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@Dahitler

second wife just to cook?

It is so unfortunate that this is happening. How is international community going to see. I weep for Nigeria.

@ soccerchic

My "Career Goals";

(a) Make sure that my would be husband becomes the next president of Nigeria.

(b) Throw a big part y after we win for all the sick, poor and the less fortunate.

(c) Get rid of poverty, poverty and more poverty ( no child should go to bed hungry )



VOTE FOR SOCCERCHIC WOULD BE HUSBAND, AND I WILL PAY FOR YOUR TICKET TO SOUTH AFRICA TO WATCH WORLD CUP 2010. FOOD AND HOTELS INCLUDED OO

CHEI, YOU PEOPLE ARE THE SAME.

PARTY! PARTY!! PARTY!!! AND AFTER YOU GO FOR TUMMY TRIMMING.

to be the best programmer & employ bill gate

let her keep off from the other guy. Prevention is beter than control

@babyosisi
Some of our men are very intimidated by successful girls[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

Men are not intimidated by success of some girls. Rather successful girls find it difficult to associate with some men. What girls have enter their head that they find it difficult to listen and accomodate man as the head of the family. She can afford it. She can do that, she can do this. So why live under a man.

Men in the under hand do not want to marry a woman that will be an autonomous community or indepenent state.

You can not fall in love with two ladies?? Think!!!!!!!!!!!

If a gun man was to aim at my lover, my first instinct would be to protect my lover if the gun fired I most surely would protect my lover at all costs now this does not mean that I want to die for my lover but in me doing the best to protect her I could die in the process by getting shot

This is not done intentionally. You may even been with your enemy and this happens.

In what circumstances will make me die for my lover (wife - b/c am married)??

Why should I die for Nigeria??

@aimee4love

I am really unhappy in my marriage

What is the issue? What is making you unhappy? Were you forced to maary him? Why the unhappiness now?
Is divorce the only solution left for you.

Should I just put The house up for sell and then maybe he will take me seriously?
Doing this will not help the matter at all. It will rather make things worse. Don't do that.

If you can explain more, then you will get a better advice. As of now, I don't know what is the issue between two of you

Na wa ooo

which one be double dating again? How can you love two guys at a time?

YAHOO NIGERIA! That will be great.

The presence of yahoo in Nigeria, what will it give us as a nigeria? Can out Nigeria web programmer compete with yahoo Nigeria. Is this going to be another way of making the poor porer and the rich richer.

Some of us that are advocate of yahoo Nigeria does not even stay on net up to 5hrs a day.

What we need is not yahoo Nigeria. But a Nigeria company that will out perform yahoo. For how long will we continue to advocate for foreign goods are services. If we keep on bringing in these foreign IT firm into this country. Then we will after paying paris club we will enter into another bondage where all services in this country is from outside. And we keep on paying foreign firms.

Imagine Microsoft Nigeria, Dell Nigeria, HP Nigeria etc. What does these guys do here. Just to sell their product. While our IT firm will just be a represntative of foreign IT firm. How many of us know that there are IT firms here that manufacture computers. How many of us are using made in Nigeria software. Please stop advocating for foreign IT firm, let us develop our own.

I think women need to be educated concerning relationship

I don't know that sex is parasitic that is only men that get what they want.

Girl too dey complain. What is it that the guys want that ladies do not want too?

On a mutual agreement with a guy, you made love. The guy went his way and you started complaining. Did the guy tell you that he is going to marry you? Did he tell you that you will be his girl friend? Why complain after relationship that benefitted either participatant.

True love is not a feeling, but a commitment.

A commitment to cherish your spouse
A commitment to always care for your spouse
A commitment to be always there for your spouse
A commitment not to cheat your spouse

Love is all about commitment

It is going to be difficult for a man to trully forgive a wife caught in adultery. It is man nature. Just see your girl friend with a nother guy discussing, you may be tempted to fire the girl not to talk of your wife. It is very very difficult situation.

It is so unfortunate that the girl was forced into marriage and she agreed. One question, I will love you to answer is what you did when they are forcing her into that marriage. May be you were not on her side. If you were, she would have had enough energy to withstand. you propbably did not give her the courage and assurance she needed during that trial period.

