Negroid001:


Awwwn. Sister Mary.
Lemme give you brotherly advice.
Thank God you said halfway important.
Don't marry a poor man.
You'll always regret. And prolly start blaming him for your misfortunes. Whereas, you picked him yourself.

Choose wisely.
Marry pablo, not bro Chike.

You say Pablo?


Wetin dey after 6 pass 7


You never hear say the bottom of wealth is disgusting

Negroid001:

You're insisting fidelity and loyalty is all.

Fidelity and loyalty can't pay bills or put food on the table. Relationship is not a bed of roses.
It's basically bills and spendings.

Chances are high you'll pick an extremely rich man who cheats over a poor man with loyalty and fidelity.

Fidelity ko, fidelity bank ni.

I will give an arm and a leg to be with a faithful man.


These are not empty words.


There is nothing more valuable in marriage to a woman than fidelity and loyalty, money is only halfway important.


No matter how important money is in marriage, and yes it is very important, just double it's worth, that is the importance of faithfulness.

pocohantas:


Someone to take care of him and his kids.
They always claim it is easy until they are left to do it. Then they start looking for another wife or shipping the innocent kids to their great grandmother.

Men do not benefit from marriage indeed...

If Eve were to be the first one created, there would have been nothing like marriage!


Men, from the very first moment the marriage starts, till the end of the marriage, are the major beneficiaries!


They can't live, literally, can't live without women.

dlawsamesq:


You don't know what you are saying. We have been together for five months now and I haven't kiss her not to talk of having sex with her

Your wife died early last year and you're already counting 5 months in relationship with another woman!


So, less than 1 year after your wife died, you are already shopping for another woman!

You can't even wait for the departed to decompose before replacing her, did she mean nothing to you?

How do you expect your children to accept another Mom when their loss is still raw?

You don't love those kids, their emotional stability means little to you because what they need right now is a Dad who shares the same feelings of loss with them, but you can't give them that!


I can't even say sorry for your loss because you definitely missed little.



Read this carefully:


Any woman that marries you is definitely of weak character, and you can't have a perfect marriage because you yourself lack good character.


Tufiakwa.

Negroid001:


Can you marry a poor man?

Why do you ask?

Nonywendy:

Wicked mother. When they were exchanging vows for better for worst, in sickness and in health she no knw

You people removed forsaking all others from your vows.


You are now shouting for better or worse.


Where are all your side chicks when you're in trouble?

Negroid001:


Moral of the story. Don't marry a woman from a poor background.
Don't marry a liability.
Don't marry someone who brings nothing to the table.

As a man, you're only valuable according to what you can provide. If you stop providing, you'll be ditched and called useless.

Take this home instead.


Fidelity and loyalty is the only saving grace for a married man.


Anything else will bring trouble.

Acidosis:


Then she has to do one, which is get a job and fund his treatment. The mother's advice is completely different.

Why should she fund his treatment?


Plus 4 kids?


Doesn't he have relatives?


Why put all those burdens on only one woman?

Abifarin16:
May God not allow us to be hard tested.
This is not your regular occurrence. The mother has money to send her abroad she no fit use that money pay for surgery? Hopefully he gets better, gets a job or his former job and pay her back. 4 kids at 26, she fit cope?
People be going through alot.

Use which money to pay for a man that is polygamous in nature?

How?

LilMissFavvy:
How the man treated her before the accident should help her take a decision. If he used to treat her badly or cheated on her, then she should know where to place him . His side chick should come and clean his poop, but If he was a good husband before the accident, she should not abandon him. She can travel to make money then be visiting him from time to time.

Nigerian women have bought landed properties at Vawulence Estate.


I love it

pansophist:


See this woman o, why are you giving me close marking? Or cant you tell the difference between a neutral discourse and intention?

I am not a polygamist and won't be. All I did was shine a torch at an angle that is probably not looked at when the discourse of polygamy is being discussed.

