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Family › Re: Help Save My Marriage by Saintmary(f): 5:58pm On Mar 04, 2023
Emco1:
Thanks for the advice sir. One of the main reason ask her to quit her job was that the salary is too poor #20k although the boss usually give them up to #200k to #300k at the end of the year. I always give her #1000 to #1500 for transport and feeding everyday.
Even if a woman is bringing in #20 everyday, it's better than nothing.



Beg for her forgiveness, then encourage her to get another job no matter how small.


Next time you have money, always give her in bulk, not daily.


I wish you all the best.
Family › Re: My Gf Is Pregnant by Saintmary(f): 2:32pm On Mar 03, 2023
demoBaba:
I think a year breast feed without additional food is okay for baby brain.
Don't forget to give her lots of money for food and let her drink plenty water.


Let her visit the clinic regularly for checkups even after delivery.


Congratulations.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 7:33am On Feb 25, 2023
reddingtonblack:
That it was a terrible, worst and tragedic administration for you does not mean it didnt favor some, the man that owns the filling station in my area changed cars 3 times just within the last 4yrs,
That i didnt build house within buhari administration does not mean no one is building house, that buhari policy didnt favour majority doesnt negate there are some people who enjoy buhari harsh policies, like the POS guyz & fuel attendants right now

Like i said find the appropriate thread for your mood and vent it all out, lets those wey get testimony do there own tew.
You don't understand, every milestone I crossed between 2015 and 2023 is in spite of this administration, not because of it.



Their plan is for me to stay in one place, but God pass them.



I cannot credit such people for God's goodness over my life, God forbid.




So, don't ask me to share testimonies of the faithfulness of the outgoing president in my life.





This administration failed woefully and horribly.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 10:08pm On Feb 24, 2023
Biggeststar01:
1- BS
2- n power that has benefited the poor masses in what way?
3- 2 Niger bridge that who asked for? After excluding that while region from Nigeria economic benefits, they later found out that the region has natural gas and they build Niger bridge as a bribe or what?
4- good kini? Ori yen sare!!
5- census that confirmed that Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world? Una mumu too much


Enjoy your suffering, I no dey Nigeria and I won't be helping you suffer your suffer grin
Please note that the opinion of the poster you replied is fabricated and invented.


Nigerians know otherwise.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 10:05pm On Feb 24, 2023
reddingtonblack:
Nairaland is a general platform with several threads, there is a section for everything, if you want to lament or wail all day simply find the appropriate thread and knock yourselves out.

Nobody is saying you shouldnt cry but find a crying venue, because you are sad does not mean everybody must be sad, what some people are just looking is stories to give them hope @least.... don't ruin it.
Oh, it's now my responsibility to whitewash a horrible administration so I can give hope to who?



Are you really located in Nigeria?



Have you spoken with the people?





Are you aware that you are gaslighting Nigerians right now?
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 1:19pm On Feb 24, 2023
blabulu2000:
..and how has Yoruba Issue become your headache ...

Deceiver
I have just one prayer for you, God will judge you.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 1:16pm On Feb 24, 2023
logicalhumour:
With the current support for APC, I'm beginning to question myself as to if I lived in the same Nigeria under 8 years of APC alongside the supporters of APC.

The title of this thread is a very very honest question. Please do NOT reply if APC hasn't done any positive thing for you. I want to know what Nairalanders have benefited from this current government. Don't coman tell me how you suffered, I didn't ask for that! I just want to know what Nigerians enjoyed the most in this government.

Once again, a very honest question, sincerely. Thank you.
You asked a honest question,


"Are we too hard on APC?"


No, we are not hard on APC, in fact, we are too lenient.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 12:39pm On Feb 24, 2023
Olam09:
During there tenure i became a man, i became very independent and i started my own well paying business. Na why i still like Buhari regime.. anyone complaining about APC eight years reign is either a lazy asshole or an illiterate. You can never blame APC for the surge on cost of living and inflation.. COVID19 is to be blame. It threw the world into a rapid halt, making inflation increase by nearly 200% every one in the world felt the impact COVID Spain is mostly on the receiving end.. shebi you still dey see 1k bread buy. The cheapest bread in spain is up to 2k.
What kind of nonsense did you just type?



