headofschool:
I am a practical Christian so let me tell you why I choose to live in a Christian way.
1. in our culture human who monitor the proceedings of the gods were also some kind of gods. when they get angry, they can conjure the spirit of the gods to do evil to another fellow just because they are angry . I have learnt in Christianity that God is alive. Therefore the priest/pastor would only let his/her grievances out to God and God can decide to give him utterance like Elisha or God can fight for him like Daniel, like me too. Above all, God cannot be manipulated. An ogun worshipper can conjure tricks to kill an honestly flourishing young man, ogun will kill the man who has not done any harm. the ogun worshipper may later realise his mistakes years after but deed has been done. they usually manipulate osun goddess to provide rain to disrupt activities of innocent people or sango to strike a young and promising village man abroad. this does not happen with people who serve a living God. God cannot be manipulated. He sees you, He knows your heart decisions, he knows what you are about to do even if the person right next to you does not know.

2. Christianity completely removed the need for blood sacrifice (human or animal). I only need a name. how sweet is that?? can you imagine if we have to kill a goat in this present economy to appease the gods?? (if you want to talk about tithe and offering..don't go there. in those days farmers take produce to appease gods too especially hunters just to secure their safety in the next season/trip). imagine using 89 keys to enter your house before and now there is a secure smart-voice-control, how easy and cool is that??

The reason why we have adulterated christians nowadays is simply because of fear and laziness. some have become prophet's puppets , prophets tell them what to wear, where to go etc. some do not want to be identified with being an egungun worshipper or osun worshipper. A true Christian will read the word of God, which is the mind of God, the Bible.

Those are the two reasons why I became a Christian asides from gift of salvation

May God see you through in your faith journey.

efficiencie:


Judah slept with the wife of his sons, why can't you do the same today? Isaiah walked the streets of Jerusalem for 3 years totally naked, why can't you do the same today? John the Baptist ate only locust beans and wild honey, why can't you do the same today? Moses fasted and prayed for 80 days, chai, why can't you do the same today? You humans will always find a way to justify your ugly and ridiculous fantasies.

A good tree brings forth good fruits, an evil tree brings forth evil fruits.


Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.


Those individuals you quoted are not Christians.

checky619:


I AM GOING TO BE VERY BLUNT WITH YOU
YOU ARE A VERY USELESS MOTHER IF NOT THE MOST USELESS MOTHER IN THE WORLD, YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND DO NOT DESERVE CHILDREN NOT EVEN PETS, RATHER YOU DESERVE ROBOTS YOU CAN CONTROL AROUND, EVERYTHING YOU ARE SAYING IS YOUR HUSBAND THIS YOUR HUSBAND THAT, THEN WHAT IS YOUR DUTY AS A MOTHER? TO OPEN LEG AND BORN CHILDREN LIKE CHICKENS? I FEEL SO BAD FOR THAT BOY, YOU MAY EVENTUALLY LOOSE HIM IF HE DECIDES TO TAKE HIS LIFE. I HOPE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND CAN STILL CONTROL HIM AROUND WHEN HE IS DEAD. THE ONLY SOLUTION TO THAT BOY IS FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND TO SIT HIM DOWN ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS AND GIVE HIM WHATEVER HE REQUESTS FOR EVEN IF IT IS MONEY FOR RENT, HOW CAN A 21 year old FIRST BORN FOR THAT MATTER BE LIVING THE LIFE HIS PARENTS ARE DECIDING FOR HIM AND YOU EXPECT HIM TO BE ALRIGHT.
SHAME ON YOU AS A PARENT.

I'm surprised that you, a Nigerian man, is complaining about a submissive wife.



Is she not submissive enough? She kept her home, she bore fine kids, is that not the virtuous wife material you're all dreaming about?


A woman with a mind of her own would never allow anyone, not even her own husband to tinker with the life of her children, but you people will never marry their type because you want doormats that you can control.




This is the result.

Blendy77:


Truth is the boy will contact his Dad with or without her permission if she keeps preventing him. Kids can access facebook from anywhere including neighbors, school and church friends. She is even lucky he asked first, which shows he's s a good boy but the truth is curiousity may not let him be that good boy for long if she keeps preventing him. Not this generation of kids and smart phones everywhere. Let her allow him contact his father, that way she will still hav a little control over him and she might be lucky he will tell her whatever they discuss but preventing him and he contacts him outisde without ur knowledge, it will be very difficult to get him under ur control and u might even give the Dad the opportunity of brainwashing him.

