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when2:
How many yards of wife material do you want OP?

I even have bundle quantities sef.



Plenty plenty


O por

EagleEyes306:
Hello folks,

I am looking for a lady that is ready for a serious relationship.

About me: dark (chocolate), tallish, athletic build, graduate student, comfortable starting a family with the little I make, easy-going, and ambitious.

About her: A virgin, AA, independent working class/graduate student/businesswoman, presentable/beautiful, 25- 33, 5ft 7 inches - 6ft tall, homely, hardworking, a serious Christian, intelligent, easy-going, and not big.

Please send me a PM if you meet these requirement and are interested or know anyone who might be.

You are looking for wife material.


Is it sequins,
Cord lace,
Velvet,
Velour,
Brocade,
Aso oke,
Guinea,
Ankara,
Silk,
Organza?



Which one do you prefer?


We have all of those at bundle quantities.


Don't forget the accessories too.

Happy Sunday

ojotobiloba1:
Hi Nairlanders and Happy Sunday, This is the first time i am doing this and pls be nice on me. Just paid house rent last Thursday and things re very difficult as putting food on the table is now a difficult task. I just need money to buy food at home to keep body and soul alive . Pls just show mercy on me as me and my wife re starving. May Almighty God bless anyone as we will never lack anything good in this life. 0049632249 Gtbank. Pls have mercy on me

I pray you find help soon, I understand how house rent gulps a lot of money for a lot of people.

May God keep your marriage intact.

Ekundayo7574:
Yes I don't give my tithe to any church I use to give that to my mum, I don't believe in any church as far as I'm concerned

This makes a lot of sense, your Mom prays over you, so, she's your priest.


You give her your tithe, which is your seed of honor, she blesses you, everyone goes home happy.


But the best way is to find a true man of God, they are rare in Nigeria, but they do exist.

Mindlog:
My day job is working with 15 year olds who are living in care (have been taken away from their families by the UK govt), so I see no reason this boy's case be considered worse.

I see

frozen70:
Dont mind him he is still learning, experience will teach him in a practical way

It shall be well

Brandiebird:
I guess you’d need empathy to feel Sorry for a child in the predicament in the op. This is a child. Many of us were rebellious, and little shits but it was through love, wisdom and support that we grew out of that stage and were able to redeem ourselves. This child has a story too! This sob story is the mother’s story. Can you imagine what he heard growing up? Can you imagine what he went through in the care of his father?

Both parents are selfish people who never should have brought him into this cold world! Every child is a blank sheet and the result is due to their environment. The only victim here is the child.

And it doesn't occur to you that selfish people beget selfish people?


Is there no link between the father's character and that of the child?


Absolving a 17 year old of responsibility for his actions, is that not a sure way of raising a callous, entitled adult?


Most responders here have come a long way to learn from various experiences, successfully passing through adolescence, thereby can be objective enough to call for a supervised period of real life learning for a soon to be adult.


Yet, our assessor deems all the people as inferior simply because of their perceived economic standing?



Mindlog, you have done your best, some people just need a little more time to learn, or maybe they will never learn, it's also okay.

Brandiebird:
I’m holding an adult accountable for her actions and her responsibilities while you hold a child responsible for theirs. Yes, you and everyone who shares your feelings are evil, poverty stricken, immoral people. You’d probably sell your mum to get an “opportunity” to go abroad.

Ps. I held both parents responsible but you focused on “loose” which is a trigger for you so maybe you should share the spotlight with me so you can see yourself clearly too.

Done responding to you!

Immoral, poverty striken people condemning a person willing to jump from home to home, without any sense of loyalty or empathy for a sick mother only in search for the most comfortable situation for himself, interesting.



Behold, we are fortunate to be blessed with the presence of the most moral individual whose luminance shows us our dreary, bleak personalities.



Praise be.

Brandiebird:
It’s scary to think you’re a mother or you’ll be somebody’s mother one day. Yes! She was a loose girl and she will meet her karma in her “new” children.

