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You agreed that you were going to get married, or you actually married him?

As pissed as you may feel. There is nothing you can do. Do not attempt to digrace him, it will most likely backfire.  

One more thing, he's a number one ass hole. However, 2 years is a long time to have eventually discovered your man is married. This story seems incomplete. 

spikedcylinder:
How much do YOU weigh?

Abi o!! Good question.

wishy washy. . . .

@ Poster, please, let us be real here. There is no need to leave anybody for anybody.I hate telling people this, but this eritrean guy is a joke. The funny thing is, although a man's culture takes priority, more often than not he will take the time to understand yours, or even compromise on raising the children to know both sides of the family's beliefs, cultures and traditions. So, honestly, are you ready to settle in eritrea? are you ready to deny your children of nigerian food? names? etc. This has nothing to do with the igbo, simple thing is, the fact that you have pointed these things out about your guy says a lot about your doubts and how uncomfortale you are going to be with him. There is no need to settle for anyone for the sake of settling.

Can't really see the substance of your relationship to be honest. Find someone who is more compatible with you, or someone who atleast wants the best of both worlds, yours and his. simple.

Firstly, tell her it's not her fault, she is not to blame, reassure her of this, let her know it does not make her a bad person. Suggest getting checked out medically for her own sake, then brodda assert some patience with her as from here on out her attitude and actions may change, she may appear less confident, less talkative and closed up. Do not go and disclose this information to any friends or family members, not everyone will take it the way you have. Let her feel as if she is still your angel and you're still accepting of her. If you are.

True, height does make a difference. It really depends on how it looks too. I know some women who are 5'5 and weigh in bout 145lbs, but they look slim, they are just 'heavy' not that they are fat or plump looking.  

However sha, she berra slow her roll, as she is getting older her metabolism will slow down. Nothing wrong with eating hard back naija food, but in moderation. Tell her to calm down, or go do some exercising with her, play some nintendo wii with her too.  

Lion King
Spirited Away
Howl's moving castle
Monster's Inc
Ghost in a shell
Kung Fu Panda

A few others, but I love manga!!!

lmao @ posts!

You guys are too funny. Tope he said he is on top of you sha, wetin? lol

@ Poster, put your thingy up a hoover and turn it on! Am sure that will feel tight enough and you shall hear the screams of the hoover!

You get grade 'E' for your grammar sef. E= Excellent grammatical stupidness.  

You are trying to have your cake and eat or whatever the bloody saying is. There is nothing you can do, she wants to get married, you don't, but yet you would not be willing to release her to another man. Simple. There isn't a solution to make YOU happy.

Forget them, go and marry her.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3917245#msg3917245 date=1243201587]The joke is on you. . . . .
Don't believe everything you read.[/quote]That's the first rule of an online forum. Most smart people know that.

[quote author=ugo_2u link=topic=275103.msg3917218#msg3917218 date=1243200905]Oh well, thanks guys for the contributions, will anyone be interest to go through my report when am through with the research?[/quote]If it's not too long.  

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3917223#msg3917223 date=1243201010]I will be interested.

Waiting. . . . .[/quote]Sweetheart, don't grow old dia ok. ?    

You are a smart guy.  

tope5000:
Na ashewo ppl wey dey hia. Lol. *run off*

lol, that's it, you berra run fas fas!

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3917147#msg3917147 date=1243199360]Hehehehehe. . . . .
I have to see you first before it becomes a union.[/quote]oooooh, seeing is believing. I understand sha. Me too, I must see you second.

freakyy:
Nairaland hasnt changed a bit, i just got a headache reading this Tos87's post

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275975.msg3917158#msg3917158 date=1243199557]Jesus Wept![/quote]LMAO.

Tos87:
aw do u mean ar my happy now!look dude,we ar trin to fix things here,n if u claim i 2 know,Y throw in question?anyway all i want u to know is compartibility is very relevant.

So is grammar.



@ Poster, they both gonna dump you, so leave them both alone.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3917097#msg3917097 date=1243198634]You are scheming another broken marriage??
My advice: Put God first.

When u come over. [/quote]You see perfect hubby you are. May God bless our union.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3917062#msg3917062 date=1243198071]U don't expect me to move into yours, do you?

Says who??
Don't cry, dry your eyes. [/quote]Whatever you want hubby We can be happily married and live in 2 seperate places.

Hehe I always tells people not to cry and dry their eyes, come and dry mine for me.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3917020#msg3917020 date=1243197538]MINT!!!!

So where can i find you??
Embankment or Edgware?? I need a mama. [/quote]lmao. Sorry love I live in one of parts of London that you detest.

Marriage Over. . . .

My mummy is refusing to tell me the full story of how they met. So I dunno sha, it changes all the time.

C2H5OH:
quench secretz. stop playing with my feelings.

awww baby, sorry ehn, ma binu.

tope5000:
Lol . . . . why buy it if u dont know how to use it

Thought it came with a manual.

C2H5OH:
Stop being so modest.
Yeah, you can tell just how passionate I am about women, and how much I love them.

Ok sweety, here's the real number. 999 Now drop yours.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3916882#msg3916882 date=1243195668]Please spare me.

