₦airaland Forum

angelfallz:
Fair enough. But you've not met all Nigerian men, so you should say, "some" Nigerian men. By saying most Nigerian men you make it seem like it's a majority of Nigerian men.

It's a majority, no point sugarcoating the fact.



If you don't like your report card, simply do better.

angelfallz:
Lol, why are you specific about Nigerian men?

Because they are the ones I have the easiest access to.

I have watched them, listened to them, worked with them, etc.



So, I know all about Nigerian men.

Raalsalghul:
I find your use of the word contentment amusing.

Maybe it's just my "warped" understanding of the word or the fact that I don't understand the dynamics of the conversation going on.

However, would you say women are contented given the fact that it doesn't take you a second to monkey branch from Chinedu (Operations Officer, Wema Bank) to Jerry (Lead Engineer, British Petroleum) provided they both have the same qualities you desire in a partner?

Or how hell breaks loose when Oga's provision depletes from 100k monthly to 20k due to a number of unforeseen circumstances?

Kindly educate me please.

Thank you!

You need to slow down, then relax, before you can process what I'll tell you.





Are you willing to listen, or you want to argue?


Because your mindset will determine if my words will be valuable or not.

Timmi:
Married and never cheated for 36-years. The fear of the Lord kept me from cheating in spite of temptations. Not by power, nor might but by the Spirit of God.

See, there are many men like you, but you don't speak up for yourself when your cheating friends ridicule you for being faithful.


That is why cheating has become the 'norm'

Rather than tell them that they are exposing their wives to STDs and their immediate families to spiritual attacks, you are allowing them to tell you that you are not enjoying life.




Living with an adulterous spouse is like sleeping without locking the front door, in fact it's exactly like that spiritually, medically, financially, in all aspects of life.



I hope you understand.

angelfallz:
Majority of what you have said hinges on the premise, that the man's wife is giving him sex on demand. If that is the case, then, i can understand your argument about how many times a can realistically have sex with multiple women.

However, a man can get all the sex he wants from his wife and still desire and lust after other women and girls.

He might have sex with his wife today, tomorrow he sees another beautiful woman and desires to have sex with her, until he is tired of having sex with her them looks for another woman, all the while still having steady sex from his wife.

In the end it is about contentment and discipline, because whether you like it or not, men naturally are not suited to monogamy.

Let me help you rephrase your last paragraph.


"Most Nigerian men shun polygamy because it requires contentment and discipline, which they cannot practice"

Judah95:
Yimu! This one is pained. You can know a SIMP by this kind of comment.

His wife just left him

He should meet Obasanjo and apologize.


This move is good news in a way.

Sixfiguresmart:
That is it. This is how lazy and lackluster Nigerians end conversation when you challenge their intelligence. They sit down and pontificate as if they have any mantle in their slimy mussel brains.

Sister, you are simply as ignorant as a dunce. A black brother who has not embezzled your father's funds, making a way for himself and others is your target.

I am sure that you have never paid a single tax beyond VAT in your life. Your type will only save for abortion bills and antibiotics to treat your STI. Leave that man alone. Someone is losing huge amount of cash and his business name is being smeared but you cannot see that. How can investors ever trust Nigerians. He is doing his business legally and yet you want to kill him because he isn't as poor as your hoodrat boyfriend.

When your stupidity gets exposed, you should learn and grow up. You do not know the owner of Fluttewave and have never invested in the business. Poor sluts always envy

You should get restrained in a psych ward as fast as possible.




You're losing it.

Sixfiguresmart:
Even a blind dummy knows you are no good. I can never believe anyone who comes in such drags. Who made you saint?

The trigger is your comment. It is bad. A man is struggling from poverty to get ahead in life and because he is black you are throwing him under the bus. I am triggered cos your comment is toxic and many men have fallen as a result of it. At least be quiet if you cannot render a support to a black man. Stay out of it, and that is fine.

Someone is losing millions of dollars in this harsh weather and his business reputation is being smeared. His own reputation is being destroyed by people like you who never contributed to building it.

Go and attack the people you pay your taxes to. Leave struggling people alone. I takes a lot. I know stuff cos I have invested in Kenya before. You do not know the climate over there. It is a hugely corrupt zone. You have to ask why is Flutterwave struggling in Kenya alone out of 33 countries? It does not have that pattern of distrust. Many people are pleased with it.

I am not on his payroll, but I am happy that a Nigerian entity is excelling. You do not say that about DSTV and MTN. They came to Nigeria and got the biggest embrace for decades.

Gain some insight before condemning Nigerians.

I was correct about the fact that you have a trigger, that means you're emotionally unstable.


You'll sell your life away before you know it.




Get help soon, okay?

Kelechi009:
This is how she judges that he his a calm & God fearing man. Kaftan & nice native wears
Let us go and sow some natives this weekend, I am about to meet some new Wife materials

Wickedt comrade

Portifar:
OP, pls you have to apologize to God! God never failed you! Are you not a believer? Are you not serving a living God? Please I want you to challenge God! If you are sure, you have served Him all your life, pls challenge Him to turn things round! He will do it! Tell him to touch your husband life....be the positive believer you were before your marriage. Things will turn around for good for you. Pls trust God again! We will be praying for you and your family.

