ecolime:

E be like say one Nigga don show you shege. You go dey alright las las

You want to put her to shame because of the behavior of a past lover?


When it's obvious the lover is at fault


I hope you realize your mental deprivation before it's too late

Mamadf:

I meant he wants to disorganize my marriage

Of course na, a man that wants you to be happy will not abandon you.


Be sharp

Mamadf:

Thanks, I told him to be sending up keep money even if na 2k monthly to her and occasionally talk to her phone or at a public space but he refuses,this man always abuses and over do things. He wants something else but God will not allow him.

Why are you gentle like this?

Your daughters are females, they need a stable and firm upbringing so they won't end up in your situation. It's your job to keep bad influences away from them.



As it is right now, your two baby daddies are bad and dangerous influences especially for your 16 year old daughter. Do you want some idiot to come and impregnate her under your roof?



Stop all this nonsense now before it's too late.



Cut off all contact with those two useless men that left you to fend for yourself alone, now they want children, stop this nonsense now!


Werey la fin wo werey (na madness we dey use clear madness)


Use madness to scatter ground for them, they will stay away from you because they are coming since they can see you are easy to confuse.



Do you want your suffering, your mother's suffering and your husband's efforts to go to waste?


Wake up naw abi what is all this?


Ginger yourself o.

izonborn098:
First marriage is not for two strict people, one has to fall mugu or better still overlook and accept many things.
A graduate is more advance and have some white man mentality because they are educated and can read whatever both online and offline while am uneducated woman has am africa mentality which she knows the man is the head of the house, she can accept many of his mistakes just as u forgive ur children of their mistakes but am educated wife take everything serious because of pride and entitle mentality there by competing with her husband.
You can take advantage of ur uneducated wife in so many occasions compared to the educated one.
If u have an uneducated women who is business minded and has understanding then just open business for her and have a happy family e.g orhobo and igbo women are very good examples, while an educated working woman will some times prefer her work more than the marriage all because she want to be dependent.
Op their are more but just

Women are your problem in this life, right?

millstone:
Good day nairalanders,

APOLOGIES FIRST CAUSE MY STORY LONG SMALL!!!

In 2007 my parents divorced, part of the reasons was my Dad's infidelity and abusive nature towards my mom and siblings. My Dad is an Evangelist, a once prominent one before the divorce and had workers both male and female working for him from drivers to pastors and he occasionally has affairs with his female workers, this usually makes the male workers back then to walk out on him after discovering this. There were three of us all born in the 90s so we witnessed my dad's growth as well as his abuses towards my mom as well as occasional affairs with his workers which would always results in fights between my mom and him, on one occasion in 1997 my mom found out about his affairs and took three of us to Ibadan to live with his Boss at that time Rev. Wale Oke who warned him and sent us back home, on arrival my dad nearly killed my mom and it was an elderly neighbor and his family back then that beat him up before he stopped. 2004 my parents had the fourth child my baby brother and the following year they had a fight again after my mom caught him in office with his then secretary and he beat her up along with her sister and my elder sister for confronting him.

He continued working with this his secretary and also having affairs with other ladies. 2006 my mom found out and they had a big fight which shattered the church they had back then, we weren't also sparred from his wrath. To make matters worse he would come to the church announcing the closure of the church and removal of my mom as an ordained Pastor despite the fact that she went to Redeem Christian Church Pastoral school, the people did not accept his demands citing his infidelity. December 2007 they had another big fight and they finally divorced. My Dad seized my 3 year old brother, against court order, and relocated to South Africa and Kenya. I and my two sisters stayed with my mom and she did the best she could running the church and providing meals, after attempts to punish failed my dad then took care of our education fee while still keeping my brother away from us and parading around the country and other African countries with this his secretary as his wife, soon after she had a daughter for him. My mom struggled to raise us right and to her defense she really did her best but I had to deal with the anger and bitterness on my own path, weed and alcohol was my escape and soon after I was lured into prostitutes during the 2go era by a guy i met online, I was 18 when this happened, my family didn't know about this, I graduated best student in my faculty and got great jobs in both the private and finally the public sector. Save to say I do not let this habits affect my inputs at work or relationship with people.