A woman you don't know, you are already hating, simply because you heard her story.



You're pretending to be scared for children who are loved and cared for just because their mother does not agree with your reasoning.


You want a "loose" girl to keep doing what you want because she is not supposed to have her own life.



You called every respondent on this thread bitter and depressed because you have a different opinion.



Turn the light on yourself, look closely at yourself, what you will see will disgust you.

Fineman2:
So I met this lady 2 weeks ago in school, she came for her project work.

She showed a lot of interest during our conversation which made me to collect her number, thereafter we continued chatting on WhatsApp and calling


She later said she will be coming to school and I told her to let me know so that I will meet her in school because I live very close to our school, infact I invited her to my place but she later postponed it and said she won't be coming again and said I should visit her instead.

I wasn't prepared for such outing that day so I told her to wait till Sunday and she agreed, we continued chatting on WhatsApp till yesterday Sunday morning, she called me early in the morning to inquire if I will still visit her and I said yes, she said by 12pm because she will first go to church.

When it was 11:30, I called her and she asked if I had left home and I told her very soon, she now said I should call her once I get to a particular location and give the phone to bike man so that she will give us the direction to her place.

I left home 12:10 pm, got to the location, negotiated with okada man, called her number but she didn't pick, I called the second time, she didn't answer so I thought maybe she wasn't with her phone.

I waited for her to call back but she didn't, after waiting for awhile without reaching her, I told the bike man to carry another passenger.

The last time I called her, she switched off her phone, I returned back to my house.

She hasn't called to offer any explanation after 20 hours and I'm just surprised.

Here is my question for ladies on this forum, is what she did okay? What do you think made her to behave that way?

I'm not the type that run after ladies up and down, I hardly do such thing, I've avoided women for most part of my life and such ugly experience will surely affect the way I relate with them anywhere I find myself

She must have learnt those tricks from your fellow man.


Ndo

eazzzy1:
If every mother disowns their rebellious teenagers there would be no children with mothers in the world. Your cousin was a rebellious teenager, she got pregnant at 19, did her folks disown her?

I understand the fear of not wanting to relocate the boy abroad but not picking his call and not wanting anything to do with him is an overkill.

The table your cousin thinks has turned in her favour is still turning. The mistake the boys father made in his youth is what your cousin is making at almost 40. When his father came back to his senses, he met an impressionable teenager, when your cousin comes back to hers it may be too late as her son would not be the child you can win over with sweets and biscuits anymore.

Tell the lad the truth as you have told us, your mom wants nothing to do with you, she wants to focus on starting a new family.

I can't wait to see her rich, full, happy future without dead weights in her life.

Brandiebird:
Just a few points I noticed….

1) A child wanted his biological father’s name: nothing wrong with that.

2. He wanted to live with his father: his right and as a child he was probably damaged by his mother and father’s actions.

3. He is being manipulated and abused: He probably understood the drama around his birth and then his father became abusive after manipulating him.

4. This is a child we’re talking about: Most importantly!!!! A child who knew nothing about life.


5. The mother was a loose girl who got pregnant out of marriage

6. The father was a manipulative predator

I just feel sorry for that child

Also, this place is full of bitter people! Home of the weak and depressed.

So, you want the "loose" girl to sponsor the boy abroad because he's a child.


A 17 year old child, hmm


You have no problem collecting money from "loose" girls.



Your hypocrisy stinks to the high heavens

nokia1000:
Woman said to her husband after 5yesrs in marriage: I don't want someone's body to touch when I am sleeping.
They slept that night without touching each other.
Next night the woman left their matrimonial room and started sleeping on her own.
If you were the man, what will you do?

Just shower and brush before going to bed.


Dazzall.

Zonefree:
- Ahnie, a woman, deviated from the subject matter.

- Frozen70, a woman, said she'll be reading people's comment cos she got nothing to say.

- Mindlog, a woman, is asking about the personal hygiene of the husband after 5 years of marriage.

- Kobojunkie, a woman, is suggesting he gets a marriage counselor to help beg his wife.