And no, women actually do engage in polygamy, both in consented cases and non-consented cases. I will give an example.

So you met a new guy that met all your list of what you want in a man, and in maybe a month's time, you guys started dating and of course, forking. Normal normal.

As time goes on, you realize that he also has other women like you, whom he rotate sexually on a weekly or even daily basis. In your mind, you have a guy, in his mind, he has a harem.

The above is an example of non-consented polygamy. And that is the dark side of the male mating strategy. It is optimized for quantity.

About consented polygamy, should I start mentioning well-known Nigerian polygamists? Come on, don't tell me you live under a rock.

Your celebrities are all polygamists. They have numerous baby mamas, or is it Ned Nwoko?

Also note that women actually want the same guy. It is known as the 80/20rule or the Pareto principle. The rule is simple. If you like a guy and your friends approve of him, then another girl likes him and her friends approve of him.

No be only you like better thing. No be only you like rich man. As in, the women you will share him are plenty. Opor gan .

Where the issue is, is for him to be a godly person, and not share his loyalty to you with other women. Otherwise, he can if he wants.

Come back to this thread when you're 70

pansophist:


polygamy is not Eldorado, it's not the best for everyone, and it has faults as well. My point is that polygamy is useful in some situations. And for jealousy amongst wives, let them orient themselves well.

jealousy amongst wives is not a feature, its a bug. The wives should de-bug themselves from jealousy, especially when they are not forced into it, and also were not treated unfairly by the man.

This particular post is very unrealistic, because no woman will ever accept polygamy.


Not even widows or women TTC.


No amount of orientation will change a natural tendency.


A particular religion has been around for almost 1500 years, still, it's female adherents are vehemently against the same polygamy supported in the religion.


Dey play.


P. S. If your wife ever accepts your proposition for polygamy or ever forgives your adultery, just know that some craftily designed waterloo is waiting for you somewhere down the line. Ire o

Tob456:
I have an almost 8 months old daughter with my ex girlfriend. My daughter was sick for 2 weeks and she was admitted to the hospital for a week and 3 days my family were very supportive as usual.

My daughter is doing so much better and she got discharged last week friday I give God all the glory.

The problem on ground is because my ex girlfriend leaves alone with her younger ones she doesn't have an adult who will help her to monitor the baby health so my parents asked her if she can come and stay with them for a week or two so they will be monitoring ans helping her with the baby she can go back to her place when she us fully recovered.
They've told her to bring her last born with her too but she refused saying she can't leave all her siblings alone but her 23 years old younger brother who just returned home from a different state can look after her other siblings in her absent.

I don't live with my parents I live alone and I wanted her to stay with my parents so we can all share the responsibility of taking care of our daughter but she declined.

My parents and I are not so happy with but we can't force her .

What do you guys think about this. Is she right or wrong for declining my parents request ?

Your parents' request is very selfish, bad, wicked, evil, and downright repulsive.


Your parents are supposed to tell you to marry the lady so you can both cater to your child properly, not to tie down a young woman you refused to marry with the burden of turning into their house help unto say she born pikin for you.


And you are still talking?

You are still complaining that your baby mama has more sense than you?

Get out of here before I sama you more tongue lashing

Nonsense family training stupid boy.

Mtchew.

christe3153:
To be sincere, we had a wonderful relationship when we were together, ups and downs, and I was convinced to a level that she did truly love me, but one can never be too sure until some ish starts to emerge.

Are you sure she's not getting anal sex somewhere?


Girls of nowadays sha

IconicR:
Number one is a lie, female don't retain father's name in Nigeria. The rest are very true.

If the name carries value like Otedola or Obasanjo, daughters will gladly retain it.

