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Same applies to men too, they become bitter or redpilled( even for 'ordinary' relationship not even marriage) and come online to rant.

Come, Ubunja no be divorcee who now set in motion the redpill movement?

Marriage needs both partners to work at it, it needs discipline..... Not, men going against their marital vows to impregnate their side chicks and begin to query why women are not happy about their men.

That 80% statistics should apply to men more not women who want to marry.

Supreme145:
So I've been dating this lady since early t

his year and everything has been going on smoothly, in fact I even had to tell my mom about her, the first time I would talk to my mother about a lady, but she sounded not too pleased about the lady. Someone she hasn't even met physically.

I've two younger sisters between aged 17 and 15, I didn't like the way they were dressed the last time I visited home so I always try to send them a token every month end to get new cloths. This Xmas I have a lot on my table and have been brainstorming on how to structure my expenses.

My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. She offered to give some to my sisters without me even asking. She gave me over 30 different pieces of cloths, and bought an ayaya gown or whatever its called for my mom worth around 15k. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

I called my mom this morning to tell her that I would be sending the cloths over with some other stuffs I bought for them and she outrightly rejected the girl's gifts citing spiritual reasons that she cant accept gifts from someone she doesn't know. She even accused the girl of trying to pressure me into marriage by pretending to love my family.

I am 30 years old and have dated countless ladies and none has showed genuine concern towards my family like this particular one. It would be so heart breaking to tell her that my mom rejected her gifts knowing how she enthusiastic she was gathering those items.

Sometimes I get tired of my moms spirituality, she's not considering that my sisters even need those items. Those cloths worth over 50k even as second hand materials. I don't understand why she would dislike someone she hasn't even met before.

How do I handle this situation, I don't know what to do with these items, I can't return it to my girlfriend cos it will really hurt her.

The way I feel it, your mum just want you for her and your family for now till may be 3 years time at least.

She wants u to channel your resources on them and not on wife, children ( soon after) and responsibilities as a family man.

I will say you keep this your girlfriend, afterall she is still studying and maybe as she is graduating, u get married so u still can really fulfill your part to your family.... Mum still sees you as her baby boy.

Pray too so that the girl's family accepts you. It is well

Shoodboi:


You don go. I'm sorry for you. Make sure you remember your NL password so you can at least update us of your movement -- if they allow you to use a phone.

Lol.... U no serious.

MiaBeer:
Well, there’s no success without venture but you should write your will and leave it in a noticeable location before leaving.
Good luck sha.

Person dey find advice, see the advice una dey give him.

Lol

Marriage these days....

There is no smoke without fire.

Maybe she is still pained about Basket Mouth who she adored that allegedly messed up with his ex and even impregnated her

It isn't easy starting and building with someone then, overnight the man begins to act senselessly.

It is well

Marriage these days....

Maybe she is still pained about Basket Mouth who she adored that allegedly messed up with his ex and even impregnated her

It isn't easy starting and building with someone then, overnight the man begins to act senselessly.

It is well

And Yul throughout has been showing fake lovey- dovey pics of himself and wife

Yul just go the way of Father Abraham and send your Hagar away so u can have peace and plenty, if not your prayers will be hindered leading to reduction as I'm sure u are also faking to be extremely rich.

May doesn't want u deeping yourself into Judith then coming home to dip gonorrhea etc into her.


Odogwu doesn't mean u are mature or have sense.

She just discreetly bashed Odogwu Yul who has since be using social media to manipulate her.

Greatdand007:
That’s not Gambia it happened in Guyanese

Thanks for the reminder.....Though it still amazes me that Naija will go spoil name in that SAm country

What's happening in Gambia o?

Just some days back, it was alleged that a Nigerian guy attacked it's President's Guards of honor in the official residential home of the President.

Wishing peace in the Gambia.

jeromestarks:
You're thinking of this the wrong way. I love pvssies. I like to give my girls head before I put my penis inside their wet vag.

Fvcking pvssy is glorifying and electrifying. It is very very sweet. BUT, marriage is much more than fvcking pvssy. It's an investment.

No man who desire a happy and lasting home should pay bride price and sponsor wedding ceremony just to have a woman who has been fvcked by other guys with just two eggs and indomie. Its foolishness.


No man should start a family with a hoe. She will definitely give birth to bastards.

Same with women....

No woman deserves to start a family with a broloshos..... She will definitely give birth to idiots.

Women can't pass through a lot with men from childhood( dodging being harmed and killed) and still take the 'bottom of the barrel'guys as husbands.

These type of men behave like their parents got them from shrines, filled with hate and live in 'Rant hq' to say the least.

