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Eketem:
Why is a 9 year old child bathing your baby?

You have a girl with abandonment issues almost got lost, then you have your baby turn her to a maid,, maximise her short comings and come to an adult forum to drag a 9 year old child who is not here to defend herself

The child tried to pour boiling hot water on the baby, that's what she's saying.



It's not dragging, but the child seems to have issues with her dad marrying another woman other than her mom.


She's taking it out on the easiest target.

Chosen44:
If i am recieving phone calls she wouldn't sleep again,she would be streching her neck 2 hear,she just want to know everything i do,i don't understand anymore,even the girl she follows 2 school has stopped following her and this girl doesn't greet me again...e shock me till today,she pretends like die!!!. She once hid d garri her grandma brought from the village it got spoilt.she kept quiet and then mixed the new one i bought about with the spoilt garri...the day i made eba en u go pity me it was black like amala,it was at night so i used torchlight to check my garri and it was even smelling...chaii!! She was even denying until i slapped her...i hate noise but i dey always talk 4 her matter...maybe she think say na so i go remain dey collect all this nonsense 4 life...she almost dragged my church members daughter in d road and okada almost hit her if not that i held the girl 4rm the other hand...hmmm!! I am working on myself first so when i enventually leave i won't be a burden to anyone,thanks...

First of all, you typed everything in a jumbled manner.



Why did you give the girl so much access in the house?


Normal normal you should know that a stepdaughter raised by your rival, whether her mother is living with you or not is potentially problematic for you.


Rather than complain about each single action, you should nip problems in the bud before it starts.



You should be very vigilant and observant, the child has simply been taught to hate you, why would you hand your baby to her, to the extent that she would have access to the kitchen to carry hot water from the kettle?


See funny woman.


Access to your bedroom, listening to your calls, how much is earpiece?



Look, you're in a polygamous home, no come dey do anyhow.



Beef up your personal security, show kindness to the girl and buy her stuff, but don't depend on her for anything, keep your things out of sight, lock wardrobes and travel boxes, keep kitchen secure etc.

She's not your daughter so it will take time before she warms up to you.



Wake up.



P. S. I know some people will quote me that I'm wicked, but it's better to protect yourself than to fall victim, a nine years old child that can think of pouring hot water on a baby can use poison if she gains access to it. And she's doing it out of ignorance.

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May God keep her alive for me.

thorpido:
Sadly so.Both sexes are to blame though.

Exactly, those women are only learning from their husbands.


Who never fvck up, hands in the air......


No husband hands.

Jman06:
No woman genuinely loves a man! It all has to do with what they have to gain!
It's clear that when bros approached the lady 3years ago, she had a bigger fish in her plate who was deceiving and fvckking her. When she got dumped by the bigger fish, she turned to bros and wanted to pin him by all means, hence the pregnancy as age is not on her side.
And that is what you call love

Bros, my advice is for you to take care of your child when he/she is birthed. Don't marry this auntie on account of her pretence that she loves you o. Unless you fall in love with her along the way.

If you mistakenly marry her now thinking that she loves you, when sh1t hits the fan and you realize that no woman genuinely loves a man like I stated earlier, there'll be too much problem in that marriage because you won't be able to endure all the sh1t since you don't love her.

There's a reason why the bible admonishes men to love their wives. That is because marriage places too much responsibilities on the man and it is only a man who feels and loves his wife that can sacrifice enough to shoulder the responsibilities expected of a man in marriage.

My 2 cent

Hahahahahahahahhahahaha.

You're funny, you're complaining that no woman genuinely loves a man when no man genuinely loves any woman either.


Is it not a game everyone is playing?



Besides I only asked the OP to co-parent in peace and postpone marriage idea but you didn't see it because you rushed to quote my post.

Acidosis:
No, I didn't say that. We are talking about married women who commit adultery and the reasons for such act. Asides from multiple sexual experiences, I cited other reasons.

But to clear the doubts, having multiple sexual experiences certainly increases the likelihood to cheat. It applies to both men and women. You can't certainly tell me that a man who cheats and sleeps with anything under a skirt before marriage will be as faithful as a timid guy who rarely approach women.

This is not a virgin Vs nonvirgin issue, but go and check the stats of women who complain about their husband's cheating habit. How many of them married virgin men?

Haaaa. Acidosis, a virgin man in Nigeria above the age of 30, maybe we have one or two left out of 200 million.


You're funny.

thorpido:
Moral decadence and social media...ease of hooking up.
The biggest problem I think is a lack of love on the husbands' part.The sex especially is poor or rarely happens.

It rarely happens because these men have spent their energies on numerous side-chicks.