But will the two live together a life of unfulfillment? What God had joined together, let no man put asunder. Was it Gods plan that two of them should get married, if yes why under duress. Can two work together if they do not agree Amos 3:3. They were joined together by God or in prescence of God under duress from the parents. The marriage has no ground to stand. It has no tap root. It is a fabricated marriage. Forced to exist. It is modern day slavery. It is not marriage. You do not force people to marry.

If the girl is actually important to him, he need not to be told that he suppose to help her out in any problem; financially, physically, spiritually and any thing possible.

@davidlyn

It is so unfortunate that you are thinking like this. how can u do that to a girl you claim to love. What is love to you?

My advice to the girl is to ask for help outside. She should damn the guy. A friend in need is a freined in deed.

Father and brother! God forbid. That is abomination?

But what will she do? Run away, not the solution.

Let her tell her mother. I believe that a married man should not practice homosexuality. If he does the wife should be asked a question?

Let them call family meeting. What they need is help and not isolation. May be the father is geeting old, but what of the brother. Will he live a normal sexual life is not helped.

Let girl call other brothers and sister. let them talk over it. If it is not working let them go to their pastor or imam, even someone that the father respect. i hope that before they do all these, a solution will be found.

That young guy need to be delivered. homosexuality should not been encouraged at all.

Cheating someone you love is not possible.

What is love? If you really love someone you will not do anything that will hurt the person. The problem we have is that people use to take their emotion and feeling as love. True love is a commitment. A commtiment not to cheat your spouse. A commitment to have a feeling of your spouse. A commitment to always be there for your spouse. A commitment to always cherish your spouse.

You cheat when the commitment are no more there. Check this.

A man got married and the wife naggs ( don't ask me why) after seven year, the guy got himself another girl to cool off.
The commitment is now dead. so what happen, is that the guy does not care any more. No more commitment. The spouse feeling is no more an issue.

@blacknbold

at the same time i have my boyfriend too .

What you need is deliverance.

I suggest that you go to MFM prayer city for deliverance, because your are possessed.

You have a boy friend and you are jumping to another man, even if you know him before he got married. You are going out with the guy may be because he spoils you with money and alot of goodies which your boy friend can not. This means that you are not satisfied with what you have. how can we be sure that even if you get married, you will not be jumping from onw man to another.

Let me ask you. How do you feel when after meeting with that guy, you will go and see your boy friend? How big is your love that it will acomodate two men.

Na wa ooooo.

@turninback

Do really want our advice or you just want to post a thread.

I don't know what you mean by my sister. but I assume, it is sister as an english word "sister" and not sister as someone from the same place as I may close a female relation that come from the same state with me.

If she is your "blood" sister and she broke up with a relationship, what you should do is to reconcile them and not to take the advantage of it and start dating the guy. That means that if she is married. You will date her husband. What you did is felony. You have disgrced your family. Your family name is at stack. I only watch this in movie. For goodness sake what do you get from the guy that your sister's feeling is thrown to the gutter. If you are my sister. I will pour pepper for this thing,

Solution: While you take it or you will claim to love him hmmm?

Now go to your sister and apologies. Then go to the boy Bullshit!!!!!!!!!!!. Disgrace him!!!!!!! if you don't do that. I hope your mum is below 50. She will be the next victim.

Love is like a flower, It must been attended to. Watered, trimmed for it to flourish. In rainny season water is not needed, but trimming, while in dry season you need water and trmming.

It then implies that at every season or day of your love life there is a particular ingredient that is needed to flouish it. You should not use one way to nourish you love.

Love does not last only for those that got hooked because of lust for each. In relationship you have to understand each other, know what turns your spouse on & what turn him/her off. No head/tail relationship.

If your wife is making dinner, you can be do better by entering the kitchen to steal a piece of meat, just for her to call you naughty man, and you end up giving her a kiss, and walk back to watch your sports journal or listen to the news. Just be part of what your spouse does. It is no a woman's work or men's work. Just do something. Don't leave her alone.

Make dinner atimes. Let your wife watch you. It is all these sharing that make relationship last. If you play boss. Your relationship will end soon.

The story said it all.

Girl should learn from that.

You see a girl that you are older than and she will tell you that you are not her mate. Your class mate will be dating society men in your very presence. Then after they want you to marry them. You can not eat your cake & have it.

