Biglittlelois:



This I endorse 💯

If for any reason you, as a woman, ever find yourself wishing for your ex back, it means you have not done any work on yourself.


You are in a rut.


You are betraying yourself.


This is why: Something must have pushed you away from that guy, an intuition that something is wrong somewhere, even if you can't see it clearly.

Now, turning around to eat your words makes you a double minded person that can't be trusted to keep to your words no matter how painful the journey becomes. If you can't trust yourself, no one should trust you.



This is the closure you need: your ex found a woman who can tolerate whatever it is you can't tolerate, let go.



Face front, be a better person, make better money, and see how exes will become like poop in your eyes.


Bye.


P. S. If you're a male and you feel triggered by this post, don't quote me, just go and drink your beer jejely.

Ade1177:
Omo

This why I will never fight my woman no matter what she does

All these bad bad things people say about women. I've not experienced it atall

My gf is just too good to be true

I know how much she makes at work. She tells me every amount that enters her account

She buys alot of things in the house

Even when rent expires she offers to split the bill because she almost spends most of her time in my place because its close to her work

I know her phone passwords
She picks calls of guys that try to toast her in my presence and put it on speaker

I'll just be smiling at the guy dropping lines

She washes my clothes sometimes but I must stay with her and rinse it and dry it

She's a good cook

She's very respectful to elders

She is beautiful and hardworking
And always at home by 7pm
No night life

4yrs relationship
We met In my final Yr in OAU

Omo nothing this girl can ever do that can annoy me o

I plan to propose to her next Yr sha

Because we have been living together now for the past 1yr almost like married couple but I never do the right thing

Make I quick put ring for her hand

She's clocking 25 early next year

Hold that lady tight!!!!!

Yes, I'm screaming o.


Don't change anything you're both doing even after your wedding ceremony.


I'm rooting for you guys

Fiscus105:



A" is not always true....... though ur friend ended up in the hand of his enermy called wive.

80% of homes today are jointly sponsored by husband and wife.

I will advise u to go out and do unbias findings and not ugly experiences from ur close ffriend.

I'm 95% sure his friend has done something ugly to his wife. He's just not admitting it.



A woman will never hurt her husband unless he did something bad.


A man that hurt his wife, refuses to admit it, let alone apologize, still going round badmouthing her with his friends, omo, the wife is going through hell.

Ijelenwanyioma:

He bought it with his money. I didn't contribute to it and even when I offered to give him at least a million (just want my money to be part of it) he said I shouldn't worry

Use that your one million to buy your own land.


You can get legit land in either Ogun or Oyo states with that money if you reside in Lagos for proximity sake. Just get people you can trust.

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too

Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)

You are not being petty madam.



Hustle your own money, buy your own land.



Don't give the love you never received.


Nuff said.

Rtk4:
Our last son just clocked 2years just a week ago and my wife is insisting that he starts school by September, so i told her i don't have money to enroll him in a school by September. I also let her know that the basic age for a child to start school is 3years. I sighted example of alot of people within our vicinity who also waited for their children to reach 3years before enrolling them in school. She still maintains her stands and i also maintain mine. Though he is so wise above his age but i don't have money for that now. He can count 1-10 already.... Please guys what is your take on this?

You have known your baby for 2 years now, yet you have no plan on how he will go to school.

Your wife is not at fault here. The only fault she has is allowing you to touch her without condoms knowing you guys are financially struggling.


Apologize to her and start making concrete plans together from now on.

Emmastan291:
Female footballers wants to be paid the same with their male counterparts

Is it a bad thing?

Year after year, tournament after tournament, the Super Falcons have brought home nothing but trophies, glory and joy to Nigeria as opposed to the Super Eagles who have refused to fly. Yet, they are being denied their rights!



NFF stinks

Zubby2005:
So far so good
The total costs are;
Satin paint = 20,000
POP paint: 3,100×2 = 6,200
POP cement = 7,200
Top bond 2kg = 5000
Sampaper= 200
Labour w/ painting= 20,000
Miscellaneous = 1,800
Total= 70,600

Omo to furnish room no dey easy oh
Let's see how it turns out

I'm glad I met your thread. Kudos

dondodo:
I dont know what has come over my Friend. He is 31 years old this year,and he met this 18 year old girl in their area who "happens to his friend".

From friendship to hanky panky everytime, I've warned him to be careful but he refused claiming the girl is matured enough to have sex.

My question is this,is it proper for an 18-year-old girl to have sex??

It's not proper.

dondodo:
I really need an answer to this

When you start making money.


Age notwithstanding.

Flows001:
Moderators please push this to front page.

My first post on nairaland, so please pardon any error.

Good morning everyone, so let me just go straight to the point.

