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Ecos:

But on a serious note, I won't blame her because the husband is impotent

It's simply a win-win for all involved.

ISTP:
Source: https://punchng.com/chronicle-of-oonis-new-queens/?amp

Don't rush naw, we are going to 12.


So, chill.

Kajaard:
What's with the endless divorce cases in the country these days

I still remember how this Oritsefemi's multi million naira wedding was the talk of the town years ago. It was in all the popular blogs and websites. All those money down the drain just to keep up with the Joneses.

Meanwhile those that had quiet modest weddings are still basking in their marital pleasure.

Food for thought.

It's not about publicity, or wedding day happiness, it's about him sleeping around and bringing them to his house to insult his wife, any woman who accepts that and stays us definitely planning something for the man.


She is a honest woman.

Basiljoe:
"Monogamy (as we know it) is really a tool for low SMV men to socially ensure reproduction and paternity (at least in theory)." - Rational Male

"Monogamy is a byproduct, not a goal. One of the biggest obstacles guys have with Plate Theory is breaking themselves of this ‘LTR-as-Goal’ mentality." - Book 1, RM

"Spin plates for as long as possible, because once you do commit to an LTR, even with the tightest of Game you will lose a measure of the competitive anxiety that made your attentions valuable to any one woman." - Book 1, RM

Like I said before, most Nigerian men don't understand what's going on or even get what "game" is all about.

So far as men keep neglecting their innate hard-wired evolutionary mating strategy: which is to spread their seeds to as much sexual partners as available, they will keep running into problems stemming from oneitis, monogamy-as-a-goal and the soul mate myth.

You don't just make a single woman the sole source of your intimacy, her ego will show you shege.

More men should expect divorce. Cause women fundamentally cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make. Sacrifices to facilitate her reality.

Frame is everything. I doubt the frame Oritse femi set for her was healthy enough for a LTR.

You can spread your seeds as much as you want, but as long as contraceptives are available, you are only wasting your sperm.

Mryacks:
These things are not rocket science...women see a man that is not good for them even while dating, but still chuk their head in marriage. It's so sad. There are lots of responsbile gentlemen but women prefer the 'adrenalin rush' kinda fellows. But the fire quenches after just a little while then there is no susbtance to hold forth...

How many responsible men will be enough for all women, who told you women want cheating husbands, when 90% of you are cheating, how do you expect women to stay single and share the remaining 10%?


A woman is saying she can no longer bear the nonsense her husband is doing, you are blaming her.


How many men around you are faithful and responsible? Now use the same statistics for a wider portion of the society, can you see now that we are dealing with a pandemic of adultery?

udofia234:
The said lady has given her consent!!! If u have ever being in love then you will understand how they both feel

Remember to give me feedback about your uncle's consent, okay?

slimfit1:
The degree holder could not even provide a good drainage system that leads to his town or channel water out of his town. When I say this man is an idiot they think I hate him. Go to Minna and see the respect that Babangida gets for making sure his people benefit from his government.

A dam was opened, you are talking about gutter, Mr man, you think you made sense?

owobokiri:
Simple minded people have nothing to do with contentious political positions or leadership!

If this guy understood how important his position as a president was, he would have done everything to save us from the disaster called Buhari!

His unwillingness to act, his indecisiveness in the most critical moments of his presidency, are the main reasons why we are where we are today!

Jonathan didn't want anyone to die because of his political ambitions. So he surrendered the presidency to a bloodthirsty mujahideen. How many people have now died across the country as a result?

Wouldn't it have been better if he put his feet down and saved the country from the spiraling choas called Buharis presidency!?

You want Jonathan to die for you.


Even Jesus that died for you, you don't appreciate Him.

udofia234:
The uncle is not the biological father of the lady, cos the wife had the girl for another man, but the girl is being raised by the uncle

Of all the girls in the world, you had to prey on your younger sister.


Yes, not by blood, but she is supposed to find a safe haven in your family.



Tell your friend he is shameless. No right thinking man will give her to you to be your wife.

MITCHELL96:
Very nice!

Unban Kanye West too and others who were muted just for spilling the truth.

The elites are wicked, they have an agenda, the "New World Order" and it's evil, they are all evil!

I've done multiple researchs on this, Andrew Tate has been opening their dirty ass, thanks to him.



Oh! People think Kanye is a crazy @$$ hole?

N*gga Is exposing the elites!

They're so many things people can't understand, you need to wake up from day dreaming to realise Kanye West is not mad but speaking the truth, the illumati, the new world order and the rest of them.

