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pokosimani:If it is Huawei, then take it. However, study the conditions of the job and make sure it isn't a contract job. |
GboyegaD:Not sure about FBA but TDH is TALL, DARK & HANDSOME. |
johnkey:And then you can actually end up with SOMEONE BUT FOR THE RIGHT REASONS and live your life without the many, unnecessary challenges of marriage. It doesn't mean there won't be issues. There will be but it won't be as bad as what applies in today's unions. You can actually still look better than you are in marriage but only when you end up with someone who will make life worth your while. |
StarFire08:I used to be guilty but not anymore. I meet interesting people periodically and it is often shocking to see that being pretty does not mean much when forever is in view. |
It took me a while to decide on the title of this thread but then, it still somehow doesn't capture the idea of my post. Regardless, here goes... There is no denying that living together as a couple between most men and their wife is like a herculean task these days, no thanks to divorce news, accusations and counter-accusations thrown around on almost every social media platform. As usual, Nairaland is not spared. I have so many married friends with varying degrees of marital issues and it often flies above my head how their issues degenerated so bad that they have practically become housemates with their other person. They talk when in the home, laugh once in a while but the mental and emotional connection is all but gone. For the sake of this particular thread, I will be citing 4 different cases of my married friends, of both genders then will also look at some wild-spec instances I picked or learnt from my unmarried friends. These are all real-life scenarios. Case One: She was 22 and barely out of school before she got married to her husband. They didn't really know each other that much as a matter of fact but they got married anyway. Her reason was that 'he ticked all of her boxes' (which were basically money, a car and at least a 3 bedroom apartment). Hubby, on her part, decided to marry her because she is fair-skinned, gap-toothed and tall. Their marriage is about 6 years now and they have 3 amazing kids. The problem? The 'male spec' isn't strong bedmatically, he cheats (has been caught cheating by dear wife in the past), not exactly the type who communicates and has a traditional mindset. Sex, to him, is 'insert and out', share grace and sleep, and' the concept of intimacy/MouthAction is taboo in his village that if he does it, he might need to appease the gods for dishonouring them'. She has over 15 different ePDFs on ancient Kamasutra and once shared them with me. Heavy, graphic and detailed files. But he isn't interested. The 'female spec' is indeed a beautiful lady, homely but laced with hot blood. She is wild, adventurous and isn't shy to admit or discuss her fantasies and marital sufferings with her friends, including yours truly. She is the total opposite of the 'male spec' and has or might have been cheating already. The last time she ranted about cheating and getting satisfied was about two years ago. Don't want to go beyond this. Case 2: Let's call him Dustin. Dustin met 'his spec' when he travelled for a project to a neighbouring state. Dustin's spec who is now his wife has an interesting appeal. She is effortlessly fair-skinned, natural pink lips, a conversationist, and an emotional being. Dustin would not allow anyone rest about his spec and how he would love and adore her the day he finds her. Practically all the ladies in his life at some point were that way but Seike (not real name) was different. Anyways, they got married and a lazy Dustin who doesn't like house chores other than doing laundry discovered that his spec of a wife doesn't actually know how to cook and doesn't like the kitchen at all. It all started as a joke until their families got involved less than 7 months into the union. Man wasn't having it anymore and wasn't willing to tolerate 'his spec's' shortcomings. On his part, he has always been a nightcrawler and marriage has not exactly nipped that in the bud. Perhaps the idea of going home to met an empty pot when he knows he can't cook is not really appealing. Sure, he loves her but it is one petty issue or another. They are barely two years in and his great escape means is when he is travelling for projects. Case 3 Call her MJ, the typical life of the party; lovable and quite open. As an undergraduate, MJ was an exco in her fellowship and was somewhat gentle. She was the tongue-speaking, gun-blazing, fire breathing dragon and must be present in almost all spiritual meetings organized by her fellowship, else, she is backsliding and moving away from God. She isn't actually religious but churchy. In a social gathering, she is the first to request for 'taju-taju' even when she knows there was no provision for alcohol (this is only recent). MJ's definition of spec was the now-famed TDH and boy, she got lucky! Or so we thought. 'Her spec' drips finesse. He is indeed tall, dark and charming. He is a quiet (well, so far though) chap who currently works as a manager in a financial institution and drives a pretty decent car. MJ works as an accountant and isn't bad at all. 