My elder sister graduated successfully got high flying jobs and married a big shot, they're doing fine with kids now. My younger sister was the victim in all this as my dad refused to train her through school. During my school years I reconnected with my dad and brother only to find out my brother had been raised believing my dad's secretary to be his mom and the daughter from their affair his only sibling. My dad has raised him with the idea that he is the only son and even when we reconnected would believe the words of a 9 year old even though this boy can lie just to get what he wants from my dad and he would believe it.

2015 after graduation and my sister's marriage we fell out and even without his support i got jobs in places that needed high connections and even started three different businesses with my vices unknown to my family members. 2020 some elders in the family stepped in to settle the issues between my dad and my siblings and in that five year period thankfully we have all done well for ourselves without him. In 2021 i took some high end loans from the office and made some other investments but they went wrong and that is were I shot myself in the foot. By 2022 the pressure on me was too much and i had to go to my dad's place pending when i sort myself out and man i saw shege pro-max. I recently sorted myself out and moved out of his apartment.

For my Dad 2014 the secretary had to leave him when he was becoming abusive and her family objected their union as she was the cause of his divorce, she went along with their daughter which he has refused to carter for. That same year he married a younger lady but the marriage did not last a year, he then had another woman who they were together for a year it was this woman that caused our rift in 2015 and i left him, he then started an affair with a woman from Kenya that ended just last year while sending her monthly upkeep and paying for her rent in a luxury apartment in Kenya. January of this year he started an affair with another elderly female Pastor in Abuja and they began living together until it ended in April. May 2023 he went to Benue and once again married another lady who he just met( note in all of this his fornication his excuse is always "The Spirit of God spoke to him that this is his wife" like WTF!!!).

Now my brother was supposed to further his study 2021 but my dad and him and a silly plan to send him to the UK to play football, without any proper training. This went on for almost a year before he was hurriedly enrolled in a private university but we found out he had used the money meant for his school fees (over 400k) partying with friends and impressing his girlfriend. Now my sisters and I found out and reported it to my dad. This guy denied it and now turned the blame on me that I have been taking him round hotels to carry babes and party. Despite the fact I gave this boy a chance during the investigation to come clean that we are aware that he possibly flunked school and want honesty from him but he denied it. Now my dad is defending this boy, he's 19 o and supposed to be heading to 300L, and attacking me. My brother knows about my habits and is using this as his alibi putting the blame on me that I got him involved with my habits and even though I have cautioned him several times, attempted to guard him in academics because I struggled heavily in my 100L due to family issues( I wasn't even involved in marijuana or alcohol by then) he still went out with friends who ate his school fees with him and not theirs. Now Baba is blaming me for spending the boy's fees when my work schedule would not even allow me teach him bad habits. I found out he does drugs and even deals on harder substances that I dread from. My Dad is not holding him accountable for his actions rather as he always does blames every misfortune that comes on me or my mom. Now we had a big fight on the phone and I am ready to cut the two of them off for good. Between 2015-2020, before they both came into my life I was doing very well without their drama and distractions. At one time in 2021 my Dad even dumped this boy on me while he spends money bringing his woman from Kenya going round the country parading her as his wife and living in luxury hotels and all kind of silly antics, she's a Pastor ,and refused to support back then while I look after this boy. That period was when my investments was going down and I was even admitted in the hospital after having a heart condition that scared me and the doctors. To cover my medical bills, keep ,myself afloat and take care of my brother in my custody that period I had to sell my car which further worsened my financial condition.