Did Covid-19 lock up the border between Benin Republic and Nigeria?



Do you have any idea how many lives have been lost in that axis? No one is reporting it because they are supposed to be smugglers, but everyone is crying out in defense of yahoo boys who are said to be missing through Akwuzu SARS.


The reality in Spain cannot be influenced through this elections, but Nigerians can have some relief knowing that we are not in the hands of wicked souls, is that too much to ask?


Just allow us hustle, we are not asking for handouts, let Nigerians breathe.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 12:31pm On Feb 24, 2023
jayworld15:
You and who were living in fear during Jonathan's time. It seems you're not alive to hear about what's going on everywhere in Nigeria, even South West that was once peaceful isn't anymore. You have to now pray to God and literarily fast not to be a victim while plying Lagos-ibadan expressway.
By their posts you shall know them, don't bother reasoning with him, his belly is typing, not his brain.



I have avoided that expressway for 2 years now, is it easy for me to not see close friends and relatives for 2 years?


They said we should not wail, they are punishing Nigerians, yet they want to gag us.


Haa
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 12:26pm On Feb 24, 2023
reddingtonblack:
OGA he didnt ask you to Open the book of lamentation again, there is no picture of worst you want to creat now that don't have an existing thread, 365days × 8yrs rest

The thread is for those who have just one good thing to say @least not people who have ships loads of complain,nagging & wailing as usual, know when to take a break.
This is a public forum, Nigerians are wailing everywhere, and this place is not excluded.



If you don't want wailing, stop punishing Nigerians.
Politics › Re: Are We Too Hard On APC? What Did You Enjoy The Most In APC's 8-Year Rule? by Saintmary(f): 12:23pm On Feb 24, 2023
blabulu2000:
*If you're a Yoruba supporter of Obi, ask your self if Igbos voted for Awolowo or MKO*.

*Why is it always your own elders that are bad, but theirs are saints??*

*Was MKO's (SDP) Party in government previously in 1993 just as is APC now for Tinubu?*! *The reality of your decision today is that your tribesmen may never be president again.*

*All your elders and leaders are subject of mockery but Igbos can bring an unknown entity, rebrand it, and sell to you as a saint*. *They tell you it's not about tribe but, historically they had never voted Yoruba candidates for presidency*.

*In 1979 elections, Chief Obafemi Awolowo recorded an abysmal 0.8% and 0.7% of total votes 🗳 cast in the then Imo and Enugu state*. *Was Awolowo not competent too or was he also too old for the job? Is Awolowo ticket a Muslim Muslim ticket?*🤔

*Google 1993 election results and see that they did not also vote for MKO Abiola*. *Abiola lost in Enugu, Abia, Imo, and River states*.

*For me, if you don't patronize me, I will not patronize you*. *I'm not a fool!!* *This is a federal election and not state election like Osun state where the candidates are Yoruba vs Yoruba*.

*For the fact that a candidate failed in a party does not AUTOMATICALLY mean that everyone in the party will underperform if given the opportunity*.

*The same Igbos misleading our people are part of the problem too with their Biafra agitation which they have cleverly suspended for.*

*They championed EndSars protest as directed by Nnamdi Kanu to destroy Lagos*. *They are always insulting and troubling this Buhari man and even things he did well, they will never give credit*.

*We should never forget in a hurry how they called Nigeria a Zoo and all of us living in it, baboons.*

*Must it be their own president for us to progress?*

*Is that how developed the South East is, or we Yorubas are already emotionally blackmailed to the point that we see nothing good about ourselves again?* 🤔

*Yoruba e je ki a Ro'nu jinle oooo.* 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Forward it let it go viral.