'Finesse babyboy', unfortunately, is a cheat. Man can practically adore a woman's shadow just to 'get there'. He is barely home and when he is, always watching football. They don't talk deep anymore. At some point, she caught him cheating was ready to walk away from the marriage but she was talked into staying and that was where things went wrong. Strangely, 'baby boy' wasn't exactly skilled and a churchy MJ never really fancied sex. However, the fact that he isn't skilled in the affairs of the other room didn't deter him from cheating severally. The problem with the marriage is Ps 123:7 and they have been married for nearly 8 years. Her inability to conceive is actually his fault but the patriarchal society we live in pressured her so much that she broke and started an affair with a chap who is a friend of the family. It all started with counselling, praying together and the rest is history. Sadly, the chap she was seeing happened to have mastered some ancient body exploration that they met almost every three days. It got so bad that she started fertility treatment with the dude. The reward for the chap being around her was gifts, money and of course the free access. She finally loved the act and couldn't get enough until a massive scandal rocked recently and she had to painfully let the guy whom she has been seeing for over 18 months go. Not sure the husband got to know the details but she told him while she wanted them to talk but because his sin were heavy and graver, he couldn't bring himself to have a heart-to-heart with her. They are currently making conscious efforts to fix their home right now and it's been good so far. Case 4 It just had to be a pastor's daughter for Cole. He has always been obsessed with them for weird reasons that he didn't take any chances the first time he set his eyes of Thelma. Thelma's father is a Zonal Pastor in one of the popular Pentecostal churches around. Cole is our lead guitarist and a charming young man, though struggling. The day Thelma attended a mass choir rehearsal and played the drums like a pro was the day Cole fell in love. It was her or no one else. Long story short, they are married but living apart. Thelma is in her parents' house while Cole had to temporarily relocate to make more money. His mother in law who came for Omugwo overstayed and ended up spending nearly five months. He couldn't send 'pastor's wife' away as he was scared to incur the wrath of the pastor. Strangely, sweet Thelma is still greatly attached to her mum that it made it difficult. He ran into debts trying to impress Thelma and her pastor father by throwing a big wedding he could not afford. They have 3 kids now but things are not as they ought to. What's worse, he has aged rapidly that he now looks like a shadow of himself. Budding Case This is rather interesting than all of the aforementioned cases. James is currently confused and unsure whether to lie to the pastor that he had a dream or not. You see, he has a girl he likes a lot but they don't even know each other that deep, strangely. James has talked to his pastor but he regretted he did as he could not respond to his pastor's only question on what his conviction is that the lady is the right person for him. His response is 'I just know she's the one for me' and nothing more. He has been asked to go and pray and has not seen a thing but he has said he might tell the pastor that he had a dream just so he can be with a fair-skinned, well-endowed lady with some puppy eyes. My Point There is a reason why the rate of divorce in Nigeria is high and increasing almost daily. Almost every Nigerian celebrity with a failed marriage always come out to pin it on abuse and other vices when these traits must have been seen at the earliest phase of the relationship and possibly avoided but the 'specs' fried their senses. Everyone, regardless of gender, loves a beautiful/charming person. However, this should serve as the basis for attraction and not marriage proper. Specs will definitely not keep a relationship, let alone sustain one. As a matter of fact, one stops seeing that spec the moment you get to see the person often. You can see a pre-wedding photo today and take a wild guess what the attraction was and you'll be right. Strangely, all of the cases I cited had one popular saying; 'he/she has changed is not the person I fell in love with'. Well, true that. you went for the spec and ignored those things that mattered the most. Imagine someone whose specs in ladies is a spotless face. . And then there is the beard gang category which almost every lady falls under.Are specs actually bad? The obvious answer is 'NO'. However, they shouldn't be the basis for getting married. What happens, when a spotless face becomes riddled with acne? What happens when one of those straight, fine legs get amputated after getting married for just that one reason? What happens when pressures zap your libido and the primary reason you married is for sex? I am not saying people should end up with the exact opposite of what they have in mind. Rather, they should pay attention to deep traits that will come in handy and possibly sustain the marriage when the time comes. You read or hear about a particular marital problem and you can't help but wonder what the couple talked about or discussed during dating/courtship. Marriage remains beautiful but most people marry for all the wrong reasons in the world. Specs won't keep a home and it won't make one happy forever. I think it is high time young people really sat down and learn to prioritize what is of benefit to them and their home; specs or peace of mind?
