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This is how my male friend was making good money and his girlfriend then told him to save or even buy land then at Lekki, he preferred living in hotels. When she persisted, he told her she can buy for herself.

The small, small change he gave her, she gathered it and bought a land. Later, their friendship went sour and she met another guy who married her and built on that land.

Fahvvy:
What is discriminatory here sir? ...

A male police officer who gets a woman pregnant can still go about and effectively carry out his duties as a police officer, but can a pregnant police officer do that? ... - The answer is NO!!!!!

Let's be real here...
Men and women aren't the same, and so we don't play by the same rules so trying to put us all into one box is BS! ...

The whole principle of "what is good for the goose is good for the gander" doesn't always apply in all cases ...

And besides, since you and other people think that this is discriminatory, why didn't y'all also wail like this during the Russia- Ukrainian war? ...

Why didn't females sue the court for "discriminating" against them during the war? ...

Why wasn't the whole, "good for the goose, good for the gander" propaganda pushed as vehemently as this? ...

See eh ...
One thing I've noticed is that women only complain about "unfairness" and "double standards" when it appears to not favour them ...

But once it's in their best interest, they're all cool with it ...

Well I'm not surprised, na their way be that ...

Lemme end by saying this...
We should stop looking at people as male and female or seek to go the path of inclusion in the work force ...

But rather we should focus on efficiency and effectiveness in dispensing our duties. ..

And once anyone, be it male or female shows any sign of inefficiency, they should be dropped like hot coal ...

Utter RUBBISH!

Nonsense....

Even to catch them as soon as they graduate, they are avoiding it ...

Very unserious government.

adaxme:
Fcmb master card virtual card solves all these

Hope no annual fee and wahala to open Domiciliary account?

Women dey try ooo

:Carrying 9 months pregnancy alone

Child bearing/ pushing out

Child rearing( especially when the man isn't available via quality time).

House chores

Breastfeeding/ cooking/ helping with home work almost at same time

Going out to chase money

Pls, remind me what are the roles of men again?

Not EASY being a woman.

This is the problem one encounters with having males.

Teach them to speak out as in many hoods there are many men trying to molest these boys, some are gays, some are bisexuals and some just looking for a way to let out ....

Male kids face these problem, including being bullied.... So, teach them to speak out and sometimes u may need to stand up for them till they are stronger and wiser.

siofra:
See how a future king of England is behaving. So disgraceful!

I wonder what Kate saw in his ugly, bald head

William looks like his mum and had always been the more handsome one, Harry then looked like his dad's side....
But as Harry grew up, his handsomeness began to show, and you will even see that he has some of his mum's looks too.

It is not good to celebrate when siblings are fighting.... All of them need to actively decide to seek peace and live as one.... There is more to gain being ONE than being divided.

Akpororo, Gordon's, Oke Bakassi, Mc Acapella ... One of the finest for me in this comedy industry..... And Akpororo's woman is an orphan oooo who made 1st class..... May God keep his home.

funshint:
I hope police will be more sophisticated with their investigation. They also need to check the call and message logs of everybody to see if they can get a clue to what might have transpired before this unfortunate accident.

Hope it wasn't the son that brought this calamity on his family. Why was he taken along and not the father or anyone else. He was given a "special" treatment. This might be cult related.

The heart of humans is wicked..... Envy alone can cause it.

I have seen a case where a family ( father, mother) were dealt with but not killed, while their daughter was kidnapped and raped to teach the parents a lesson.... Later, the daughter got home.... Parents had to pack out of that house.

That is why sometimes I fear men, if women disagree / angry with themselves it is obviously shown, men will hide it but can poison, stab etc

I just dey laugh for comments.... Nigerians can drag somebody Sha.

This will still be the fates of Jeromestarks, Fucksilly and Zonefree.

By the time one Naija girl will be totoring them in their marital homes, they will hypocritically be coming to post
their dishes online with off and on, appearing and disappearing monikers of NOBODY & Jeromestarks,Fucksilly and Zonefree.

That is why it is not to good to use the word NEVER..... These men who condemn Naija girls most times are referring to the sisters, daughters, wives, female relatives of others and NOT theirs( lol)....

Can we conclude that Ubunja and his ignorant disciples are responsible for relationships and homes growing apart instead of being in one, good piece?

SmartPolician:
I like it when female HNIs help both males and females because it appears that while the male HNIs help the two genders, their female counterparts focus on the females only.