#ThinkYorubaFirst
You should have considered the Yoruba people when you kicked Professor Osinbajo out of his party primaries.



Yoruba people already know what's up.
Foreign Affairs › Re: US Repatriates Two Brothers Who Were Imprisoned For 20 Years Without Trial by Saintmary(f): 10:32am On Feb 24, 2023
China is not a saint either, the way she has treated Taiwan and Hong Kong has shown that given the same opportunity she will be worse than the US.
Family › Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Saintmary(f): 4:36pm On Feb 23, 2023
BRATISLAVA:
The woman doesn't even seem to want to get married. If genders were reversed, we could say he's trying to trap her and manipulate her into sharing her wealth as a mother with his kids through his marriage proposal. Who knows what happened to his wife, too?

If she's ready to have so many responsibilities, she should go ahead with it. Otherwise, she can suggest they remain partners without going that extra mile.
You have said what any sensible person will advise, because this marriage may not bring her lots of benefit from the way things look.



At the end of the day, the ball is in her court.
Family › Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Saintmary(f): 2:06pm On Feb 23, 2023
BRATISLAVA:
The kind of untruths they peddle to feel good is more irritating than surprising. They know that they aren't that special. It's just that they have to try and bring women down always.

Going by the original poster, isn't she an evening newspaper, and worse, doesn't she have many children? Yet there is a man ready for her, proposing to her. And they find it difficult to accept that, hence many long messages to convince her she's not worth it and the man proposing is doing a Herculean task. A man who has promised to take good care of her knowing her history. It's a pity she's looking for advice on a forum owned by angry little boys.

In their minds, she's 36 and cannot look more attractive than a57 year old man.

Ghost of Hitler, save these boys.
You see, most of these people have nothing going for them, they are insecure, so they need to bring people down in order to feel like humans.


You really don't want to look into their hearts and minds, it's too dark in there.


A 36 year old lady is just approaching her prime sexually and in terms of natural beauty.


The only issue here is that she is carrying way too heavy burden of 4 kids. That will make her look older than her age.


It's so unfortunate because I already sense that she will bow to pressure and add to her burdens, three more people to worry about making seven and she's not even 40 yet.


Why do Nigerian women like suffering?
Family › Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Saintmary(f): 1:52pm On Feb 23, 2023
Fuckyoumod:
you are very lucky. @ 36 with 4 kids? What's still left of your body for that man to enjoy at 4 kids? Once married?

You are scared of marriage wahala? Hmmm.... You think marriage is rice and beans? Milk and honey every day?

You think Buhari's wife is sleeping on a bed of roses with Buhari everyday? Marriage is for the strong and prepared. Marriage is for open minded people who are open to expect everything, see everything and still work towards making it right. See, don't go and give that man headaches and B.P, if you are not prepared for marriage please tell him to find someone else.

Women far younger than you are still fast and praying to find a man that is willing to commit to them.

You are lucky, but the choice is yours, however I want you to know that it will never come again if you miss it. It's life a time opportunity.

Go and prove to people and families that your first marriage was never your fault.

It's easy to bash men and demonize them the moment you are no longer together, even when it's all your fault and making that things went south.

From all indication, it's clear to me that, that man wants a companion, a woman in his life, somebody he can spend the rest of his life with. Somebody who he would call a wife. A woman with less drama, his children are grown up, married and far away.

See, my advice to you is simple, if any day you make up your mind to marry him. Prepare your mind that he comes first in your life before anybody even your children.

If you know you can't put in first in your life as your husband, don't marry him. Else.... It Might not end well.
Taking another man's children in and standing up for them as their father is a massive price and sacrifice only few men can make, you must reward him with love and care first before anyone else in your life, because he is your husband.

Lastly, I will not tell you to accept him or reject him. It's only you and your decision alone to make.

But I believe he genuinely needs a wife and you are his choice.
What is left in the body of a 57 year old man to enjoy?


