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Zombiekiller010:
I dont allow ladies ( to sit in my room while charging)

Smart guy, no one will jail you for kicking a lady out of your room.

GreenArrow1:
So, I should lie? First time in church?

Just enjoy service and walk away, unless you were looking for something else.

RyanD147:
Noted.
But u don’t see BS from some churches as a first timer, winners chapel own stood out.

I don't care about denomination, the same trick applies to all churches. No one will force you to stand up.

Sorry dear, here in Nigeria, their mothers are their staunch supporters while their fathers look on.

RyanD147:
I hope my brethren at winners chapel will learn.

My first day at winners, after service, they gather all of us wey come new go back of church.

As we reach, after introduction and the rest, they started forcing us 2 speak in tongues.....I felt embarrassed!

That was the last time I stepped feet in that winners chapel!

Next time, stop indicating that you are a new comer, you will avoid lots of BS.

eleojo23:
Learning to speak in tongues? Wawuuu...

This is more of legalism and fanatism...

I personally hate it...and women are easily deceived by these things...it's a pity

Point of correction,
Women who have learnt nothing
They will see good churches where they speak the truth, yet they will keep flocking to charlatans because of greed and impatience.

Fellow Nigerians never disappoint, chai
Anointing oil and ayeta,
Zero logic.

Purfee:
Thank you so much.
I'm rounding up my masters program soon.
Plus I have a business I'm running too. Though there are some challenges now.
I hope to get a job to support my business too.
And I used to have lots of male friends that made him insecure then.
But I'm actually not close to most of them again.
Funny enough I'm not the lovey dovey type.
I just happen to love this guy so much.
I think when I love I love fully, that was the case with my ex before things fell apart.

Wait o, are you older than he is?
I've got my answer, don't bother quoting this one

24kmagic:
Is 26 too young for a guy to have a committed relationship? Just asking tho

In most cases, 26 is still too young and immature to handle married life in 21st century Nigeria

Ishilove:
In short ehn. I just lock up when I see the age. Experience is the best teacher so let her learn by herself for herself

Purfee
Purfee
Purfee

The big girls have spoken
Àbò òrò lan so f'ómolúwàbí.
You'd better look out for yourself, boys are not smiling.

Eran= Ewu= Goat.
Why would you let your child go near a goat.

What about BamBam

generationz:
Seriously some women no dey try at all.



If you have a husband that has given you everything from a good heart then doing something big at least once for him isn't bad.

I mean Beyonce gave Jay a fvccking Private Jet.


A lot of Nigerian women are selfish they can't even give a good experience beyond cooking and cleaning.

The men don't help matters because most give with selfish motive too. We have very few altruistic Nigerians, so you all deserve each other.

So, is Elsie saying she can't afford to save for a big party for Bright?

The worse part is they will put it online for everyone to praise them.

Mtcheew.

I like how bright spoke his mind joor.

Well, from the way I see it, a lot of men prefer to work hard, make money, then get married to women who are not as rich as they are so they can maintain the upper hand in their marriage,

Beyonce and her husband are not far from each other in terms of net worth
So, if a man wants a woman who can give him as much as he can give her on his birthday, he should marry a hardworking woman who has her own net worth or build his woman to be a woman of value.
A man that prefers to buy clothes and perfumes for his wife rather than pay her school fees or help her on a viable career path should expect boxers for his birthday.

dairykidd:
Op first of all admit to yourself that u ar a big f00l..

Now stop begging her totally. When u beg too much i believe she may come to resent u in a pity kind of way & u go loose ur honour. You have to start from the scratch again. Win her heart, make her believe u truly love her & all she stands for. U need to do all the things u would do to show a new babe that she's the one u want to live & die with. Genuinely show her how deep your love is for her. And when she comes back around never stop treating her right & always think before u talk sh1t!

Interesting

Biingoo:
Rubbish!

Ntooor

OKOATA:
You can never meet a white man in your life, what's your gain exactly. Evil girl.

You have slave mentality, you believe you can never prosper without meeting a white man. You don't believe you can legitimately become rich. One or more of my assertions is correct.

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person, after saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back, I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

Ohhhhhh there's something adorable and endearing about a man who apologizes over and again when he's wrong.
Trust me, and I'm giving you a secret here
apologize for a very long time, apologize effusively, tell her you almost made a mistake by almost choosing someone else, that God guided you to the right woman even though you didn't know better,
Be romantic, in fact be very jovial, crack jokes and ask an older man how to make your woman happy without telling him your problem
Believe me, your marriage will come out stronger if you can turn your sour words into praise with wisdom. Good luck to you man, a wise man builds his home.

