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Politics / Re: “So You Won’t Greet Me?” - Sanwo Olu Jokingly Asks Mr. Macaroni At An Event -Vid by sirjamesjnr(m): 4:53pm On Dec 25, 2023 |
Powersurge:one of the few as a Nigerian, I must say. I have respect for him and what he stands for. 1 Like 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Barrister Brutally Attacks Wife Over A Key In Uyo, Akwa Ibom (Photos) by sirjamesjnr(m): 7:36pm On Dec 16, 2023 |
Justkatty:what we have in Nigeria is a generation of fools. That lady didn't create herself. She may have accumulate that body during child birth. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Besides Money, What Else Can A Guy Bring Into A Relationship? by sirjamesjnr(m): 10:32pm On Dec 12, 2023 |
Uyi2017:. 1: A real man loves and respects his woman for who she is. 2: A real man commits to the relationship fully. 3: A real man protects his partner physically and emotionally. 4: A real man fulfills his partner mentally and sexually. 5: A real man takes the first initiative—he leads. 6: A real man steps up and makes the tough decisions. 7: A real man takes responsibility for his actions and decisions. 8: A real man speaks his mind—always. A real man stands up for the relationship. In summary, a man in a relationship brings leadership and trust. |
Romance / Most Nigerian Men Lack Intelligence And very emotional in a relationship by sirjamesjnr(m): 2:14pm On Dec 09, 2023 |
Romantic relationships are mostly misunderstood by most Nigerian men. Consciously or unconsciously, eighty percent of these men have extremely low self-esteem, and as a result, they are to blame for the great majority of entitled women in our society. They are hardwired to think that if they put themselves down and do unnecessary things, they will be able to control things and get access to sex. I've had the chance to talk to men from other cultures, including Asian, Western, and African men, and I can state with certainty that Nigerian men are the most unsophisticated when it comes to relationships. Unless you are a sugar daddy, I have never seen or heard of a country where you have to sponsor a romantic outing 100%. I can understand if the lady is not okay financially. Why would you let a girl try to talk you into accepting bills that would empty your bank account if it weren't for your ignorance and self-interest? Undoubtedly, love entails a commitment; love is a selfless act that requires reciprocity. For it to succeed, there must be effort from both parties.It is perplexing to me why a man would abandon his pursuit of personal growth, achieving financial independence, and providing for his significant other in favour of seducing a woman in order to fulfil his lust. This can only happen in Nigeria. Although the majority of Nigerian men are highly intelligent, confident in both their walk and speech, and diligent achievers, they are actually sex slaves that they mistake for relationships. Our women are used to most men trying to impress them, so when they meet a man who believes in himself and refuses to give in to their demands, they will think he is stingy and poor. Because they are desperate to have a certain girl who is unimportant, the majority of our men will even hurt another man. For the sake of sex, we have men who steal, sell their properties, and put in a lot of effort to elevate some of the lower classes in our society. Sometimes, when I watch these men acting crazy and going online to cry, I get a weak erection. Because we have dishonest men, men who trade valuables for sex, and men with low self-esteem, our women are the most unfaithful in the world. Men shape any society. When we knowingly put ourselves in this precarious situation, why is there so much noise? 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Education / Re: Maduka University, Welcomes Pioneer Students For 2023/2024 Academic Journey by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:49pm On Nov 27, 2023 |
securitywatch50:. First choice Federal university Second choice: State university( any good one among them) Third choice: grade A private university. But if you have some good fund, please consider oversea. |
Investment / Re: Union Bank Delists From The Nigerian Stock Exchange After 52 Years by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:54pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
slaawomirr:Happy you are back. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: There Are Conflicting Letters From CSU On Tinubu’s Certificate - Justice Okoro by sirjamesjnr(m): 4:39pm On Oct 23, 2023 |
Why wasn't there a Yoruba person who embodies morality above the bare minimum? I detest tribalism. Will Ibo people suffer while you reap the rewards of government if there is never an Ibo president? If you consider yourself to be intelligent in the slightest, you will never allow someone to run for president with a falsified diploma. Not even common WAEC result. |
Politics / Re: Where Is President Tinubu High School Or Secondary Result? by sirjamesjnr(m): 5:15pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Davinity:. Nigerian need answer |
Politics / Re: Where Is President Tinubu High School Or Secondary Result? by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:55pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
HeadlessMob:. Peter Obi's credentials are open to the public. So please can we also know how Tinubu got into this university? Kindly be civilized 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Where Is President Tinubu High School Or Secondary Result? by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:53pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
sirjamesjnr:. As a Nigerian, even if the election is finished, I have a right to know if the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria is still legally and morally qualified to hold that position. I deserve some clarification 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Where Is President Tinubu High School Or Secondary Result? by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:45pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Davinity:. Disregard his university degree because it has been verified by the institution. |
Politics / Where Is President Tinubu High School Or Secondary Result? by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:36pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
