EmekaStanley:
Thank you. He was trying to justify his folly all these years.

Of course foolish people will always justify their folly, how else would they feel good about themselves?



It's the job of the wise people to uphold the truth so that foolish people will not turn the world upside down.

EmekaStanley:
This write up is a direct rebuttal to the most recent and arguably the most unfortunate submission of Mr ifedayo a.k.a Freeze. This is the link https://www.nairaland.com/7528324/there-no-blessing-giving-rich

Mr. Ifedayo opined that's there is no blessing in giving one’s rich parents money for whatever reason. In summary, he stated that if a son or daughter gifts his/her parents money, it is a total waste because there is nothing beneficial that can come from it.

He further stated that it is only when you give to your poor parents that you can receive blessings. Before I go further, personally, I try to avoid reading the opinions or submissions of Freeze because a lot of times they lack indepth understanding of how things work. That way I avoid feeding my spirit with such misconceptions.


Freeze comes off as one who thinks he knows it all. His submissions are always with an air of certainty, even for social issues that might have been settled theologically. That alone is a sign of weakness and an unteachable spirit.

So last night after I returned from a long trip and decided to browse the net and catch up with latest happenings, only to see his latest verbal output and, I must confess they lacked the essence of knowledge and understanding.

Normally Like many of his sayings/ writings I could have let this slide but then I thought, ‘No’ this is the height of myopia and people especially the young ones should never abide by this. It is highly defective and deceptive.

Freeze wrote, ‘there is no blessing in giving your rich parents money. That blessing is when you give to them when they are poor. If your parents are struggling then you are blessed when you give them money or assist them. Honor your father and mother should not monetised”

First of all, giving was not only meant for the poor. Then again there is no law that says you cannot gift the rich money. Rich people need more money to stay rich or become richer. People bring gifts and money to the rich not necessarily because the rich beg for money but because you find your way into their hearts; they lay down their favour guard for you.Rich people are also open to receiving gifts.

Also giving was not only meant to be monetary and there are lots of things one could give aside money It could be time, energy, advice, ideas, friendship, e.t.c. Everyone knows this, so him trying to untie honor from financial gifts was totally watery.

Giving to the rich has so many benefits whether they be your parents or not. When you gift a rich person whether your parents or not, subconsciously they will start looking for an opportunity to repay you and most a times you get more from them that what you gave.

Jesus allowed a woman to pour very expensive oil on him not because Jesus was really poor but because it was a sign of honor from the woman, and also to allow that woman to receive the blessings he could give her.

Of all those who gave offerings at a church service in Jesus’ day it was a widow that give very little that God used as an example.

Whether your parents are rich or poor, gifting them attracts blessings and you find favour in their sight and before God. This has nothing to do with entitlements. Honor benefits more the one who gives it.

The spiritual blessings you can receive from your parents do not want to know whether your parents are poor or not. They are there to be activated once you give. Also every parent appreciates gifts, whether monetary or not from their children no matter how little.


It makes them feel loved, important and appreciated. Most at times it is not what you gift or the amount of your gift to your parents that matter, it is the manner in which you gave them, it is the heart with which you gave them the money that matters.

They are flattered by just the thoughts of you finding them worthy of a gift. They might have more money than you, it doesn’t matter. The principle is the same.

If your parents are billionaires and you put in 10,000 naira in an envelope and walk up to them respectfully, giving them the money with a wide smile and telling them that it's a gift from you to them, they will definitely appreciate it and love it. Their reactions will light up the room. In fact it may prompt them to ask you what you need so that they can do it for you immediately.

God loves a cheerful giver. Is God poor? Certainly not! So why does he love a cheerful giver? Because the intent is far more important than the actual gift. And this is applicable to human, to parents.

To interpret Freeze’s thought, don’t give God anything, He already has abundance and doesn’t need any of your resources for any purpose. Still thinking like Freeze, the reason why people receive blessings from God for giving him anything is because God is Poor. This is a rather very sad expression.