Thank you, Rasheedat Ajibade!

May God continuously reward you and take you to greater heights!

Women have been doing it in kind and cash but don't loud it like men ALSO, you don't need to be slept with before being considered.

cuteboy2:
This thing is so important to women. Ordinary engagement, they rush to social media to flaunt it.

Men indeed are the ultimate prize

Married to GOOD MEN not yawa oooo

All these pregnancy shit and side chicks suddenly become second wife or even the only wife is why some women sometimes check their husband's phone.

God likes perfection and ordeliness, peace that is why he created one Adam and one wife and supported Sarah inorder for Abraham( a billionaire who can comfortably take care of many wives and children) to send away Hagar and Ishmael with just some bread and water.

Due to the HARDENEDNESS of some men's heart, God allowed men to marry more than one wife but that was not so in the beginning and not his original plan for man, woman and the marriage institution he initiated. It is NOT God's perfect will for polygamy.... Practicing it is like being out of God's perfect will/ plan for man and the best way to live this wicked, unpredictable life is not to be out of God's perfect will for 1 second.

Stubborn, lustful men still won't listen though.

In this Africa, Nigerians are great cooks.... Also heard the Moroccans cook well..... Many foreigners have had to go on YouTube to subscribe to Nigerian channels to learn how to cook.

This is what one Yoruba guy took to UK and even won an award on it.

Heard there are MANY Nigerian restaurants scattered all over UK.

Lol

Case of ' men want to eat their cakes and still have it.

Anyway, it is still MEN that demand these bride price.

So, if they spent heavily on the child, they will just dash out the child?

This is why schools should prioritize mental mathematics... It helps to influence many areas of life eg other subjects, logic, business reasoning, financial management, MCQs etc

flejnr2:
Fear boys with beards

VERY false ... I even prefer MEN with beards.... Everyone with their own taste.

Okonandmary:
the difference is that the man is putting down his money to take care of the family while she pockets hers

So how do u think these families are even successfully run?

Women don't need to put down their salaries, they can decide to help out with food stuffs, partial fees of the child, certain family projects etc.

See, it is NOT today, Nigerian mums have been helping out, just that some who married ANYHOW men, later showed these women pepper so ladies of these days are trying not to invest in vain but with sense.

Many of these women I know are the bread winners.

Okonandmary:
many men are working multiple jobs.

i know of a teacher in a public school, who has a teaching job, has a jamb center and is also a part-time lecturer in one of the distance learning institutions.

also, i know a policeman that is also a part-time lecturer at another distance-learning institution

I personally know FEMALE teachers who do 4 good home lessons( N40000-60000 each) of 1hr each after school to supplement what they earn and most are married.

Understanding is very important in the family.

It is just like couples fighting on who should wash the man's clothes.....If I have to burst the bubble even my dad helped to wash my mum's clothes, fetch water( though he later fixed the pump ) despite having maids when we were younger. My mum has left my dad with maids and 5 daughters ( before my brother came) for weeks and my dad is still 'chaste', my mum always says that ' your dad is a honourable man, I have NEVER for once thought any thing bad can happen with him alone with you all'..... But we can't say this with our full chest with men of nowadays.

My dad is usually the one that goes shopping in the market( apart from stores), my mum goes with him on weekends since she was a working class mum... She more often closes from work and rushes to nearby super stores to get somethings for us to hold our stomach with while she rests a bit and enters the kitchen.

Since 'great minds think alike', funny enough what she buys during the week from superstores is what my dad too will buy.... There will now be small arguments ( humorous though) on why the other person didn't say he/she will buy that thing in the morning before leaving( note that phone usage wasn't too common).

As soon as mum arrives home maybe by 7pm( already dad is outside in the balcony waiting for her...lol), as she enters, we are already muching to hold belle....though we as kids didn't eat much....Dad isn't a traditionalist that insists mum MUST enter the kitchen..... As mum is in the kitchen with maids, dad can even enter to see what is happening... If on weekends and he needs pounded yam, he helps to pound it.... Foodstuff is usually at home, so no worries.

Mum prepares stew, soup and keeps in the fridge so that it will just mean preparing swallow, rice etc to eat it whether or not she is around.

