siofra:
So, I told my parents I don't want to get married. I do not recommend telling your Nigerian parents you don't want to get married😹

My mom put her hand on her head and looked at me with pity lol. She said I don't have a goal in life, she said I'm empty.

My father was even more dramatic. He started praying o. He told me to kneel down and starting casting and binding all the evil spirits and his village people.

Ngl, it was hilarious. It's not like I don't want to get married though, I just wanted to see their reactions.

But why can't parents accept that not everyone wants to follow the way they did things? That I don't want a husband doesn't mean something is wrong with me and I won't be lonely because I plan on having 29 cats, a dozen goats and scores of chickens.

Why 29 cats?

freeborn02:


And you think it's easy to be a responsible father?

Do you know how many times your dad must have starved himself to make life meaningful for you? You don't know right? Who footed all the bills to enable your mother carry your pregnancy to term? You don't care to know, right?

Or do you think your mother's breasts would have produced adequate milk for your infant consumption if your father didn't work hard to put food on the table?

If not that your dad was a strict disciplinarian, who raised his voice against your childhood childish misdemeanours and put his feet on the ground against your youthful exuberances, don't you think your life would have turned out badly?

If you have less regards for your father, then you are callous and an ingrate.

I can never have low regard for my father, he practically gave his life so I could thrive, he put his own enjoyment on hold to involve himself in my day to day nursing plus training throughout my childhood.


He is the best Dad any child could ever ask for, even till today, my Dad will go to any length for me.


That's why I no dey use my Papa joke.



But, all my celebration is because my Dad is a responsible parent, if anyone misses out on the kind of love I've experienced as a child, I can never blame them if they lash out at irresponsible parents.


Peace

YngDenzel1:
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So, those women in the markets, offices, shops and streets hustling are not providing?

Reading through the Bible, it has been shown that from evidence, God can protect us from all forms of natural forces and disasters.


Is it

Fire: the three Hebrew friends of Daniel

Flood: Noah and his family

Storm: the Lord Jesus, Paul

The ten plagues: Israelites

And so on.

Anyone who puts their trust in Him will survive whatever happens in this chaotic times.


Peace.



P. S. Atheists and agnostics, please don't quote this post.

It's funny to watch people avoiding the real root of the problem.



Hormones.



Hormones are so powerful, they drive even the greatest man into doing rubbish just to get a s$xual release.

seguno2:


You are not just a saint, you are holy and Mary together 😂😂

See as you just expose guys anyhow above.

My sainthood is conferred, not by my works.



I'm just a human trying to please God while recognizing my own humanity at the same time.



Back to the topic, ask women and see how majority of baby daddies try to avoid child support just because the women refuse to have sex with them.



They want unrestricted access to the woman's body without any commitment whatsoever, the only guarantee that the woman will get any support is if she makes her body available.




Same for some husbands, they try to sabotage their wives' earning power so that she will remain financially dependent on them. The real motivation for this is the need to have ever ready sex objects that knows that she will get no money if she doesn't keep the shop open.



Now they have the gall to call women s$x workers.



Who are the real s$x workers?

Persephone1:
Honestly Pan just irk me now. You know when you see something annoying but you no react then person still come push am for your face.
I intentionally didn't comment on this topic first because I know nah blame shift go full am, I come drop comment somebody come jump on it. Them just like to silent contrary opinion from ladies, while him no quote Lord wey no reason along with him?

You dey mind these ones? 😂😂😂 as if them don find solutions to their raging hormones Something wey they control them.

It's called 'mansplaining'


Forcing their opinion on females whether right or wrong just because they're male.

zed7:
Interesting conversations going on here. Ideally, when you cut supply, you cut demand.

However, Nigeria's case is different. Hookup is not just because of poverty, it has become a way of life. Girls with good job still do hookup on a bigger level.

Greed and the need to live above ones means has taken over our culture. Even with a good economy, you're still likely to have a lot of girls doing hookup. We need a lot of orientation to change people. Perhaps if we start now, the next two generations will adjust and learn to believe in hardwork and shun easy money.