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Super proud of this team. Humiliated Liverpool with a squad short of some key players and doing the same with Barcelona, all within 5 days. Hala Madrid! |
olamide0147:That is where the difference lies. You become more confident when you know you have sound back ups. Kanu knows he could die anytime he does this in Nigeria and the truth is he isn't ready for that. Sunday might be stronger but no one takes on a government alone. No one. |
So there's a pattern here and I am happy about it, in a way. If it was Kanu, they would have sent the military to take him out a long time ago. Although they tried with Igboho but they failed. They could have tried again but they can't. Why? Certain Yoruba leaders of thought are behind him and they've come out to do so. It makes the situation difficult for the Northern Oligarchs and Adamu, hence why they can't use brute force. He has been invited several times and have failed to honour them. The problem with IPOB or Kanu isn't because Nigeria wants to keep the Igbo Nation down. The governors of the South East will glady sell and give out Kanu to the government. On Kanu's part, he failed and keeps failing in bringing those more powerful than him on board. There should be more to his rabble rousing. Sadly, almost all the Eastern governors of the past and present have all used IPOB to score cheap points; Umahi, Peter Obi, Supreme Court governor, Rochas, Gburugburu, Obiano, etc. The Ooni had to get involved when the presidency was scheming to arrest Igboho. This should have applied to Kanu as well but no, the governors run parallel with his aspirations and have turned his boys to ducklings that must be shot on sight. Can Igboho take on the government alone? Of course not. He is confident because some of his people are behind him and they are not hiding it. The ESN, IPOB and anyone who publicly aligns with them are auto targets because those they elected are more interested in showing they are more Fulani than Igbos. I have always said it and will continue to say it; the break up of Nigeria does not rest with the South East. Until the South West says it and acts it fully, no one is going nowhere. |
Freestainworld:The difference between this and the ESN will probably be the support of the political class. ESN has no backing from any politician in the South East, the narrative is different with this. |
IamgratefulLord:Lol. It shouldn't. Just reinstall and that should do. |
SmartPolician:Remove the "smart" from your name after today. CNN, BBC, etc, are all global news networks. The brands in question are global brands and I am not talking Globacom or Dangote. Just because they sell in your country does not make them subservient to you. They cater to over 120 countries whose citizens watch these news networks. What makes Nigeria special? Why would a global brand be asked to pay a useless government for advertising on a global platform? Is Guinness, Pepsi and Coca-Cola exclusive to Nigeria? Do they make their money from Nigeria alone? Have these brands been advertising on our local TV stations in the past? Don't they have our celebs as their brand ambassadors? Has any of these brands stopped funding community projects and CSRs in Nigeria? So why is Lai Mohammed acting like a racing, broke mad man? What's his purpose? Whether Guinness is a foreign company or not doesn't change anything. The laws in our country are so lenient that we are often taken for granted.Taken for granted by WHO? These companies have been in operations in Nigeria for over 50 years. Why is the narrative different with this APC government? If Lai Mohammed wants to go this route, his focus should solely be on Dangote, Globacom, Airtel (not Bharti Airtel), 9mobile,Innoson, et al. It is the height of madness to go after brands that are older than Nigeria and even the present government in the name of exclusive advertising. Why should a government be concerned about the advertising revenue of a brand when they not only cater to your people? These same brands have their products destroyed in the North in the name of one hypocritical Shariah Law yet, they have never for once made a fuss. They have never had a reason to sue the country for the destruction of their properties and products, yet YOU WANT THEM TO ADVERTISE ON YOUR LOCAL TV STATIONS? LMAO! Not to worry, they are one feet out already. Nigeria isn't their only market. We actually need their presence more than they do us. For instance, oil companies destroy lands and waters in the Niger Delta and get away with it.You can't tell about the Niger Delta more than her son. Why oil companies get away with it is because the government allows them to. There is no direct correlation here, please. The point here is, being a multinational company does not change anything because the law didn't forbid them from advertising on those networks.Kindly point out the law, one which wasn't formulated in this APC regime that clearly states that foreign brands must advertise in Nigeria. I am waiting, please. |
Neddyogu:People that are mad. |
htdot:The amount of ignorance in this post alone is worth wearing like a cologne! Guinness is an Irish Company and it is brewed in well over 50 countries and sold in over 120 countries across the world. Guinness Nigeria is a subsidiary of Diageo Plc which has its HQ in the UK. The shittery and Tomfoolery of Dangote does not concern me. How you intend to restrict a global brand such as Guinness, Coca Cola and Pepsi just because they sell in your country is the height of foolishness for me. And no, the major market of Guinness is the United Kingdom. Nigeria comes second while Ireland, its origin comes third. Again, I understand why y'all defend Buhari. I will too, if I reason like you. |
