Goodlyhrt:
You become weird, you can't even figure your self out talk less of other people.

You lack social skills.. And people thought this is cool... Menh! Things could escalate quickly because you are keeping bootled emotions which is rather detrimental towords your relationship with other people.

This is just me and I hate this feeling. I could get so angry but you wouldn't know because I can't voice it out. I could kill!!


Somebody save me!

Sounds more like you're either depressed, have a low self esteem or inferiority complex. Introverts are reserved and thoughtful. They don't have murderous thoughts and are quite confident and okay with staying on their own. I think you need some professional help.

How do you know she does nothing about her weight? Don't just assume. Her weight could be attributed to other health issues that she does talk about. Let's try to be kind to people. The world is already too difficult as it is!

meobizy:
1. She isn’t chubby, she is fat.
2. She does nothing about it and that’s why the comments hurt. No matter how much I weigh, even if I do only 10 push-ups daily, no troll can make me feel suicidal.

You have a serious case of inferiority complex. You beat her because you saw messages but you dont want to let her go because she'll go to someone else. Please leave her alone. No be by force to date. Rubbish!

Sounds like you stay in Isolo or Ago.

goldbim:
Yes.. No interactions tho.most times I do waka pass ..like K1 the ultimate,he was a frequent visitor in my high school as his kids attended there as well.Also,Niniola was my senior and Teni my junior in school back then.. Don't know if that counts Sha...nothing different.we all had good rapport back then.that was then tho.. .everybody don blow in their own way!!

Bukky wright ,Charles Okafor,Charles okocha also..,seun kuti was always coming to see his halfcaste girlfriend back then.. ..Lola Alao and ope Ayeola lived in my area too then...

Also saw Akpororo at the airport on his way to US..it took a lot of home training for me not to hug him..That guy is super fresh!!!! ...those are the ones I can remember ..most times,I mind my business so that they won't start feeling like they've made it beyond what we know..I am a celeb in my own lane too !!

virtuouswoman77:
I believe it has been in him cos when I complained to his brother he told me that that is one habit that everybody in the family keep complainibg about him that the thought he would change after getting married to someone he loves so it has nothing to do with me which he knows is just that he hid that side of him when we were dating

No be prayer issue only. Book hin into rehab. Your husband is an alcoholic and needs help. He will also need to do a full body workup to check his kidney, liver and other vital parts.

Bola146:
You are not serious A lady saying this I just pray that you can stay in a marriage without flirting with another man, iranu

Did she tell you she wants to marry. Advise on the topic at hand and leave the rest.

Whiteangel1234:
Work or resign its your choice nobody force you to get employed ..

Really? Na like this your sense reach?

K4daniel:
Ahhh autism ko leleyi o..(This is not autism)since he could still do simple task of moving about to sch, listening to teachers , having his bath, communicating with you guys and recognising all these simple activities make him a normal person just that he couldn't understand basic learning tips and mathematics be it in simple form.See in Africa, many glory and stars are taken at birth, reason you must be spiritual!.

Solution, Tell daddy to start laying hands on that his head and speaking life into it in the name of jesus the dry brain shall resurrect. Lastly, you and your parent sow a dangerous seed to God on his behalf and watch him improve.Goodluck.

Your level of ignorance is astounding...... unbelievable really.

Egoveen:
Ask your mum who the father is

Stop displaying your ignorance. SMH

Shormiey:

Do you know whether it's spiritual?

It's not spiritual.

He could be autistic. Get him tested. Could also be Dyslexia. Try not to use the word 'dull' to characterize him.

cococandy:
Men

Always acting like helpless children when someone requests sex from them. Like they have no power to say yes or no. Very funny.

I tire.

What exactly are you confused about? Na wa for you oh
. This is nollywood abi?

You are a psychopath. You need to see a doctor

There's no mystery. It's just a hairstyle.

MiVida:
my love for her isn't that deep to get to such ridiculous extents you're portraying bro. MBA!

Your love for her is not that deep but she's all you want in a woman. You have even introduced her to your family. Guy, I'm confused.

It's obvious there's a trust issue here. Maybe she's had bad experiences. If that's the case, it will take a lot for you to reassure her you're different. Abi you be woman wrapper?

See a good dentist .Brush twice a day and use your mouthwash.

This story no make sense at all.

Amstupid:
So, d punna just waste like DAT ehnnn

Have a little respect for the dead. SMH.

I think it's a fungal infection. I know someone who had the same issue. See a doctor.

Simplyleo:
Op, first, that word is spelt "tyre".

Secondly, I don't subscribe to the crap that a tyre should be changed after a particular period.

Change your tyre as soon as the gripping threads are worn, whether or not it has expired.

Thank you jare. Imagine a regular traveller waiting for 4years before changing tyres.

Somebody cannot play with them again �? The guy don enter sha.

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

Did you experience any form of trauma growing up? Or do you think you're mistaking infatuation for "being head over heels"

Lekside442:
Thanks alot bro..you really talk alot of sense...but I really love her soo much..but this only sickness she got about getting angry on unnecessary issue..and she’d always act like she’s on the right...she’d be at fault and she’d want me to be the one plead...imagine that bro.

Relationship of 4months and "you love her so much". She's very young and it sounds like she hasn't made up her mind on dating you. She.may be testing the waters to see how far she can push your buttons.

helinues:
So condom was also mentioned in the bible?

I tire oh. People will just wake up and ask questions that make your stomach turn

But their husband can be in occasions of sin abi? My guy you are insecure. Rubbish

Casemiro:



nice suggestions there..




You can keep saying insecure all you want, but Everyman to his own..


some men want women working in big organizations and offices, while some prefer them stay at home..



Stories flying up and down especially on Nairaland are enough to make such men not change their mind.



from colleague colleague,

they start something funny.

Before you know one thing has happened and the do done.



It's not insecurity on the part of such men,

they just don't want their wives to always be in an occasion of sin, where there would be much pressure..





no need trying to sound politically correct, we know what really happens inside life..



once again thanks for your suggestions.



MODIFIED !!!!!!



If you like quote me full textbook calling me insecure, I will never try to sound politically correct just to win cheap likes on nairaland.




You can give motivational quotes or try to win likes all you want, but we know that


theory is different from practical.




Inside life, we know how things operate.




I asked a simple question,

'' What Wife Friendly Occupation Would You Suggest? "


Can't you just pass if you don't have contributions?





marriage is for two who agree to get together.



If you are a career woman, marry a career man.


Simple!

There are no spiritual effects. There's only karma.

Question. Who has more responsibility for the children? If it's you then don't worry about it. Children tend to listen more to the person they spend more time with.

He doesn't love you to a fault. He's a psychopath and one day he'll kill you. The signs are right in front of you. Don't listen to what others are saying. You wear the shoes......

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

A bit cowardly IMO

What's with the red carpet....is this a movie premier ?