Hustle o

Dimaya:



this one wey dem serve you hot breakfast for dinner

You want to put your finger in my throat, but I won't address you, my major focus is on my intended audience: women

Meritjoshua:
My mom left my dad when i was just 6month old. Since then i have been living with my mother until 2010 when she took me to live with a relative in kwara state, i lived there for six years.
During my time there my mom only visited twice, so there is no strong relationship between us. During my stay in kwara state i was badly maltreated.
Ïn 2016 my grandpa( my mother's father) came to kwara and took me to ibadan to live with him. But unfortunatly i misbehave and i was taken to my mom.
I was about 13yrs old at that time, and i didn't really see her as a mother tho my step dad treated me well. I left her place in 2017 to live with my dad for the first time in my life. And since them my mom has refused to visit me. My step mom never knew i existed(she later met me in 2022) and she took me as her son having heard that my mom dumped me. My mom started calling me few months back which is unknown to the rest of the family. xi

Your Mom refused to visit you probably because she felt betrayed somehow. Or maybe she didn't want to get entangled with your Dad again.


See, if I were you, I would try to be close to those who catered to me during the most delicate years.


A man that kept you a secret because of another woman, distanced himself from you without knowing how you fed or if you were okay. Please think deeply and don't make your mother's efforts over you go to waste. Find a way to reach your grandpa, he's a gem.

ideamonster:


why do women always feel they can do better?

I asked you to go drink your beer jejely.

Biglittlelois:



This I endorse 💯

If for any reason you, as a woman, ever find yourself wishing for your ex back, it means you have not done any work on yourself.


You are in a rut.


You are betraying yourself.


This is why: Something must have pushed you away from that guy, an intuition that something is wrong somewhere, even if you can't see it clearly.

Now, turning around to eat your words makes you a double minded person that can't be trusted to keep to your words no matter how painful the journey becomes. If you can't trust yourself, no one should trust you.



This is the closure you need: your ex found a woman who can tolerate whatever it is you can't tolerate, let go.



Face front, be a better person, make better money, and see how exes will become like poop in your eyes.


Bye.


P. S. If you're a male and you feel triggered by this post, don't quote me, just go and drink your beer jejely.

Ade1177:
Omo

This why I will never fight my woman no matter what she does

All these bad bad things people say about women. I've not experienced it atall

My gf is just too good to be true

I know how much she makes at work. She tells me every amount that enters her account

She buys alot of things in the house

Even when rent expires she offers to split the bill because she almost spends most of her time in my place because its close to her work

I know her phone passwords
She picks calls of guys that try to toast her in my presence and put it on speaker

I'll just be smiling at the guy dropping lines

She washes my clothes sometimes but I must stay with her and rinse it and dry it

She's a good cook

She's very respectful to elders

She is beautiful and hardworking
And always at home by 7pm
No night life

4yrs relationship
We met In my final Yr in OAU

Omo nothing this girl can ever do that can annoy me o

I plan to propose to her next Yr sha

Because we have been living together now for the past 1yr almost like married couple but I never do the right thing

Make I quick put ring for her hand

She's clocking 25 early next year

Hold that lady tight!!!!!

Yes, I'm screaming o.


Don't change anything you're both doing even after your wedding ceremony.


I'm rooting for you guys

Fiscus105:



A" is not always true....... though ur friend ended up in the hand of his enermy called wive.

80% of homes today are jointly sponsored by husband and wife.

I will advise u to go out and do unbias findings and not ugly experiences from ur close ffriend.

I'm 95% sure his friend has done something ugly to his wife. He's just not admitting it.



A woman will never hurt her husband unless he did something bad.


A man that hurt his wife, refuses to admit it, let alone apologize, still going round badmouthing her with his friends, omo, the wife is going through hell.

Ijelenwanyioma:

He bought it with his money. I didn't contribute to it and even when I offered to give him at least a million (just want my money to be part of it) he said I shouldn't worry

Use that your one million to buy your own land.


You can get legit land in either Ogun or Oyo states with that money if you reside in Lagos for proximity sake. Just get people you can trust.

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too

Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)

You are not being petty madam.



Hustle your own money, buy your own land.



Don't give the love you never received.