Is he not approaching his twilight years?



In the next 10-15 years she will definitely become his care giver, raising her 4 kids plus an old man, when will she have some peace?



She has money, she has kids, she has experience, why should she be desperate?


Who told you men are scarce?



Stop this nonsense.
Family › Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Saintmary(f): 1:45pm On Feb 23, 2023
BRATISLAVA:
When will you people get tired of the bolded? You don't know anything about men. Because a man did something you've sworn they/you won't, it means it's a steep hill to climb? It's not.

But of course, it's another opportunity to contribute fanning the flames of the false scarcity/value of men and try to make her desperate because it's a WiDoWeR (give us all a break, didn't he kill his wife too?) asking and she should be desperate and glad that a man is looking her way. What bloody offer that happens once in a lifetime for Pete's sake? Men will always look the way of women, the way of single mothers and married women. Go to any mall, any park, any office and tell us it isn't true. It is not as special as you make it seem.

This is another ego-fanning cum woman-shaming session. It's not about what she wants, rather it's about forum males perception about the "anomaly" that a man actually wants an older mother.

Half of you on the forum need to grow up. Who told you that this is a rare occurrence? Who says she must take it and feel lucky about it? Who says if women don't accept men they will gnash their teeth? Is it not what men do?
Someone told me yesterday that wedding rings are hard to come by for ladies, I had a good laugh, because nothing can be further from the truth.


I wonder if those ladies getting married every Saturday are ghosts




I don't understand why these guys are so desperate to feel special, it's like they just need something to prop up their insecurities.



If the poster can give it a few months, she might just meet someone more suitable.
Family › Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Saintmary(f): 8:04pm On Feb 22, 2023
Klass99:
No criticism or judgment from me. In fact I applaud you for choosing a helpless child over a grown ass man and marriage.

You are even nice sef, I would have left his own 2 kids for him and walked away, after all I didn't go to his house with those kids, they were created with him under his roof.

As women we give up far too much of our lives for these two things (marriage and children) only to realize na we dey carry the suffer head pass. Good luck with whatever you decide.
If I knew her personally, I would have advised the same thing, Southern women carry unnecessary burdens after divorce, especially with a man that refused to accommodate an innocent child.


She should have had him raise his 2 kids.


Now all her suitors will be the type that wants to take advantage of her perceived situation.

I hope she does what is best.
Family › Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Saintmary(f):
Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys , I am a 36 years old single mother of four my son will be 15 in aug, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june. I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and lives with us , I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years. I have been friend with this man a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children, he is asking for my hand in marriage, to be honest I don't want to be married again, all i want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala. He ask for my hand in marriage I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again I told him what my ex did , he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house . I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP . But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck he want me to accept his proposal. I am confuse Please advice me is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?
1. He needs a maid for cooking and cleaning
2. He needs a nanny for his kids
3. He needs constant available sex


I hope you know he doesn't love you.



As a single mom of 4, you're assumed to be:

1. Lonely
2. Easy target
3. Weak
4. Financially constrained


Only you know your situation, and if your instincts say to run, trust it.



On the other hand, if you can cope with:

1. Underappreciation. You will never measure up to the late first wife in his eyes

2. Conflicts with his kids, you can never replace their mother

3. Loveless relationship. It will take many years before even he will deeply accept you, let alone his kids, family and friends.

4. Financial issues. You will end up sharing your income, with little or nothing left. You will be made to remember every penny spent on your kids. Do you even know if they'll be allowed to stay with you?


Look, there are so many things to consider, just do your thinking very hard.

At the end of the day, only you will bear whatever happens.


Good luck.


P. S. Lest I forget, at 57, erectile dysfunction is real o, he'll soon be 60, are you ready to cope with that?


At 36 you are near your sexual peak if not for heavy responsibilities distracting you, how will you cope with an elderly partner, sexual satisfaction is a very important factor for marital success.