Those big girls are paying the prize since they refuse to date men within their level. A lady that is dating a married man either want to remain single or be second wife.

Am yet to understand why some women like married men to single men. I can't imagine myself sharing a woman with someone, no mater her position.

Nagging wife?

Why do women nag? Do men nag too?. Do women really enjoy nagging. I seen that if what people are suggesting in this forum is implmented, all women will start nagging.

You wife naggs, then you get yourself a fine babe that will not nag at you. Your wife naggs may be because you can home late, you decide to sleep in the office.

your wife naggs because you did not do something, you made a promise to do it when you know you will not do it.

What is all these going to achieve. Nothing but more nagging. Is like someone that said that his body is scatching him, then went to bathe with coco yam water.

my broda, if your wife is nagging what you will do is to put yourself in her shoe. Find out what she complaining of. Nagging is a way of seeking your attention. There is something your are not doing well. There is issue somewhere that needs your attention. Think of what she is saying. If she really nagging?? Or are you the one giving her stress.

When you wife nags, do not respond, if possible record what she is saying, at your convenient time, replay all she said, ask yourself question in all she said. You will discover that actually she is making some sence, is just that we men naturally does not want our wife to look as if they are in control.

@coco

I disagree with 101%. If you can not do that while am arr\ound, it then means you can hide other things from me.

My wife does all those thing in my presence. I am comfortable with that. She is mine and I don't see anything wrong with that.

Yes I will trust my friend. I don't make friends easily. But the few I have, I trust them.

I know many people have been disappointed by their so called friends, I beleive that whoever disappoint you is not your friend. Your friend should be able to be there for you.

What most people fail to understand is that the sisters or brothers of your friend is not your friend. Your friends friend may not be your friend. If you get that into your skull, you will be happy with your friend.

Most of the problem people have is that, they don't know who is their freind. The person they thought is their friend is just a close associate. My colleagues in the office are not my friends. My fellowship members are not my friends. We talk, gist, talk about everything, but they are not my friends. I limit what I discuss with them.

Think of the people you thought are your friends and check if actually they are friends, colleague, even school mate or fellow church member.

Yeah, some men are not worth the sacrifice.

Same for guys too, some girls are not worth sacrificing for.

@mukina2
What sacrifice are talking about? Please elaborate. Sacrifice of what?

I will help my child to read his or her book. I will do everything possible to make sure that they are wiel equiped educationally. I will allow them to choose whatever course or profession that want to go into.

But one thing I will not do is to support them in cheating. I will never encourage them.

Cheating is removing the confidence in yourself. You have accepted defeat.

If I should encourage my children to cheat, am equally telling them that they are not capable of doing that by themselves. I am making them inferior and less that other people that do it themselves.
And they can not stand with courage to beat their chest to defend the result they got from that exams.

Say no to cheating in examination. Do't allow your child to chheat.

My phone!!!! Very valuable assets.
1. Wakes me up every 5am
2.My to do list on it
3. Just spoke with my mum this morning
4. My wife just sent me a text, to find out what I will take for dinner
5. My junior in the office heading to our headoffice, just called me now that he is at 3rd mainland bridge.
6.At home I browse with it as I don't have Internet connectivity at home.
7. should I countine ,

Those that their phone is nuisance, please give me contact address, I will personally come and remove the nuisance from you. Seun take note!!

Whether a woman should be ordained priest or imam is just being discussed because the church and mosque has failed in their duty of giving the word of God. We are in a period of church or mosque business. That is why seun is talking about competition. Competiton in giving God's word and instruction to his people? Competion  for what?
Compassion for people that are living in sin, so that they will perish, lucifer will love this.

In the days of Jeremaiah, Isaiah, Deborah, Esther and Amos, etc. they were chosen by God to deliver his word and Instructions to his people, there was no competition. They were not ordained by man. When God choose them, God gave them the instrument to work for Him. If God choose a man or a woman to deliver his word, the person will do it and people around will know that. There are woman chosen by God; Esther, Deborah, Ruth, etc. They performed their duty crditably.  They were not made leader of the people or Priest in the synagogue just because they are called by God.

If a woman is called by God let her do her duty, God made man the head of the family. A woman can exist without actually being the head of a church or mosque and without being ordained.