God loves one who gives cheerfully and blesses them. Likewise, billionaire parents love a child that gives cheerfully. It is just that.

To conclude, Freeze, giving your mother money is not for her own good, it is largely for your own good. The only thing your mother may be missing is the feeling of having a cheerful giver as a son.

Money may not make your mother smile now but I can bet you it sure did in her early years of achievement. Her priority definitely must have changed because she has seen life in its entirety and she is not getting any younger. This is a universal flow of life and has nothing to do with or without being a Nigerian.


The older we get as humans our priorities change and some things will not matter to us anymore. This is exactly the case of your mother.

Also, your mum returned the politician’s money because she has values. Apparently she has erected some barriers for accepting certain gifts. Probably the source of the money contradicts her conscience and she rejected it, and that is highly commendable of her.

She did not reject it because it was just a monetary gift. The honor of a king is largely determined by the amount of people who are willing to grace his palace with gifts.

Accordingly to you , your mother has absolutely no need for your money because she has, that doesn't mean she would not appreciate it as a heartfelt gift from you. Common wisdom and understanding should tell and explain this better.

You can choose not to give your mother money because you think she has enough but please don’t make it look like it’s wrong for a child to give money to their wealthy parents because that is what you are saying in essence. You’re trying to discourage people from giving their rich parents money. More or less, you're saying it's useless.


Before any post, accolade or rank your mother has attained till date, she is first a human, a woman at that and women loves and cherishes gifts generally. There is no exception at all.

Not only women, humans love gifts no matter how little. The act alone is a motivation and shows understanding.

Freeze, this may sound a little bit mean but it may help you Sir to readjust. You said your mother is always busy to pick your calls but the reality is that your mother is not too busy to pick your calls. If she were so busy, she could call back later that night.

No mother is so busy to hear from a child dear to her, she’s not too busy to hear from you, she’s just indifferent about your call probably because there's nothing about your calls that excites her.

No human will be so excited to hear from someone who thinks he or she doesn't deserve monetary gifts from her kids because she is wealthy.

I hope every young person can be able to filter what they read from people who have been privileged to have a lot of social media following, because a lot of what they put out can be misleading.



Emeka Stanley

Thank you for being the voice of reason in this corrupt world.


My opinion is that if a man's mother is avoiding him, I want nothing to do with him. He must be a bad son.

This is why Nigeria is not respected in the international community, when we still have people who think like this.


They have no interest in learning, education, knowledge, even wisdom, they don't want.

Science means nothing to them, research is a foreign word to them, they only want to keep the imaginations of their foolish minds.


Idiocracy is their religion.


They hate any form of self improvement.

I am worried for my country.

Dtruthspeaker:


What is there to self deceive when you can't point to one thing I would gain when I am dead that depended on my having a son.

What a bunch of villagers! Sorry to say.

Don't be sorry to tell foolish people that they are foolish, if you don't tell them, they will think they are wise.

StrongAlphMale:


I hope all is well with you at home? Because it appears you're mentally unstable.

After the rubbish you just wrote, we expected you to tell us if the genetic code is stored in inside you?

It's not my fault that nobody took the effort to train you.


I don't expect you to know anything about chromosomes, DNA, RNA, and other genetic topics.


Even Google, you cannot consult but you are willing to wallow in your ignorance.


I will no longer reply you, because a wilfully ignorant person is a lost cause.


Return to the shadows where you crawled out from.

Hathor5:


LOL

This girl is on fire!

Don't mind them,


They will make a woman spend the rest of her life paying for 3 minutes of sex that she didn't even get an orgasm from, coming online to run their gutter mouths is the height of it!

Who will blame those women aborting pregnancies on a steady? Hian

Coldie:

Women suffer these things alot, my cousin went through this same thing. Back in the 1980’s in the east if u are a young man going to a seminary school u are influential in the community , because catholic and Anglican churches were and are still powerful in the east. My aunt who died since 2008 had a son for a then young man going to a seminary school, he denied the son, since the 80’s throughout when my aunt was alive till she died. She even got married and moved on with her life, since the son was born out of wedlock he went through alot, cause based on igbo traditions we don’t accept children like that very much which is very bad. My Dad accepted him, cause her husband was behaving very smhw towards him. If they tell the man who later became a priest let’s go for DNA test he will say no, it’s against his culture. Just looking at him u would know he is the father, but he kept denying. This and that.