On a second thought, the man might not even want to keep in touch with him especially if his italian family is not aware of his Nigerian wife and kids. So still allow him, at least that way the boy will kno the father hes killing himsef over is not even worth the stress. In summary, Madam allow him talk to the Dad, its also for u and his good cos u dont even kno what the boy is going thru inside. Your son still loves you irrespective of wanting to reach his Dad hence his swwking permission, dont make him start keeping thgs away from u and talking to outsiders. 15yrs is no longer a child so dont do things that will make your child start hiding things from u. All the best

Go back and tap quote on the first post, so that the person who needs it can see it.

ABANGWABOI:



Una go just open mouth waaaa AAA dey yarn dust ..
Marriage favours Men than women but na una dey use I AM MARRIED brag ...
Na still una dey do Thanksgiving and Testimony for getting married...
I can go on and on....
Just close your mouth and better still use yitur Anus if you no get wetin to talk...

So, when they're looking for someone that has sense, you sef go show face.

ChybuzzDD:


Can you give more evidence to justify the bolded, please?

Google is your friend bro

Olamidegal:
my husband does not want my family to interfere in our marriage at all, he does not like any member of my family because when I was pregnant, there was a time we had issue and my mother called him to take things easy with me and all he got really angry and was rude to my mom he said my mom was supposed to instruct me to come beg him not preach to him to thread softly because whenever we have little issue he takes it to his family and his sister and dad are there the next day compelling me to kneel and Beg him. He told me that day that my family does not matter in the marriage that its only his family that matters cause they are husbands family. I try not to involve my family in any issue after that cos i really hate the way he spoke to my mom

Any man that disrespects your own mother should never climb you again.


Unless he apologizes.


You have no business in that marriage where they are refusing you access to your own family, that's isolation.



If you don't do something about it, by the time they are done with you, you will become a bitter woman. Or worse, he will start beating you and no one will help you.


1. Let your family know all that is going on

2. Ignore their malice, both husband and his family.

3. Start locking up your things, a small padlock costs #250, lock the kitchen, cupboards, wardrobes, travel boxes, everything, and carry face.


Try and focus on your kids, when you're angry, go out to cool off.



You have done no wrong as far as I can see, your in laws are bad people.

Dearlove2me:
The same people that condemned divorce will come up to ask the woman why she has not left the man earlier.
Sometimes, divorce is the right thing to do. So that the both parties can restructure their path.
They're actions and behavior expected of a married person. If you can't behalf right to your partner, is not bad for your partner to divorce you and let you go.
Even God the creator of the whole world does not impose himself on humanity. He allow us to follow him willingly.

Exactly, if a person cannot do what is expected of a married person, his or her partner should help them to become single.

fortyishcouga:
I saw a thread where a lady was sharing her marital issues and a number of people wondered why she couldn't simply walk out.

They didn't get her reluctance. But I do.

When the issues are not life threatening or DV related, it is a tough to take that step. Yes, it could guarantee a woman's rest of mind, but at what cost? For instance, leaving a marriage because you have both grown apart mentally and emotionally would be tough when you think of how it will affect the kids both now and in the future.

I feel most people who throw the word divorce around with ease are not married themselves and do not get the complexities of marriage.

As long as the wife is the only one willing to make efforts on her marriage, she is married to herself.


Is it not better to stay alone than with an unsupportive spouse?

Scientists have established through research that marriage favors men more than women, and this is true all over the world.

Why hold on to something that will shorten your lifespan, reduce your quality of life, restrict your economic prospects, etc, the list is long.


People don't throw that word around frivolously, it's something women should start to embrace fearlessly because a lot of men are not ready to give their fair share of commitment anyway, so, majority of women are married to themselves.


Did you see the latest news flying around?