I am aware that admission to a university, college, or higher education institution requires a high school diploma( secondary school result). How then did Tinubu get admission to this university? You can't build something from nothing . Nigerians ought to inquire about this. Let's assume that he graduated with honors from the university, but let's also ask every rational person how he got into the institution. 4 Likes |
Politics / Re: Ambassador Usman: Niger Junta Did Not Threaten To Shoot Down Tinubu’s Plane by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:25pm On Oct 01, 2023 |
Many of us gave Peter Obi our full support with our time and money because he shared the values that Nigerians hold dear. However, we were saddened to see some Ndi Ibos denigrate another tribe, for which Peter Obi will pay a price in his political future. I never knew Ibos were so sentimental with selfish emotions until Peter Obi's presidential ambition came on board. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Should I Call Off My New Relationship Because Of This?? by sirjamesjnr(m): 4:15pm On Sep 14, 2023 |
UnconventionalT:. If your story is real, please 🏃 |
Romance / Re: How I Met My Girlfriend by sirjamesjnr(m): 2:45pm On Aug 20, 2023 |
Ishilove:. Hope you are okay. Rarely do I read your post, Oh good old days. |
Romance / Re: Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:25pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
Carcholce:Above all else, I value mankind. I cab easily donate my entire riches to my loved ones and any cause I am interested in. If not that marriage is a significant event in African culture. Many successful women won't want to get married if the circumstances are right. They will let you know if you are close to them. |
Romance / Re: Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:14pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
IconicR:Bringing a child into a dysfunctional environment is a very significant act of irresponsibility. They are exception though |
Romance / Re: Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:12pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
ahnie:Even though a flight is now so expensive, I still attempt to see her. It's my turn to stop by. A long distance relationship is not for the weak of heart. |
Romance / Re: Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:09pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
IconicR:Even my girl is aware of my position on marriage. I'm a big proponent of family. I object to single parenting. I hate single parenting so much that I will never wed a single mother. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:05pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
ahnie:She is doing great, but the hospital work is stressful. Maybe this week I'll pay her a visit in Lagos. |
Romance / Re: Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:03pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
IconicR:I've interacted with married males, but if I had the choice, I'd choose to remain single. I won't be willing to give up my independence for anything, and I'll want to put a lot of money aside for retirement benefits and plans. I will get married, but it won't be an accomplishment; I'll just feel content. |
Romance / Marriage Can Help You Feel Fulfilled, But It Is Not An Achievement by sirjamesjnr(m): 12:50pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
Have you noticed that marriage is promoted like a religion, solely emphasising the celestial benefits while ignoring the risks and responsibilities involved? No one should ever feel pressured into doing something that is only a means to a goal, regardless of their gender or age. According to the dictionary, a "achievement" is something that is successfully completed, usually with effort, bravery, or talent. Therefore, if you consider marriage to be a success, I would argue that divorce is also. As a man, the only thing a man gets out of a marriage in total—and I may not know about women—is legacy. In a marriage, a man puts in the most effort. You get sex dependent on how well and deeply you behave, how well you supply, and on your behaviour. You must exchange money or in-kind services in exchange for things like respect from your wife and child, family care, and companionship. Nothing is free or goodwill. Marriage is not the end-all, whether it be a union of love or an arranged one. The accomplishment is that it is just the start of a long journey together that will require understanding and love on both sides to make it work. not a marriage as such. Personally, I like to emphasise that marriage is a legal status. It is a document that, as acknowledged by a jurisdiction, grants you specific rights towards another person. It is great to decide to love and respect someone for the rest of your life and theirs. That can take many other forms, including religious vows, legal marriage, legal union, etc. Marriage itself is not a success. Marriage itself is not an accomplishment. Making a marriage last, keeping the romance alive, and caring for one another need a lot of effort and perseverance, but doing so is what defines an achievement in a marriage. It puts couples' alleged love for one another to the test. The true achievement is maintaining a happy marriage. I will provide a single man the same advise I would give to myself. Get married when you're ready and mature enough to handle the challenges of marriage. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: We Place Too Much Value On Ourselves. by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:40pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
My friend had her MSC and was doing great when I first met her. She was doing well for herself. The issue was that she required him to be BLACK AMERICAN, have a master's degree, be employed, earn six figures, own a home, and have no children from any prior relationships. As she put it, "Someone who can take good care of her because she believes she is entitled to it". She lost some value. Consider the possibility that my friend dates a man who is the father of children by two different women. My mind was blown. Due to her advanced age, she had already ruled out having children. |
Romance / Re: We Place Too Much Value On Ourselves. by sirjamesjnr(m): 3:29pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