No wonder you put Joseph in jail.

Pacesetter2021:
God didnt fail you, you failed God.

Please hear me out.

Its funny how that your story is very similar to mine...its almost shocking.

I had same question as you, i served God with my whole heart, I married a virgin, why did God allow me enter the wrong hands.

Thankfully, through the help of the Holy Spirit and the teachings of anointed ministers I have studied through the years I discovered the following;

I FAILED GOD;
-When I Idolized my virginity and even thought, I can even walk with my eyes closed, God loves me too much to allow me enter gutter, i am too "precious"

-When i was a "Christian virgin" but was into pornography and masturbation

-When i idolized my Pastor instead of truly developing true relationship with Jesus

-When I didnt know what true fellowship with God was and thought that just being a church worker was good enough.

-When i started unclean chats and sex calls with my "ishmael"
-When I gave up my virginity to my "ishmael" because I felt we were getting married anyway.

If you did any of the above I did, you owe God an apology and seek His face on how you can make it up to Him

HOW WAS GOD SUPPOSE TO STOP ME FROM ENTERING ONE CHANCE WHEN I WAS MY OWN GOD, doing what ever I wanted and shouting hallelujah in church

Sorry but the best you can do is to learn how to now truly live for God in spirit and in truth.
In a nutshell, you cannot keep all of Gods statutes and he will ALLOW u enter one chance.

Where did you miss it? Ask God for forgiveness and raise awareness top younger ones how not to miss God...it will add purpose to your pain.

Safe delivery and all the best.

The simple truth.

This is Gospel for Christian girls.

advanceDNA:
Lol....thank God it's Friday...having a relaxing evening is always the aim....

As in ehn, see, I just want to take joy in all God has done for me and be thankful.



Have a great weekend.

Sixfiguresmart:
Can you show me your tax receipt? For decades, you have been breaking the law in this country. And, you are not a criminal? You have the broken finger to point at someone else who provides jobs for hundreds, if not thousands? Flutterwave is a registered entity that has attracted foreign investors.

What have you developed with your righteous mindset? Who have you helped?

Buhahahahahahahahhahahaha




Get help soon, your case is a mental health emergency.

Sixfiguresmart:
I am a criminal. A vile criminal but I thank Jesus for dying for my sins.

SaintMary, I refuse to identify as a saint. You can choose another country to dwell. This Nigeria is made for criminals. A saint with a litany of abortion medical bills and a load of plan B pills. I salute you. A saint that cannot track her virginity.

Sister, sit your rough-edged butt beside the dumpster. That is its rightful position. You have not thought about owning a company let alone running one.

The central bank does not even need to intervene on this. What is the role of the bank? How did the cash flow into that account without vetting and verification?

Try transferring 10 million to another country and see the process. It takes scrutiny. So, how can a bank allow foreign transfer of cash without seeking the necessary documentation? How was flutterwave allowed to penetrate and operate for this long with active servicemen on duty?

They wait until the cash accumulated substantially before this? You know when someone is trying to steal from or frustrate an investor.

Desist from your silliness and be sane

The title saint triggers you, right?


And the name Mary makes it worse for you.





Hmmmmm, I see.

Princeadebayo11:
There is this girl I played rough with last week, we don't want to have sex till we get married. We got into romance to the extent I started using my Penis to Rub are clitoris. Then when I felt the urge to ejaculate I stopped and I ejaculated outside that I even saw the traces of my sperm on her clothes.
There is nothing like penetration at all because we were even leaning against the wall.

Is there possibility of this girl getting pregnant through this process because I am really scared right now.
She is a virgin and I am also a virgin.
I know some people will abuse me, no problem your negative comments are welcome in advance

Yes

advanceDNA:
Only men with trust issues and ego problem will have a problem with something this simple..
.i know some women sometimes have a problem providing for a man not doing anything...but she has been doing it and has even built a place for them....

.another lady would have looked for a way to fight with the man..so that he won't move with her and her kids to the new house...but she was still supportive...

U are having a down time....ur wife is doing fine...shes your wife...not an outsider or a roommate you met on campus....why is afraid of her all of a sudden...Unless he has been wicked to her before when he had money....

this type of stuff happens like everyday....and I've seen men that never get back on their feet...its as if God paired such people so that whem downtime comes the other person can take the baton

See, I get you




But a lot of factors contributed to the sorry state of the mental health of most of these men, so, rather than waste my energy doing unpaid psychoanalysis, I'd focus on having a relaxing Friday evening, what do you think?

cococandy:
Very disrespectful of the side piece

Disrespectful, true, but her anger should be directed towards the caveman she married.

Tokotaya:
Women cannot bear the thought of another woman sleeping with their man. But rather than sort it out with their man, they take it out on their fellow women. Why desecrate the funeral of your hubby by fighting dirty on a day you should be mourning him?

She should have kicked his coffin, but no, she had to be silly

advanceDNA:
Person wey no get money or job dey rent house?? He should swallow his pride and thank God he has a landing in his down time..