It will do you great good if u stop coming out daily on front page demarketing Nairaland men( hopefully, not the entire Nigerian men) because daily u are making them lose value in the eyes of honorable women and making it seem like they are negatively too traditional/ local when it comes to marriage.

Peace.

jeromestarks:
Check well. Check very well. The mother of this lady married as a virgin.

Only a virgin woman can give birth to a daughter with such grace.


Fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a virgin woman. Only her deserves your love and devotion.

U don MAD kpatakpata.

Hope u don finally see your virgin marry or virgin baby mama to be? Lol

Coded gay

Isowopo:
Women got the role when education has become useless. That is why Unilag VC will be taking pictures with Lasu VC . When education was better than it is now, Unilag always rank and file with OAU and UI. Lasu was an advance primary school for the Egun in Badagry. We left them with violence in the late 80s and 90

LASU was my alma mater.... U are NOT talking sense about LASU.

That particular Olatunji-Bello, with her husband serving Lagos for a long while as a Commissioner, is one great VC and has done well for herself even when she was Acting VC around 2014( if I can remember).

LASU is never and will never be the underdog.

Amumaigwe:
A typical woman's reasoning. Subzero IQ

None of my family members have low IQs, starting from my parents....

I guess your parents, you and generation have subzero IQ, you shouldn't be where normal humans are reasoning and talking.

kay29000:
You cheated on him first... I have nothing more to say.

More women have feelings of guilt when they cheat than men.....

Maybe that was the only way she could help both of them.

That she opened up about cheating doesn't mean the man didn't start cheating before her.... Men can be cheating under a woman's nose and still be lying about it, not even this chronic liar of a man she found herself with.

That women don't come out like cry babies to talk about how Nigerian men deal with them doesn't mean Nigerian men are the good ones while Nigerian women should be feared.

Let Op pray well about her marriage.... Marriages are going through a lot these days..... A family who prays together and do many things in common ( as if they were of the same team) will stand alot of trials..... She should pray about her travelling too.... I understand her well, " why be with a man and also be taking care of him( when he seemingly is like not being grateful with the attitudes he is giving her despite all her efforts) when I can just take care of myself and kids"?....And this kind of man may not even try to be romantic a bit and pamper her so she feels less stressed.....

irunoko:
Ladies,ladies,ladies how many times did I call you





There is a pervasive increase of narcissistic and sociopathic men out there.if you don't see it, nairaland comments is a perfect example for you.stop catching feelings too quickly,stop sending nude pictures of yourself to whoever you're nacking,stop giving men power to abuse and blackmail you

If you have the nude picture or videos,post it yourself and take out the power he has over you to bully,threaten or blackmail you.

Women. Stop putting yourselves in positions of vulnerability.besides men already know the only way to get into the pants of a 30 year old woman upwards is to promise her marriage.that marriage line usually makes a lot of women so stupid and they end up taking advantage of your desperation and vulnerability

Secondly stop this Victim mentality by always coming online to cry and lastly for the love of God


LADIES RESPECT YOURSELF, RESPECT YOURSELF, RESPECT YOURSELF,STOP COMODIFYING YOURSELF,STOP ALLOWING MEN USE THE MARRIAGE LIE TO ENTER YOU AND DO DUE VERIFICATION AND KNOW HIM 10/10 before agreeing to be with him.psychopatic men are using marriage and relationship to destroy women persecond

Nigeria is a misogynistic country,there are no effective laws against revenge porn and that is enough reason not to have nude pictures.i mean you're not a teenager,you should know better

Very good advice for ladies.

The everyday misogynistic comments by Nairaland men may put ladies who even want to manage to date them off.

Empress' brother, John Njamah married a Cameroonian and are still married so maybe she thought switching to black men outside Nigeria may favor her too.

Police should be able to trace this guy, he may not even be legal in Nigeria.

God help women.

Fedrick100:
And Chioma Chukwu Uka Apotha

If I remember clearly, there was an episode of Gulder Ultimate search where Chioma Chukwuka disappointed fans with her character.

Omotola ha not been out of controversy including her hubby.... There were rumors flying up and down.

Reggy was lucky she found Rudolph, I remembered then he was still this hair plaiting black American guy, at a time it was even like they almost divorced, but we thank God.... I think he even had an acciden at a time which was a life re-setting encounter for him.

Truth is many of them were able to turn the lemons life threw at them to lemonades and not just being discouraged by the 'process' in between.

Not an all inclusive policy that was deeply thought of.

It will make Nigerians in African countries be on 'queues' to get Naira after they do e- transfers to the 'service man' who is just helping out as students and traders may need that cash at some point.

In Nigeria, POS machines( without commissions deducted from Nigerian patronizing them) should be given to petty traders etc at free or cheap prices so people can buy anything using their cards.