Many men saying they can't do this or that are sometimes even the low life men..... Real men don't have time arguing who does what in the house.... I have seen my dad wash plates, gutter, sweep etc, it may not be all the time but he does it..... I have seen my maternal grandad 'backing' my siblings ( a retired Policeman).....If my mum wants to see her dad NOW, the man doesn't mind flying bike just to rush to see her.....And these men gets their rewards.....You can never say anything I'll about my grandfather in the ears of my mum( not even his wife....my mum's mum... Lol).... Same with us concerning our dad( the BEST I have seen). These are roles models that TALK and DO( especially my dad....lol).

Before you marry, LOOK well and marry your type if u are from a decent home.... Some men are educated BUT NOT enlightened......Marry a man that LOVES you MORE.

There are smart, good, hardworking people in every society.... Nigeria has many smart and hard-working people.

A Nigerian( Igbo) woman I knew at a time was married to a Ghanaian man and both lived in Lagos, she had up to 7-8 kids but some died, ALL are female children, but if you see the way the woman talks about her Ghanaian husband who is a top Carpenter in a big furniture company, you will love the man instantly..... He LOVES his kids and her and tries not to miss buying things for them to make them happy.... Every weekend his company gives him extra allowances and being a family oriented man everything he does his wife is aware of. A really hardworking and thoughtful man.

Cameroonians are hardworking but not well channeled or directed.....Most are nice and lovable and maybe out of 95% being good, 5% may be competitive with Nigerians but this minority do not count. And they don't help themselves as much like us when they make it, the way we try to help our loved ones.

If left with the Indians/ Pals and Filipinos many information on the YouTube space will just be for themselves as they like to speak more of their languages but when Nigerians( especially Nigerian women) entered the YouTube space, they demystified a lot of things which even emboldened other Africans to get into doing YouTube videos.

Nigeria is bad because of bad leaders, we can get it right if we all of us begin to act rightly/ properly.

sageb:
Nice
what will you say about Ika men?
Alua ! Alua !

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Homely.....Can live, work and prosper anywhere then, blend easily with the natives.

Aghenebode, Afemmai people do yearly celebration this period and in new year....

They love to stick around themselves though not so much a big tribe

Their men easily make good husbands

jeromestarks:
How can you say men spoil women?
If women were wise enough to quickly pick husbands when they were young and beautiful (18 -23), there will be no olosho in the street and women will be cherished and respected as the should but many of them wants to enjoy life, open their pvssy as if it's a business venture, play with men's attention thinking it will be there forever.


When they get wasted and old, when the attention the received from men has reduced, when their beauty is faded, when they're around 27/30, they will now be looking for ways to settle down with serious desperation.

They will be looking for the men they rejected in the pass to come back to them when the iphone boys have Fvcked and dropped.

Once you hear a girl say "all men are the same" just know that she has been fvcked and her glory has been taken away from her. She's empty and she can never find who will cherish her again because she has rejected the men who truly loved her.

Men spoil women through : love deceit, in the name of helping her and sleeping with her, rape -even raping babies etc.

Women cannot marry ANY man at 18-23 yrs when many are still in school and still trying to know exactly what they fully want out of life especially for those who are ambitious and do not see marriage as the end goal ..... Not even when MORE men than women aren't useful.....

What can you say about the incessant crimes committed against women by your fellow men? We don't hear your voice there, ONLY on condemning women.

Women from BIRTH are innocent, angelic beings before they begin to be manhandled by men and begin to grow wiser and some begin to treat the Bleep ups of men then they( men) become redpilled and won't let us rest on Nairaland.

Come, no be say men u always don't find anything wrong with, are the same men in the Bible who even wanted to sleep with angels? Did u hear such despicable act committed by women in the same Holy book?.... When u defend men, also try to condemn the evil they mete out against fellow men and women.

Naijaisshitho:
Women look down at me all the time. I've never successfully dated a girl before. I usually beg my way in to see without success . However, this afternoon, this girl I've been on her case pretty much belittled me and I've been unhappy since. I just need to rant here. Below is our chat.

Note : I've sent her more than #200k within two months of knowing her.

Try follow these.... You may not turn to orobo but will look healthy:

1) Detox with lime water or blended fruit/ vegetables MIXED with warm water and drink on empty stomach first thing in the morning.

2) Deworm( more than once a year)

3) Eat better eba and any healthy soup.

4) Take your blood tablets/ multivitamins/zobo drink

5) Take Calcium for good, strong bones formation

6) Drink enough water/ warm water

carsuperman:
2 things I will never feel sad for even if they die, Women and South Africans

I know the women you won't feel sad for if they die: Other people's mothers, wives, sisters, daughters and female relatives except YOURS.