A man gave his nursing wife HIV 1&2 plus hepatitis C! If she had left him, she won't be in this mess. Now a baby is involved. Divorce saves lives.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello fams sorry to bother you again i need your advice please , my son is nearly 15 last year when their father came from italy he contacted me via facebook requesting for my number. I rushed here to asked for advice and you have advised me to give him my number which I did, he called to tell me that he want to 100% support his children with the condition that I have to give them to his sister to take care of them which I refused. I didn't hide anything from my son I have explained everything to him because I don't want someday for his father to corrupt him with fake stories that I was the one who didn't allow him to see them, my son was very disappointed why would his father want them to live with the aunty who hasn't bothered to check on them for 9 years, he said my decision was right because I love them and I don't want them to go and suffer like he did when he was with my brother and his family. It is over a year now haven't heard anything from their father and on sunday my son asked for my permission if he can contact his dad on facebook, my son has a facebook account which is controlled by me , he doesn't have a smartphone so he use my phone to access his account. He said he is a big boy and he want to chat his dad to ask him why he refused to take care of them while they are still in my care , i told him he should not bother himself God will help us but the boy was begging me to please allow him to contact his father , I even shouted at him out of anger i called him ungrateful human being, he cried and apologised to me but I came to realize that he is now a big boy he only want answers from his father and to form a relationship with him only if the father will also see it the same way. I asked my brother for his opinion he said i shouldn't allow him to contact him the father may think that i am the one who sent the boy to beg him to do his duty as a father and he added nobody beg a parent to provide for their children. So far I have taken the advice my brother has given me but my mind is not in peace i keep thinking about it ,i feel like i am not being fair to my son and I should allow him to contact his father, I am taking care of all my 4 children alone as a single mother and i will never stop any of them to have a relationship with their fathers as long as things are taken to the right channel. please help me with your advices should i allow him to contact him or i should let the matter slide ?

If I were in your shoes, I would tell my son to delay contact with his father, then I'll enroll him to learn a skill.


Only when he has become financially stable will he be allowed to have a relationship with him, it's more difficult to manipulate a man who feeds himself.

This is why I always say this.:

Once a spouse cheats in marriage, the marriage is over in the sight of God, they are both only holding on to a sinking ship.



This wife could have had a beautiful change of story if she had gone to God once she caught her husband, but no, she dug her ditch deeper.



She should just end the marriage and keep the baby with or without the new man's support. All the best.

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

You are not serious, why should I give you advise?


If someone slaps your father in front of you, will you run online to ask for advise?


You are very slow

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FirstSon001:
I’m quite sad to be honest…..

I’m going to be 23 this mid year and it’s getting tough. Relocated to pursue my dream and now parents putting unnecessary pressure on you.

Me that is living with someone for now pending when I gather money for rent due to how expensive this state is.

But nah, parents believe you don’t have responsibility and what are you doing with money but rather putting heavy responsibilities of your siblings and their demands on you.

I’m not even married for goodness sake. How do I progress in life if I start taking such heavy responsibilities. I’m doing my best in a little way till I gain strong foot hold from savings of my new job.

Agony of a first and only son.

Agony of a guy who does not know how to say no

Jestin:
Running to Berlin in next summer. Free Wi-Fi connection go full pool side

You just wan run enter jail

Kobojunkie:
No right thinking human being should tolerate such nonsense.

A lot of Nigerians carry wrong thinking around.

Isabi4lov:
Obviously it's only a jobless woman that will be afraid of leaving a bad marriage.

As for me cheating is a deal breaker for me .

They don't know.



Some women can't tolerate cheating and adultery, our feelings are valid.


No one should judge us for that.

4ward4:


Definitely we can never be.

Thank God, now paré bí isó

4ward4:


We have heard this lines ,over and over again. But when the man takes the step and send them packing, they end up reading the book of lamentation with lesson well learnt. Nothing dey street.

Mr man, we are not on the same wavelength, face your level, I face mine.

These men actually think they are special.


If you prefer your house help, no one is stopping you naw, only a jobless woman will be afraid of leaving a bad marriage.


Once you commit adultery, the marriage is already contaminated and should be dissolved.

pocohantas:
They were so happy and friendly. They asked me to take pictures of them and post on TikTok. That they are not scammers and are not hiding either. Hahahaha!

This guy in the picture made me laugh out loud.


Thanks for posting this, it's very useful.


Now I know where to go for anything aluminum and mirrors.


Seeing hardworking and honest Nigerians warms my heart.