Loaded cards should be available to Nigerians / foreign tourists who have long visited Nigeria or just visiting Nigeria, who may probably not have a bank account with bvn/ NIN... These mobile cards can be free or cheap to get from POS shops

I don't know why the rape and death of a woman is connected by some men to ' dating rich guys gone wrong'...

The killers and her may never have met before, just maybe unfortunately she was walking that area late....Have we not heard/ seen cases of women / girls raped even @7pm?

Let's learn to condemn nonsense.

RIP to the dead.... May your killers never know peace till they join you.

The problem I see often is that during the hay days of such relationship, the man will be collecting his husbandly dues and when the woman is giving him and not rejecting being laid, he will think he is smart.... The woman if she has her way wouldn't want to be doing wifely duties this much or like this.... She knows that in the end if anything, she will say she has already paid him.

Unless the man is paying her fees and NOT touching her will u say the man is entirely right

In a relationship, whether man or woman, only give what u can afford to lose.

Some guys behave like their parents got them from shrines.

This is what hatred for the other gender leads to eventually.

Woman that God created last, who is supposed to be loved, pampered, cherished will instead be hated, raped and killed.

God couldnt even do without a woman to birth His son who he can allow to just appear mysteriously on earth without being born by a woman, but NO, he easily removed a man from the picture and put a woman even when she wasn't ready for all that..... If a woman is closer to God's heart, I wonder why anyone would even imagine hurting her?

Some ladies comment anyhow on sensitive issues on Nairaland because of 'the hand some of the badly raised men started'.

Whatever decision he will take, he should seek the will of God so he gets a woman who will love his son like hers if not, maybe his mum will now be the one to raise this kid. Any child that the mum isn't in that house usually suffers, so he should ask God for a non pretentious, loving wife.... He should also pray continuously for money to be in the family, this binds many family even with different mothers/father's.

My late grand father's mum died when he was young....my great grand father waited till he was married@26 years and started giving birth before he got married and gave birth to other children. My granddad's children are older than their Step/ half uncles(and aunt), they call my granddad's children aunty/uncle..... It is very rare for men.

Marriage contract ends after the death of a spouse whether for a man/woman, only when there are no fond memories will one of them quickly remarry eg for the woman or if the person didn't procreate and needs to start doing it due to age( again for the woman).... Some women don't want to start answering to any man again and may not be too excited about sex....But for men, this isn't the case as such.... But, try not to marry a woman that will come and start giving birth like there was no child before so that u won't have extra to spare to the first kid.... Prayer+ wisdom is profitable.

Zonefree:
Any rich man going into marriage with a Nigerian girl is being unwise.

You will rush to front page to abuseNigerian, hardworking queens as if na your papa prick push u out to the world.

U insult the sensibilities and sensitiveness of a strong Nigerian woman and u think with all this nonsense you are deliberately sowing, tomorrow one foreign lady will allow u to wife her? Karma( I thank God) is a bitch.

Continue for the record purpose.... May that great helper of yours tomorrow happen to be a Nigerian woman and I go see how u go dodge it and how u wan break even.....

Shameon you and all who click like on your nonsense, idiotic talk.... Thank God, your daughter too( even if na baby mama go born a, which u like), will be another useless girl as you always pray for

cooooooks:
Thanks very much.

She is sure of the spousal visa (my fiancée).

This is basically the blueprint we have. Step by step when she comes.

What we're wondering is if she should study something in Nigeria in the meantime in addition driving, french, english.

I think Canada requires BSc to be a Registered Nurse unless it is no longer necessary.....

Nigeria most times will give u RN or HND courses which will qualify for LPN.

Alternative to Nigeria if you have the money, is to go to Cameroon for HND or BSc and license there before travelling

JA is one of my best comedians....

You see why it is good to love, care and pamper your wives?

Those Nairalandmen who possibly grew up in homes with 'i don't care fathers', some who have even married and their wives are the ones taking care of themselves inside marriage that the children will not bear her father's name and they feel cool about it and even bragging about it just because also, the woman is ' another man's child's, this is the final reward as sooner than they think, the woman will be TIRED of the marriage.

Wife may want to explore other options or just stay married to her children unless she meets a King she can spend her remaining years with.

JA is one of my best comedians....

You see why it is good to love, care and pamper your wives?

Those Nairalandmen who possibly grew up in homes with 'i don't care fathers', some who have even married and their wives are the ones taking care of themselves inside marriage that the children will not bear her father's name and they feel cool about it and even bragging about it just because also, the woman is ' another man's child's, this is the final reward as sooner than they think, the woman will be TIRED of the marriage.

Wife may want to explore other options or just stay married to her children unless she meets a King she can spend her remaining days with.

cooooooks:
What advice would you give someone who just graduated with B.Ed B.A, but wants to switch to nursing for Canada?

