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is she willing build her life with you? if the answer is yes then engage her.

I am in a similar situation. my boyfriend of four years is upset becuase I am pursuing a professional degree in another state and fear that all the
nija guys will snatch me away in Californian which is were I plan to go. He is worried that he is not bouyant enough to marry me before my departure but all am looking for is an engagement that shows me that loves and want to spend the rest of his live with me. Money will always come later.

So if you truely love this chick, ask her to marry you. afterall, wedding can come much later.

by the way, my boy friend instict is sotta correct. I might change my mind when someone else comes along. I mean for 4 years? common! if doesn't ask me to marry him now, he probably wouldn't later.

I love them both even though I was raised by my dad alone. they both contributed differently in my life

I thank God and both my parents

my husband nagging? weird. why?

I dont think it has anything to do with fine apple. there is always a better way to address an issue better than nagging!!!

people do stuff they know they can get away with.

Pray and always do your part in your marriage and live God to handle him.

Find some fun thing to do when he naggs like listening to music or watching movies because crying is outta of the question. he will soon get tired!


Ana ro adi abuo ayi ara! (for igbos)

thanks doc,

I will let you know ho it goes

@ poster,

did we forget that God gave us our own free will? He does not command us around. So whatever you sow, you shall reap.

you can say that God is unfair but how fair are the people of sodom and gomorrah when they were commiting all the atrocities that they did. God had to get rid of them because they were full of immorality. remember that he saved the righteous people amongst them (Lot's family)

So is the great tribulation that is to come (revelation) becuase God need to reward his people. True and practicing christians today suffer in this world. when you try to uphold bible principle in your life, you will find out that this live does not worth living sometimes becuase the world want you to behave differently. How long will God allow his people to suffer? if You try to live a just and Godly way, then revelation should not scare you becuase God promised to take care of his people during that great tribulation. That has to happen for the earth to be a paradise again. Actually these events marks the end of human suffering and death! so Rejoice if you are a true worshippers of God! "The meek shall inherit the new earthly paradise and duel in it forever" how is this suppose to come through if we have corrupt and mischievious people still alive and living with the righteous?

ultimately, God loves all of us and has been taking long for jesus to come back becuase, he want each and everyone of us to get the chance to accept him. That day will be like a thief snicking up on us! so dear if I were you, I will work on developing a good relationship with God and not criticize his actions becuase we will never win just like satan has lost.

If God is unfair he would have slap your thoat shut! for daring him but you see, he is full of love and kindness.

yes
is called artificial insemination!

penticostal and catholic may work

anglican and evengelist may work

Muslim and christians no no no no and no

@ the poster

not that am judging you but dear, how did you get involved with a muslim?

I am in a similar dilemma. but we are both christian but defferent denomination. meanwhile we were both catholics when we started dation four years ago and then I changed to a different denomination. So we are still together and plan to get married but I refuse to get married in a catholic church. I really cannot get married in my new church since I am not baptised. I will not talk him into joining me to my new church becuase no one talked me into it. but we had to sit down and talk about the most important issues like our children, etc.

two different denomination in christiannity is tolerable but muslim? you will have a heavier cross to carry later on.

This is a very Good question that is raised. Jesus christ ressurected people during his time on earth to prove that there is going to be a ressurection (Act 25:15) when he comes again and he gave his deciples who suffered, eat and drank with him the same power. when the last deciple past away so did raising the dead miracle. As christians today, we have the bible that has accounts of what jesus did and what he will do for us in his second coming. We have faith in him so he did no have to perform miracle for us to beleive in him.

God is just and fair! why would some people be ressurected and some people not? wouldn't that show that he is an imparticial God? my brothers and sisters, Jesus performed miracle as a sign of what he is to do again and for people who not beleive to beleive during that time.

if you love God and beleive in him with a strong faith, he does not have raise your dead relative to prove that. he did it in the past and he will do it again to you and your loved ones when he comes again. The resurrection that he will give his faithful followers when he comes the second time is everlasting! He will ressurect the dead to die no more! am excided how about you?

if you cannot raise the dead, so is your priests and pastors

In Act 2: 1-11 these scriptures highlighted that when the deciples were speaking in tongue, the crowed that gathered to watch the deciple were able to hear the message in their various native languages.

has any of you tongue speaker ever confirmed with anyother person to have understood you when you spoke in tongue?