N*gga is blunt as f^ck and fears nobody, that's why they're banning him on social platforms from posting because they don't want me and you to know the truth, wait, you think Michael Jackson just died like that? the killed him to make more money, Sony music killed him to make more money from his music. There's more that has happened in this world than the naked eyes have seen.


Do you know what happened to the Malaysian Airlines 370 ?

The media will never tell you the real thing that happened.

The media only post what they want you to see, before they got it, someone saw it with his own naked eyes, don't always believe what you see on the media.

There was this live video about a white man on his inauguration, he thank God for his success, immediately they heard the word 'Jesus' the media people stop airing it and said it's network issue meanwhile they were the one that stopped it, so after the ceremony, the people doing their inauguration said they were warned not to say Jesus in whatever they were to say on stage.

There's also a video of an American boy saying he wants to thank God for his family and the protecting the world" but the media censored the word "Jesus and"God" and posted it like that on social platforms.


So, the elites are angry Kanye West has now come to realise his real self, he's exposing their shit and this is why they're after his life, cancelling all his contracts making him look crazy and mad to people on social media.

People don't realise they're becoming slaves to the elites, they think slave trade is still physically? Lol the current slave trade is now mentally, that's why they have all these distractions all over the world, the mind is a very powerful place, that's why these distractions are here so you can't chanel your attention to listen to your mind.

That's why people aren't really productive, your mind is what you are. You see them developing big AI gadgets and you think every human being is not capable of doing so? That's why they will forever be on top because they've enslaved so many people's mind that they can't be productive.

Just imagine someone watching p*rn every minute, what do you think will be ringing in the person's mind? Is it not sex, nudity, unclad women? The next hooker to call, the next type of condom to buy and etc.


I won't say much.


Before you quote me to start saying shit, I read 48 LAWS OF POWER 3 times from start to finish and over 150 powerful books this year alone, you should know what I mean I know what you don't know and you can't compare your knowledge to mine. Peace ✌️

Anybody that doesn't like Jesus is Antichrist.


I am aware that they have infiltrated every sector now, even the church.

Sailingnorth:
I've known this lady for a long time now, I am in my twenties and she's two years older than me.

Note: Please bear with me this will be a long read, I need help.

We were once neighbors, she later parked out of the compound.
It was a face me I face you kinda compound, on several occasions I do accidentally bump into either her or her sister who is about 26 years of age now naked.
Most times they leave their door open, it mostly happens in the evenings, heaven knows it wasn't my intention of seeing them but it happens, and I just sometimes look sometimes I walk off.
I sometimes peep sha, it was 4yrs ago, I wouldn't do it now.

They have noticed it twice.
The junior one has seen me looking twice and from the look of things they didn't really care.

The junior one which is 2 years older than me , sleeps around a lot, has been giving me green right from time, but I wasn't really sure so I just ignored it and assume never happened.

So three years later fast forward till now, I live with an aunt and both of them are friends of that aunt.
They do visit, and on one occasion it was a Sunday morning when the junior one visited.
We were alone in the house.
she took her bath in the house and after bathing she asked me for cream to rub, the clothes she was wearing was really revealing and it made me have a boner.
I bet 100% she saw it and was excited or kind of moved.

She started walking around or trying to ask me to help her out with something so as to draw me closer to her.
As for the cream I searched the whole house and honestly couldn't find the cream and I told her I can't find it.
She looked disappointed.

Recently she visited again, this time she was well dressed and while bending to check for stuff in a box, just as every guy would do I was just looking at her ass and he was pretty sexy so I had a boner again this time a serious one.

She saw it again and as I expected it got her excited I could tell from the tone of her voice and her behaviour that she saw it.
She resumed that attitude of trying to get me to help her out with things.

At some point she saw it, it was very visible and I was enjoying the show I won't lie, while standing she came closer and went down to search for things at where I was standing, she was occasionally shifting sideways in order to have her hand touch it (my erected p).

While stepping out of the room she came back in an gave me this look on her face as if she was expecting something and ask were you calling me, which I replied no.

They later left, and the elder sister greeted me goodnight. Something she has never done before and I wouldn't expect her to.

I forgot to add, her elder sister 26 -yrs just started giving me greenlight all of a sudden.
She will walk away from the building where they were and come over to where I was carrying out some task outside in the compound and gist with me while moving her clothes.
I swear to God this girls are damn sexy, I've masturbated severally and always fantasize on having sex with the older one which is 26 years of age and the second one which is 2 years older than me.

I have never had sex in my life and I am pretty scared of contacting bad energies or sexually transmitted diseases but broooo, these girls have nyarsh.
I'm not a pervert, I just want you to see the picture that is in front of me.