When you cut supply, demand actually goes through the roof.




The solution to proffer depends on what you really want. I noticed that males are too ashamed to spell out what they really want from the female gender.


For example, a lot of the voices calling for an end to the 'hook-up culture' are actually complaining about the prices, they want free s$x!



Look at one example given up there, the diasporan guy didn't want to pay 100k for 'yansh'




If you males really want the trend to end, let every man have his (one) wife, and let every woman have her (one) husband.



But you people are 'polygamous in nature'



Una never ready.

Let me guess, the burden of tolerating infidelity lies solely on women?



Let this be clear to all cheats, both male and female, one way or another, you will pay.

TheGift:
Before asking the Woman to Obey the Man, is the Man obeying God? Before asking His Woman to submit to Him, has the Man submitted to God?

If He has submitted to God, then He will focus on the major of loving and cherishing His Wife as Christ loved the Church, by giving up himself and sacrificing for her. Rather than majoring in the minor of whether she comes to His church or not.

As long as they are both going to Bible believing churches, they can come back home to fellowship and share what they learnt from
Their various churches, and there will be peace in the home.

The statement "love your wives" is missing from Nigerian men's Bibles.

Nataliace:
I have been married for five years and my marriage yielded two beautiful kids.

We were living peacefully with my husband untill last year did things started turning strange.

My mother-in-law came to spend the Christmas holiday with us and since then she hasn't left. This year my sister-in-law came and this is where everything became worse.

They always lie to my husband and say unprintable things about me. This made my husband to start treating me badly. I tried to let him remember how we lived prior to their coming but he wouldn't listen to me. Life is becoming unbearable for me. I don't want what will destroy my marriage.

I just want to get my marriage back on track and win my husband's love and care towards me.

There's no way to win a man's love, if he doesn't love you, just accept it and act accordingly.


If he listens to his family without considering your opinion, then lock up and treat him like he deserves.


He should have married his Mom.

mauchiz:
Your sister should take the maid back to were she brought her from.
If her husband ask,she tell him,the girl has gone.

Nothing much

Abi now, just return the girl in a twinkling.

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

If she can't have a say in her home, then she's not married.




Wait until your husband has gone out, then bring two hefty guys home, let them scare the girl, then bundle her to the park, then place her on a bus. Tell her that if she tries to return or contact your husband, she'll see pepper.





Na craze them dey use cure craze.





Them never born anyone well to try this nonsense with me in my home.

Blendy77:


My post is in order cos i quoted someone advising her not to let d boy communicate with the Dad. OP posted just before mine so am she she will read if she wants

I don't see how your quote will help either the boy or the mother.


Unless you're looking for attention.

teekay213:
I'm definitely not a bastard,I look just like my dad... My mischievous brother said out of anger when I have for my own share of the property he sold.

My mom was on my side until he won her over ...I wish they did involve her,it will have been easy for me to go ahead with the wedding without him and others

This is really sad, that siblings can turn on a person in such a manner.




But, you can definitely live well without them, even without your Mom.


Now, try and find your uncles and aunts and build a relationship with them, your Daddy's siblings can stand for you on your traditional wedding, they don't have to spend money, just to be present.



Drop the matter of collecting inheritance, but don't ever forget what they did or ever let them get close to you. Any sibling that can do this can kill you if they get the chance.


Best of luck.

Warl0ck:
Oga let me help u.

If u want to abort that pregnancy, then go meet mallam now now, buy her watermelon, orange, apple, pineapple, banana let her eat it all.

Keep doing it till 9months

E go help terminate the pregnancy....

You made me laugh this evening

teekay213:
come to think of it... they are ladies wishing they don't meet their mother-in-law alive or their husband family...how do you explain this

The ladies may want it, but their fathers and mother's will never give them in marriage to a man whose family they don't know.


Even if you're adopted, it's enough for them, like they told you earlier, without both families consent, proper marriage is not possible.


Sort out your family first.

teekay213:
My elder brother sold my late dad land without giving me kobo. When I confronted him he said he won't get me anything because am a bastard. He collect all the money from tenant in our father properties.