Renderhelp:
@Renderhelp

I am an Aussie married to a Nigerian man. He was a poor immigrant when we met. After we got married, he helped manage my Ranch. I must say, he's a hardworking bloke and a little Aussie battler.

I always wanted kids but he was never interested. He said the world was too wicked for innocent kids and I agreed.

He always sends a huge part of our income to his family in Nigeria especially his late brother's wife. I asked him why he does that and he said its part of the Nigerian culture.

One day, I was going through our bank statement and I thought to look up his brother's wife's profile on Facebook. I was shocked to see she had a few month old baby as her husband died years ago. I kept scrolling and I saw the wedding photos of she and my husband.

When I asked my husband, he apologises and explained to me about the culture of men inheriting their late brother's wife. I told him he was murking around, but I looked it up online and it was true!

I asked if he was the father of the baby and he agreed. He thought the woman was on pills. He said he had to perform his 'duty' to her if not she will report to the village chief and they will have him flogged at the square.

He suggested we bring the baby to Australia to stay with us. We are trying to process that and I'm thrilled about it.

I reckon this culture is bizarre and Nigerians are living in the dark ages. I am a true blue and I haven't seen or heard anything so ridiculous. I hope your parts become civilized soon enough.

TA!

Unfortunately, you are being scammed
That culture is and has been outdated for decades now
Drop that man like a hot pan before you lose all your money to him.

LillyVal:
My cousin who got married this year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of Kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months na, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

a. would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

Did your cousin know her husband had kidney problems before she married him?
Did the husband know he had kidney problems before marriage and kept it from the wife?
Based on deception, the wife can request for divorce, or even annulment!
I am not a lawyer though
From the way I see it, I think your cousin should pick race, if she is not pregnant, all the better for her.
The husband's family asking for such a sacrifice from a two month bride that cannot sacrifice for their own son and brother is a useless family and worthless in laws (pardon my harsh words)

ClassRep001:
Nigerian girls are the worst set of people you should ever consider to have anything to do with.

Morally they are bankrupt.
All brain dead, fuuking dirty set of people with stinking underwears.

I stopped doing local a long time ago..
They are the worst set of girls in the world.

Especially the ones from Apamu Oduduwa region

when was the last time you changed your boxers

afroniger:
Well, I feel that in life we must be realistic and keep our cards on the table. If a man lies to his wife about the state of his fertility, the woman should be free to move on if she wants kids and can't cope with such a man's disability, without being made to feel guilty. We all have a right to our happiness in life without the burden of social stigma. That is my position.

If a man or woman lies about his or her fertility and ability to have kids before marriage, provided he/she knew, the marriage can be annuled. As far as I know about marriage laws in Nigeria.

wilson2:
But in the beginning it was not So....... Only God knows why child birth in this generation is something else...

My mum gave birth to me and my 4 siblings without going to the hospital.... 2 among us she did it all by herself without the help of any one or a doctor

Each female body is different and has different reactions to gestation. Many women in your grandmother's time, your mother's time and even in the present day Nigeria died due to pregnancy complications but you will hardly hear the stories since some communities tag those women as witches. So many stillbirths counted to be ogbanje, emere or abiku.
Successfully carrying multiple pregnancies to term is not a measure of superiority

FitnesScientist:
The book that the haemaphrodite called SaintMary is asking you to read is in my library. I have read it back to back.

Ijebus and Ijeshas were never enslaved by other Yoruba sub-ethnic group. It is obvious she/he doesn't even know about Yoruba history. Even during the height of the Oyo Empire no Yoruba sub-ethnic group were enslaved by the ruling King (Alaafin).

Ah.... I see, you would say anything to cover up the sordid past of your ancestors, I understand your desperation. However, you don't have to bother too much, slavery as we used to know it is no longer in effect, every one is free now. I don't recall mentioning anywhere in any of my posts that the Alaafin enslaved anyone, don't be too jittery when you're lying. Oh well, don't take it too personal, all is well now.

FitnesScientist:
The Ijebus (capital city is Ijebu Ode) and the Ijesha (capital city is Ilesha) are two sub-ethnic groups of the Yorubas and they were never kept as slaves by other Yorubas for human sacrifice. I have some history books on Nigeria (and Yoruba) history including the book "The History of The Yorubas by late Rev. Samuel Johnson"

Please tell us the page where he wrote that Ijebus and Ijeshas were used by the other Yoruba sub-ethnic groups for human sacrifice or tell us the book where you got your information from.

The onus of proof is on you, so back up your statement with facts.

If you cannot tell us, then you are the dictionary definition of an idi0t.