But nature is putting heavy pressure on me right now, I don't know what to do cause the next time they visit things may move to the next level probably not actual sex but it will get me closer to the main thing happening.
I can feel It, I trust my instinct in my life.

I recently had a dream of holding something beautiful in my hand, it look so beautiful with different colours and it broke.
In that dream I felt like I knew it will break and I could have done something to prevent it from breaking, I felt regrets in that dream and I think that dream relates to what is going on.
My dreams do happen in real life.
I fear I might regret straffing them.

What is your advice on this I would love to know cuz I'm at the crossroad and I've always been excited about having my first sex in life.
I am 22 years of age by the way.

Your virginity is all they need, they want to introduce demons into your life.


Not only because of you, but someone in your lineage is destined to be great, and they want to appoint a demon to steal that glory.



Demons can work for a very long time, even after you are dead, they will jump on your children, generation after generation.



So many young men are fools.


Hide under Jesus and avoid fornication.


It's better for you to get married.

tishbite41:
And the women are stupid enough to subsidize their stupidity?!

Which of the women?


Because Britney and Mariah never knew those guys are going to become horrible like this. Their crime was to be rich and fall in love.


On the other hand, those other baby mamas knew what they were doing. They knew where the money was coming from, so they wanted their children to be well provided for regardless of the source.

tishbite41:
Blacks are crazy
Piling up child support
May God help him

He's supporting the kids with Mariah Carey's money.


Same for Britney Spears' ex husband who has six kids.



These guys are gigolos.

Woman-bashing thread.



They want her to continue living with a scammer.

fineboynl:
men see female as minus to the family. Also with the wahala of watching her from boys at tender age is not easy.

I guess they didn't teach them that it's what they put inside the woman that they're getting.



A lot of Nigerians are surprisingly ignorant.

Mindlog:
Jah said many things and you sound like what was sacrificed to deities. For you to be very comfortable with advocating for the annihilation of a child and worse, just because the child is female shows your likes is safer being perpetually locked up in a psychiatric facility where you can daydream of a world without females.

You are certainly, pathetic!

You are wasting your words on a mentally ill individual.



His illness remains undiagnosed and untreated.

budaatum:
Actually, it's when an immature person marries ..

I've been using many words to express my observation about husband's character flaws, and the wife is no saint either

LiteratureClass:
Which bullet? There is a difference between setting up a business for your wife and setting up your own business. OP said he is sponsoring his wife in university, is that not good enough? I believe the OP's wife must have display some bad behaviours that made him not to trust him. Any woman that you cannot trust her faithfulness to you, you should not trust her with your wealth. Not all women are good wife.

You see, you're male, you can't understand a woman's point of view.


Only a parasite will love to marry people like the poster.



No serious woman will stay unless she gets trapped.

endsarrrs:
Guys like the OP must have bulsh!t alot of competent wife material along the line but now see the kind of wife he landed himself into.

Na God dey catch una "one by one".

My advice: Vote competent PETER OBI-DATTI for a better business prosperity in 2023

I was trying so hard not to rub his mistakes in his face but the upside is that those ladies dodged a bullet.

APC2:
Greetings nairalanders,
I need your advice regarding this issue:
I set up a new business that cost me millions of naira and I told my wife to write application letter and submit to me so that I can employ her to manage the business, she refused. She said she will not write any application letter and will not collect any appointment letter from me to work in my establishment. She just want to be in charge of the business without any formal documents.

I have told her that I will employ another person if she did not want to pass through the process of formal employment. My wife is not working and she is in 300 Level in a Federal university. She is not serious with her studies, having carry overs every semester. I'm the one sponsoring her education.

I am thinking of informing her brother that if her sister did not write application letter and pass through formal employment procedures, I will employ another lady and will not be responsible for the social needs of my wife. I will only give her money for transportation to school and not for birthdays of her friends and the unnecessary visitations she always do to relatives houses.

I can't trust my wife with any of my businesses without formal documents. She may one day claim she is the owner.

What do you think?

When you marry an immature person, this is what you get.


Rather than explain further about your mistakes which I expect you to know already, let me proffer some solutions:



1. Do not employ her, just keep her on allowances.

2. Tell her you changed your mind about her involvement in your business

3. Find her something to keep her busy, even if it's influencing gigs on youtube

4. Keep calm and maintain the upper hand age wise, financially, and other areas, when she's ready, she'll tip the scales.


Good luck.

Jman06:
Bullsh1t!

As if anyone cares about a man before Men have always been used to loneliness and finding their own happiness their own way, so don't even threaten us with that loneliness at old age crap. It won't work!

Since you know that it's your reality, why are you now asking for more?


Just stop whining.