But they forgot that the wives are women who will become desirable to other men for sex at least.


Because the grass always looks greener on the other side.

RightToReject:
It has always been happening long before this new era. It has only gotten worse in this new era, however, due to the following mentioned and unmentioned factors:

- Easier access to information, contact, and connection.

- Nonsense philosophies being propagated by small-minded elements in the name of wokeness, for example, most men now want to be chosen by women for a relationship/marriage; wanting to be loved by the women in their lives rather than being the ones to love their women and having them reciprocate through submission as that's where their forte lies.

- Most women now mistake equality/liberty for rights to unscrupulousness, while having some men supporting the same in the name of wokeness.

Your third paragraph is very correct.


Imagine a full grown man saying publicly that a woman should ask him out.


I'm still shocked till today, these people have left their God-given role to settle for the role of a woman to reciprocate love instead of being proactive.


How can that kind of man complain when the woman starts dominating him?



Bonus point:

A woman that asks a man out and marries him is an Alpha female who will simply show her traits later on.


She will not be submissive, unless she meets her Alpha male who may turn out to be her boss or pastor. I digress.

emmanuelbrown26:
Foaming? Bcs of one specie that bleeds for 3 days without dying?
A specie with rotten and smelly pussy? Gawd damn it

Try bleeding like that if you won't die in two months.


Women are made to survive and tolerate the worst pain in the world which is labor pain.



Without a woman who chose to birth you, you would have been washed out as that same blood you just ridiculed.



He who the gods want to kill, they first make mad.


I know you can't comprehend what I just said, but you are a disgrace to the woman who birthed you.



Go and apologize to her before you turn God's wrath on your head.



What a waste of labor pain.

NemoDatQuod:
There's nothing messed up about your situation. You got exactly what you explicitly stated that you wanted. You told the girl you were happy to have a child with her though you'd live separately. That is what is about to happen. You knew from the vey beginning that you did not find her attractive. Yet you chose her to be the mother of your child and went into her raw.

You wanted a child since age is not on your side(which by the way is pure fantasy. You are still a very young man). You found someone willing to have a child for you at arms length. She is now in the laboratory stage of having that child for you. You should be very happy and inviting us for pre-birth "Owambe" drinks. Instead you are complaining that you do not find her attractive. Maybe you thought after getting her in the family way, she will simply disappear and let you alone. No Sir. She was and is rooting for a wedding someday and she will be a thorn in your flesh for eternity.
How you guys make very important decisions with such level of stupidity amazes me, all the time. You have knowingly got yourself a tormentor for life. Brace yourself.

I'm at a loss as to what advise you are seeking.

The same trouble I was trying to help him avoid, (even as it's obvious that he can't turn back the hands of time), that's what you just laid out plainly for him and anyone who wishes to learn.



I just hope he can salvage the situation.

emmanuelbrown26:
U fuckingly mentioned me bitch, all these daughters of eve with just fish brain, didn't u mention me?

Buhahahahahahahahhahahaha.


You nor reach.



You nor fit to reach.


Look at you foaming in the mouth.


Hahahahahahahahhahahaha.




Oya sorry, take bobo.

AutoC:
It's unfortunate you have a very low IQ...why are you assuming things I never said?...it's not my problem if women be the best of thier life...If I have a problem, it's either of thr gender preventing the other to be who they are....I have issues with feminism since they want to reduce men to effeminate human and I have issues with bully/weak men because they want to reduce women to either bread winner or self servants..the same goes to women who want to pocket men sexulaity...It's nature and there is nothing you can do about it and that's where I av issues with your post....Anyways, it's Nigerians way of life...projecting personal opinion on others is like breathing...I cease to reply u

I have never seen a true feminist telling men how to live their lives.



Personally, my major concern is women and how our lives can be improved.



Ah, now about IQs, you are not, have never, and will never be qualified to quantify both my God-given and acquired intelligence.

emmanuelbrown26:
Nwanyi ofe mmanu, I chere iwere uche.
What type are u talking about, he told her d truth that they will only mak baby and not marriage, is that too difficult to understand?

What has the food eaten in SouthWest got to do with this thread?



If you're not okay with my reply to the poster, bang your head against the wall.


You want to drag me down to your level, impossible.



Stay in the misery you have chosen for yourself.

emmanuelbrown26:
She never loved her and u didn't read d writeup at all. U just jump up to comment with emotion.
3 years ago, op was interested in her and she rejected d proposal. Down d line, she started picking interest in op either bcs level dun change or aunty dun tire to dey sample dick, she never loved op and I so much love d role op played, simple get her pregnant mak all man for himself.