The priest moved on with his life, later got married, had children 4 girls and 1boy, as it happened the son became disabled, he was an slowpoke. The man saw this but still denied my cousin, until he had retired from the priest hood, after almost 40years he came to our family home secretly to apologise, that we should understand that based on his priesthood career he couldn’t accept my cousin that if he did they would have ostracised him. He performed all the rights and took my son into his family, after almost 40years of denying him.

All these non developed countries, like Nigeria, Brazil etc has a lot of legal and ignorance issues, in reasonable and developed world the court would force u to do a dna test, if possible u go pay child support.

It's entirely up to the family that took care of the child to decide what to do in these cases, but you see, emotions are powerful, and it clouds people's reasoning.

That is why a lot of men wilfully turn their backs on their own children when they know fully well that the children most probably will seek them out in the future.



It's not fair on anyone to raise a child for such men to come when they are close to death and start shedding crocodile tears.



What about the hard work it took to raise the children?
It

Lies

Na wah o

When the going was rosy, no one cried out.


Now that yam pepper has scattered scattered, they are disturbing us.



Oga and side chick, oya shift.

Candidlady:
the second picture looks like some photoshoot stuff


the way he rested on the tree


men are really suffering but their ego or redpill movement won't let em tell a lady their problems...


their motto: irather kill myself than beg an evening newspaper lol

no rip for em

I can't blame you for being harsh on those alfamail nut jobs.



All the same, I still feel sad for this particular man.

CruelDove:
The sex of a child is not important.

Truth is most people don't have anything to do with parenting. Twisted ideologies everywhere, Little cute miscreants blooming to become a curse to our society.

I pray none of these ignorant cavemen will ever cross paths with any of my progeny.

StrongAlphMale:
A thread made FP where a lady talked about how they're feeding their dad despite he threw them out, and lots of guys have been disgracing themselves on that thread.

No doubt, every gender is important but it is plain stupidity to say a man wanting a male child is a (poor man's thinking). This is a very careless statement. Someone even said how about Queen Elizabeth who inherited her father's throne?. Some even said what does the man needs a male child for when he doesn't have land, properties etc? This is another stupidity. Comparing a male child to a female child is plain stupidity because we all know a male child is By far more superior than the female child.

Understand that the Africa tradition and culture is totally different from the whites.

This is not a matter of poor man's thinking. It is not a matter of land, property or anything. An African man needs a male child to preserve his lineage.

A male child is not for feeding a family, is for protecting the name of a family.

Every child is important but only a male child can maintain the lineage of a family. The genetic code of a family is stored in the male child.

Scientifically, you are wrong about genetic coding and preservation.


I understand that you are desperate to feel good about being male, since all achievements belonging to only men have been surmounted by women.



Please focus on your emotional gibberish lacking in logic and leave genetics out of your epistle because you're only exposing your academic ineptitude.

efficiencie:


Because marriage is an institution of light but fallen man is steeped in darkness and sold to sin. The Father has been with the Son from eternity past and they have never lost interest in each other...this was the model of marriage that though the man and his wife are two persons they shall become one and inseparable...but when you throw sin into the mix marriage erodes and eventually dies. You cannot be doing hookup and sustain marriage. You cannot be sleeping with your maids and coworkers and sustain a marriage. You cannot be selfish and seek your interest alone and expect to sustain a marriage. Marriage is of the light and to sustain a marriage both couples must make conscious efforts to mirror the LORD Jesus in all they do because in Jesus is life and that life is the light of men that sustains all things that are of the light, marriage included.

� Correct.

Many people are Christians by mouth, they're not truly saved.

Yet they want to reap the benefits of people who are saved.