Beside does speaking in tongue identifies you as a true christian? read john 13: 35 and Ist Cor 13: 1,8 you will even find out that the gift of tongue was or will be done away with

Cheer.

everyother church not just WItness has issue with catholics becuase catholics pray to mary (rosary) when the bible condemns repetitive prayer and stictly highlights that you can only get to God through his Son Jesus christ. they may say that they are honoring mary but the attension giving to her takes the place of our heavenly father and God says that he is a jealous God. Secondly, the priests are not very good role models as some of them engage in sexual immorality. they have this purgatory state which will be another topic for another day. I was once a catholic

@elvischido,

I second what you said but you see, people are so blinded buy what they learned as a youngster that they refuse to see the other way

the scriptures that you mensioned are reference that can help anyone who wants to learn the real truth but they rather die of thier ignorant than know the truth. Arch angel micheal is jesus christ! God commanded him authority over the angel as well as everyother thing. argue from now till thy kingdom come, it will not change.

remember that God did not take away satan's power as an angle. so he can do many things but what ever satan gives you only last for a short time and probably cause you more harm than Good. If God bless you with anything, it last for a long time to forever. that is why God personality is Good and full of love and he remains the same to time indefinite.

God is the ultimate judge of all and he himself sees the heart of every living creature. for us christians we have to reason with the scriptures. we know there is going to be a ressuration of both the righteous and the unrighteous (Act 24:15) the unrigthteous people are the people who did not get the chance to hear about our God and creator and accepted jesus as their lord and savior during their live time (children are included since they were not able to make that decision) (even our great, great , great grand parents who only knew Ome nana or their culture as form of worship)

these people will be thought the truth about or God within that 1000 years the devil will be chained and after they have learned the truth, it will be solely upto them to decide which path they will choose. the people who did not accept the reign of our lord jesus will be destroy (Hades)

God is full of love and cannot be associated with anything evil. If we human can see how bad sending a child to hell is (as you put it) how much more God who exudes, kindness, meekness and love

Cheers

God knows us individually and knows what we can and cannot do. Many people have family and full time job that they take care of and some people have less burden than others. how ever little we can contribute to the church we go to and do it cheerfully, it brings glory to God. Remember that God love a cheerful giver. It doens't have to be money, it could be through helping our brothers and sister or services we render to our churches. So if you gonna join many group in the church and sweep all the compounds, it will be to no avail if you do it grudgingly!!

cheers

some of the answers to the questions can be found in Ist John 5: 19 " We know that we are of God. But the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one"

God is not competing with satan in this world. He promised that will come again and set things right and to do away with satan!.
God is love and as such cannot be associated with anything evil.
As christians who cares and abide by his rule regarless of satan temptations, he gives us the grace to go through these trial times and come out triumphantly.

I am just speechless!!!!!

to be married, you have to publicly declear that you are now man and wife and both families have to consent to it. so whether you publicly declare it oo in the village or church na u sabi!! if you want God to bless your marriage, you have to abide by his principles found in the bible in your daily lives. just becuase you are wedded in a church does not guarantee his blessings.

what church do u go to and be honest?

I was once a catholic until I reached 20 years of age. I am really not sure where to starts with catholicism. there is an issue of porgatory, priests not being able to marry, being neutral with homosexuality, accepting money to pray for your dead loved ones, confessing your sin to the priests, praying rosary, the list continue


regarding the issue of marriage in priesthood, please read 1st Timothy 3:1-6

you will find out that Jehoval God is a God of orderliness. He meant for the leader of his church to be married and have their own family. The above scripture points the relevancy. For if a man cannot take care of his family, how is he able to care for God's congregation?

God is not dumb! is about time people start applying his principle instead of their own doctrines.

by the way I am now go to Jehovah's witness

Hi Doc,

I have been following your replies and am very impressed and God bless you.

Doc the last time my period came it was very dark and very clusttered. prior to this, my period was very normal so I really do
not understand the sudden change. I am 5.6 and weigh about 137lbs. also I have been sexually active but just recently stopped about a month ago
so am I okay?

@ michellin,

Give it up dear! ugly or no ugly who cares! since you are ugly and loving it so are many pretty girls out there.

Ndi Igbo Kwenuooooo! Abum onye Arondizuogu na Imo State. Amaghim na trendi a di ebe a. Obi dim nno mma na ahurum ya. udo diri onye obula.

Mona has a potential of being very hot but her "hair" is almost always outta wack!!! for an actress. she is far from being ugly though. But the hair diappoints me always except when she ties it of course.