THIS MAN HAS BEEN NOTHING BUT CHAOS, A FRAUD, A STAIN ON WHAT CHRISTIANITY IS AND WORSE OF IT ALL WILL DESTROY HIS FAMILY IF GIVEN THE CHANCE. 2020 after reconciliation I had a big fight with my younger sister because of this man and not until last year I settled with my sister and this man was not even happy with the peace I made. He wants to use me to attack my Mom and my sisters and only when he sees you are against them would he embrace you. I want to cut him off completely as between 2015-2020 I witnessed personal, financial and spiritual growth as opposed to having him in my life and his attempt to control me into self destruction. The depressions I had got worse with him and I had to fall into weed and booze to escape the madness. However I am recovering and pulling myself together and do not intend to bring him back to my life.

There's something called loving from afar

If you are not an Ogun State indigene, do not swim in the Ogun River or any of it's tributaries for any reason.

YoungDaNaval:
He do not have a car yet

Buy the car in your sister's name and keep it maintained. When Oga buys his car, then present your own gift to your sister.

Else, give her another gift.

pocohantas:
No wonder your ex showed you shege.
Two overwise people met and almost turned themselves to mad people. Yenyen, I find it disgusting. Ngwanu, ndi co-redpillers, food done done. Bring 555 plate and spoon.

It's the 555 plate for me.

Lance008:

I no say na all
But majority no won suffer for country mak people Dey suffer
Most fine gals are into hookup Na price different
If you want to sex any gal jus tell her close friend and ur pay if ur pay is very nice the gal go fall

All the good girls are taken.



Dey one corner, just dey play.

Abifarin16:

You didnt say it yes. But you implied it and I deduced it. You said the mother in-law shouldn't pay for his bills because men are polygamous in nature.


The major reason that women hate/dislike men is that we might bring in a side chick right? Hence we are scum.


So I suggest if you don't want a polygamous natured man in you life as a husband/partner.
BECOME A NUN.
FIGHT NO DEY!
Save yourself headache and focus on GOD you will make heaven at least is that not the goal of this 'transitionary' life that we are living on earth.

Dey there

Abifarin16:

What you implied is we are scum. So I advise you become a nun.

Gaslighting.


That is your major weapon as a male, I know you well by now.


Go through all my posts, please bring out any of my posts that used the word scum.


I won't roll in the mud with you

Abifarin16:

To turn reverend sister if Na true

Reverend Sister like how?

BluntCrazeMan:



Your comment is also a big shame to womanhood..

Not just the fictional story alone.

Women are no longer carrying shame for you again, please buy pepper and make a stew with your shame.

christe3153:


Oh well, na that one i now know oo, I once indirectly questioned her and she denied it, saying is it because she allowed me to do it with her that I feel she can now share her bum with anyone else.

Long distance relationship get as e be joor.

Plenty lies

Negroid001:


Awwwn. Sister Mary.
Lemme give you brotherly advice.
Thank God you said halfway important.
Don't marry a poor man.
You'll always regret. And prolly start blaming him for your misfortunes. Whereas, you picked him yourself.

Choose wisely.
Marry pablo, not bro Chike.

You say Pablo?


Wetin dey after 6 pass 7


You never hear say the bottom of wealth is disgusting

Negroid001:

You're insisting fidelity and loyalty is all.

Fidelity and loyalty can't pay bills or put food on the table. Relationship is not a bed of roses.
It's basically bills and spendings.

Chances are high you'll pick an extremely rich man who cheats over a poor man with loyalty and fidelity.

Fidelity ko, fidelity bank ni.

I will give an arm and a leg to be with a faithful man.


These are not empty words.


There is nothing more valuable in marriage to a woman than fidelity and loyalty, money is only halfway important.


No matter how important money is in marriage, and yes it is very important, just double it's worth, that is the importance of faithfulness.

pocohantas:


Someone to take care of him and his kids.
They always claim it is easy until they are left to do it. Then they start looking for another wife or shipping the innocent kids to their great grandmother.

Men do not benefit from marriage indeed...