Both male and female, humans are now comfortable living in carnality, yet they want to reap spiritual benefits.


Long lasting, happy marriage is a result of putting the flesh under, which is impossible for those who derive pleasure in their flesh.


I pray that God will sustain the marriages of people who are His true children in this corrupt world.

zedegit:
Well, in recent times there has been an increase in the number of single mums in the society who are looking for "kind men" to look their way.
I must say I find some of them attractive. Here are reasons why men find it difficult settling down with them despite the attraction.

1 They bring liability: Some of these ladies have 1- 5 children. Since the economy is bad, it would be difficult to fend for the extra mouths she's bringing.

2. Infidelity: She already has children which she had with someone else. It would be silly for you to accuse her of cheating since you already accepted another man's child.

3. Inconvenience: As a newly married couple for the first 1-2 years or more in case of delayed conception, you have the house to yourselves and can even walk around/play naked but this would be difficult as her child would be a distraction.

4. Impotent stigma: In case of delayed pregnancy after the wedding, you as the man would be blamed as being impotent. Why not since she has already proved herself as fertile by conceiving already.

5: Ex Interference: Don't suppose that she's done with the father of her children even if she tells you so because Okafor's law is still valid. She can go back to him anytime to either collect one round or money as the guy still knows her mumu botton.

6: Misunderstanding: You can't even interfere, correct or send her children on errand without her seeing it that you hate her children. You will have a lot to prove that you don't do otherwise.

7. Wasted Effort: The children could go back to their real father no matter how many millions you spent in their upkeep. Your wife can equally go back to her ex. because deep inside her, she still loves him.

8 Sleepless Nights: Since you already know that you are building a house in the air, how can you sleep? The law of gravity would drag the house down, it's just a matter of time. The uncertainty when it would be is enough to give you sleepless nights.

9. Jealousy and Competition: When you eventually have your own children with, as the children gets older, there's likely going to be that jealousy and competition between them as each of them jostles for attention and dominance. This could affect your relationship with your wife if unchecked.

10. Reduced Self Esteem: You will feel inadequate knowing that you are marrying another man's leftover (apologies) but that's what it is. You'll feel people are gossipping about you whether true or not. That can make your ego as a man to suffer.

There is an increase in single Moms, but there is no increase in numbers of single and deadbeat dads, because those women impregnated themselves abi?


Your celebrity role models, your uncles and fathers are roaming round the country leaving behind thousands of women to cater for children all by themselves.


Your redpill gangs are going the baby mama way.


Yet somehow, those women are your problems?




They don't deserve to be loved because they are taking up the responsibility of two people?


Ah, I remember, you said those children are a distraction for you, right?



Say amen to my prayers this morning:

May God remove "distractions" of children from your life, may you never hear the cry of that "distraction" in your household


May you marry a woman that will never be able to "distract" you with children.


May your household be neat and void of those "distractions" for as long as you are alive.


May the Angels bringing those "distractions" always avoid your household.


May God repay you for the hatred you have shown all aye this morning. Every woman you have brought pain to, may your pains be returned double on your head.



Say Amen.

fadilaMaikiriki:
I'm in my twenties. But, why did you ask though?

You seem to have little experience with men.


That guy is not in love with you.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Thanks. But, it's not been long we met, though.

How old are you?

Zarzah:


SMH, If she had remarried first, would you have spilled this B.S

Did you forget that they've been separated for years. Or you think he married the next day after their seperation

He admitted he made a mistake, and if the wife doesn't want him again, shouldn't he move on?

Cheating is not a mistake

Oboh662:



Yes marriage is about 2 people and when one dies the remaining one should continue taking care of the children , he can't run away from his own responsibilities for me who is still struggling to carry it on his behalf no way

Sometimes you just have to be the bad guy.


Support your in laws with the little money you can afford, and if they insist, tell them that you will accommodate the children when your wife gets a job.


Tell your wife that she is free to bring the children when she gets a job paying the same salary you have.


She will keep quiet.