htdot:Guinness' market is in Nigeria only? No wonder you guys defend Buhari like your lives depend on it. |
IamgratefulLord:Good evening, ma'am ![]() No ooo, Heaven forbid I take it. ![]() I'd like to believe you connected to your PC via a USB cable. If that's the case then there are possible ways to fix it. 1. Uninstall the earlier Tecno driver installed. Steps to do this is here: https://developer.android.com/studio/run/oem-usb#:~:text=computer's%20USB%20port.-,Right-click%20on%20Computer%20from%20your%20desktop%20or%20Windows%20Explorer,Interface%20and%20select%20Update%20Driver. 2. After doing the above, you might need to restart your laptop before plugging back your USB/phone. 3. Check the USB. Not all USB ports are responsive for weird reasons. Before trying out step 1&2, you can try this first (plug the USB cable to another port other than the one responsible for showing the error). Either of these steps should fix it. |
IamgratefulLord:Good evening, ma'am ![]() No ooo, Heaven forbid I take it. ![]() I'd like to believe you connected to your PC via a USB cable. If that's the case then there are possible ways to fix it. 1. Uninstall the earlier Tecno driver installed. [url=https://developer.android.com/studio/run/oem-usb#:~:text=computer's%20USB%20port.-,Right-click%20on%20Computer%20from%20your%20desktop%20or%20Windows%20Explorer,Interface%20and%20select%20Update%20Driver.]Steps to do this is here.[/url] 2. After doing the above, you might need to restart your laptop before plugging back your USB/phone. 3. Check the USB. Not all USB ports are responsive for weird reasons. Before trying out step 1&2, you can try this first (plug the USB cable to another port other than the one responsible for showing the error). Either of these steps should fix it. |
Zobah:WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T CONTACT ANYONE DIRECTLY. CHEERS! |
Fahdiga:Not holding a brief for the ragtag military but abuse can only go on for so long so far there is an enabler. The governors are responsible. The last time, it was Hope Uzodinma who invited the military to Orlu, at some point, Obiano had ordered the army to flush out IPOB from Anambra, Umahi has done the same. There is a reason why this can't happen either in the SS or the SW. |
afroniger:I wouldn't even blame Kanu much. SE leaders are comfortable with selling out their sons but the sons are stupid to believe a man that is in the UK enjoying his life. Kanu has no plans. He is only a rabble-rouser who doesn't understand that he is at a great disadvantage whatever he does. He is not in sync with leaders of thought in the SE, does not regard them and they don't even send him. The governors on the other hand will easily side with the center to kill their own people just because they see the IPOB as a ragtag outfit and rightly so. People who have died on account of NK's recklessness and military might are so much now that he probably sees this as just another bad day in the books of the IPOB. If his plan is to call on the UN and ICC then he obviously doesn't have a plan. |
The 'conquered territory' dynamics playing out in the SE is disturbing and interesting at the same time. A radical group whose leader isn't in Nigeria wants secession but the region's socio-cultural group, Ohaneze Ndigbo and the governors in the region are all in a hurry to sell IPOB, ESN and Kanu out in other not to incur the wrath of the center. The killing of Igbo sons on their home soil CAN NOT happen in the SW, SS or North as a whole! "Repentant Boko Haram members" were rehabilitated and fed for months before being released into the society whereas IPOB members are shot on sight. The SE governors are either spinless or deliberate and comfortably silent and selling their own over pleasing Northern oligarchs is very troubling. Sunday Igboho, today is untouchable because prominent Yoruba sons and daughters are solidly behind him. Why can't Igbo governors do the same with their sons, the IPOB and Kanu? I am still wondering how the army and police figured out those killed are truly ESN members. Sighs. |
SaharaReporters earlier reported that the Nigerian Army had deployed combat helicopters, gun trucks, and soldiers to search some forests in the South-East states where the ESN was suspected to be camping.http://saharareporters.com/2021/03/24/breaking-nigerian-army-police-kill-16-ipobs-eastern-security-network-operatives-abia
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She was raped then killed in a police station. Heaven knows I stopped feeling a thing for anyone wearing that darned police uniform. |
Valkrie:Well, if the reports making rounds on Twitter are true, then it is possible that ESN is indeed responsible. There are talks about shortage of ammos which is why they are targeting law enforcement officers who walk around with guns. There is a video on Twitter where they torched a police vehicle, killed the mobile policemen attached to the vehicle, took their guns and drove off. They didn't attack or shoot at vehicles within gun range and didn't shoot at any other persons apart from the policemen.