If Eve were to be the first one created, there would have been nothing like marriage!


Men, from the very first moment the marriage starts, till the end of the marriage, are the major beneficiaries!


They can't live, literally, can't live without women.

dlawsamesq:


You don't know what you are saying. We have been together for five months now and I haven't kiss her not to talk of having sex with her

Your wife died early last year and you're already counting 5 months in relationship with another woman!


So, less than 1 year after your wife died, you are already shopping for another woman!

You can't even wait for the departed to decompose before replacing her, did she mean nothing to you?

How do you expect your children to accept another Mom when their loss is still raw?

You don't love those kids, their emotional stability means little to you because what they need right now is a Dad who shares the same feelings of loss with them, but you can't give them that!


I can't even say sorry for your loss because you definitely missed little.



Read this carefully:


Any woman that marries you is definitely of weak character, and you can't have a perfect marriage because you yourself lack good character.


Tufiakwa.

Negroid001:


Can you marry a poor man?

Why do you ask?

Nonywendy:

Wicked mother. When they were exchanging vows for better for worst, in sickness and in health she no knw

You people removed forsaking all others from your vows.


You are now shouting for better or worse.


Where are all your side chicks when you're in trouble?

Negroid001:


Moral of the story. Don't marry a woman from a poor background.
Don't marry a liability.
Don't marry someone who brings nothing to the table.

As a man, you're only valuable according to what you can provide. If you stop providing, you'll be ditched and called useless.

Take this home instead.


Fidelity and loyalty is the only saving grace for a married man.


Anything else will bring trouble.

Acidosis:


Then she has to do one, which is get a job and fund his treatment. The mother's advice is completely different.

Why should she fund his treatment?


Plus 4 kids?


Doesn't he have relatives?


Why put all those burdens on only one woman?

Abifarin16:
May God not allow us to be hard tested.
This is not your regular occurrence. The mother has money to send her abroad she no fit use that money pay for surgery? Hopefully he gets better, gets a job or his former job and pay her back. 4 kids at 26, she fit cope?
People be going through alot.

Use which money to pay for a man that is polygamous in nature?

How?

LilMissFavvy:
How the man treated her before the accident should help her take a decision. If he used to treat her badly or cheated on her, then she should know where to place him . His side chick should come and clean his poop, but If he was a good husband before the accident, she should not abandon him. She can travel to make money then be visiting him from time to time.

Nigerian women have bought landed properties at Vawulence Estate.


I love it

pansophist:


See this woman o, why are you giving me close marking? Or cant you tell the difference between a neutral discourse and intention?

I am not a polygamist and won't be. All I did was shine a torch at an angle that is probably not looked at when the discourse of polygamy is being discussed.

And no, women actually do engage in polygamy, both in consented cases and non-consented cases. I will give an example.

So you met a new guy that met all your list of what you want in a man, and in maybe a month's time, you guys started dating and of course, forking. Normal normal.

As time goes on, you realize that he also has other women like you, whom he rotate sexually on a weekly or even daily basis. In your mind, you have a guy, in his mind, he has a harem.

The above is an example of non-consented polygamy. And that is the dark side of the male mating strategy. It is optimized for quantity.

About consented polygamy, should I start mentioning well-known Nigerian polygamists? Come on, don't tell me you live under a rock.

Your celebrities are all polygamists. They have numerous baby mamas, or is it Ned Nwoko?

Also note that women actually want the same guy. It is known as the 80/20rule or the Pareto principle. The rule is simple. If you like a guy and your friends approve of him, then another girl likes him and her friends approve of him.

No be only you like better thing. No be only you like rich man. As in, the women you will share him are plenty. Opor gan .

Where the issue is, is for him to be a godly person, and not share his loyalty to you with other women. Otherwise, he can if he wants.