ZIMDRILL:


what do you mean invest in 9 month, there is not investing there its natural process there is no two ways about, if you want to have a child naturally nature lets you carry it for 9 months

Looking after a child is not an investment thats what you are meant to do

No wonder your children will value their mother more than you.


You are very insensitive and ungrateful.

jimmychang:



I will get a submissive woman definitely no cap.

You mean you will get a dodoyo, okay

jimmychang:



Like I said she did it for my dad LOL.she said it herself.You think you know better.You haven't answered my question.If you made money as a wife and you think you are now bigger than your husband then you should divorce him.You don't need to disrespect him at all.

Most Nigerian women aren't submissive,if they have money they will show their true colours.A submissive woman is a woman who has money or can be dangerous and choose not to.She still obeys her husband even if she has the money or capability to go.That is why I date girls who have something going for them lol.

On the part that she suffered and raise the children and bla bla bla.The husband didn't raise the children too right?.She was the one that impregnated herself I guess When she had nothing, didn't he provide for her or sacrifice his time for her and the kids lol.He never said he was irresponsible.She is the ungrateful one.All the times he sweated to provide food on the table is now nothing right?


Who cares if women have money Most times they don't give it to their husbands it is for themselves.While the husbands money is for the family.Some are so stingy that they still ask their husbands for detergent money even if they have millions.

Men like me don't give a Bleep if their wife have money

You will continue in your endless search for submissive women until you realize what you need to do.


Keep wailing.

jimmychang:



Like I said she did it for my dad LOL.she said it herself.You think you know better.You haven't answered my question.If you made money as a wife and you think you are now bigger than your husband then you should divorce him.You don't need to disrespect him at all.

Most Nigerian women aren't submissive,if they have money they will show their true colours.A submissive woman is a woman who has money or can be dangerous and choose not to.She still obeys her husband even if she has the money or capability to go.That is why I date girls who have something going for them lol.

On the part that she suffered and raise the children and bla bla bla.The husband didn't raise the children too right?.She was the one that impregnated herself I guess When she had nothing, didn't he provide for her or sacrifice his time for her and the kids lol.He never said he was irresponsible.She is the ungrateful one.All the times he sweated to provide food on the table is now nothing right?


Who cares if women have money Most times they don't give it to their husbands it is for themselves.While the husbands money is for the family.Some are so stingy that they still ask their husbands for detergent money even if they have millions.

Men like me don't give a Bleep if their wife have money

You will continue to search for submissive women until you realize what you need to do.


Keep wailing.

jimmychang:



You don't have a father with this above statement I have concluded.The fact that you tell someone before hand doesn't automatically mean you have been given permission.Use your head.

Funny thing is that he has been allowing her go out since without problem.Just this once he has his reservations she disobeyed.Isn't that a red flag to you?(ungrateful)

My mum was humble and submissive and she never remarried again.You see the love and respect.Even in death my dad is respected.

Like is said most women are too emotional and ungrateful.Once they have money their husband becomes their houseboy.Shalom.

So, your opinion is that women should not have money.


Because you insecure, immature man-babies need someone to rub your fragile ego for you.


It's such a pity that you had to drag such a responsible woman who chose to focus on her children after her husband's demise, and refused to remarry into such an unnecessary online banter, I'm talking about your mother.


Can't you see that you're the ungrateful one?


She sacrificed her financial prospects and the possibility of becoming richer on her own because she didn't want to share you and your siblings for your extended family to turn you to house helps.


She didn't do it because of respect for your dad, she did it for you.



You need to use your brain better, women have the power and right to make choices, and your mother's case is not the same for all women. Some women are fortunate to have money, some chose to struggle to have money, and they end up rich, if you can't swallow the reality, look for a poor woman and marry her jejely.



Stop crying in our ears, pick your type of woman and face front okay?




Now, don't you ever mention my Father anymore unless you want me to change it for you.

jimmychang:



You obviously don't have a father in your life.You won't be spouting nonsense if you had.You sound like a teenager.

You this ant, what is your problem?