Before many of us started becoming abusive, this forum is where we used to express our views, used to be enjoyable. I appreciate you expressing your ideas. I have to be honest with you—it's incredibly challenging to keep from overestimating one's value. I'm referring to the considerable work you expended to complete several difficult courses and advance your professional standing. plus come from a respectable background, It's alluring. You'll want nothing but the best. If you let any of this influence your selection while choosing a mate, you might have to wait a while and usually settle for the lowest possible option. Despite this, I will never think of choosing a dirty, baggage-filled lowlife as my partner. Imagine a lady who doesn't have a job or maybe a job that can't even fix her three good meal for a month telling any man who doesn't have a car or a house to stay away from her. In Nigeria we play too much 1 Like |
Romance / Re: We Place Too Much Value On Ourselves. by sirjamesjnr(m): 6:20pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
IconicR:My babe is cool. We are okay. Thanks for checking on us. Hope you are doing great. |
Romance / We Place Too Much Value On Ourselves. by sirjamesjnr(m): 6:00pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
We have a forum with a lot of people who are continuously at one other's throats, so I will obviously not spit this out, but somehow someone out there needs to hear this. Ladies/gentleman, I recognise that you are an adult with the ability to choose, but I also want you to realise that you can make better decisions if you don't overestimate your worth. I observed this happening all around me, especially to my beloved friend. On Facebook, 2012, I connected with Angela, a wonderful Black American with no baggage. She has a fantastic career, a beautiful home, close ties to her family, no children, and a dog, but I didn't want to date a "older woman" because she was older than me by 5 years, and she wasn't ready to date a man from Nigeria. She will not want to be with a man who is "straight off the boat", according to her. So, we decide to remain close friends, a connection that we have fostered ever since. The most of the time, we are open and honest with each other. I recall telling her to find a partner and get married in the beginning of our friendship. She told me that "she will not want to settle for less" in her own words. She continued to tell me that she would never go out of her way to sleep with a white man and that she would never want to marry a man with children because they would bring baggage into the marriage. She continued by informing me that most respectable males in America are in a relationship or multiple relationships, one in four black Americans have a criminal record, and there is a sizable black LGBT population. She only accepts to have her needs met by a select group of guys, either former university classmates or coworkers. Therefore, while she enjoys having sex with those men, she does not desire them as a partner. As she advances professionally, financially, and in the context of marriage, her value as a woman continues to decline. Because marriage isn't really a major matter for Western women,so it wasn't an issue. We made every effort to avoid discussing it, even though I was genuinely worried. We have a three-hour conversation about everything, including our sex lives, relationships, families, and other topics, fast forward to last week. When my friend informed me that she had tried to date a man who had two children by different women, but that he had cheated on her and had a dating website profile, I was shocked. She expressed her desire to travel to Africa, specifically Ghana. I offer to do all of the planning. She says she won't mind as long as it leads to anything serious when I jokingly ask her if she'd like to get laid in Ghana. This individual is a good person, yet she overestimated her genuine worth. She had the option of making lemonade out of her lemon. She had the ability to select the best option when she was at her best. We frequently reject good people and accept things that fall far short of our expectations. They don't have a good physique, are still in school, or lack specific attributes, I've seen guys reject good women who later pick the worst of the worst. Please understand that as a lady, you shouldn't pick a guy who is sloppy, unhygienic, from a dysfunctional family, doesn't respect you or any woman, and whose ego is out of control. Never, ever, ever accept a nonentity as a lady. Never let a woman guilt-trip you into getting into a relationship with her if she is selfish, has poor parenting, no excellent education, and no clear job prospects. Pick a female who will respect, value, and develop a relationship with you. She could not be particularly attractive or intellectual. Happy sunday Folks. 1 Like |
Education / Re: Sexual Harassment From Lecturer by sirjamesjnr(m): 12:53pm On Aug 08, 2023 |
Triangles1:. You may be right. I once assisted a friend who owns a Polytechnic in the Department of Physics. I encountered a lot of harassment from the female students. You got to hear questions like Sir are you married, do you have a girlfriend, where do you live? Comments like Sir you are so handsome today. Requesting my number and offering to assist with anything. It is not easy to be a tutor. What helps me, I always maintain decency. I noticed I always have respect for the smart ones among them. Op, please know your girl before you buy the market. 2 Likes |
Education / Re: Sexual Harassment From Lecturer by sirjamesjnr(m): 12:31pm On Aug 08, 2023 |
You can either use the lecturer for your babe's favor or you can get ready to fight with " the power that be"( community of sadists, which is the Nigerian lecturers). Should you take my first point, confront the lecturer with your proofs, let him know you are interested in this case and you want him to make sure your girl graduates with first class else you ruin him for life, make sure you look him in the eye as a man to man. If you take my second point which is taking legal action against him, make sure your girl is very sound and rugged because she will have a lot of enemies to deal with. If I were you, I will use that man to my advantage. |
Romance / Re: Adaora Anuamadi: Abuja Rich Real Estate Mogul Engaged To Her Fiance In Style by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:19am On Jul 31, 2023 |
[quote author=Nemesis0147 post=124771846][/quote] God bless I have found that modafuker |
Romance / Re: Adaora Anuamadi: Abuja Rich Real Estate Mogul Engaged To Her Fiance In Style by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:09am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Nemesis0147:. Please give me his handler |
Romance / Re: Adaora Anuamadi: Abuja Rich Real Estate Mogul Engaged To Her Fiance In Style by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:48pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Ekabobo:Where is that guy/man. I miss those days |
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