Set awon dà bí mo shey dà.


You want OP to end up like your type right?

Channah1:
I didn't encourage her o. Its just probably her way and she finds it difficult to adjust.

I think she likes you in a sexual way.




It's up to you to let her know that you are not into girls. Period.

AutoC:
I'm far from being frustrated my dear....business has been booming...it is you lots that need to learn aw to talk on public forums n change ur mentality...otherwise, u end up a frustrated woman either as a wife to an effeminate man or single n lonely

Buhahahahahahahahhahahaha



When will you get this little piece of fact?



No one is changing to suit you when you are highly unsuitable.



I want to assume that have the common mindset that females are born and raised to suit your fragile ego.




So, it counts as a source of frustration when you see those who won't bend to suit you.




Just one reply and you're almost telling me your account balance kikikikiki.



It's amusing.

horhizah:
Everyone wants to survive, but trust me, I'm not doing this for profit. I'm gainfully employed and also an employer of labour. Besides I am not selling information. I am selling the actual product. Na money I take buy the major ingredient from Niger, make I come dash you? I sell 500 Grams for 5k.
I know you are now disappointed that it's not an e-book. So retract that thing up there.

Everything I use for my baby goes through boiling and sterilisation (I don't take chances), I only bought adulterated SMA shikena.

Hot takes are sometimes very lame.

Peace

The first thing you are selling is information, without the knowledge of the product, you won't have known what to use for yourself and then sell to others.



This is why it is unnecessary to retract my earlier statement.



Now, I do not have interest in any of your products, because I do not have need for them, neither do I have interest in prying through your business practices.



Finally, survival is the basic necessity of each human, so, even if you're wealthy, you will still work to survive.



All the best.

horhizah:
Saintmary I'm not trying to survive.

Walahi the thing pain me. This is just one of my side hustles o.

All right then, I wish you the best.

But don't put too much price please, the country is tough already.

horhizah:
Story Story! Once upon a time (time time)

I had my first baby in December 2021 and really wanted to go the exclusive route, but after trying everything recommended like pap, lactation cookies, and everything else, I was still not producing enough even when I had stone-strong painful breasts, so I try to extract with a breast pump, and sometimes I get 60ml after over 45 minutes. My frustration drove me to formula. Enfamil was fantastic but expensive, and my son had a big appetite; the way he gulped at the bottle so eagerly demonstrated how inadequate breast milk was.

We couldn't continue with Enfamil, so we finally settled for SMA. We took the first tin without issues, however, three days into the second tin, baby started stooling and vomiting. In summary, we found ourselves in EPU for 5 days and I was warned not to give him anything other than breast milk until he clocks 6 months. This was the beginning of my quest for adequate milk production.

I searched and searched till I came upon something that appeared to be a joke at first but turned out to be a lifesaver. Right now, I have too much milk, my fridge is overflowing with different batches, and I'm having a let-down as I type.

I gave some people from my stash for free and they wanted more, so I had to take money from them because one of the ingredients of this wonder recipe is scarce and expensive. So if you want to boost your milk supply or know someone who wants to, hop into my dm or drop your WhatsApp number.

The product will make your breast milk flow like a river. You'll get results within 7 days.
Product is five thousand naira and it has a money back guarantee of 50% i.e if you don't get the result, I'll refund 50% of your money.

I am in Abuja o, Kubwa precisely.

Why do you people have to extort people for information they will later get for free?



I know you want to survive but take it easy naw.




P. S. The medical personnel just punished you, instead of telling you that the utensils you used to give your baby formula should be better cleaned to avoid contamination.


Who will breastfeed babies who lost their mothers at birth or those ones will not survive?

Raalsalghul:
Why she no love am three years ago?

Let's find her, then we will ask her.

Tripleoluwa:
This is not a shakara matter. Far from it. If I had known, I should have just lock up completely and continue my life

Bro, she is already pregnant and you want to have the kid.





See, I'm responding to your case specifically, and I'm giving you the objective view you needed when you posted your story asking for advice.



Don't compare yourself to others, don't run other people's race, look inwards, find the energy to have compassion and I assure you, it will affect your next few years positively.



Try to be cordial with your baby mama, be kind to her even before she puts to bed, I'm not asking you to marry her, and that child will become a consolation to you to bring you happiness in spite of your mistake of impregnating the mother.



Don't tow the path of war, pursue peace and you will have peace too.



What I'm telling you is what I would tell my own brother.


If you can no longer have sex with her, tell her to give you some time and step back a bit, but assure her that you will support her throughout.



What makes you a man is foresight (which is a feature of wisdom).



I hope you will do things right so that the next few years can be peaceful for you.