If I have a father, a responsible, honorable man who taught me that you and your types are the kind of men to avoid, how is that your problem?

If your own father never valued your mother, how is that my own problem?


If your mother never stood up for herself and she was treated like a rag by your father and his family, how is that my own problem?


If you cannot get a quality, intelligent woman and all you have is broken, emotionally unstable women who don't know their left from right, how is that my own problem?


Stay in your filthy environment, roll with your dirty low lifers, and maintain your lane, okay?

jimmychang:


So the fact she has a business,above 40 and has kids in the university gives her the right to disrespect her husband


Women will neve have sense.So if I am a man and I am 50,I have kids in the university and i am wealthy.
If u want to go out ,i shouldn't inform my wife or explain to her the reason I need to go If she doesn't want me to.

Women can't handle power or money, they will burn everything to the ground .So it mean you won't have respect again.


MEN MARRY WOMEN WHO RESPECT YOU.WOMEN DON'T LOVE MEN.THEY ONLY RESPECT YOU

You were so much in a hurry you just pulled out a response from your anus.



You didn't bother to read the original post properly, neither did you understand my response.


You didn't see the part where the man said his wife informed him about the event before attending.


You just want to vent your frustrations on someone abi

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

What you need is a job

knowhowk:
Saint Mary ..i sight you ...Men are Clowns ...But your Dad too is a Man now ...Your brother too abi they are excluded from the above listed ..droopy Testicles ..tell me something.

Let me educate you.




Testicles are covered in skin, like a pouch, naturally, as you grow older, the natural collagen that keeps your skin elastic breaks down gradually, causing wrinkles, now for men who sleep with anything in skirt, when you're busy thrusting in and out, your testicles swing like a pendulum hitting anything in it's way, it makes you feel good, right?


What you don't know is that, the more you swing, the faster the skin breaks down over time, that is why you should only have sex with one person, your wife, because you will keep your body for her and she will accept the natural gradual changes.



Now, I am fortunate to have a honorable father who kept himself only for my Mom. It was a beauty to watch. My Mom is one of the luckiest women in this world.


Likewise for my elder brother, he is following my Dad's footsteps, and I'm happy to watch how things turn out.



As for the rest of you, if you overuse your body, you are clowns.



Now you see why they are excluded from your clown's club?

ante56:
What would you do if you are married, but your husband isn’t nice to you
Doesn’t show you attention, care or love but he has time for the ladies around him, gives them enough attention and care even though he claims he is not cheating
As a married woman who is lacking all these from her husband, is it okay for me to cheat on my husband?

If you're not wanted in a place, leave.



It's not childish advice, it's meant to teach you to value yourself.



You have low self esteem, that is why you can open your eyes wide and marry a man that refused to help you when you were sick.



Is he rich, are you poor, do you have a job?


How old are you? How old is he?


Leave him, don't try to change him because he never loved you and he will never love you, he has the right to either love you or not. It's up to you to respect yourself and save your tattered dignity.


Take it from me as the Cardinal Truth:



You will survive.

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

If you're not cheating on her, and she's not cheating on you, the only solution is to hold your peace.


If you need someone to flex your muscles on, face your kids.



At that age, you shouldn't even think of controlling your wife. She has sacrificed so much to give your kids a stable childhood, the least you could do is let her have some peace in her life at this stage.


She didn't steal money, she didn't beat your Mom, she only attended a party, why are you looking for trouble where there's none?

Bananapill:


Looks are good but every young man out there should look properly before marrying a lady. I repeat look well.
The freedom the man gave her was too much and probably she has been socializing without the husband even looking. That is the reason she could flout the man's instruction
And to young wives, don't do that because something might happen when you disregard your husband's instruction just for the single reason of disobeying the head over you.
The man will have to sit the woman down and tell her the reason he didn't want her to go out and puts down the rules for her no more social outings if he's not going to the same place.

Why don't you lock her up in the house?


This woman has kids in the university, so she will be above 40. She has her own businesses, a fully matured elderly woman.


You want to be ordering her around like a 16 year old?


You people are not ready.