Scientists don't insult people to get facts, you are beneath my cadre.

chineloSA:
Me hurting. No. I am healing. I am worried about coons like you.

Do not try to make black people carry the blame for slavery. AFRICANS NEVER ENSLAVED ANY RACE IN HUGE NUMBERS.

YES YOU ARE A COON AND SUPREMACIST. YOU WILL GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO DEFEND WHITE PEOPLE.

Wonder if you get paid to be their spokes person

Your pain is written all over your post. Replying you is nauseating. Who is blaming you and your ancestors for slavery, we all saw the fallout of slavery, probably nothing will be done in the way of apologies or redress, but how long will you continue in the murk of your ancestors' past, they were used, battered, killed, and they are relatives to all blacks in the world. It was no small pain. Yet, you still suck up to your assailants, you refuse to better your lot in life, that is no one else's fault but yours. Stop crying foul all over the world and spend your time proving to the world over how amazing the black man is. God made all men to be awesome, you're wasting your time and life whining about your unfortunate past. It's not your fault you were born with disadvantages, but it will be your fault if you spend your whole life in that position of disadvantage. Just buzz off.
An addendum for your fragile healing heart: The party that bought the black man, the party that sold more than 10 men for a tiny mirror, and the party that sacked whole villages to sell them into slavery are all evil. Everyone, both white and black has capacity for evil in them.

chineloSA:
A supremacist is not only white people.

Supremacists can be black people who go out of their way to find the good in white people and what white people represent even when it's not there.

Supremacists do not get a grip or belive that white people are capable of being evil, even when the evidence is there.

Supremacists go out of their way to justify any wrong doing by other races be it using religion or any other means.
E.g. If it was not for slavery we would not know Jesus.

Supremacists label any of their own as angry and try and pacify them as soon as they find it hard to justify any wrong doing by other races.
I am not angry. Even if I was I am justified.

Supremacists will look for any reason to justify dating out of their race.

Supremacists see their culture, religion and anything that represent them as inferior therefore try to justify other races own as good.


There is nothing justifiable in capturing a race in millions and destructing their live family lives, religion, culture and even how they see themselves just because you have to impose your religion for God's sole purpose.

Slavery was a heinous crime to human kind and still is.

You are messed up. You are a white apologist and supremacist. Work on healing yourself. Anything that represents white people is not all good. Religion both Islam and Christianity justified slavery of only dark skinned people, rarely justified slavery of their own White or Arab race.

Whoever did this to you is a wicked person. Slavery and all manner of evil has been perpetrated by all humans. Every human is capable of evil and has done something bad at one point or another. There is no measurement for evil, sin is sin, evil is evil, Slavery is evil no matter who practices it. Calling people names will not remove your pain cos it's obvious you are hurting. Sorry ehn.

chineloSA:
A supremacist is not only white people.

Supremacists can be black people who go out of their way to find the good in white people and what white people represent even when it's not there.

Supremacists do not get a grip or belive that white people are capable of being evil, even when the evidence is there.

Supremacists go out of their way to justify any wrong doing by other races be it using religion or any other means.
E.g. If it was not for slavery we would not know Jesus.

Supremacists label any of their own as angry and try and pacify them as soon as they find it hard to justify any wrong doing by other races.
I am not angry. Even if I was I am justified.

Supremacists will look for any reason to justify dating out of their race.

Supremacists see their culture, religion and anything that represent them as inferior therefore try to justify other races own as good.


There is nothing justifiable in capturing a race in millions and destructing their live family lives, religion, culture and even how they see themselves just because you have to impose your religion for God's sole purpose.

Slavery was a heinous crime to human kind and still is.

You are messed up. You are a white apologist and supremacist. Work on healing yourself. Anything that represents white people is not all good. Religion both Islam and Christianity justified slavery of only dark skinned people, rarely justified slavery of their own White or Arab race.

Whoever did this to you is a wicked person. Slavery and all manner of evil has been perpetrated by all humans. There is no measurement for evil, sin is sin, evil is evil. Calling people names will not remove your pain cos it's obvious you are hurting. Sorry ehn.

baby124:
Post your proof let me post mine. Ijebu’s and Ijesha’s were never used for sacrifice. That’s an absurd thing to say my dear. That one person used her slaves for her own evil means during a civil war does not mean 2 subgroups were used by all Yoruba’s for sacrifices and slavery. Correct your false statement and stop saying rubbish.

I'm not your dear. Read up Reverend Samuel Johnson's History of the Yoruba People, then let's talk.

chineloSA:
I just don't like it when Africans make excuses for other races. It's not acceptable. That is simply white supremacist. SINCE WHEN ARE YOU A SPEAKER FOR WHITE OR ARAB PEOPLE.