Chinelo154:
8 days ago my mum left with my 3 siblings she has rented a room where we are staying right now , she left because my dad was not treating her well , he hasn't worked for like 10 years and he has abandoned all the responsibility for my mum he still treat her bad to make the matter worse he has invited his brother, the brother wife and their 5 children to our house making my mum to carry the responsibility of 14 people in a 2 bedroom house , my uncle wife felt so bad seeing her fellow woman suffering so she has decided to leave with her 2 daughters my uncle has refused to leave saying he came to Lagos to make money and the wife has left their 3 sons with him , i have spoken to my mum friends about the situation which they've helped to convince her to leave the marriage for her sanity , it wasn't easy for her to leave because she didn't want to but i was suprised 8 days ago when she said that she has gotten a place for us and she was leaving my dad for goods i was so happy to hear that she was finally leaving him, it was a moment of joy and she went to work while my siblings and I have taken the opportunity to pack their stuffs in my dad and uncle absence, moving them to the new place my mum begged my brother and i to stay with them we refused telling her we will be fine we are happy she and the younger ones have moved and we will manage just fine , i returned home at night my dad was on neck to tell him where my mum was , i said i have no idea he started shouting at me I have made her to leave i will not known peace, he was talking ongoing and i remained quiet only for me to returned back tonight to meet him at the front asking me to go back to where I came from he said he will allow me in when i bring my mum. , i asked him to let me get my clothes he refused to let me inside , i begged him to threw the bag outside he refused saying he will not allow me to take anything and i was still standing there pleading with him to give my clothes then my phone rang, it was my friend i answered the call while i was on the phone my uncle son came at the back of me and snatched the phone he ran to where my dad was and gave him the phone , i couldn't go closer.my dad because he was holding a belt to prevent from approaching him , he was telling me if i approached him he will hit me with the belt , i started crying begging him to give me my phone i will leave but he said no, i should first bring my mum back, i left in tears i am at my mum place i told her what my dad did to me and she was no happy but her response shocked me and it she is already thinking about going back to him just 8 days she left and her reasons are she don't want my dad to curse me and she will go and talk to him so he can forgive me and give me back my belongings, i told her i didn't insult him or disobey him and his curse will not touch me also told her to forget about my belonging i will save money to buy new ones but she is still adamant that she has to meet with him on thrusday and i strongly believe that if she meet with him they will get back together and she will move back with him sometimes I don't understand why my mum like suffering i swear if she get back with him i will cut ties with her i will move to a far away from all of them and will never have anything to do with them anymore sorry for the long story and please advise me

You are in for a long ride.



If you maintain your mum's new place, she will make you return home.


If you return home, you will find it difficult to improve your situation.


Sorry.

Bananapill:


They are not Christians. It will be wonderful for the righteous and terrible for the unrighteous before the White Throne of Judgement.
Let them say whatever they like and live as they please, that day there shall be no escape and neither will social media protect anyone.

I wonder how these people think,



Zero fear of God


With the little I've seen, E go shock them on the judgement day, The Lord will truly deny so many people.


Many people working iniquity in secret and in the open, they will have their part in the lake of fire.



How can anyone hear that and calm down if not that the devil has blinded their hearts.



Lord have mercy.

Isabi4lov:

I wonder how the whites will preach about it , since God is against it , it seems they'll do another bible to fit in their homosexuality acts .

Nigerians are taking over from the whites , the act is spreading like a wildfire.

White or black, great or small, King or pauper, from president to messenger.



All sinners will end up in Hell.


There is still time for everyone to repent now.

olisaEze:
A homosexual and the person that picked the six hundred & fifty Naira that fell out of my pocket yesternight are both going to the same hell. 😌

Exactly, sin is sin.




Even corrupt INEC officials and those liars campaigning on Nairaland these previous months.



Judgement is coming.

AndroidAI:
Homosexuality is nothing but a sexual orientation, an attraction.

A child is born, and upon hitting puberty, discovers that he or she is attracted to the same gender.

Confused at first, they wondered why they had no romantic attraction to the opposite gender.

They feel differently, and without a support system they end up isolating themselves, trying to figure out the hows and whys.

They never created themselves, nor do they have control over this attraction.

But homophobia, propagated by religion, leads them to hate themselves, to the extent of suffering from internalised homophobia.

This is when a homosexual fight and bullies other homosexuals to avoid suspicion.

And they can be very convincing.

In nature, we have counted over 1500 species that engage in homosexuality.

Unfortunately, homophobia exists in one, humans.

The beauty of life lies in our differences. You can't hate someone because of his race, beliefs or sexuality.

Live and let live. Love is love. God, the Universe, nature.

Whatever we choose to call it, we are all at their mercy.

Love is love.

God will not change His principles to suit your wishes.



If you like, wake up tomorrow and say you are sexually attracted to an object, God's truth remains.


He still loves you and He wants you to get to know Him.


I hope you understand, you are the one that needs to bend your will to suit God.

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am gradually falling into depression and I am 5months pregnant.

I have a brother I love so much. We are just 2 and I am older than him. Honestly this boy has taken advantage of being the only son to be extremely misbehaving. With the little money I am making from my business, I have tried several times to set up a business for this boy. My daddy has sold all his land just to see this boy grow but he always end up squandering everything on drug. He has been to psychiatric hospital on 2 different occasions and I was the one that paid for every dime spent there. He has a girlfriend that is just like him, very rude, mannerless and nasty. She has unapologetically insulted everyone including my parents. My brother is 32years and has lived with me several times before getting an apartment.