Nuff said.

Rtk4:
Our last son just clocked 2years just a week ago and my wife is insisting that he starts school by September, so i told her i don't have money to enroll him in a school by September. I also let her know that the basic age for a child to start school is 3years. I sighted example of alot of people within our vicinity who also waited for their children to reach 3years before enrolling them in school. She still maintains her stands and i also maintain mine. Though he is so wise above his age but i don't have money for that now. He can count 1-10 already.... Please guys what is your take on this?

You have known your baby for 2 years now, yet you have no plan on how he will go to school.

Your wife is not at fault here. The only fault she has is allowing you to touch her without condoms knowing you guys are financially struggling.


Apologize to her and start making concrete plans together from now on.

Emmastan291:
Female footballers wants to be paid the same with their male counterparts

Is it a bad thing?

Year after year, tournament after tournament, the Super Falcons have brought home nothing but trophies, glory and joy to Nigeria as opposed to the Super Eagles who have refused to fly. Yet, they are being denied their rights!



NFF stinks

Zubby2005:
So far so good
The total costs are;
Satin paint = 20,000
POP paint: 3,100×2 = 6,200
POP cement = 7,200
Top bond 2kg = 5000
Sampaper= 200
Labour w/ painting= 20,000
Miscellaneous = 1,800
Total= 70,600

Omo to furnish room no dey easy oh
Let's see how it turns out

I'm glad I met your thread. Kudos

dondodo:
I dont know what has come over my Friend. He is 31 years old this year,and he met this 18 year old girl in their area who "happens to his friend".

From friendship to hanky panky everytime, I've warned him to be careful but he refused claiming the girl is matured enough to have sex.

My question is this,is it proper for an 18-year-old girl to have sex??

It's not proper.

dondodo:
I really need an answer to this

When you start making money.


Age notwithstanding.

Flows001:
Moderators please push this to front page.

My first post on nairaland, so please pardon any error.

Good morning everyone, so let me just go straight to the point.

My elder sister has been dating this guy for more than a year now, she became pregnant months into the relationship and he begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her.
So she did and about two months ago, she gave birth to a boy.
Just like he said, he started making moves to marry her, she took him to see my uncle (because our dad is late), alongside with one of his brothers, they also went to see some of my aunties; as well as my Mum. So basically everyone knows them together in our extended family, as well as the street where my sister stays (she resides in Enugu State), because he usually goes to spend time with her and I must admit that he has been really nice to her and made sure she has been comfortable and never lacked anything.
Along the line, my sister started suspecting that this her husband to be has been avoiding picking up strange numbers calling him, she asked him but he told her not to worry.
Fast forward to earlier this week, she stumbled upon a text he received from one unsaved number, the text was begging him to allow the sender to atleast come visit him, apparently; this same guy was already married before and already had two grown children before he left the marriage for reasons which she didn't tell me, so his children have been making efforts to reach their father as their mother went to dump them with his brothers and went her way..

When my sister confronted him, he had to open up to her and apologised, stating that he wanted to start another life and couldn't tell her from the beginning because he didn't want to lose her..

Now my sister is in a dilemma, their traditional marriage was scheduled to hold by the end of this year and he has already started making efforts to officially pay her bride price.
Her two options are:
1. Leave him and become a single mother at this young age (she's a student of NOUN and does business which he supported her to expand).
2. Stay with him and accommodate the children from his former wife.

Please advice 🙏🙏🙏

The least the man can do is to return the kids to their mother after telling such a humongous lie.


Let each woman take care of her kids, and let the man continue his responsibilities. He's the polygamous one, let him face his music.


So, let her marry him on that condition.

MrBrownJay1:
a DESPERATE person thinking about their body clock AND wanting to have a legitimate child (aka while being married) wont use their brain, thus why many women rush for marriage at a certain age, with any donkey whatsoever.

So, you are finally agreeing that there are many donkeys among Nigerian men.