He does nothing for living than to feed on our father properties ( a Yoruba family)

I hate cheating and stood up against tyranny and this is the backlash am getting for it

Only your Mom can tell if you are really a son of your father.



Beg her thoroughly, and get your maternal family to help you beg her to know your real father, maybe your elder brother heard a secret that he's using against you. Also, maybe he told the rest of your siblings and they are also getting money from him. That is why they are against you and your mother is too weak to stop them.


Do this before getting married.



Good luck.

headofschool:
I am a practical Christian so let me tell you why I choose to live in a Christian way.
1. in our culture human who monitor the proceedings of the gods were also some kind of gods. when they get angry, they can conjure the spirit of the gods to do evil to another fellow just because they are angry . I have learnt in Christianity that God is alive. Therefore the priest/pastor would only let his/her grievances out to God and God can decide to give him utterance like Elisha or God can fight for him like Daniel, like me too. Above all, God cannot be manipulated. An ogun worshipper can conjure tricks to kill an honestly flourishing young man, ogun will kill the man who has not done any harm. the ogun worshipper may later realise his mistakes years after but deed has been done. they usually manipulate osun goddess to provide rain to disrupt activities of innocent people or sango to strike a young and promising village man abroad. this does not happen with people who serve a living God. God cannot be manipulated. He sees you, He knows your heart decisions, he knows what you are about to do even if the person right next to you does not know.

2. Christianity completely removed the need for blood sacrifice (human or animal). I only need a name. how sweet is that?? can you imagine if we have to kill a goat in this present economy to appease the gods?? (if you want to talk about tithe and offering..don't go there. in those days farmers take produce to appease gods too especially hunters just to secure their safety in the next season/trip). imagine using 89 keys to enter your house before and now there is a secure smart-voice-control, how easy and cool is that??

The reason why we have adulterated christians nowadays is simply because of fear and laziness. some have become prophet's puppets , prophets tell them what to wear, where to go etc. some do not want to be identified with being an egungun worshipper or osun worshipper. A true Christian will read the word of God, which is the mind of God, the Bible.

Those are the two reasons why I became a Christian asides from gift of salvation

May God see you through in your faith journey.

efficiencie:


Judah slept with the wife of his sons, why can't you do the same today? Isaiah walked the streets of Jerusalem for 3 years totally naked, why can't you do the same today? John the Baptist ate only locust beans and wild honey, why can't you do the same today? Moses fasted and prayed for 80 days, chai, why can't you do the same today? You humans will always find a way to justify your ugly and ridiculous fantasies.

A good tree brings forth good fruits, an evil tree brings forth evil fruits.


Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.


Those individuals you quoted are not Christians.

checky619:


I AM GOING TO BE VERY BLUNT WITH YOU
YOU ARE A VERY USELESS MOTHER IF NOT THE MOST USELESS MOTHER IN THE WORLD, YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND DO NOT DESERVE CHILDREN NOT EVEN PETS, RATHER YOU DESERVE ROBOTS YOU CAN CONTROL AROUND, EVERYTHING YOU ARE SAYING IS YOUR HUSBAND THIS YOUR HUSBAND THAT, THEN WHAT IS YOUR DUTY AS A MOTHER? TO OPEN LEG AND BORN CHILDREN LIKE CHICKENS? I FEEL SO BAD FOR THAT BOY, YOU MAY EVENTUALLY LOOSE HIM IF HE DECIDES TO TAKE HIS LIFE. I HOPE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND CAN STILL CONTROL HIM AROUND WHEN HE IS DEAD. THE ONLY SOLUTION TO THAT BOY IS FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND TO SIT HIM DOWN ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS AND GIVE HIM WHATEVER HE REQUESTS FOR EVEN IF IT IS MONEY FOR RENT, HOW CAN A 21 year old FIRST BORN FOR THAT MATTER BE LIVING THE LIFE HIS PARENTS ARE DECIDING FOR HIM AND YOU EXPECT HIM TO BE ALRIGHT.
SHAME ON YOU AS A PARENT.