So recently a prophet told my dad to get him a wife and he will never misbehave again and can also start giving birth. My brother insisted on marrying his girlfriend which everyone was against but my dad just have to do it. My poor dad spent his hard earned money on the marriage rite and paying for their apartment, the girl got pregnant. I promised to buy all the baby things they will be needing. For the past 6 months, my 75yrs old father has not been working and feeling well. I have been the one taking care of all his responsibilities both feeding and medicals. My dad will always call to report my brother wife to me that the girl is always asking him money in very rude manner. At a time, I told my dad to stop picking her calls. Last year Nov, my brother asked me for 200k which I told him I don't have because the 1m I gave him before was wasted.

So I invited my dad to lagos so I can take him to a good hospital and my brother and his wife came to visit him. After much talk, I told her to never call my dad and ask him money again because the man is no longer working and sick. She said she has not been asking my daddy money.
I asked her if she's calling my daddy a liar and she said yes my daddy is a bloody liar and I am so stupid to believe what my daddy told me. I told her to leave my house and she started screaming and abusing me. My brother stood there and also joined her abusing me telling me that if I can't accept his wife then I should forget about him. The wife refuse to go, she told me to do my worst. Thank God for neighbours that intervene before she left.

It's been 3 months I ended every relationship between me and my brother. Now my parents is calling me that I should make peace with my brother. My mother has been supporting my brother and show it clear to me that he's more important than me despite everything I am doing for her. She has been the one pushing my dad to tell me to call my brother and make peace with him. I told my father I can never do it and both me and my kids will never have anything to do with his son and his family again. I love my father so much and I have noticed he don't pick my calls again like before. Honestly I wish I have the mind to block all of them and just concentrate on my life and kids. But I can't just forget my father like that and I can never beg my junior brother too. I don't just know what to do

They are telling me he's a man and I shouldn't expect him to beg rather I should be the one to beg him

Where is your husband in this equation?

Don't read this poster's story until you check out his previous stories

Emco1:
Thanks for the advice sir. One of the main reason ask her to quit her job was that the salary is too poor #20k although the boss usually give them up to #200k to #300k at the end of the year. I always give her #1000 to #1500 for transport and feeding everyday.

Even if a woman is bringing in #20 everyday, it's better than nothing.



Beg for her forgiveness, then encourage her to get another job no matter how small.


Next time you have money, always give her in bulk, not daily.


I wish you all the best.

demoBaba:



I think a year breast feed without additional food is okay for baby brain.

Don't forget to give her lots of money for food and let her drink plenty water.


Let her visit the clinic regularly for checkups even after delivery.


Congratulations.

reddingtonblack:





That it was a terrible, worst and tragedic administration for you does not mean it didnt favor some, the man that owns the filling station in my area changed cars 3 times just within the last 4yrs,
That i didnt build house within buhari administration does not mean no one is building house, that buhari policy didnt favour majority doesnt negate there are some people who enjoy buhari harsh policies, like the POS guyz & fuel attendants right now

Like i said find the appropriate thread for your mood and vent it all out, lets those wey get testimony do there own tew.

You don't understand, every milestone I crossed between 2015 and 2023 is in spite of this administration, not because of it.



Their plan is for me to stay in one place, but God pass them.



I cannot credit such people for God's goodness over my life, God forbid.




So, don't ask me to share testimonies of the faithfulness of the outgoing president in my life.





This administration failed woefully and horribly.

Biggeststar01:


1- BS
2- n power that has benefited the poor masses in what way?
3- 2 Niger bridge that who asked for? After excluding that while region from Nigeria economic benefits, they later found out that the region has natural gas and they build Niger bridge as a bribe or what?
4- good kini? Ori yen sare!!
5- census that confirmed that Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world? Una mumu too much


Enjoy your suffering, I no dey Nigeria and I won't be helping you suffer your suffer

Please note that the opinion of the poster you replied is fabricated and invented.


Nigerians know otherwise.

reddingtonblack:




Nairaland is a general platform with several threads, there is a section for everything, if you want to lament or wail all day simply find the appropriate thread and knock yourselves out.

Nobody is saying you shouldnt cry but find a crying venue, because you are sad does not mean everybody must be sad, what some people are just looking is stories to give them hope @least.... don't ruin it.

Oh, it's now my responsibility to whitewash a horrible administration so I can give hope to who?



Are you really located in Nigeria?



Have you spoken with the people?





Are you aware that you are gaslighting Nigerians right now?