As we are condemning xenophobia, let us also try condemning female gender hatred, if not the lack of sympathy Nigerians are exhibiting against the South Africans may soon be turned on men like you.

Shun female gender hatred.....

Jeromestarks even on this thread still had to bring on hatred for the female gender even when he knows the women they tag as non virgins/ oloshos were spoilt in many ways than one by men and deflowered by men.

Happy 2023 in advance.

WannaHowzit:
I'M INVITING SANE NIGERIANS TO DISCUSS THIS AS ADULTS.

Not all these bitter comments about xenophobia. So called xenophobia has its own origins. Let's discuss with proper Nigerians and not all these p*gs littering my thread.

Ideally, that should be the case....

However, Nigerians after doing a lot to support the fight against apartheid in so many ways( both subtly and obviously), were still given bad treatments in the form of xenophobia over and over again, including meting out xenophobia to innocent, hard-working Nigerians in South Africa.... Now, even getting visas to SA for legit reasons is very difficult unlike South Africans who would want to come over to Nigeria....

The mere thought of SA nowadays puts off Nigerians even if they have to go do something there, we now look for other alternatives.

We wouldn't want to start supporting you guys in vain..... Don't even know if SA has really loved and supported Nigerians genuinely the way we do for you guys?

Anyway, dont think this nonsense can really thrive in Nigeria, may be a one-off thing..... Nigerians have the sole right to be anywhere, socialise with anyone in Nigeria, buy and own properties; farmlands etc as their money can afford.

We do sympathize with you guys though, hoping you all learn to see the evil in hating another human based on color/ nationality.

Hoping State governments will implement laws ( fines) for those who put on their generator sets till after 11pm to reduce unavoidable deaths/ ailments of Nigerians, since some people will put on generators for long even if fuel price is double what it is now

Zonefree and Jeromestarks left the chat room...

Oh, plus the heartless things that always like their nonsense posts against women.

ZooOga:
"Dapo stated that some tenants in the house saw his mother removing the body from the grave."

Seems like the mother was the one collecting the rents and managing the property while the son was struggling in South Africa and not sending any money home to help out and maintain his mother and the building. Plus the mother had the resources to mobilize the police to cool his heels in jail for 13 hours. You already know money talks with our police. The mother is getting up there in age so she may be tired of the responsibility but will not give it to an irresponsible son looking to quickly cash out without putting any work in. Plus many ppl with funds were traveling during the height of the pandemic. The son just sounds like a broke n-word to me.

That is one angle.

The son being 47years means he was born in 1975...The time at which the house was built should be told.

Mum may feel she suffered with dad and added personal funds or sacrificed personal pleasure for the house to be built.

This is similar story that happened to the other Lanre Nzeribe(if I can remember his name)guy who was the only child of his Alhaja mum and Igbo dad who died early and she married another man and had other children..... The rich man was Lanre's dad and as if she also wanted the other half siblings to have something to hold body with as their dad wasn't 'Mr Capable'.

I hope this guy is the one that put up that Caveat Emptor statement to scare buyers.... The mum doesn't want the son giving her something from his heart if HE sells the property, she wants better share and is not seeing her earlier divorce/ abandonment of his dad or her old age as a hinderance.

SugarGirl44:
But she caught the husband sleeping with the maid.
What do you think she should have done pls?
If Paul had caught her with another man wouldn’t he have done the same.

Hoping that was the only case because there was a time before their marriage that it was alleged he was involved with a beauty queen who got pregnant for him.... Don't know if she eventually had a child for him though she travelled out then... Or probably he just settled her....

Many of these women endure a lot.... Forget dating him for 10 years and he being 8 years older( thinking that will mean more maturity and sense on his part).

The divorce he wished his twin was what he was served with.

People should be careful how they use words like ' I am only responsible for my kids'....or ' I love only my kids'....or ' my kids first'.

If family open eye like you open, hope u know u and child may become destitutes.... Even if u will not give for now, don't loud it.... A 24 year old or 34 yr old or 54 yr old is a human and can need help at anytime including u that is supposedly married and should be the responsibility of your husband including the house u will rent to live in with child.

Family is always family especially for women, don't allow marriage cut u off from family as they may be the ones to help u when others fail u.