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Slikbae:
Why would any sane person liberately stay away from their mother when she's not trying to kill them?

34 years of enduring suffocation.

This is a very positive thread. Thanks op

Dayg88:
I do not engage in conversations like this because they are usually gender sensitive. That being said, if you read the post carefully, you will understand the message being passed across was never about men being saints or women being the cause for break ups. The message applies to both parties. It is okay if you do not know what you want. But it is bad if we do not know what we do not want. If you (either the guy or the lady) are actually worth keeping, anyone would go any length to make you(in the same context) theirs. A year in a relationship is enough to deduce what we do not want or like in our partners. I just do not support the word dump. It is derogatory.

much as I agree with you on other points, I disagree with you on target audience. The original post was targeted at females. Men don't usually date men in Nigeria presently.

Ekiseme:
being single does not mean that the man doesn't have anything to love,

Is it not better to be single than to in a union that your peace of mind is not guaranteed?

loving things is different from loving people. My main point is, if you find yourself breaking relationships because the other party is always at fault in your eyes, you're wrong. If you're looking for the perfect person to relate with, you should narrow your search to only one person: God, cos you'll only find people whose temperaments are best suited to yours! Getting hitched is complicated, its also simple; Accept others, then you'll find acceptance too.

Israeljones:
typical example of a lady crying foul and a show of unintelligible comment..
mind you everything up there is not meant for me... am in my late 20s....i have seen and relate wif smart and intelligent ladies, definitely we have a chunk of them still in this country...... but its a pity wif comment like urs i wonder if any still exist here on NL

unintelligible? If my post was, you wont have known what to reply with!!!

skales67:
A classical representation of what you are passing through from my reply without a solid clue of what to say.

i am not going to insult you

skales67:
It's obvious you are living a "Googled" life and have no thought processes of your own so I don't need to banter with you since my IQ is supposedly higher and not depended on search engines. Even a sexdoll is smarter. Enjoy your robotic life.

pained

teelady:
you have a point but at the same time you dont, most of this generation ladies this days are just liability looking for who to prey on, yes am a lady I just said that, painful to be against the sisterhood, but the truth needs to be told, most ladies are only creative in bed and thats that, very cheap, hungry for material things, lacks in intellect, non productive and what do we call this set of people by the way? a blood socking pest, who wants that definitely only a stupid and myopic man.



And to the guys jumping from one lady to another I dont blame you much, if ladies choose to be intelligent to know what they can work with rather than spreading legs here and there I bet, u lots won't have a choice than to be morally upright and be of good conduct, meanwhile awoof dey run belly.....what you are jumping from one place to another for, you go soon see am....disgraceful generation, spit.

a morally upright person does not need external motivation to do right.

Jman06:
Op, stop wasting your mb on advising ladies! They will never change!

Finding a lady with wisdom is a very strenuous task because it is like looking for a pin in haystacks.
Some of them prefer to learn after being wounded while others don't learn at all but would continue to fall over and over again while blaming every other person but themselves.

sometimes an advice that looks good will meet stiff reactions when it is perceived to be given in a condescending manner!!

Ekiseme:
you can't be serious

state your reason

Dump, dump, dump. Ladies are not disposable, if you break up with them, they'll find someone else. Stop being shortsighted, the world is way too big for you to be hung over a past relationship.

Gangster1ms:
These girls thinking they are doing u favour by dating u and that's why u see most of them misbehaving.. meanwhile the real person doing the favour is the guys.. they are helping the girls miserable life sef. My God.. u don use konji scatter this world.. take away that curse from we men and u see these women cry blood cos we no go send them at all!

you can get sex dolls

Blonchilli:
Little minds. See how myopic girls are attacking Toks2008 personality instead of the idea. No wonder all their relationship end online. Attack the idea with intelligent reasons people not the person

Its called walking the talk.

skales67:
And who told you a single man is lonely? Or you want to start dictating and making permutations about the lives of single men? Pls grow a brain

brains don't grow dear, Google it.

Toks2008:
Lol! it depends on how you read my threads...if you read them upsidedown then you will think it's about hatred for women but if you read it the normal way you will realize that it is in their best interest.

and why do you care so much about their interests?

AZeD1:
Bros you are still stuck in the 80's, this is 2018 lots of girls are hanging with guys just for sex. The moment they meet another, it's off to next one.

You need to keep up.

seems he's from the previous generation

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
He is a divorcee. Perhaps he's taking his time now.

So, ladies should pity a male divorcee even though he seems to blame them for his present marital status..

Israeljones:
comments made by ladies on the 1st page is one of the reasons why we now have so many single moms.... If a lady still have 'there are many fishes in the sea' syndrome.... the world of single moms just got started.....


All the ladies that have commented so far shows the kinda ladiees we live with in this country... So so unintelligent... on a thread like is either u argue for or against.. these ones are busy attacking the OP...

little wonder, their pair reported a rape case to the media and not to the appropriate authority...Lady so dumb

It's a pity. The same set of people who ask others to be objective refuse to do so themselves. I think a single mother is better off than a man single at 40. At least she's got someone to love. Single lonely men have a very high tendency for many health problems. Getting hitched helps men live longer. Google it.

mgtow:
I quite understand your point dear. My own point is that women should learn to do away with victim mentality. All the things the OP listed (of which most are valid) will not change the way the people in our society act and behave. These beliefs and values have been passed down from generation to generation on the basis of religion, ethnicity and our values as a people. I don't believe this will change any time soon.