Why should i?
I have enough mamis to keep me warm. [/quote]Forget your mamis! Make me your mama, we can show these people how a real marriage works. You wear the trouser, I submit and take them off!! Match made in heaven! No broken marriage hia o.!

tope5000:
Didnt u buy for that Love Machine at Ann Summers . . . abi na present

lmao. It was from your shop I bought it.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3916803#msg3916803 date=1243194597]U bought the Love Machine to help you reach orgasm. . . . . .Just like men pay for sex @ Soho.
Any difference?

I'll see what i can do. [/quote]lol. I don't know how to use it Sauron. . . . . Do you pay for sex @ soho?

C2H5OH:
Topinson, don't I always sound that way? Tough love I guess.

Secretz, do as you please. Just make sure you drop me your number when you are thru wit me.

118 118

C2H5OH:
Lol thank you baby.

Come hia! Turn the other cheek! Lemme slap that one too.

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3916724#msg3916724 date=1243193514]Hehehe


I thunk using dildos is paying for sex, no?
Then some of y'all go to pubs/clubs with the intention of picking up men and shag his brains out.[/quote]Sorry again, I do not go clubbing or pubbing. Wouldn't trust a man from that kind of environment. Since when does using dildos mean the same thing as paying for sex? haba!

tope5000:
I need to see if u match up with my specifications

lmao.

FL Gators:
rotflmao
What did you tell him

@Plat
hmmm, so far, I know which kiss belongs to who.

I told him YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS, you are great! And you should forever kiss that way. Unfortunately I am not looking for a man, so it won't continue with me.

omo yoruba:
@ Secretz. Nah 4 real, on a ;evel, she seems genuine, and i mean we speak like everyday and she gives me absolutely no reason to doubt her. She has good intentions, but as a guy you sometimes do get paro about these things especially if you actually really finally find someone who seems worthy to be called wifey material. I guess i also get a lil paro due to the fact that shes never been out of 9ja in her life.

The stories about 9ja girls coming to the UK for the first time also doesnt do justice to the situation either.

I guess it all lies within ones real feelings, and whether she wants to mess things up.

I'l just have to access her when she comes over.

Stay blessed x

Well you seems to know the answer already. Anyone can 'seem' genuine, whether they are is another thing entirely. Be patient, more shall be revealed if and when she comes over.

C2H5OH:
I want to thank you both. It's high time some of you women start recognizing your stupid obsession with masculinity.
Oops, sorry if that sounds offensive.

Come closer. . . . . . . . you need a slap.  

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3916647#msg3916647 date=1243192329]I know a lot of atheists who are happy in their marriages. . . . . .
The real McCoy is women trying to wear the trousers in their marriages.
All of a sudden, they feel just because they can provide financially and they can pay for sex. . . . . .they don't need husbands.
It's pathetic.[/quote]Like for like hun. Understanding is really the major thing here, because if you are both 'religious' then put your God first, if you're both atheists then put your beliefs etc first and understand that's the way it is. But paying for sex? ? ? Sorry love, I don't think so, not me. I'm not that independent.  

FL Gators:
LOL no.
You guys av got to tell me where you meet thismen so I wouldn't go there.
I think those kinda kisses are done by loud men, quiet men don't do that.
They tend to kiss soft and gently, like they've been craving for it.

rotflmao.
"Kiss Me Thru The Phone"

I'm telling you, I thought I was having a second bath that day. The worst part of it is that I did not even bloody invite the kiss. mschewwww. He even had the audacity to ask me if he can kiss well?  

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=275103.msg3916586#msg3916586 date=1243191545]The major cause of broken marriages is women trying to assume the roles of men in marriage.
I think the whole 'independent women' schitzo has screwed up the brain-cells of today's women.[/quote]I have to agree. Hence the point of people not putting God first. If they did, women would not be assuming the role of men and men would not maltreat their women, because the laws, rules and guidelines are clear as day in the bible. Not saying people should tolerate just anything, but still. . . . the marriages I know that have worked out (for those who are religious) it's because they put God first.

FL Gators:
You better start and stop keeping it all to yourself.
Tell me something I don't know about kisses

Lol, have you ever had a guy kiss you like he wants to swallow your face? ? ? Bloody disgusting.

ifyalways:
Little or No courtship.The worst one.

I agree to this to some extent.

With the kind of culture we have, we are not supposed to co-habit etc. But I believe you never truly know a person until you live with them or circumstances arise.

Some people may rubbish this, but I think a lot of broken marriages is due to the lack of putting God first.

@ Platinum,

Exactly the kind of lips I can't stand! Not many black people have lips like that anyway.

FL Gators:
rotflmao. I know lips have muscles na, I can't imagine one where the muscles are so visible to the naked eye enough to make the lips wired

lol, Miss technical. If I could see the muscles soo visible like that, I think I would be scared. lol but feeling them on my own, is anoda ting enitirely mehn!

Mai Suya:
Then you prolly should't be in a relationship with her yet

Exactly.

You not showing up, the dad will either think you are not serious and tell his daughter to keep away from you. If you do show up, he may ask you what your intentions are, are you then going to tell him what you are telling us, that you are not ready for all that? As a man himself, he will have no choice to assume you just want his daughter for naughty things. However, no be by force!