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shizzle1:
95% go their for oloshoism, and they mostly south Westerners

Have heard plenty stories myself, and I personally know about 5 persons whose sisters are involved

No be today

2buffagain:
He might as well be an agbero.
Doesn't take anything away from the reality that she threw away his resources PURELY OUT OF SPITE. If you want to be angry, be angry, but don't start doing dumb shit like throwing people's things away (the very thing you were asked to use less of no doubt). It is equivalent to destruction of property.

Girls and their manginas talk all this ish about not hitting women but she too is also an agbero by the way she acted.
When an agbero meets an agbero, the physically weakest of the 2 will get slapped and this is usually the female. I have no pity for her.

What I find amazing is how when all these stupid girls act up and get whats coming to them it is always the guy that y'all expect some kind of sainthood from and you want to be treating the female with kiddy gloves, even though the biitch is a grown azz adult and knew exactly what she was doing.

Will I slap a girl who empties my eggs down the sink to spite me? No. She gets the door...and the plumbing bill if she also clogged my sink.
Does that mean I disagree if she does it to someone else more wicked than me and he chooses to respond by slapping her? Not at all. The biitch had it coming!

Different people react differently to foolishness. Some like elevated folk, some like agberos.
If an agbero female used to acting up with elevated men who ignores her one day jams an agbero man and thinks "business as usual, time to misbehave", she will chop the beating of her life....and not a care shall be given.

Stupid females just need to stop doing disrespectful ish.

Dami12345:
I would rather be a rich agbero woman beater than a poor ass licking beta male .

2buffagain:
Amen, but are you not seeing what is being said here?
Why is it so hard for females to logically look at a matter and deduce the real issue by looking at the big picture?

Your feminine minds just get stuck on a micro-detail and you are then incapable of progressing past that in logical reasoning.
This is why we don't have many female CEOs I swiar.

OChimex:
It's only in Africa that Education doesn't mould a person, even one bit. Which is why you see a SAN, Medical Doctor, Professor, Eng. etc behaving like common criminal. The likes of them in various political positions, heading institutions.

When you look at the national assemblies, state house of assemblies, governors, executives, judiciaries, heads of universities, family heads, religious leaders, youth leaders, what you see mostly are educated illiterates, who are rascals and miscreants with bogus certificates yet not disciplined.

I also blame the collapsed family institutions for not instilling disciplines in children.

What a sad reality.

akwunomy:
People here can crucify you for putting your name on the project. That is their opinion and it does not represent any conventional or societal norm. You have a union...a partnership when you marry someone...but from your statement...he used his share of the deal to take care of his immediate family...I need people to crucify him thus for this...but unfortunately...ours is a subjective society which favors men...but in the western world...that is not the case...People can separate asset in relationship for many reasons and in his case...through his action...he separated his assets from yours from the on set...and as nature will have it...you are too smart to build the house in your name..What man for whatever reason will ask the mother of his kids to move out of the house with his kids? I live in the USA...here a man move out of the house even if the house belong to him...they wife and kids lives in the house!

Back on your question...pay close attention...don’t...never change anything to his name...possible scenario...he might perfect his threat and you will see another woman living in a house you built...they world is wicked! Protect yourself and your kid! They arguement should be...the need for him to return and take care of his kids...Worst case scenario...if the heat is too much...use a power of attorney...with a good lawyer...and put the name of the house on your son name...maybe that will soothe his stupid egocentric attrition.

histemple:
Honestly, I am touched by your extremely mature response. Keep this attitude, it will take you places.

oloyede252:
can't you read.. where was it stated that the man built a house rather invested it on his father's health..

oloyede252:
madam the husband never chased her out, he just said that in the heat of an argument
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histemple:
Do you know this family personally or where did you get this information that is never on the post?

You read one thing and propagate what you imagined in your mind.

You are just impossible.

QueenSuccubus:


Say goodbye to ur England.. You will never make it even in the 3rd place..

