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Initial reaction:
Don't mind your parents, joo. Unless they have more than 3-4 children they have no choice to accept whomever you marry. The main challenge is to find someone that you treasure and who treasures you. When you find such a person, whether black or white or pink or yellow, marry the person and after a lot of opposition they will draw you back in. Did you Vexxy's story?

Second Reaction:
Try to judge each person individually regardless of race or whatever. There are bad people everywhere, and good people too!

https://www.nairaland.com/img/no-more.jpg
Genevieve Nnaji's 'No More' video is indeed available at" http://www.ghanamv.com/vids/Inter/genevievemore.htm

So we will be able to give more informed opinions about the video!

What would you say is the difference between a flying car and a small 2-seater airplane?

Try the following links for "Shakara"
- http://www.amplifydcrew.com/shakara%202005.mp3 (link from their site)
- http://www.amplifydcrew.com.nyud.net:8090/shakara%202005.mp3 (If the first link doesn't work)
- https://www.nairaland.com/img/shakara.mp3 (mirrored on Nairaland - if the second doesn't work)

If you want to really enjoy it, use Windows Media Player and speed it up a little.

girls aren't encouraged to be what they want to be.

And whose fault is that? If your mother wanted to encourage you to be a doctor would your father had beaten her? I don't think so! And even if you're not encouraged to be a doctor, it is up to you to decide if your dream is worth pursuing no matter what. It is up to you to plan your life in such a way that your success will not lead to a lonely life. What the "society" says can only make it harder to achieve your goal; it usually does not make it impossible. It's not as if life is so rosy for men.

However, we are off-topic; I'll reorganize the thread son.

The kidnappings are because our people are:
- Gullible enough to believe that such rituals can make them rich.
- Heartless enough to actually commit murder for the sake of the expected prosperity.

Suppose a man goes through such a ritual and the money doesn't come in, do you think he will report the scam to the police?

Honesty is also very important.

what do you want the girl to do? beat her father up and steal his money to go to school?

I expect the girl's mother to do something about it. African women have a lot of tricks up their sleeves and if a mother is determined to send her children to school, she will:
My grandfather wanted his children to be peasant farmers like him but my grandmother did menial jobs to earn money to send her son (my dad) to school. She did not do the same for her daughter, however. So who is to blame for her daughter not going to school, like her son? Remember, she did not have the support of her husband to educate any of the children.

It's funny how the forum is picking up new regulars after the sudden exit of some old regulars.

He means to say that women are "confused and confusing"!

Godguy and damygurl, have you actually seen this blood money? Or are your beliefs based on hearsay and Yoruba/Nollywood/Christian movies which portray these things?

Getting along with a parent is harder than getting along in the workplace, because your boss won't come to your room in the middle of the night demanding for changes in the way you live your personal life!

The brain is responsible for both logic and the capability for emotions.

seriks, thanks for sharing your list of interesting Nigerian movies.

It is a man's world because women allow it to be a man's world. The fact that men are bigger is not much of an advantage in a civilized society because most jobs these days are brain jobs, and fighting someone physically can get you in jail.

But if the women refuse to stand up for their rights and support each other, then the exploitative men will continue to have their way. Women make up 50% of the society which means if "the society" is discriminating against women then women deserve at least 50% of the blame. In my opinion, women deserve more than 50% of the blame because they are the ones who know what they are suffering.

lullaby, I insist that in this case there's little difference between the advice a man would recieve in a similar circumstance. What matters more is whether they have children ...

If there's a way for us to listen to his music on the Internet it would be nice. I love the cultural look of his band!

Sometimes, when a woman is not happy in a relationship, she suddenly wakes up with the idea that she "doesn't really love" her mate, whereas it is a relationship problem that can be solved by proper counseling. I mean, the problem here is simply that the husband doesn't understand that he has to make the lovemaking pleasurable for his wife (and not just himself). This is not a love issue, this is a common problem that can be solved by a an experienced counselor that the husband respects.

I am close to an elderly couple that does marriage counseling for Christians, so if your friend is interested in saving her marriage instead of looking for "love" elsewhere, you can contact me and I'll link you up. Good luck!

Girls always go for bad boys simply because they themselves are bad girls! That's all there is to it.

Women as second class citizens? These scary and dangerous creatures that we spend all our time fantasizing about are second class?

do you think the situation in Nigeria/Africa is conducive for women to come out against domestic abuse?

If you are waiting until the situation for positive social change to become conducive, it will never happen. If wishes were horses, beggars will ride. Yes, it's not conducive, it never is. This is how we differentiate between the real women and the old girls who look like women!

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Rihanna imagines me in a cheer outfit,
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But I'm to big for a cheer outfit
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Oops, the answer is in your profile. Um, I hope you find lots of friends through this site!

Wow, I'm glad to hear that you found this site through your sister. What's her username? How old are you? And how single are you?

And, um, do you love Nigeria?

Hello eslynera,

Welcome to Nairaland! I hope you're a girl and I hope you're planning to participate in lots of topics. How did you discover this site and what do you love most about it?

Seun.

Because it is not promoted? It is only used by the "insiders" to arrange impromptu meetings! Others use the forum games for a form of chatting (for example "what are you thinking right now?" or "what makes you happy today"

Yay, yay, yay!

[b]Please [/b]vote for Okocha; he's the only one I know!

If it was a man whose wife cheated on him, I think we'll encourage him to do the same. It's not about female inferiority; it's about the importance of marriage.

There are only two types of places where you can find men who don't watch sometimes porn or get obsessed with sex - cemetries and psychiatric hospitals. And I am saying this as a man who is yet to sleep with any woman, so imagine what goes on in the mind of a man who regularly does it! In my opinion, lullaby's list is not realistic at all. I must apologize for interfering but I feel the ladies have had the chance to speak their minds ...