Jman06:
If you refuse to offer your husband great sex, small girls outside will offer him. In fact, the sex would even be more adventurous and fun.

Case closed

And so what?



You're not the first one to indulge in debauchery and mindless lasciviousness, neither will you be the last.


But when the true purpose of sex has eluded you while you were busy chasing shadows, you will have no one to come back to. No one will truly love you, no one will be faithful to you, you will spend your old age a grumpy old man, cynical like the foolish men who have gone on before you.

Loneliness will cut your life short, old age will add to your pains, you will have only money to console you, and that's if you didn't blow it all on women who will focus on their families when they're done with you.


What a pitiful inevitable end for foolish men.


Enjoy now, because you will pay later, it's the way of the world.



C'est la vie.

Jman06:
If a man "drops" money like you put it, then the woman shouldn't complain of doing chores and also making out time to sex her husband. She could get a maid as well.

The last I checked, making money nor be beans! Or will you be comfortable switching roles

Your money that can barely feed the family, let alone cover all other expenses. In fact, nothing is left to buy the woman any treats.


Majority of women are working to supplement their family income, yet, they are saddled with house chores that is beneath men, double stress.


On top of that, you insensitive, selfish, callous, narrow minded nitwits are asking for porn style sex every night!



Just hold on to any woman foolish enough to kill herself in order to please you. But take this as fact: not all women are that foolish, so choose carefully.




Nonsense.

Blunttruth:
Thanks, it's not all rosy, we have had our ups and downs, but we are what we are today because we were both determined to make our union work.

Kudos to you both.

I pray that you will reap the rewards of your sacrifice.

Blunttruth:
Oh yea of little knowledge. I guess everyone is just different, she's my lobster and I am hers.

Awwn. I love to see marriages like this.


More grease to your elbows.

baralatie:
And his dropping of money at the home makes him useless?

If you think dropping money is enough, then enjoy your sexless, bondless, empty marriage.


Let me enjoy my afternoon aneg

baralatie:
How are you sure that it is not the wife that is been selfish

Has the husband outlined how useful he is at home apart from dropping money?

phemmyfour:
She's getting it elsewhere

2. You guys ain't in good terms: You can't treat a woman like a trash in the day and want her to submit her body to you in the night.

3. This is the most scary: She doesn't find you appealing SEXUALLY. You're only living like neighbors, sexual attraction = 0

Your second point is dope

voidUpdate:
1. That's no excuse. It's just a phase of life. It's too difficult? Get a maid to raise your child. Lol.
3. Attraction fades over time, too bad, that marriage. Lol.
5. Pay for sex? Lol.

He's the one that should understand that his wife is going through a phase in life.


He should not be a fair-weather husband and pitch in to help out with raising the children.


That is why most serious pastors will teach you to deal away with selfishness before getting married but many men are too big to learn.



Everyone with his cup of tea.

AdamuKD:
It's no longer a topic that most married women loose interest in sex after marriage and start denying their husbands his conjugal rights even if she is comfortable with the marriage

Please married women what is the cause because right now, I am experiencing this in my house even though my marriage is not up to 2 years

1. She has kids to raise

2. You don't clean up often

3. She's no longer attracted to you

4. You don't satisfy her in bed

5. You don't give her enough money

pocohantas:
Same here. E good say OP and his unending topics na man. If say na woman, they’ll say he wants to teach the battered wife feminism. Make she dey there.

At the end of the day, we will know who is wiser:

Those who stayed in abusive relationships or,

Those who left to stay alive for their kids.

oldienavie:
I have payed keen attention to our behaviour and society and its hard to argue that the black race is not cursed.
We fail to learn from the mistakes of our fathers and continue to repeat the same cycle thus stagnating and refusing to evolve, the oyinbo man would evaluate the life of those that have gone before him and adapt and thats how he has progressed.

I currently live in France and my caucasian friend just told me something today that broke my heart and don't know whether to ruin this Naija guy life.
She is married to a Naija guy who from my investigation just needed the oyinbo for papers.
But that's not the issue, this lady asked me if it is normal for Nigerian men to beat their wives.

This stupid guy without papers has been beating his wife, this is very sad and I am trying to really manage my emotions.
My wife wants me to tell the lady the truth so that she can report and expose him(I found out the guy has a family in NIgeria).. I wasn't going to involve myself in the matter but what the lady told me today really provoked me.

What is wrong with black people in general, why are we always behaving in this manner, how can someone take you in and feed, clothe and support you yet you are assualting her despite that you do not have papers and you can be deported if she goes to the police.

Do you guys think I should expose ? I don't want to get involved but my wife is putting pressure on me.

Take her to the police station and have her report him ASAP.