I'm surprised that you, a Nigerian man, is complaining about a submissive wife.



Is she not submissive enough? She kept her home, she bore fine kids, is that not the virtuous wife material you're all dreaming about?


A woman with a mind of her own would never allow anyone, not even her own husband to tinker with the life of her children, but you people will never marry their type because you want doormats that you can control.




This is the result.

Blendy77:


Truth is the boy will contact his Dad with or without her permission if she keeps preventing him. Kids can access facebook from anywhere including neighbors, school and church friends. She is even lucky he asked first, which shows he's s a good boy but the truth is curiousity may not let him be that good boy for long if she keeps preventing him. Not this generation of kids and smart phones everywhere. Let her allow him contact his father, that way she will still hav a little control over him and she might be lucky he will tell her whatever they discuss but preventing him and he contacts him outisde without ur knowledge, it will be very difficult to get him under ur control and u might even give the Dad the opportunity of brainwashing him.

On a second thought, the man might not even want to keep in touch with him especially if his italian family is not aware of his Nigerian wife and kids. So still allow him, at least that way the boy will kno the father hes killing himsef over is not even worth the stress. In summary, Madam allow him talk to the Dad, its also for u and his good cos u dont even kno what the boy is going thru inside. Your son still loves you irrespective of wanting to reach his Dad hence his swwking permission, dont make him start keeping thgs away from u and talking to outsiders. 15yrs is no longer a child so dont do things that will make your child start hiding things from u. All the best

Go back and tap quote on the first post, so that the person who needs it can see it.

ABANGWABOI:



Una go just open mouth waaaa AAA dey yarn dust ..
Marriage favours Men than women but na una dey use I AM MARRIED brag ...
Na still una dey do Thanksgiving and Testimony for getting married...
I can go on and on....
Just close your mouth and better still use yitur Anus if you no get wetin to talk...

So, when they're looking for someone that has sense, you sef go show face.

ChybuzzDD:


Can you give more evidence to justify the bolded, please?

Google is your friend bro

Olamidegal:
my husband does not want my family to interfere in our marriage at all, he does not like any member of my family because when I was pregnant, there was a time we had issue and my mother called him to take things easy with me and all he got really angry and was rude to my mom he said my mom was supposed to instruct me to come beg him not preach to him to thread softly because whenever we have little issue he takes it to his family and his sister and dad are there the next day compelling me to kneel and Beg him. He told me that day that my family does not matter in the marriage that its only his family that matters cause they are husbands family. I try not to involve my family in any issue after that cos i really hate the way he spoke to my mom

Any man that disrespects your own mother should never climb you again.


Unless he apologizes.


You have no business in that marriage where they are refusing you access to your own family, that's isolation.



If you don't do something about it, by the time they are done with you, you will become a bitter woman. Or worse, he will start beating you and no one will help you.


1. Let your family know all that is going on

2. Ignore their malice, both husband and his family.

3. Start locking up your things, a small padlock costs #250, lock the kitchen, cupboards, wardrobes, travel boxes, everything, and carry face.


Try and focus on your kids, when you're angry, go out to cool off.



You have done no wrong as far as I can see, your in laws are bad people.

Dearlove2me:
The same people that condemned divorce will come up to ask the woman why she has not left the man earlier.
Sometimes, divorce is the right thing to do. So that the both parties can restructure their path.
They're actions and behavior expected of a married person. If you can't behalf right to your partner, is not bad for your partner to divorce you and let you go.
Even God the creator of the whole world does not impose himself on humanity. He allow us to follow him willingly.

Exactly, if a person cannot do what is expected of a married person, his or her partner should help them to become single.

fortyishcouga:
I saw a thread where a lady was sharing her marital issues and a number of people wondered why she couldn't simply walk out.

They didn't get her reluctance. But I do.

When the issues are not life threatening or DV related, it is a tough to take that step. Yes, it could guarantee a woman's rest of mind, but at what cost? For instance, leaving a marriage because you have both grown apart mentally and emotionally would be tough when you think of how it will affect the kids both now and in the future.