I wish you all the best.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 1:54am On Feb 22, 2023
Justbehave:
Her hatred for men is what made her to type that. She could not withstand the truth that mother in-laws and wives nah cat and dog. Lol
Hatred for men, you fancy yourself a man?


What makes you a man, your pee pee?



Go and sit down.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 1:52am On Feb 22, 2023
Justbehave:
We are saying the same thing or maybe you are the one who is confused.
The post is about mother in-laws and wives but in your quest to blame men,you left the discussion and brought up infidelity against men.
Like I said,if your husband is exhibiting shabby behaviours or being unfaithful to you which is the root of the problems in your family then go deal with him.
Quest



To blame men




You are not ready to find solutions if you view this as a men versus women matter.



Men and women are yin and yang, intertwined and forever interwoven as long as we all coexist on this planet.


But then my words are flying over your head because you don't have the capacity to absorb them.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 2:19pm On Feb 21, 2023
Zico777:
U are very silly!
Uncultured girl!
Hmmmmm



You want me and you to start trading insults?


You


You that can't even understand less than 6 paragraphs of a post I put up there?



You are at the level of kindergarten children, just maintain your lane, but I know you still want to throw insults, so, just face your family and insult them to your dirty heart's content.
Family › Re: Could I Be Dating A Secretive Cheater? by Saintmary(f): 2:14pm On Feb 21, 2023
interim4:
Sis, its me just catching cruise, it isnt a fake story, i was feeling bad that very day, but the situation has gotten worse now as the whole thing is dawning on me as i type. I havent been able to eat properly. My saying all those things is to convert my anger and sadness to cruise, which eventually sound stupid. I am broken, but i gotta piece the pieces.
If you've not invested too much in the relationship, you can move on easily.


End the relationship fast, tell her it's over, then move on.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 2:10pm On Feb 21, 2023
Zico777:
So out of point!
Of course my comment is outside the range of your comprehension, go and play with your PS5.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 2:08pm On Feb 21, 2023
Justbehave:
You can start by telling us how unfaithful your husband or boyfriend is. Post it and we will gladly comment.
You missed my point.

Complaining about mothers in law and women's behavior is only dealing with the branch, the real root is being left uncut, which is the attitude towards their husbands shabby behavior in marriage.


No one is holding those men accountable, hence the ripple effects.



P. S. My family is okay so far, so your attempt to shame me for an assumed infidelity just fell flat.
Romance › Re: My Babe No Get Sense At All by Saintmary(f): 11:51am On Feb 21, 2023
JackDaAlienz:
Guys, I'm starting to regret dating this girl, she is about to spoil major bag
I'm talking thousands of dollars
Millions of Naira!!! cry

I have been dating this girl for 1 year now, she was invited for seminar and big people attended, big people from Europe, asia at intercontinental hotel in Lagos. During the meeting, one of the cooperate guy started crushing on her and was trying to woo her.
She said she doesn't like Chinese guys( the guy is Asian) I told her to play along and get money gifts from the man then split the money 40/60.
She started insulting me saying do I think she is cheap girl or olosho??

Did I say anything wrong?
I told her to sleep with the man with condom and ask him for 10k dollars because the man really loaded, he funds research and grants of about $170k and he like my girl
she is jobless and economy hard yet I still give her and spend my hard earned money on her. So how is it wrong that she can't reason together let's make big money from the rich cooperate guy.
Was I wrong?
You forgot the case of the Kano girl collecting money from the Chinese man, now she's dead.



You are trying to pïmp out your girlfriend as a prostitute because of economic hardship.


Later you will now turn around and call Nigerian girls prostitutes.


She should dump you immediately.



Sense is very far from you.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 11:40am On Feb 21, 2023
Nigerian societies absolutely love to hold women accountable for their actions, everyday you see threads about mothers in law, women issues here and there.



Hardly will you see threads about unfaithful husbands, they are very few.