- Exodus15v11, a woman, is worried why the husband failed to ask the wife why she said that.


All these and more are the reasons why a sane man should never seek marital advise from women!

You will marry a woman, yet you don't want a woman to advise you about how to relate with her own gender.


Okay

100fix:
Shalom

Don't shalom me, when the woman caught in adultery was brought to Jesus, He said he does not judge her, but you, Nigerian zealots, you judge women.


May the Lord repay you for placing unbearable burdens on His flock.

100fix:
Thank God you you’re convicted of it now.

We are not speaking about the man, neither do we have any way to tell him.

even out at the expense of your own soul.
It’s an individual race.
Shalom

Convicted of what exactly, that you are a woman-hating psycho that is hiding under Christianity to perpetuate your hatred of women using religion.



You will receive God's just punishment for mislead the Lord's flock.

Mindlog:
But in this story na boyfriend/girlfriend tinz, they were never married. The boy's father went ahead to marry and have other children.

The woman has never been married, so nothing is holding her back.

Don't mind these evil false prophets.


If not that I got to know the Only True God, I would have hated Christianity not knowing that the Nigerian kind of Christianity is as erroneous as the Nigerian people themselves.

100fix:
She got pregnant in the cause, you think there were no commitments?

The moment you and your partner sincerely exchange promises to marry. That’s as good as married in the sight of God.

Not the ceremony.

You can shrug it off but you only cheat yourself, not God.
You’re tied to that man. You know this.

But the man is not tied to her abi, your own version of God allows men to "remarry" but women must stay lonely because in your opinion, they are already married to a man who blatantly rejected them.



Please and please, I don't know your kind of evil, one sided, misogynistic doctrine that brings no peace to females.


The God I know is not the God you're trying to portray.


Avoid me please.

CSTRR:
If your parents dealt with you very harshly based on your teenage mistakes, your life would have turned out very different.

Teenagers are teenagers for a reason.

And boys will be boys.

Nothing is wrong with him, as long as he has access to the same basic education that millions of children go through in Nigeria, nothing stops him from making a success of himself.

CSTRR:
A child is a child and an adult is adult.

We don't punish children with the hand of an adult.
Children are allowed to make mistakes without having it wreck their lives forever.

If that child is being maltreated in his father's house, leaving him there is unforgivable.

His mother is Abroad, let him communicate with his mother atleast, and with possible plans of relocation if he behaves better and finishes school well.

Unless his mother is ashamed of being a single mom, which I suspect.

It's okay to be ashamed of a child like this, he's just an opportunist trying to climb through his family to get the most comfortable place for himself.


If he dies today without knowing Christ, being above the age of consciousness, he will go straight to hell.



He's no longer a baby at 17.


With this kind of character, if calling police on his mother will help him qualify for scholarship funding, he will do it.


House chores nor dey kill person, as long as the family is checking on him occasionally, he should stay there.

100fix:
You are a very wicked person, yourself, if you don’t stop disturbing your cousin.

I hope you haven’t disturbed her to that extent.

The pressure from you can disturb her state of mind and make her begin to think of bringing the boy over. The boy is probably already doing internet fraud, or into various bad things.



Someone that sees this as an opportunity, instead of saying I’m no longer worthy to be called your child, take me as an hired servant I.e. I know I have done wrong, just forgive me first is all on my mind, he is busy having dreams of uk life.

Completely unrepentant, he will only wreck havoc there and drag her back and probably beat his mum, when he grows up with strange elements that’s are worse than him in the uk.

Let him show he’s doing something for himself, like some people have mentioned, probably even finish first degree in with good results. That will be a very good benchmark. And then watch him closely to see his mental posture.

He’s still young, There’s time. Let him prove himself, kind of like his mother did.

Or else, forget about him completely.

And it’s against the Word of God for his mother to remarry when she has a living partner as in Corinthians.

She can marry, she has never been married before.