For full context, she will be moving to Canada with a spousal visa within 2-3 years.

If she is sure of getting this Spousal visa that will solve the immigration aspect of Canada's Nursing route, then while in Canada u should search for certain colleges or vocational schools( some are free or subsidized by government) to do Personal Support Worker course/ program which may not be more than 1 year. This will put her foot in the health care industry then, she will see how to go for Nursing course proper as she earns money from the PSW job.... Some schools may give waiver on some courses already earned during the PSW course. Studying in Canada gives an edge to easily register in Canada as a Nurse.

* The NNAS will now be contacted... Those who studied outside Canada( who have a way of getting their immigration status), will still need the NNAS, CNO( If in Ontario) and NCLEX RN.... Writing the NNAS and CNO will help clear doubts..... You need to specifically ask if they register new Nurses too. Another province used by international Nurses is Edmonton, Alberta..... Anything, Canada for Nurses need PATIENCE as you walk through it.

ezugegere:
Your wife erred by not telling you. But this is probably because because she knows your temperament.
Putting your wife in jail for more than 24hrs without trial is WRONG and AGAINST the law.
If care is not taking, you may live to regret your action. That is why you should not act hastily when you're angry.
If I were you, I would not arrest my wife; It is the boy that I would deal with, and mercilessly. Your wife is also a victim as much as you are.

WORK ON YOUR TEMPERAMENT SO THAT YOUR CLOSE ONES WILL NOT BE SCARED TO OPEN UP TO YOU IN THE FUTURE.

Well said

How we react to situations matter as we may use our hands to escalate things and make the devil happy that he is succeeding in destroying homes.

Make we no go hear another story say wife too has been raped. Release that woman immediately!

Let's learn to take the right actions and forgive where necessary.

Though I know responsible men don't play with their 2 main roles: provision and protection....

He should get back his family and not allow a small boy use by Satan to destroy it.

It is well

frontrunnerbaba:
Yeah, aside from the top 6 FUGAZE - firstbank, UBA, Gtbank, Access, Zenith and Ecobank. Most of these banks are ill equipped, lacking solid corporate governance structures and practices to protect customers.

But I digress, I think these new policies of CBN will shrink the economic activities of this country. They should be reversed after the January deadline has squeezed out hidden funds from the coffers of looters.


Share for obi. Like for Tinubu.

U are subtly demarketing other good banks.

We should thank God, because many of our banks are stronger than what we have in other African countries, we may not be there yet, but we have good banks.

Let's see the good in OUR banks. A lot of the banks would have done better if not for government policies stifling them......

Who get Titanic bank again, unless I'm mistaken? I hope all these their new policies are also directed at themselves too?

The new policy on limitation of withdrawal of Naira: will increase commission charged on Mobile money( momo) for Nigerian students in countries like Cameroon and Benin ( for example) who need bulk money to pay fees since they cannot pay directly into bank accounts of the school now unlike withdrawing money and depositing it into the school's bank at no extra cost.... It will affect paying for rent by cash for landlords that insist on that ( and deadline may be near) and if they pay via mobile money, they pay commissions. Exchange rate to cfa is 1 to 1 and added commission, so it is getting worse. People: Traders N students will be on queue to receive money from limited exchangers( especially Cameroon) who have banks in Nigeria and wants to get money from them as the exchanger too needs money for his personal use and he is acting as a person NOT as a corporate body rendering such valuable service.

* Please, before taking decisions on e naira matters try consider those Nigerians outside Nigeria... Including those who come into Nigeria after a long while, probably without BVN etc and can't do much monetarily while in Nigeria before going back. These ones should be able to get free Debit/ credit cards which they can easily load from POS shops( speaking also for foreigners who want to manage to come to Nigeria for tourism, despite security challenges.

* Let ALL petty traders have access to free or cheap POS machines for those in Nigeria.

*CBN boss should be thinking out of the box not just following whatever his 'bosses' tell him.

Ecne:
I would say if the woman is not ready to be submissive and respectful, she should have remained single.
Who is dead now?

I like the trend of Husbands returning stubborn Wives back to their families, I will encourage that to killing her

It is best too to marry an illiterate.... Though even illiterates know their rights as the average Nigerian isn't docile...

So, u equate, airing one's views to stubbornness? Na wa ooo

When u comment, try putting yourself in the shoes of a father, not just a husband/ boyfriend.

Piggery is one of the main animal businesses in Cameroon, a cheaper substitute to beef but not as cheap as fish.

Agriculture is more profound in Cameroon than Nigeria, no thanks to Boko Haram ... Though we may have more modern approach to it.

The day I heard the cry of a pig, I was shocked....It cries like masquerade/spirit.