to come to manU n bench english player, english press go kill you.

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What a moronic person!

Nani, Evra, Vidic, Valencia, De Gea, Anderson are all English?

This is the battle of the lender vs the borrower.

If Greece dares to win, they are fcked because the Germans would stop bailing them out.

andromida: LOL tecnically not a nice person is relative to circumstance,time and place and of course personal opinion and perspective of any observer. Was I happy to treat others wrong? No. Some things I have done before, will I do them now? No. This is the place of learning and becoming a better person. I am not the same person I used to be this time last year. My improvements may be unimportant to others but they are important to me.

Good answer.

andromida: 1 6 9. Now 9 was a situation where we had technically broken up.

Considering the 3, so you are technically not a nice person, why then do you believe you deserve for others to be nice to you? Why do you think a man should treat you right when you are happy to treat others wrong?

andromida: Character,looks,personality,great sex,intelligence,kindness,ability to interact on a mental level and therefore offer companionship, great sense of humour, willingness to learn my partner and learn from my partner. A certain something that is undefinable and makes me Me. I think this should do for now. Further questions about why I am worth it should be specific in terms of...............

Good.

I was not specific because I did not want to tunnel you to the right answers. I wanted to see if you will come out with the right answers by going the direct way yourself. I have highlighted some of your answers that are going the right way.

Now tell me, in terms of your character, kindness and mental level, do you think your interaction with men is good? Let me know which of this you have never done:

https://www.nairaland.com/962850/ladies-which-these-dating-evils

TV01: Oh I get it, a leading question as a platform to show us how glaringly intelligent you are ! Or are you being rhetorical?

- Not feelings, they change
- Not any evolutionary hogwash about the survival of the species
- Not necessary chivalry, as it cuts both ways

For me it's the "two become" one union. To love ones spouse is to love oneself. No difference. My commitment to houring my wife and putting her first regardless. And not just because it makes me feel good. Sometimes its a pain and downright inconvenient.

Oya, we await your postulations o sagacious one.

Best
TV

Honestly, TV, all these silly things they teach you guys in church preachings is not a good enough basis to have a logical debate.

To love one's spouse is to love oneself? Nigga, come on. Come off it.

As I said earlier, all these funky, sweet, real man statements might sound all good but when one thinks deeply and intellectually about them, they can see it is nonsense.

You entire statements have no logical foundation for me to bother addressing them.

@ Bawss, that is way too philosophical even though right.

cowgurl: Relax bro, it's not time to bite me yet but it will come if ur logic/idea behind ur questions to Andromida does not go down well with me...so be prepared!

# following#

Amsorry?

What?

Really?

Is this the part I bring out my Oscar performance and start shaking in my boots?

kandiikane: @sagamite, because she said she's worth it. Simple as.


I love a woman who knows their worth and who is comfident enough to know they should be treated right by a great guy.

That is why I asked her to say what her worth is and why it is worth something.

andromida: Not think. Know. Anyway if I am treating a man right why should I accept less from him?

You still haven't stated what about you makes you worth it?

cowgurl: Are those questions Sagamite? They are darn hilarious!
Forgive my curiosity bro, what's the idea behind your asking?

When they are answered, the logic and idea behind them would sprout out.

andromida: Because am worth it. So a man wants to know a woman and he can't be bothered to be nice? why should she give him my precious time?

What do you think makes you worth it?

andromida: Ladies, never invest too much of yourself in a relationship where the man is giving you crumbs of love, attention or whatever you are investing. The average Nigerian Man believes that he should marry a woman that can take all the crap he dishes at her. Never sacrifice yourself at the altar of love in a bid to win anybody the prize is usually not worth it.

Yes there are situations where a lost man finds a good woman and she inspires him to become a better person but truth is we usually can sense the sincerity because actions always speak louder than words. Washing, cooking, sexing, acting like a lesser human being just to win a man, is tiring even for the object of your affections.

From the get go a good man knows he should treat you right, that's the kind of man any woman should seek to be with. Stop setting yourself up for failed rships by seeking to erode yourself and become whatever the man wants you to become hoping that one day he will be "touched" by your sacrifice. This experiment has been known to fail so desist from it. Women should learn to be themselves and be in a constant state of becoming a better person not because of a man but for their own character development.

Why do you think a man has to treat you right before knowing you? And why do you think you deserve it?

pendo89: correct.

I love that.It means I have have adapted to West.Isn't NL so good?

Wow!

Maybe hence the nice personality.