Klass99:
Hmm Richy, you always make me smile sha. At the first bolded, there is nothing new under the sun na, were we not once teenagers oursleves? Were we without an ounce of common sense like this teenager has displayed? It is in every man to know good and evil, right from wrong, we are all born with that innate ability. It can be called a conscience and a guilty conscience is like an alarm that goes off within us, when we have done wrong. This boy knew what he was doing, he takes after his father - the apple never falls far from the tree.

2nd bolded - I am shaking my head and saying no, no, no, no to this. Zupay please none of you in your cousin's family should contemplate it. Let your cousin on her own be the one to indicate that she is willing and open to a reconciliation and reconnection. No one should pressure or compel her to do this on their timetable or the boy's pleading, complaints and suffer head. She needs to work this out by herself and reach a decision by herself without undue interference.

Last paragraph - oh I totally agree with you. I like and admire her for the guts it took, to walk away and put herself first. Too many women give up their lives for the sake of men (husbands & sons plus children) to the detriment of their souls and dreams. I applaud any woman who has the presence of mind to say, this is not right and enough is enough in a bad situation, after giving it her best and then walking away, to prioritise her well-being.

You are 100 percent correct, the woman in question experienced double pain, first from the father, then from the son.



I feel so much for her.


I also agree that if a person is bad, they are just bad no matter their age.


Let the boy learn from the other side of life, at least until he has his own children, then he will know the gravity of what he did to his mother.


I only wish the best for the woman and I pray no one will grieve her again in this life.

Berrityga:
So its been more than a year I met this beautiful woman, she is married with two kids females both above 10 years old. Her and her husband have been looking for a male child for many years now but the woman haven't taken in. So how it started!! I go to her house to work (home service) she is very pretty and welcoming, she is the kinda woman I want to settle down with, hard working and she is a great cook. She was very nice to me and also I was very trying to fill in the void of a male child for her so she liked me alot. I started sending her launch to her working place, surprising her with gifts once in a while, I think thats where I got her, on this faithful day I was in her place about to run up with work when her husband went out, I called her to let her know I'm done she said I should wait for her. Omo! When she walked in from the gate I couldn't take my eyes off her sexiness. To cut the long story short I summoned courage and held her and kissed her I thought I will receive a slap and warning never to come back to her house again. But I didn't thats how we had a quickie and I know she loved it cause that weekend after church she drove and came and picked me up we went to a hotel and i made love to her like she was a 16 year old girl. Fast forward a couple of months we continue having this sexcapades once in a while, sometimes quickie after I'm done with work and her husband isn't around. Now yesterday I noticed her body has changed and I asked her if she is pregnant she said yes that she is 3months pregnant and its a male child. I'm very sure the child is mine but she hasn't said anything. What should I do guys. What if this child come out looking exactly like me??

At three months you can't know the gender of a foetus.




Wait o, your own Joseph did not run away.


This story is fake

Ficklemind:
I really don’t know how to stop thinking, not even for a second my mind is always faraway please help I’m slipping away....

I’m a woman of 27years, lonely, don’t have a relationship, not financially ok , don’t have any skills even though I just graduated waiting for mobilization and I planned to acquire one while in service.

I never actually thought about life much till I graduated, I gained admission when I was 20years and I actually thought I still have much time to achieve a lot of things in life . It was now I realized how much time I had wasted in not paying much attention to my life even when I know that it never too late.

My financial life has been basically sponsored by me Incase you are wondering how I get funds to live by. Last year, I got a casual job , did a thrift business though not something big but I was able to saveup and was able to live on that even now I still have something I can depend on without asking from anybody by living within my limit.

My relationship life has been ok too, I left my last relationship early last year and that was the last time I got laid. It has not been easy to abstain but with determination here I’m going months without it. I must say I’m lonely, I crave to love and be loved yet I don’t want to get into any relationship now because I don’t want to fall into unsafe hands and having unnecessary sex.

I feel like a failure like I don’t have purpose for my life, I crave for intimacy but even if I get someone who likes me or wants to settle down with me I’m not sure I’m ready for that now because I’m not financially stable yet.