ESN can't have it easy with moving weapons since there are checkpoints almost everywhere. I knew it would get to this since the only way to constrict them is by tightening the checkpoints, thereby preventing them from acquiring sophisticated weapons such as the ones Fulani herdsmen carry.
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This isn't a review, if you ask me. I get the waterproof test. But if the manufacturer says the body is plastic, then it makes no sense scratching with a knife just to see what it is made of. The way the volume button flew off is disturbing and the manufacturer didn't just bother to invest in some components since they are more interested in churning out newer phones every week. |
Zzor:This is what happens when you have fart stored in your skull, you start getting shvtty opinions and ideas as this. |
[quote author=RisenPhoenix1 post=99823828]The US is only feeling the pinch from losing one of their biggest markets in Africa. Especially when refined petroleum products are banned. If they want to compete in the Nigerian market, they should break Dangote's monopoly by establishing their own refineries in Nigeria...or tomato factories or whatever. Self sufficiency is the way to go. Dangote never stopped anyone from competing with him from within Nigeria. And yes, I fully agree with a tomato paste ban. We are producing enough tomatoes in Nigeria. Let the private sector look into opening more companies to encourage our farmers and paste their tomatoes.[/quote]The emboldened is shameful. Monopoly is dangerous and unhealthy to any economy. Whether or not the US interest is at stake isn't the point. For all we know, Nigeria will fidget and possibly beg of her biggest oil markets get monopolized. Regardless, Dangote is not only harming the economy but also doing lots of damages to other manufacturers in the country. The fact that Dangote Group diversifies almost every minute isn't the point but the fact that an ordinary citizen is always in the business of suggesting bills that will see other businesses ostracised and possibly killed off just so he can remain is insane and disturbing. Dangote is becoming a shark that is feeding on other sharks and rightly so, the country. |
“Dangote model will likely be the one most emulated until its beggar-thy-countrymen contradictions become more apparent.”https://www.gazettengr.com/dangotes-business-tactics-harmful-to-nigerian-economy-u-s/
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Rugaria:There are huge differences between Kanu and Sunday Igboho. 1. Kanu is a propagandist and a separatist. Sunday is a separatist but doesn't employ propaganda in carrying out his affairs. 2. Sunday's issue is with chaotic Fulanis and Yoruba leaders who refused to support and defend their lands. Kanu's problems is with Anambra women (whom he called '99% pr0stitutes', Yoruba pastors, and anyone who doesn't buy into Biafra, including Igbo leaders, and neighbouring States). 3. Igboho has no business with Buhari and had never mentioned him. Kanu, on the other hand, once promised to return to Abia with Buhari's head. That's a threat to life. 4. Recent situations have shown Yoruba leaders are solidly behind Sunday which has made it difficult for authorities to touch him. Whereas Kanu and the IPOB are considered as rogue organisations even the East and the South Eastern governors resist them violently. 5. Kanu hates dissenting opinions and has shown he can't share the leadership of the IPOB with anyone. Sunday believes he is only a Yoruba son whose only interest is in resisting Fulanis from his motherland. Pretty sure both characters are not the same. |
As seen on Twitter. This is beyond ridiculous! ![]() https://twitter.com/ekibyleo/status/1369358235111657480?s=19
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Tulejoor76:Not at all. Most don't make up to that. The average salary in Lagos is about N45k - N85k. Only a few manage to cross the N100k mark. However, you are more likely to spend a whole lot on either accommodation or transportation, depending on whatever it is one decides. |
gbemishile:Your rent should not gulp more than 40% of your income. Any other thing is you inviting trouble. Factor in how much you'll spend on transportation bills and feeding monthly then consider what is left to save multiplied by a calendar year (12). |
Mindlog:I'm sure it is marriage counselling and they wouldn't dare tell the pastor they are cohabiting. |
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. And then there is the beard gang category which almost every lady falls under.