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drnoel:
Am sure u don't. Just stop the stereotype and walk past. Bye

ai tete mu ole, ole mu oloko

The fact that a majority of people support a notion does not mean it's right. Taking a stranger out on a date is wrong, because anything can happen. At least get to know the person, before spending your money!

drnoel:
Nothing like that. Stop d stereotype

Do you even know what stereotype means?

justiniyke29:
are u normal? so not wanting to spend stupidly on something she can't get herself means a man won't take care of his wife

Pack mentality

drnoel:
When does dating compute to someone one is marrying?

I was talking about tendencies

Jointhemiltons2:
Your half baked mentality on issues is really appalling tho.

Congrats on your full baked mentality. Bye

czarina:
She isn't a Nigerian. So I totally understand if it's hard for her to comprehend the situation on ground

I see

czarina:
doesn't look like it was done for the camera to me though... If you read the story well, the lady has only male kids
P. S, that smile doesn't look like it was done for the cam

That smile is precious, I agree.

mrdashing10:
Why? To avoid stories that touch the heart? Lmao

It's because I'm responsible for myself first.

kazyhm:
Stranger you say ? well, you can't help but fall for a stranger at the end of the day

Once you get to know a stranger, is he/she still a stranger?

Dami12345:
Typical. When a lady can't converse properly she TRIES to change the subject. A good morning to you too. By the way I described u.

How did you describe me

fr3do:
So?
You fit be glutton for your house but when you go out, especially for that kind of fancy outing, you go maintain you go get self control.

You hear?

Double Standard

harmbhrosz:
taking a stranger out on a date is wrong?

You're saying I mentioned the love for the unborn baby and not the love for the wife, I don't understand you and I'm not sure you understand what you're even typing, will the husband bypass the wife by opening up the wife's womb to care for the baby specifically?

To simplify the above for you, I was saying something that is important as bringing an unborn child into the world, is that what a man will be stingy about? So comparison to have use the above analogy was what I quoted you for, two strangers going out on a date shouldn't even be compared with a husband and wife going out on a date not to now talk of something that's as important as bringing a child to this world.

They're both birds of a feather that wants to outsmart each other yet you've been picking out the guy to be a singular one with different examples?

If you have something against men then spill it out and stop speaking from every side of your mouth.

I'm pretty certain a wife that goes out with his husband will not order 11k+ meal when he sees his husband ordering less than 4k

What exactly does a lady wants to eat that will cost 11k+ in a restaurant that a full grown guy ate something less than 4k. It's a damn date and not a eating competition. So safe the little that's left on the women's dignity on this thread and move on.

Just let a topic go if you don't have something meaningful to contribute, you don't have to argue out of context to make a point, which was exactly why I quoted you in the first place

Congrats.

sexdoll:
Educate yourself please because you really really need it.

Just look at how childishly stupid you sound?

Tell me, what's the correlation between exercising both sides of the brain and your stupid belief that a man should empty his whole pockets just because he took you out?

To worsen it all, you even went as far as suggesting that because a man decided not to pay for the excesses of a greedy girl he's hanging out with, it equally means that the man will be a bad father who will not be willing to spend on his own baby...

Can you imagine?!

What manner of stupid thinking is that?

That's why I still maintain that you are a complete novice.

When you finally develop some brain in maybe, ten years time, come back to this thread and read what you have written all over again.

You are not capable of handling an intellectual discussion, throwing insults is your expression of experience. No wonder Buhari won.

Jointhemiltons2:
So having home training means I can’t tell you to shut up when ur spewing trash? Lol am sorry for you mehn. Telling a lady to shut up really has nothing to do with home training except maybe I raise my voice at you telling you to shut up or I handle you aggressively.

See your life outside, Chauvinist.

harmbhrosz:
ofcoz I did and I had no intention of commenting until I saw your comparison of two strangers that took themselves on a date to the love of a father to his unborn child.

Maybe you didn't think it through before you used the father - child example tho

This is my point, taking a stranger out on a date is wrong in the first place, then complaining about what happened is even worse. I can't even support any of the two, they're both birds of the same feather, trying to outsmart each other. Now, if a man is stingy to his own lady, note that I typed "his own lady" what's the guarantee that when she's in such a delicate period as pregnancy, he won't be stingy. See? you mentioned the man's love for his unborn child, not his love for his wife. Are they both not supposed to be important to him? Is the lady now just a passageway for the baby? I'm happy I dug this deep into the Nigerian mentality, I won't have gotten this comment.

coolh3ad:
But madam where you dey carry talk go?.. wetin concern the issue on ground with registering wives for antenatal? ....Na him wife he carry go restaurant??. You know the truth. Admit it. The lady did bad. Can you do such?..

They're both wrong.

adekennis:
If you are asked to order what you like doesn't mean you shouldn't be reasonable.

Noted

mrdashing10:
So if a guy spends all the money, what do you bring to a date? Painted face and empty stomach?

I take my own money along anytime I go out, and I ensure to cover all my expenses.

kazyhm:
Even someone on death row dont eat like camel

Funny one there. Avoid gluttons, and don't take a stranger on a date.

kazyhm:
Even someone on death row dont eat like camel

Funny one there. Avoid gluttons, and don't take a stranger on a date.

Nashoji:
so when a guy ask you to order anything you want, he has given you order to carry the whole restaurant and go to your house abi? I'm not even surprise again.

Naaah, the lady should have spent her own money, my point is, let her know it's just an outing, not a charity show.

chigoizie7:
So, dating a girl now, is all about what u can spend right?

No, let the lady know you're not ready to waste your money on just one date, I mean, tell her directly, a serious, equally hard-working lady will respect that, while a glutton like that lady in the story will waka pass, in the end, you just dodged a bullet.

lexy2014:
when a lady has manners&home training, u exercise self control, With or without being told what 2do.

Right.

jaychubi:
As a rule a girl shld never order for more than what she can pay for, must she eat on a date? A date is just a hang out to relax n talk may be with a drink. Except it's a lunch or dinner date.

Bringing ur girl friends to our date is a no no esp without my permission bc you don't kw my budget

You're right.

ceecee0703:
Sweet heart most ladies aren't really sane, you say make an order what you want not declare for your last supper, imagine 12,000 in one sitting common!

That's why I called her a glutton.

ceecee0703:
Sense on ladies don't order more than your pocket incase you have to pay...

Noted

Humility017:
that your correlation relating date with money spending for guys leaves me baffled.
it is so unfortubate that here in Nigeria...some ladies see relationship as a paid job...an avenue to get money from guys same way some guys see it as an avenue to get sex....

Nigeria ladies really need a reorientation..I still can't understand..what's happening in today's world...you meet a lady today few days after just barely a week...she has start ask you for money....it makes no sense.

You have a good point, but don't generalise.

Humility017:
that your correlation relating date with money spending for guys leaves me baffled.
it is so unfortubate that here in Nigeria...some ladies see relationship as a paid job...an avenue to get money from guys same way some guys see it as an avenue to get sex....

Nigeria ladies really need a reorientation..I still can't understand..what's happening in today's world...you meet a lady today few days after just barely a week...she has start ask you for money....it makes no sense.

You are generalising. It won't help you drive home your point.

openmine:
She exposed her gullibility by asking for what she can't pay for.....
Since its not her money and she is going for a date doesn't mean she should see such date with a guy as a poverty alleviation scheme...
Simplicity and first impression matters....
I know of a colleague of mine who was told by his gf that they don't always need to got to an eatery every time...that she can use some of the money and prepare a lovely meal for both of them!

Good point you have there. First non-insultive quote so far. I applaud your self control.