Until you all accept that marital infidelity is an offence that has a consequence, maybe not in the eyes of the law, until you start avoiding things that will bring problems later in your lives, till then, keep dealing with mother in law issues.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 11:34am On Feb 21, 2023
kiddkash:
Why do mothers feel that no woman is ever good enough for their son

According to the thread a nairalanders created earlier today.

My grandmother is about 88 years old, and yet throws subtle hostility towards my mother. My mother is the best in the world.
Even recently when my grandmother came to stay with us for over a month, she did it.

Before anyone says it is not true, I am matured enough to know what is and what isn't.

My younger sister told me that my grandmother wanted someone else to get married to my father when they were younger.

So, I want to know the root cause of the hostilities from mothers towards their daughter-in-laws
You already got the root cause from replies, now, what is the solution?

That's the next thing to discuss.

As long as we as a society keep condoning, enabling, and pardoning infidelities without making husbands accountable, women will keep finding unhealthy/healthy means of coping.


Imagine the family of your son suffering in the next 30 years because you can't control yourself.
Family › Re: . by Saintmary(f): 11:25am On Feb 21, 2023
bukatyne:
Most of the troublesome MILs replaced their bad husbands with their sons so it almost feels like the wife is taking away her lover.

You rarely see women who lived good lives/have good relationships with their husbands disturb their DILs.
Perfectly said.
Family › Re: Could I Be Dating A Secretive Cheater? by Saintmary(f): 9:32am On Feb 21, 2023
interim4:
Well i doubt if this was the actual scenario. I called her twice on both phones, she didnt pick, she then called back a minute later on audio whats app, so i switched to video. She was on her bed at this moment, but from what i observed the sound came from the living room, it was dark so the person probably hit something that wasnt seen. So it seems like b4 she called back, she had asked the person to step out. But mehn body dey pepper me like this, its a sweet and sour feeling. Inside life. And this kind level now, if person dey there, the kind fucking wey go dey go down, if i fit see the view, i fit use am mastur. cheesy
You want to masturbate to the view of someone having sex with your girlfriend!



This story is fake.
Family › Re: I Feel So Bad That My Wife Didn't Tell Me She Is Pregnant by Saintmary(f): 9:04am On Feb 21, 2023
Handsomejok:
I saw folic acid on our bed I asked her why is she using them for . She said she is pregnant was shocked and I asked her why did she not tell me the good news she said she has forgotten. I remember a month ago I noticed some changes in her body I asked her if she was pregnant she said no and I overlooked it. I feel so bad for her to keep this wonderful good news from me and what pained me is she is almost 3 months and I still had no idea. I know I have hurt her a lot in the past which I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I don't know why she is still making life difficult for me. No matter what happened she shouldn't have hidden the pregnancy from me for 3 good months and I am begining to wonder if the pregnancy is even mine or not. It is right for a wife to hide a pregnancy from her husband? I need your inputs please 🙏
What did you do to hurt her?

don't cover yourself if you want solutions
Family › Re: Problem With My Wife, Mother, And Mother Inlaw. by Saintmary(f): 4:04pm On Feb 20, 2023
Norah199:
Good morning guys. I need some matured minds and married men and women in the house to look into this matter and give me an ideal way to go about this. Would be a long read pls bear with me.

So late late 2021, I got married to my long time girlfriend. Before the marriage, my mom had a little reservation about the girl and her family for some odd reasons due to her tribe. She’s Igbo. Everything was funny because the first day I introduced my wife to my mom. She liked her and everything was cool. They where going on well until my mom started telling me she’s having some dreams about the girl and her family. She’s white garment member. I think her dislike started growing when she told my wife about her church and she said she can’t go to her church for any reason. I was a former member of the church when I was a teenager but with time as I grew I stopped going to the church not because it’s a bad church or something wrong with it. I just don’t fancy going there and also not a church type of person. My mom believe it was the girl that made me stopped going to the church which was funny. She has said that several times.