My elder sister has been dating this guy for more than a year now, she became pregnant months into the relationship and he begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her.
So she did and about two months ago, she gave birth to a boy.
Just like he said, he started making moves to marry her, she took him to see my uncle (because our dad is late), alongside with one of his brothers, they also went to see some of my aunties; as well as my Mum. So basically everyone knows them together in our extended family, as well as the street where my sister stays (she resides in Enugu State), because he usually goes to spend time with her and I must admit that he has been really nice to her and made sure she has been comfortable and never lacked anything.
Along the line, my sister started suspecting that this her husband to be has been avoiding picking up strange numbers calling him, she asked him but he told her not to worry.
Fast forward to earlier this week, she stumbled upon a text he received from one unsaved number, the text was begging him to allow the sender to atleast come visit him, apparently; this same guy was already married before and already had two grown children before he left the marriage for reasons which she didn't tell me, so his children have been making efforts to reach their father as their mother went to dump them with his brothers and went her way..

When my sister confronted him, he had to open up to her and apologised, stating that he wanted to start another life and couldn't tell her from the beginning because he didn't want to lose her..

Now my sister is in a dilemma, their traditional marriage was scheduled to hold by the end of this year and he has already started making efforts to officially pay her bride price.
Her two options are:
1. Leave him and become a single mother at this young age (she's a student of NOUN and does business which he supported her to expand).
2. Stay with him and accommodate the children from his former wife.

Please advice 🙏🙏🙏

The least the man can do is to return the kids to their mother after telling such a humongous lie.


Let each woman take care of her kids, and let the man continue his responsibilities. He's the polygamous one, let him face his music.


So, let her marry him on that condition.

MrBrownJay1:
a DESPERATE person thinking about their body clock AND wanting to have a legitimate child (aka while being married) wont use their brain, thus why many women rush for marriage at a certain age, with any donkey whatsoever.

So, you are finally agreeing that there are many donkeys among Nigerian men.

siofra:
So, I told my parents I don't want to get married. I do not recommend telling your Nigerian parents you don't want to get married😹

My mom put her hand on her head and looked at me with pity lol. She said I don't have a goal in life, she said I'm empty.

My father was even more dramatic. He started praying o. He told me to kneel down and starting casting and binding all the evil spirits and his village people.

Ngl, it was hilarious. It's not like I don't want to get married though, I just wanted to see their reactions.

But why can't parents accept that not everyone wants to follow the way they did things? That I don't want a husband doesn't mean something is wrong with me and I won't be lonely because I plan on having 29 cats, a dozen goats and scores of chickens.

Why 29 cats?

freeborn02:


And you think it's easy to be a responsible father?

Do you know how many times your dad must have starved himself to make life meaningful for you? You don't know right? Who footed all the bills to enable your mother carry your pregnancy to term? You don't care to know, right?

Or do you think your mother's breasts would have produced adequate milk for your infant consumption if your father didn't work hard to put food on the table?

If not that your dad was a strict disciplinarian, who raised his voice against your childhood childish misdemeanours and put his feet on the ground against your youthful exuberances, don't you think your life would have turned out badly?

If you have less regards for your father, then you are callous and an ingrate.

I can never have low regard for my father, he practically gave his life so I could thrive, he put his own enjoyment on hold to involve himself in my day to day nursing plus training throughout my childhood.


He is the best Dad any child could ever ask for, even till today, my Dad will go to any length for me.


That's why I no dey use my Papa joke.



But, all my celebration is because my Dad is a responsible parent, if anyone misses out on the kind of love I've experienced as a child, I can never blame them if they lash out at irresponsible parents.


Peace

YngDenzel1:
.

So, those women in the markets, offices, shops and streets hustling are not providing?

Reading through the Bible, it has been shown that from evidence, God can protect us from all forms of natural forces and disasters.


Is it

Fire: the three Hebrew friends of Daniel

Flood: Noah and his family

Storm: the Lord Jesus, Paul

The ten plagues: Israelites

And so on.

Anyone who puts their trust in Him will survive whatever happens in this chaotic times.


Peace.



P. S. Atheists and agnostics, please don't quote this post.

It's funny to watch people avoiding the real root of the problem.



Hormones.



Hormones are so powerful, they drive even the greatest man into doing rubbish just to get a s$xual release.

seguno2:


You are not just a saint, you are holy and Mary together 😂😂

See as you just expose guys anyhow above.

My sainthood is conferred, not by my works.



I'm just a human trying to please God while recognizing my own humanity at the same time.



Back to the topic, ask women and see how majority of baby daddies try to avoid child support just because the women refuse to have sex with them.



They want unrestricted access to the woman's body without any commitment whatsoever, the only guarantee that the woman will get any support is if she makes her body available.




Same for some husbands, they try to sabotage their wives' earning power so that she will remain financially dependent on them. The real motivation for this is the need to have ever ready sex objects that knows that she will get no money if she doesn't keep the shop open.



Now they have the gall to call women s$x workers.



Who are the real s$x workers?

Persephone1:
Honestly Pan just irk me now. You know when you see something annoying but you no react then person still come push am for your face.
I intentionally didn't comment on this topic first because I know nah blame shift go full am, I come drop comment somebody come jump on it. Them just like to silent contrary opinion from ladies, while him no quote Lord wey no reason along with him?

You dey mind these ones? 😂😂😂 as if them don find solutions to their raging hormones Something wey they control them.