#TeamBELGIUM thru & thru

12inches1:
Finally!!! Someone with an iota of sense. We all know that most times in Nigeria that it is men that spend most on the family expenses. In fact let me paint a better scenario of what is happening here. Husband and wife have a joint savings(possibly and probably the husband is even putting down way more because he earns more). Let's say husbands puts down 6 million as the head of the family and wife puts down 2 million. Who brings up the business idea?Possibly the husband or maybe the wife. Now they do the business and then make 3 million naira in profit. Note that the husband is still the one primarily spending on the family. Now the husband runs into financial crises and he also needs to help his family. He has also been the one taking care of the wife's family and paying rent and children school fees. So, because of this many expenses he can't embark on buying the land right now. He does what he has to do and spends his own agreed part of the money on his parents and family expenses. The wife doesnt agree with him spending so much on his parents (though she has not mentioned how much he has been spending on her own parents as a good in law and also living expenses like rent etc) The wife uses her own "part" (agreed part) of the interest from the investment in buying the land. Husband does not mind. After all, it is one family and one love. Husband keeps investing in the building project till its complete. because he believes Shebi it is family property. But Mrs owns the land and bought it in her name. Sneaky woman. Now they have an argument and out of annoyance husband tells her to leave only to discover that Mrs has sneakily had the entire property in her name all along. Husband is furious and feels cheated and betrayed. Who wouldn't be? Now Mrs is here on Nairaland asking if what she did was fair. You yourself do you think it is?? That is why I'm a supporter of sharing everything in marriage both interests and expenses based on how much each person has put in to the extent possible. Madam you know what to do. The name on the property shouldn't have been only in your name in the first place because it's a joint investment. You only solely paid for the land.

HEseesall:
Yes it is not a small money, his dad had an ailment he had to be flown out, he used the remaining to complete their house, he's the first born, now they think i'm evil cos of all he did for them, it's really saddening

YorubaEmir:
My advise.
Peace is golden.
At this point, everyone is hurt and needs his/her ego massaged.

Your biggest mistake was building the house with your Name without his knowledge. How does it sound to your ear? It means you never trusted your man enough right from the onset.

Now the deed has been done. Why not change it to his name for peace to reign? From the way you sound, he is a good man and whatever prompted him to ask you to leave must have been grievous.

Please don't let pride take away your man. Do not listen to those asking you for divorce. They will break your home.

HEseesall:
He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

modelmike7:
Different Ways to die

PharmaGirl:
500kg, 200kg and 150kg

BigSarah:
, That's a big lie believe at your own peril....

But what I'm telling is the truth Daniel has being in NDLEA custody at Abeokuta since Sunday.
The Bad part of all of this is, him remaining in their custody and missing his school work which will lead to an extra year or the worst which is court sentence. Please help in whatever means necessary

More Details : https://www.nairaland.com/4614360/please-needed-here#69336946

OBAGADAFFI:
That is a lie.

Yet she is working at the Pharmacy with Condoms on the inventory.

Armstrong34:
Please NL,pardon my grammatical construction due to the fact i was an engineering student as it may not meet upto standard to the level of the professors of English we have here....

There's this lady am currently in a relationship with and Sincerely she's really the type of girl we guys are always hoping to come across.... I have come to love her buh only for me to notice she has à tattoo on her arm...And sincerely there's this societal perception about tattoo that speaks of Waywardness and irresponsible lifestyle..... buh on the contrary... this babe is just so different that am just confused.....I have come across girls who appear so so bad and even sleep at the club buh are still virgin while some girls who claim to be responsible and decent are upgraded and modified Oloshos....
Please help a brother, I don't wanna make a mistake based on the general assumption on what people would say

milemimi93:
Sir we due respect, 90% of Nigerian ladies can't cook..

A good cook shouldn't be given time or second chance. At first chance, a good cook should hit it.

Op said this girl cooked twice and failed at both.

It's obvious she can't cook.

BestDude:
Na so una dey talk. when a guy comes now, same you will friendzone him. I heard same from a lady who even complained of being treated like trash by guys and the next thing I asked her out cos i really liked her and was willing to treat her like she deserve. madam, she declined.

That is why it annoys me when girls complain.

Optionally:
I've tried countless times to speak to him about it but he only gets angry and only on few occasions he hit me.

RedDistrict:
never ends well babe, trust me on this.

hot tempered and abusive guys only get worse and 2 years is already a long time for him to have actively tried to calm down for you at least

i attended my guy's sisters wedding to a younger temperamental guy.
The marriage crashed after a year cos the crazy guy was beating the wife who was pregnant already. She would run into the bedroom and close the door and the hubby woukd be hitting the door ( i saw pictures). she had scars on her body also.
My guy and his other brothers went to the house to beat the crazy guy and carried their sister away.
She has a baby boy now and is taking care of her son herself

Run now or manage for now and run after you get married, you'll still run eventually

Optionally:
I've tried countless times to speak to him about it but he only gets angry and only on few occasions he hit me.

victorian:
Op you can't change him. Only series of failed relationships and eventually failed marriages that can make him sober and calm. He's in for a bumpy sad life later on.
And later you will get tired and frustrated then either eventually dump his assz or God forbid, you may either leave him the simple way or the hard painful way called death.

A man who gets angry at every opportunity ends up beating his woman firstly with slaps and ends with severe blows. So don't worry, u will make a final decision on your own later. Have dated such before, I simply fled at the sight of his angry outburst everytime. He's still single at 49, with two divorce cases on his neck. Now he's cooling off alone .

blazer2018:
U might be right to some extent...there are close to none perfect families out there...each has its own flaws