Women will be women...they are not wired to be the sole breadwinners ...it makes them feel cheated and defensive....

.but that doesnt mean she will wake up and send him out.... the nigga should go and focus on getting his life back and build trust with his wife...instead of lookimg foe how to complicate the marriage by living elsewhere

Men and women live in different planets, our way of thinking is so different.


A woman will easily understand your point, but men will not.

advanceDNA:
You keep repeating this "keep the document"
What will now happen if he keeps the document and they fight....will he claim ownership of house that doesn't belong to him??

Marriage is a risk...if it works out ...fine
If not...move on...what he should be doing now is getting back on his feet...

.not living life in fear and seeing his wife as his potential enemy that will eject him soon.....

he doesnt even trust the woman seff...the marriage cannot last with his current mindset...

I don't see that marriage lasting either.


It's toxic to both of them.

Axis313:
Actually since things went south for the man,and the wife became the breadwinner of the family,the wife actually behaving rudely towards him,that's why I think at least he should reach an agreement with her to keep the documents if at all he's going to live under her roof.
But,it's just an advice sha,he is considering other options.

Whoever came up with the idea of collecting a woman's house documents, her hard earned sweat, is an evil person.


Can any man hand over his house documents to his own wife for any reason?



I don't know the kind of weak women who are marrying horrid men like this!


If he can't tolerate her, he should walk away naw.


Haba mana

Axis313:
Actually since things went south for the man,and the wife became the breadwinner of the family,the wife actually behaving rudely towards him,that's why I think at least he should reach an agreement with her to keep the documents if at all he's going to live under her roof.
But,it's just an advice sha,he is considering other options.

Whoever came up with the idea of collecting a woman's house documents, her hard earned sweat, is an evil person.


Can any man hand over his house documents to his own wife for any reason?



I don't know the kind of weak women who are marrying horrid men like this!


If he can't tolerate her, he should walk away naw.


Haba

SavageResponse:
How were able to operate for so long without licenses?

Under-the-table deals, apparently

Sixfiguresmart:
Why are you always wary of your own kind? Why reach conclusions too easily. Who do you trust, Kenya? Do you know Kenya? Why is it only Kenya, you should have inquired. Flutterwave ain't in Kenya only.

Just because a person hails from your country does not mean everything they do should be acceptable.




If a criminal is your own kind, then your character is questionable.

calculator123:
Why always Nigerian fintechs?

Corrupt people, no matter their profession, should face the music.

posty56:
well to show you that everybody in the industry aren't that close like that or na for the gram ,Abi tension hold everybody ass because them no know who gistlover go cast next

Are you a vawulence comrade?

heendrix:
She think she can just use that innocent poor man JJ skillz, collect his cum and give herself kids then throw away the innocent man away from the house they built together and expect to be called Madam Deputy governor

I join faith with Falseprophet1 and say that Dream/plan of her and Jandor will not fly. they should both venture into being a Vendor, I hate rubbish tbh

She owns the house

Softmirror:
Mine is at rest for I believe in the grace of God and not in self-righteousness. That is my point SaintMary.

Well, my point is that your spirit is in the bondage of demons of bitterness and fear,



I don't know who hurt you, but get help because those spirits will not release you until you forgive your enemies.


Find a deliverance pastor because you will pray and pray, and yet no good thing will come your way until you get freedom.





May God have mercy on you.

Softmirror:
Proverbs 30:12
There is a kind who is pure in his own eyes,
Yet is not washed from his filthiness.

May your troubled soul find rest.

Softmirror:
Ephesians 2:8-9
God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it. (NLT)

MOST OF YOU WHO SHOW THE FEELING OF SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS ARE MOSTLY EMPTY. THE MERE FACT THAT YOU COULDN'T UNDERSTAND MY POINT ABOUT THE GRACE OF GOD TELLS ME THAT YOU ARE EMPTY AND HAVE NO UNDERSTANDING OF THE SCRIPTURES.

I can see that you are a troll.






It's really frustrating to have to deal with people like this, because you have nothing to lose.


If we look closely, you're using an alternate account, a weakling who can't come out with their main account because you are scared.



There is nothing to say to people like you, the bitterness and fear that is ruling your heart has worked so deeply that you can no longer recognize yourself except you pour out the bile in your heart.



Now, I am not responsible for anything that is wrong with you,


I don't feed you, neither am I responsible for you

Your station in life is not my fault



So, you might want to think well about your life and go look for those who got you where you are today.




It's a pity that you are miserable, I can only pray that you will find comfort one day, but I'm not your psychologist, so, if you have nothing else to do, try and sleep, maybe your soul will find some rest.




Sorry ehn, it shall be well.

marksburg:
Ok, thanks all for the insights. As of today, they are gradually clearing off without any treatment as also suggested. I will keep observing it

It never hurts to get the opinion of a medical personnel on things like this, especially when it's a baby involved because most issues are treatable when discovered early.


Please don't be reluctant to spend small money on your child, may God provide for you.

I pray for good health for the little one.