I know what I'm saying, and I wish I could explain everything to you, but a word is supposed to be enough for the wise.



Omi ò kín hó ruru, ká wàá ruru.

Tripleoluwa:
Yea. Its mindset. I'm not doing any vengeance. I don't really felt any spark when she came back, that was why I managed to avoid her. You are right about my guards being up. I've zeroed my mind that I dont like her and I think that's what is affecting my erection with her

You found a woman who loves you, you are doing shakara.



Is it when you jam pretender that will plan evil for your old age, turn your children against you, and make your life miserable that you will appreciate love?



She has realized her errors, and she is trying her best to please you, use that as an opportunity to reciprocate so that you can at least have a happy co-parenting.


The idea of marriage should be postponed because tomorrow will sort itself.



Take each day one at a time.


Relax your eyes so you can see your nose.


Omo, let married men tell you what they are facing with some bad girls.

Acme45:
the Bible didn't condemned polygamy, but only uses it as one of the criteria for holding or occupying any of the ministerial offices in the Christian fold. Lamech was the first person recorded in Gen to be with two wives but full with troubles. Jesus did not make any comments on polygamy but rather said God permitted them because of the hardness of their hearts

Now, when Jesus Christ, who knows the hearts of humans said polygamists are stiff-necked, I think it's okay to trust His opinion.

Let me give you the example of stiff-necked people in the Bible, the Israelites!

They couldn't make it to the promised land, i.e, they perished in the wilderness!


Of course anyone is free to do as they please, but no one should complain when their trouble starts.

AutoC:
So ur grandfather was Neanderthal? U just open mouth like tap....it's thesame thing OP was saying...u mostly lack ability to make peace...open mouth like gutter

I can see that you're looking for where to pour your numerous frustrations.

AutoC:
So ur grandfather was Neanderthal? U just open mouth like tap....it's thesame thing OP was saying...u mostly lack ability to make peace...open mouth like gutter

You want women to make peace because it suits you.


No wonder your type of women, the women you deserve, they have been giving you bastards to train.



I will no longer pity your type.



Tueh.


Crawl back to the hole you came from.

gevans:
I don't know why some Nigerians are so heartless. I went to execute some Projects yesterday after first service. I got home past 10 (pm), I went to my car this morning to pick some document from the boot. When I was leaving, I pressed the lock key from the remote, it didn't lock. When I checked properly, I found out that brain box, the driver side glass button and passenger button were all stolen.

I am so pained, this is happening after spending over 500k to fix and replace the engine.


Pls what should I do now, I need to make a critical decision on this Corolla of a thing. I really needs your advice.

Thanks

Park your car as near to your apartment as possible.


Install an alarm system that will alert you once it gets touched, and activate it every night.


I'm so sorry for your loss.

Belafonte:
Lol. Step outside your room/office. You need fresh air

Buhahahahahahahahhahahaha

Belafonte:
Just to be clear, who are the neanderthals? The men who marry multiple wives, the women who marry already married men or the women who don't leave when another woman chooses to be an nth wife

Everybody.



Homo Sapiens are still in the distant future.

Feminism is the worst thing that could happen to men.


Point of correction.

Belafonte:
So, I've been reading about how polygamous homes are so bad and what not. I read about some people's fantastic and tragic experiences. Rivalry between wives and half siblings and the only constant in all of these gory stories is the wives causing trouble.

Women have an innate inability to maintain peace and order. They're default is chaos and that's why children in polygamous homes are never happy; their very own mothers. Smh

Marry plenty women and stop complaining naw.



Shebi you are polygamous in nature.






Neanderthals everywhere.

Notyourtype:
Hello Guys,

Is it even possible to have up to six kids without having a male child?

I have a friend, who wanted to have only 4 kids. He's now counting six and will count more because he has refused to have a male child.

When the wife gave birth to the fifth child, then my friend was very anxious to having a male child. But as soon as the news got to him that his wife gave birth to another female child, he send a message to his wife at the hospital not to come to his house with the child. He said his wife has a curse on her, that is why she refused to give birth to a male child. We had to beg him before he allowed his wife home.

The issure now is that his wife just gave birth to the sixth child again today, and another female child. He his just very confused right now.

He just told me now that people says the fault his not from her wife but rather on his side. And he want me to help him on what the problem is.

Pls nlanders, what do you think is the problem, and how can he give birth to a male child?

Your friend's wife is the most foolish woman ever.


Period.

ObamaMessi:
Useful skills like what and what?

A 17 year old girl just got a job as a graphics designer and digital content creator for a tech company accepting over 100k as salary.



You are still asking which skills?



Better wake up