My point is, how does this stop a woman from achieving her full potential? IT DOESN'T! She can still go to school, graduate, make her own money and be the change she wishes to see within her circle of influence. This whole thing of bemoaning how women have it bad and men have it good is quite tiring because quite frankly life is kicking all our asses both men and women.

Ever wondered why men die quicker? It's hard on both sides.

Just wanna engage in a simple discourse o, no insults if you can manage that lol

you are so on point. As much as I recognise the challenges facing our women in this country and in this world, I believe the best way to fight the darkness of ignorance is to shine the light of knowledge. I intend to be a woman well admired by the coming generation and to leave the world better than I met it.
I believe I am born into the world at a time like this to first live free of stereotypes then teach others how to.

mgtow:
I quite understand your point dear. My own point is that women should learn to do away with victim mentality. All the things the OP listed (of which most are valid) will not change the way the people in our society act and behave. These beliefs and values have been passed down from generation to generation on the basis of religion, ethnicity and our values as a people. I don't believe this will change any time soon.

My point is, how does this stop a woman from achieving her full potential? IT DOESN'T! She can still go to school, graduate, make her own money and be the change she wishes to see within her circle of influence. This whole thing of bemoaning how women have it bad and men have it good is quite tiring because quite frankly life is kicking all our asses both men and women.

Ever wondered why men die quicker? It's hard on both sides.

Just wanna engage in a simple discourse o, no insults if you can manage that lol

you are so on point. As much as I recognise the challenges facing our women in this country and in this world, I believe the best way to fight the darkness of ignorance is to shine the light of knowledge. I intend to be a woman well admired by the coming generation and to leave the world better than I met it.

kaluxy007:
I pity girls of my generation sha, they've already redefined themselves as object for sexual satisfaction alone
if you don't have laptop you will be disgraced openly as though its the essential requirement for dating

probably that's the caliber of women you have been meeting. I have met women who are so advanced that I wonder if present day Nigerian men can keep up with them!

Gkay1:
if u treat Nigeria woman well, den will call u mumu
if u treat dem bad, people will blame u.
JUST TREAT THEM THE YOU SEE THEM

you do not need outside opinion to determine your self worth. Your post shows that a good percentage of males live by pack mentality. How can you head a home if you cannot uphold good and right principles without needing the approval of friends and acquaintances? It is well with our men.

Tobiloba84:
What about you coming out as a female that you are and never have to disguise as a male? That aside OP, we world is created and designed in an orderly manner and most things that wants to equate women to men if done would cause a lot of imbalance. N. B:this isnt an approval that women are less human or should be treated as such. Just know your place abd act accordingly. My 1kobo tho

Your 1 kobo is very bad. I only pity the females in your sphere of influence. Unfortunately for you, women of this generation are not archaic and we will not allow male chauvinists like you to determine our future. The world will remain inbalanced until both genders learn to respect each other.

sarrki:
Yes
I love my president
I am a patriot

Your patriotism stinks, it's motivated by money!!!

Cyynthialove:
Nairaland visitors, pls don't take that goat that commented ist serious.
He's under payroll, that's why he's struggling to occupy the front page while defending this satanic government led by Lucifer's last born ( Buhari).
Imagine one person made a first, second and third comment on one thread, this is to tell you how desperate he is to defend this government just because of little change he gets from the government without considering the feelings of majority of Nigerians who are suffering because of the hardship Buhari inflicted on them ( Selfishness and wickedness of the highest order ).
Monitor his moniker and stop seeing him as a serious being.

I just typed this just because of some nairaland visitors that would be influenced by his stupid comment. I am saying out of experience because I was very gullible when I was just a visitor.

I repeat, don't allow his useless comment to influence you.

Fifteen thousand Naira per month for entry level e-warrior. I don't like calling people names though.

biacan:
Excuse me chikita is he not your boyfriend you have the right to check his phone either he likes it or not he's yours alone not to be shared by anyone and when he refused break up with him...... I hope it helps

You can't lay claim on someone who hasn't paid your dowry

profolaolu:
"But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea" what is the first thing U see? this one was spoken by who? and if Jesus do not spoke about it directly does that mean his Apostles and disciplines did not speak about it, so in order to please yourself U have decided on what scripture to obey or interpret,"All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:"
For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope

I knew you would do this. I also know you will stay stuck with your fears. I replied you to clarify that Christ never at any time asked believers to wear rags to please Him.

profolaolu:
When I want to define stupid,I refer to this oneBeing a Christian is about modesty, not reveal any tempting part and shape of her body,that is Christ teaching

Christ never preached about dressing.
STOP MISREPRESENTING CHRIST

JULIE1925:
Yaaazz! Say no to FAKE HAIR, FAKE LASHES, FAKE NAILS, FAKE BAGS, FAKE CLOTHES & DAMN FAKE SHOES..


Jesus don't accept counterfeit in heaven

how did you know?

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Bossontop:

Dis pipu mata no dey eva finish nii

the boy will continue to be the subject of court cases until he turns 18 and gets the legal guts to tell his parents to buzz off. Btw the judge could have ruled that she save the proceeds in a trust fund and appointed the father as the trustee. That way they will know better than to use the courts as a means of showing off their power

Stegomiah:
Dirty pig

Body shaming is bad. How would you feel if someone called you a goose?