@ Abujabooks,

if I have to work so hard to get love and attension from my hubby, then something is amiss. so while am doing all those things what is he suppose to be doing? your advice is very reasonable but we woman wants to be padded on back sometimes by our hubby. so helping out around the house is way of saying "thank you honey for the work you are doing around here" I really don't think that most women expects their mate to be very domestic. but small things as picking up your sock is very helpful and that is one less thing for me to worry about.

However, do the domestic work when you can and able to so that you have less complain

Michelin, you said you are ugly and nice but with all your replies, I doubt your humbleness, smartness and niceness as an ugly person. most of the time, the character we possess as individuals is genetics and experienceswe have had. it doesn't have anything to do with our physical apprearance. As I smart person you claim to be, I'd expect you to know that.

Your picture looks ok to me. I will not count you as an ugly person but if you say so "ugly you shall remain and be Called"

I am truely sorry for what has happened to you. My advice to you and to whomever comes incontact with this message about relationship is that you should love God better than yourself. remember that is the first commandment! When you love God and put him first, he never disappoints. I mean why would you even put your trust in human beings? we are all full of disapointments!!!!

by the way, your Ex- girl who broke your heart love the relationship except that when it was time to settle down she realized that this is not what she wanted. In your case, you willingly get into your newer relatiopnship in hope of breaking the relationship when it starts getting serious. these two are total different issues. Seriously, you are equally not very nice. with how dubious you have become, I don't think you were very nice as you claim if not, no heart breaks would trigger you to question the love you have for God. was it God that send the girl to break your heart? it is only a coward who do not learn good from previous mistake.

You should have turnned that misfortune to something positive. after the incident, you should make sure that any girl you decide to date shares the same religious beleives with you. having sex befor marriage this days is very common but when you don't engage in sexual behaviour with a girl or boyfriend when you are courting, it allows you to focus on more important aspects of the relationship and it will prevent too much of emotional attachment. God is not dumb people. When you love and put him first, you will forever be happy nomatter how many disappointment you encounter.

Human being cannot do it all!!!!

This is the first time I have heared that some people are not pround to be Nigerians. I came to the US 5 years ago and am still reluctant to file for my US citizenship because I love my dearest country. Even when I fill out application for job or school etc and they as me my race; I cross out Black and put African and in perenthesis Nigerian. " you have to love and know where you are coming from to know where you are going"

The did has already been done. He is looking for a strategy or a way out so that he can focus on his marriage. My advice, tell your wife period!!. You mension that you do not want to see her get hurt but marriage comes with burdens. Once she is aware, beleive me your mind will be as ease. mean while for them girls; ignore all of them. To be nice though, you may tell them that you have HIV or some form of STD or some thing. you don't wanna risk your wife's life because themgirls may be furious enough to come after her. If they want to kill themselves becuase of you, they need a mental check up. And for you, this headche and your wife's being hurt by the news when you tell her, will be your punishment for your previous play boy life

I have a step mom, But my dad loves me sooooooooooo much that I don't even pay her any attension. Our startegy is, when I make her mad, she doesn't speak to me and I don't speak to her. Now that am in Yanki with my mom, I am like daughther she never had. Anyway, I am nice to her because of my dad. I just want him to happy.
I hope to not have my children deal with this step shit!!

Oh yah, did I forget. I now have a step dad being that I live with my mom who is now married to another man. drama, drama but I no wan go that side because this is yanki. I can choose not to deal with that whole mess.

A man who hits or abuses any woman should not be called a man. I broke up with a boyfriend of mine partly becuase he bits his female cousins and sisters. Seeing this, I knew that one day he will raise his filty hands on me and I was not willing to experience that. In general, men hits women becuase they can get away with it. I suggest this to any women, once a man brutally hits you, hire a thug and have them beat the crab out of him. While they are doing that, they should warn him that the next time he will try beating her again, he will be a dead man. When he comes home with bruces, help him clean himself up. If tells you what happen, tell him that you are sorry that you overreacted.
NEXT TIME BEFORE HE RAISE HIS HANDS ON YOU HE, WILL REMEBER THE TRAIT MADE BY THE THUGS.

Marriage is for better or worst. it is not for better for better. you got into the marriage as a rebound to a heart wrecking rela. you had in the past. But ask yourself why you fell in love in the first place with this guy and what could be ammended to restore that love and affection you once had for him. Often we forget about God in what we do. Pray that God helps you fine the way to a true happiness with this guy. running away or divorcing him does not guarantee a better and a happy life for you.