Come back to this thread when you're 70

pansophist:


polygamy is not Eldorado, it's not the best for everyone, and it has faults as well. My point is that polygamy is useful in some situations. And for jealousy amongst wives, let them orient themselves well.

jealousy amongst wives is not a feature, its a bug. The wives should de-bug themselves from jealousy, especially when they are not forced into it, and also were not treated unfairly by the man.

This particular post is very unrealistic, because no woman will ever accept polygamy.


Not even widows or women TTC.


No amount of orientation will change a natural tendency.


A particular religion has been around for almost 1500 years, still, it's female adherents are vehemently against the same polygamy supported in the religion.


Dey play.


P. S. If your wife ever accepts your proposition for polygamy or ever forgives your adultery, just know that some craftily designed waterloo is waiting for you somewhere down the line. Ire o

Tob456:
I have an almost 8 months old daughter with my ex girlfriend. My daughter was sick for 2 weeks and she was admitted to the hospital for a week and 3 days my family were very supportive as usual.

My daughter is doing so much better and she got discharged last week friday I give God all the glory.

The problem on ground is because my ex girlfriend leaves alone with her younger ones she doesn't have an adult who will help her to monitor the baby health so my parents asked her if she can come and stay with them for a week or two so they will be monitoring ans helping her with the baby she can go back to her place when she us fully recovered.
They've told her to bring her last born with her too but she refused saying she can't leave all her siblings alone but her 23 years old younger brother who just returned home from a different state can look after her other siblings in her absent.

I don't live with my parents I live alone and I wanted her to stay with my parents so we can all share the responsibility of taking care of our daughter but she declined.

My parents and I are not so happy with but we can't force her .

What do you guys think about this. Is she right or wrong for declining my parents request ?

Your parents' request is very selfish, bad, wicked, evil, and downright repulsive.


Your parents are supposed to tell you to marry the lady so you can both cater to your child properly, not to tie down a young woman you refused to marry with the burden of turning into their house help unto say she born pikin for you.


And you are still talking?

You are still complaining that your baby mama has more sense than you?

Get out of here before I sama you more tongue lashing

Nonsense family training stupid boy.

Mtchew.

christe3153:
To be sincere, we had a wonderful relationship when we were together, ups and downs, and I was convinced to a level that she did truly love me, but one can never be too sure until some ish starts to emerge.

Are you sure she's not getting anal sex somewhere?


Girls of nowadays sha

IconicR:
Number one is a lie, female don't retain father's name in Nigeria. The rest are very true.

If the name carries value like Otedola or Obasanjo, daughters will gladly retain it.

Hustle o

Dimaya:



this one wey dem serve you hot breakfast for dinner

You want to put your finger in my throat, but I won't address you, my major focus is on my intended audience: women

Meritjoshua:
My mom left my dad when i was just 6month old. Since then i have been living with my mother until 2010 when she took me to live with a relative in kwara state, i lived there for six years.
During my time there my mom only visited twice, so there is no strong relationship between us. During my stay in kwara state i was badly maltreated.
Ïn 2016 my grandpa( my mother's father) came to kwara and took me to ibadan to live with him. But unfortunatly i misbehave and i was taken to my mom.
I was about 13yrs old at that time, and i didn't really see her as a mother tho my step dad treated me well. I left her place in 2017 to live with my dad for the first time in my life. And since them my mom has refused to visit me. My step mom never knew i existed(she later met me in 2022) and she took me as her son having heard that my mom dumped me. My mom started calling me few months back which is unknown to the rest of the family. xi

Your Mom refused to visit you probably because she felt betrayed somehow. Or maybe she didn't want to get entangled with your Dad again.


See, if I were you, I would try to be close to those who catered to me during the most delicate years.


A man that kept you a secret because of another woman, distanced himself from you without knowing how you fed or if you were okay. Please think deeply and don't make your mother's efforts over you go to waste. Find a way to reach your grandpa, he's a gem.

ideamonster:


why do women always feel they can do better?

I asked you to go drink your beer jejely.