My focus here is on what Arabs and White people massively did to Africans in millions. Africans never enslaved any other race in millions. Please stop it white apologist.

Yes some tribes, not all tribes used to keep slaves after defeating other tribes. Some kept slaves as some kind of a trophy. Some kept them to only force their tribal Kings to comply. That cannot be denied.

But NOWHERE IN HISTORY HAS AFRICAN AS A COLLECTIVE EVER ENSLAVED OTHER RACES, MAY IT BE FOR LABOURER REASONS OR SEXUAL ABUSE OR JUST KILL PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY WERE OF ANOTHER RACE. NOWHERE DID AFRICANS COMIT SUCH A HEINOUS CRIME IN THAT MAGNITUDE.

You cannot justify White and Arab colonialism and use wars against each other to defend their hatred for black people.

It's obvious you are angry, angry people find it hard to make sense

chineloSA:
I just don't like it when Africans make excuses for other races. It's not acceptable. That is simply white supremacist. SINCE WHEN ARE YOU A SPEAKER FOR WHITE OR ARAB PEOPLE.

My focus here is on what Arabs and White people massively did to Africans in millions. Africans never enslaved any other race in millions. Please stop it white apologist.

Yes some tribes, not all tribes used to keep slaves after defeating other tribes. Some kept slaves as some kind of a trophy. Some kept them to only force their tribal Kings to comply. That cannot be denied.

But NOWHERE IN HISTORY HAS AFRICAN AS A COLLECTIVE EVER ENSLAVED OTHER RACES, MAY IT BE FOR LABOURER REASONS OR SEXUAL ABUSE OR JUST KILL PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY WERE OF ANOTHER RACE. NOWHERE DID AFRICANS COMIT SUCH A HEINOUS CRIME IN THAT MAGNITUDE.

You cannot justify White and Arab colonialism and use wars against each other to defend their hatred for black people.

It's j

baby124:
Wow. This is a crazy lie though. Ijebu’s and Ijesha’s were never ever used for sacrifice. Please stop saying nonsense. These are very old Yoruba sub groups. In fact Yoruba’s never enslaved themselves until the civil war when white people came and pit them against each other. They will always catch outsiders to enslave. Even white people wrote this down. You should apologize for telling such a brazen and useless lie just to prove your sick point. Ijebu’s have always been one of the richest Yoruba groups because they controlled trade and the sea. So tell me how they will enslave them, while Ijesha are very warrior like. Crazy comment. Lol.

I understand your grievance. The truth is usually shocking.

chineloSA:
We Africans keep fooling ourselves. Arabs (as a collective race) and Islam ( as a collective religion ) were the first race and religion to land in Africa and enslaved Africans.
They set up forts in East Africa as "storage" facilities before ships arrive to pick up slaves for trading. They raped Africans, castrated men and killed babies.
They used religion to rationalise slavery.

Europeabs ( as a collective race ) and Christianity ( as a collective religion ) did the same thing in West Africa. Though the arrived later than Arabs and Islam.

Both religions condoned slavery through multiple scriptures.

Exodus the chapter about Moses is very interesting and it makes me hate religion more now that I know what I know now

Slavery is a heinous crime, no person should be subjected to it. That chapter narrates how God put so much efforts to free the Israelites from slavery. From the desert to opening up the sea for them to escape. Meaning, God took this serious and he hated it.

The interesting this is "Slavery " is not included in the 10 commandments. The same commandments that were written by Moses. The same Moses who was tasked to free the Israelites.

Last interesting thing is both ISLAM AND CHRISTIANITY were somehow shown Africa to come gets slaves from.

Does that mean God designed Africans to be slaves?

AS AN AFRICAN WHY FOLLOW A BOTH RELIGIONS THAT
1. ENSLAVED YOUR FOREFATHERS
2. RATIONALISED YOUR SLAVERY THROUGH RELIGION.
3. THAT HAS A GOD WHO SENT ANOTHER RACE TO ENSLAVE AN AFRICAN MAN.
4. THAT JUSTIFIES THIS HEINOUS CRIME WITH DIFFERENT VERSES.
5. THAT HATES YOUR EXISTENCE THAT THEY FELT IT WAS RIGHT TO ENSLAVE YOU.


DESPICABLE.

Hello, slavery has been in Africa long before Semitic religions came around. Have you researched about the history of the ijebus and the ijeshas in Yorubaland, they were kept as slaves for human sacrifice, by Yorubas. Do you know the story of Efunsetan Aniwura, is she white? So many other instances of slavery perpetrated by Africans on Africans. Don't blame whites for the depravity of the human mind.