Is there something wrong with me or I’m just over reacting?

Are you not the same person that is still communicating with your married ex?


What you don't understand is that most life issues are not isolated, something always causes something.


You refused to move on, cut him out, open a new chapter in your life simply because your ex promised to give you guidance about men until you settle down. (as if men are that complicated, it's just a format)



I'm not a psychologist, but if you want to be happy, start by removing old things from your life, old clothes, shoes, bags, school notes, married exes, ex boyfriends, useless girlfriends, in fact, anyone that is not serving any purpose in your life, remove their contacts and relegate them to Facebook.

You are about to go for NYSC which is a new phase in your life, carefully curate a good life for yourself, don't carry baggages along so you can enjoy yourself.

I wish you all the best.

Ficklemind:
Good evening, please how do I politely tell my married ex to stop bringing back our past memories?

My ex and I separated on good terms, he is AS likewise myself so we had to go on our separate ways. It over 6 years that we separated but we still talk once in a while. I don’t have any feelings for him anymore but I don’t know about him and I don’t have any intention of seeing him either though we are far away from each other.

I don’t want to block him and I don’t want to offend him ,but when I take a picture with a random male friend and I upload it on my status ,he tells me he is jealous that the guy is an idiot for holding me or touching me. Asking for my recent pictures and sending me my old pictures that I don’t even remember existed.

This guy is married with a child. How to I politely tell him to stop all this because I don’t feel comfortable with them.

Someone that is trying to keep you available for sex, you're playing with fire.


You won't be able to have any meaningful relationship for a very long time.

How much is the price for your future?


Respect yourself and move on.

kingthreat:
Why is it that some ladies get easily pregnant in a relationship but when it comes to marriage, they now have problems conceiving.
One of my female friends, her only child is the one she had with her boyfriend while dating. Once they got married, they have been trying and trying but to no avail. Her mother-in-law greatly disapproved of the marriage.
Or should I talk of one of my neighbors who had 2 from different guys. Only for her to enter the marriage with a well-to-do man and problem happen. She can't blame the man either as he fathered one daughter when he was in his 20s.
A colleague told me it is spiritual, that some wicked people start reasoning some people's matter when they are married. This I don't want to believe. Will like to hear more opinions on this.

I think the mother in law is behind it.


I observed the same situation. In this case, they brought another wife for the husband after preventing the woman from having any more kids.



Medically though, there's something called secondary infertility but I have very strong suspicions about the mother-in-law.

Lamanii22:
My sister is not really the outgoing type, just home-work home… I was surprised when she even met this one… I think I agree with you on ‘waiting a bit’… would tell her

She should try and go out a bit, so that she can have options to choose from.


It's easy to think that a bird in hand is worth ten in the bush.

If she insists on going ahead, she should brace up for rude shocks coming her way.


Good luck to her.

Lamanii22:
So guys, my sister met a man like a year ago that is divorced, right now he wants them to take it to another level, like wedding level…. My sister is a single mother though, educated, working class, successful…. But my mom doesn’t agree to it, she’s only seeing the bad side…


So I would like to know if there’s anyone who has gotten married to a divorced man before.. I would also like to know the pros and cons…

This said man has been truthful so far though…

Waiting for comments! Thank you…

Isn't there any other man proposing to your sis?


Divorced men are a minefield in my opinion.


Marriage is a big deal o, every problem in the relationship will be amplified in marriage.


If it were my sister, I would ask her to wait a bit.

chris51:
He is lucky his wife gets on with his mother. With time he and his mother will sort out their problem.

Read my post again, what the wife needs is balance.

ambale:
The guy is lucky his wife took his mom has her best friend

By the time she choose another bestie we go hear the result

It's okay to be on good terms with a mother-in-law, but if a wife is too close, it's not good.

DONORJIR:
See Better woman, is she single

Eyah, she is somebody's wife o.


But God will give you your own.

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and i encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam. While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

You want to marry her because you supported her ambition to travel abroad.


Not because you love her.


Leave her alone and ask her to return your money.