It's called 'mansplaining'


Forcing their opinion on females whether right or wrong just because they're male.

zed7:
Interesting conversations going on here. Ideally, when you cut supply, you cut demand.

However, Nigeria's case is different. Hookup is not just because of poverty, it has become a way of life. Girls with good job still do hookup on a bigger level.

Greed and the need to live above ones means has taken over our culture. Even with a good economy, you're still likely to have a lot of girls doing hookup. We need a lot of orientation to change people. Perhaps if we start now, the next two generations will adjust and learn to believe in hardwork and shun easy money.

When you cut supply, demand actually goes through the roof.




The solution to proffer depends on what you really want. I noticed that males are too ashamed to spell out what they really want from the female gender.


For example, a lot of the voices calling for an end to the 'hook-up culture' are actually complaining about the prices, they want free s$x!



Look at one example given up there, the diasporan guy didn't want to pay 100k for 'yansh'




If you males really want the trend to end, let every man have his (one) wife, and let every woman have her (one) husband.



But you people are 'polygamous in nature'



Una never ready.

Let me guess, the burden of tolerating infidelity lies solely on women?



Let this be clear to all cheats, both male and female, one way or another, you will pay.

TheGift:
Before asking the Woman to Obey the Man, is the Man obeying God? Before asking His Woman to submit to Him, has the Man submitted to God?

If He has submitted to God, then He will focus on the major of loving and cherishing His Wife as Christ loved the Church, by giving up himself and sacrificing for her. Rather than majoring in the minor of whether she comes to His church or not.

As long as they are both going to Bible believing churches, they can come back home to fellowship and share what they learnt from
Their various churches, and there will be peace in the home.

The statement "love your wives" is missing from Nigerian men's Bibles.

Nataliace:
I have been married for five years and my marriage yielded two beautiful kids.

We were living peacefully with my husband untill last year did things started turning strange.

My mother-in-law came to spend the Christmas holiday with us and since then she hasn't left. This year my sister-in-law came and this is where everything became worse.

They always lie to my husband and say unprintable things about me. This made my husband to start treating me badly. I tried to let him remember how we lived prior to their coming but he wouldn't listen to me. Life is becoming unbearable for me. I don't want what will destroy my marriage.

I just want to get my marriage back on track and win my husband's love and care towards me.

There's no way to win a man's love, if he doesn't love you, just accept it and act accordingly.


If he listens to his family without considering your opinion, then lock up and treat him like he deserves.


He should have married his Mom.

mauchiz:
Your sister should take the maid back to were she brought her from.
If her husband ask,she tell him,the girl has gone.

Nothing much

Abi now, just return the girl in a twinkling.

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

If she can't have a say in her home, then she's not married.




Wait until your husband has gone out, then bring two hefty guys home, let them scare the girl, then bundle her to the park, then place her on a bus. Tell her that if she tries to return or contact your husband, she'll see pepper.





Na craze them dey use cure craze.





Them never born anyone well to try this nonsense with me in my home.

Blendy77:


My post is in order cos i quoted someone advising her not to let d boy communicate with the Dad. OP posted just before mine so am she she will read if she wants

I don't see how your quote will help either the boy or the mother.


Unless you're looking for attention.

teekay213:
I'm definitely not a bastard,I look just like my dad... My mischievous brother said out of anger when I have for my own share of the property he sold.

My mom was on my side until he won her over ...I wish they did involve her,it will have been easy for me to go ahead with the wedding without him and others

This is really sad, that siblings can turn on a person in such a manner.




But, you can definitely live well without them, even without your Mom.


Now, try and find your uncles and aunts and build a relationship with them, your Daddy's siblings can stand for you on your traditional wedding, they don't have to spend money, just to be present.



Drop the matter of collecting inheritance, but don't ever forget what they did or ever let them get close to you. Any sibling that can do this can kill you if they get the chance.


Best of luck.

Warl0ck:
Oga let me help u.

If u want to abort that pregnancy, then go meet mallam now now, buy her watermelon, orange, apple, pineapple, banana let her eat it all.

Keep doing it till 9months

E go help terminate the pregnancy....

You made me laugh this evening

teekay213:
come to think of it... they are ladies wishing they don't meet their mother-in-law alive or their husband family...how do you explain this

The ladies may want it, but their fathers and mother's will never give them in marriage to a man whose family they don't know.


Even if you're adopted, it's enough for them, like they told you earlier, without both families consent, proper marriage is not possible.


Sort out your family first.

teekay213:
My elder brother sold my late dad land without giving me kobo. When I confronted him he said he won't get me anything because am a bastard. He collect all the money from tenant in our father properties.

He does nothing for living than to feed on our father properties ( a Yoruba family)

I hate cheating and stood up against tyranny and this is the backlash am getting for it

Only your Mom can tell if you are really a son of your father.



Beg her thoroughly, and get your maternal family to help you beg her to know your real father, maybe your elder brother heard a secret that he's using against you. Also, maybe he told the rest of your siblings and they are also getting money from him. That is why they are against you and your mother is too weak to stop them.


Do this before getting married.



Good luck.