I feel most people who throw the word divorce around with ease are not married themselves and do not get the complexities of marriage.

As long as the wife is the only one willing to make efforts on her marriage, she is married to herself.


Is it not better to stay alone than with an unsupportive spouse?

Scientists have established through research that marriage favors men more than women, and this is true all over the world.

Why hold on to something that will shorten your lifespan, reduce your quality of life, restrict your economic prospects, etc, the list is long.


People don't throw that word around frivolously, it's something women should start to embrace fearlessly because a lot of men are not ready to give their fair share of commitment anyway, so, majority of women are married to themselves.


Did you see the latest news flying around?


A man gave his nursing wife HIV 1&2 plus hepatitis C! If she had left him, she won't be in this mess. Now a baby is involved. Divorce saves lives.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello fams sorry to bother you again i need your advice please , my son is nearly 15 last year when their father came from italy he contacted me via facebook requesting for my number. I rushed here to asked for advice and you have advised me to give him my number which I did, he called to tell me that he want to 100% support his children with the condition that I have to give them to his sister to take care of them which I refused. I didn't hide anything from my son I have explained everything to him because I don't want someday for his father to corrupt him with fake stories that I was the one who didn't allow him to see them, my son was very disappointed why would his father want them to live with the aunty who hasn't bothered to check on them for 9 years, he said my decision was right because I love them and I don't want them to go and suffer like he did when he was with my brother and his family. It is over a year now haven't heard anything from their father and on sunday my son asked for my permission if he can contact his dad on facebook, my son has a facebook account which is controlled by me , he doesn't have a smartphone so he use my phone to access his account. He said he is a big boy and he want to chat his dad to ask him why he refused to take care of them while they are still in my care , i told him he should not bother himself God will help us but the boy was begging me to please allow him to contact his father , I even shouted at him out of anger i called him ungrateful human being, he cried and apologised to me but I came to realize that he is now a big boy he only want answers from his father and to form a relationship with him only if the father will also see it the same way. I asked my brother for his opinion he said i shouldn't allow him to contact him the father may think that i am the one who sent the boy to beg him to do his duty as a father and he added nobody beg a parent to provide for their children. So far I have taken the advice my brother has given me but my mind is not in peace i keep thinking about it ,i feel like i am not being fair to my son and I should allow him to contact his father, I am taking care of all my 4 children alone as a single mother and i will never stop any of them to have a relationship with their fathers as long as things are taken to the right channel. please help me with your advices should i allow him to contact him or i should let the matter slide ?

If I were in your shoes, I would tell my son to delay contact with his father, then I'll enroll him to learn a skill.


Only when he has become financially stable will he be allowed to have a relationship with him, it's more difficult to manipulate a man who feeds himself.

This is why I always say this.:

Once a spouse cheats in marriage, the marriage is over in the sight of God, they are both only holding on to a sinking ship.



This wife could have had a beautiful change of story if she had gone to God once she caught her husband, but no, she dug her ditch deeper.



She should just end the marriage and keep the baby with or without the new man's support. All the best.

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

You are not serious, why should I give you advise?


If someone slaps your father in front of you, will you run online to ask for advise?


You are very slow

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FirstSon001:
I’m quite sad to be honest…..

I’m going to be 23 this mid year and it’s getting tough. Relocated to pursue my dream and now parents putting unnecessary pressure on you.

Me that is living with someone for now pending when I gather money for rent due to how expensive this state is.

But nah, parents believe you don’t have responsibility and what are you doing with money but rather putting heavy responsibilities of your siblings and their demands on you.

I’m not even married for goodness sake. How do I progress in life if I start taking such heavy responsibilities. I’m doing my best in a little way till I gain strong foot hold from savings of my new job.

Agony of a first and only son.

Agony of a guy who does not know how to say no

Jestin:
Running to Berlin in next summer. Free Wi-Fi connection go full pool side

You just wan run enter jail