For the record, I’m an only child of my mother, my dad is late and she’s yet to marry again. I do everything for her like her rent, monthly upkeep, and also got her a good car. Initially I thought she was doing all these because she felt she hasn’t enjoyed me yet and another woman is coming into the picture which is normal for most parents. So I did everything I could to make her comfortable before my wedding.

We did the wedding and everything went on smoothly aprt from some normal family disputes and all but the wedding was successful. Deep down I know my mom still doesn’t like my girl because of her statement s most times but I don’t always give her that room so she’s always quiet and rather not talk what’s on her mind.
Later on, my mom started complaining of the money I give to her. She seems not to be ok with it. Trust me guys. I do more than enough for my mom. I just tried my best to handle everything well and sometimes allow her have her ways with her demands so she doesn’t see my wife as a stumbling block to her.

To cut the long story short, my wife took in and was due for delivery and her mother came like a month before the delivery. Actually my wife had a false labour that made us rush to the hospital and doctor said she has very high maleria and was in serious labor. I called the mother immediately and she started coming the next morning because she lives in the East. The doctor gave her some injections and drugs for the maleria and the labor stopped. Doctor told us it wasn’t the right time for the baby to come out because it was 8 months.
The next morning when she was strong, we went back home with the mother that was already in town.

The mother decided to stay till the delivery instead of going back and coming again when she delivers which I supported.
Two weeks the doctor gave us turned to 1 month and labor didn’t still come. All these while I never knew my mom was so bitter that my mother inlaw was in my house for that long. She once asked me why the woman didn’t go and come back. It was that bad. To make matters worse, I lost my child after a CS was done on my wife. It appeared the baby was in distress which the doctors failed to notice and came out with birth asphyxia. After about two weeks, she died. I opened a thread on that.

Problem started after I buried my child. Everyone was in sorrow and so much pains especially my wife. A day after the burial my mother called my mother inlaw and asked her why she hasn’t gone yet. Started accusing the woman of killing the child and all manners of things. How she had turned her husband to vegetable and now she wants to teach her daughter how to turn her son into vegetable too. It was really bad. They both insulted each other and quarreled seriously on the phone just a day after the lost of my child. She also called my wife and told her “shebi she doesn’t want children” my wife was quiet and didn’t utter a word.

I was in so much pain and so pissed at my mom for everything she did and didn’t even speak to her for like a month even though I still sent her upkeep money. I reported her to her uncle and a few respected people. I don’t know if they talked to her but nothing was done. No body called for any meeting even her own pastor that I reported to. Instead he told me it’s woman talk. That they both insulted each other and the rest..

After that incident till date. My wife, mother, and mother inlaw haven’t spoken to each other even though I have had more peace since then but the fact still remains my mom and wife are not in good terms. I have long forgiven and moved on with my mom even though that closeness is not there but I don’t fail to send her money for upkeep every month. My wife is cool with it and said she doesn’t want that closeness with my mom even though she has forgiven her too.

My mom and I talks once in a while and never for once has she asked about my wife since that incident and my wife hasn’t called either which I don’t blame her. The last time I visited my mom. She said some ill things about my wife and her family and even told me my wife is not my rightful wife and some other things. I usually don’t listen to her talks because I know how religion has turned so many people into something else.

The question right now guys. What do I do in this situation. The truth is nothing can change my moms mind about my wife and her family. But still as a husband, I still feel somehow knowing my wife and mom are not in good terms. My mother inlaw the last time told me she wants to make peace with my mom that they can’t keep fighting forever especially because of her daughter. But deep down I know the thought my mom have about them. So I just told her it’s not the right time and with time everything will be fine. I can’t force my wife to call my mom because she didn’t do no wrong. At the same time my mom won’t even listen to me for any peace making. There are more things to say but I will end here. Sorry for the long write up.
Your opinions would be deeply appreciated.
Thank you 🙏
I wish I could tell you peace will return, but, what if it doesn't?


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