@Bashy, as i said, you are speaking from your own little and insignificant corner of the world. stand by your view like your whole life depends on it, defend your post like your essence as a man is question. Sweetie, take a chill pill. The issue is not taking a poll, the issue is neither you or i know every man in the world. I understand your point, but there is a certain ignorance and unintelligence associated with people who generalise based on their own experience and the experience of others. Majority is never all. It has never been all and will never be all. 98% of men will cheat or 80% of women will cheat, still does not make it ALL.

Jeez! @OP, not everyone on 2go is whoring themselves. Your friend was just unfortunate, there are too many randy men and women who lack morals on earth. too bad.

@Otunbakay, thank you, thank you thank you. You are far too kind.

@OP, you seem to have your mind made up. Shyt happens. no need taking her as a wife and ending up as a randy man chasing around every slim woman, or worse still, hating and resenting her. So please break up with her in the nicest way possible.

@101, thanks for your post, i asked him myself why he keeps going on and on about my bf and hubby. He does not know me or hubby, and i insist @ Bashy is not the specimen of every red blooded male alive. @Bashy, cheat if you must, stand by your twisted view if it makes you feel better about yourself. And no, i have never cheated on any bf, have i been tempted? Yes! There is no rule that says you can not be attracted to others or tempted, but your vows say be faithfull. Stop defending your lack of morals and self control by trying to throw every single man into your gutter of infidelity.

@Bashy, remember i said you sound intelligent?, well, maybe its time you stop posting because you are swimming against the tide. As i said, you do not know all the men in the world, so you have nothing to back up your silly argument. You are speaking from your own little, insignificant corner of the world. I have said nothing about my husband of bf, i wonder why you are going on and on about him and my best friend. Get a grip, you sound like a broken record. maintain your point, stand by it, whatever gets you through the night dude! You insult any man that does not hold your view, call him poor and a liar, and claim every woman against you has her husband cheating with her best friend. I fear i am speaking with someone whose I.Q is hovering around room temperature. I see Bashy, i see all men. FACT! ,

@OP, you never loved her, you were in lust and now the lust factor has changed, you are no longer interested. How can you string a woman along for 9yrs, and then entertain thoughts of dumping her because she is fat. if you ever love that woman, you will subtly encourage her to loose the weight, watch her diet and help her through it when you can. That my friend is what loving someone is all about, you will eventually grow a pot belly, become bald and have lines on your perfect face one day. Think about that.

@Dami_paul, very intelligent post! Our mind will always stray, fact! We will always meet people to whom we will be sexually attracted to, fact! the issue is do we act upon that attraction? as long as we have eyes, we will always come across men/women who will be hot to us, does not matter if we are married or not. Not cheating on a spouse is self control and the grace of God. I find Will smith, Johnny Depp and Dr Avery from Greys very hot, its a thing i laugh over with my man, the same way we laugh over the fact that he thinks Tonto Dikeh is sizzling!,

I never said stop cheating on your wife, please by all means go ahead and do it, as i said we all have our vice, but please stop with the generalisation, it takes away from your intelligence a great deal. You have only met and heard about a few men in your life, so stop acting like you have the info on every single living man. And you keep going on and on about my man cheating with someones closest friend, seriously? Even some cheats know where to draw the line, you i see, have no boundaries. Really sad.

@sleek reek, thank you very much for your very intelligent answer. @ bashy, as i said, get over your self, you are starting to sound really pathetic. How many men in the world do you know? Someone said 'marriages are like planes, you only hear about those that crash', the story of a faithfull and honest man is boring, so the media feeds you with unfaithfull men because that makes for juicy stories and reading. Stop saying ALL men will cheat, as i said, you do not know all men, you are not the tool by which every man is measured. Stop going on and on about your vice. it is annoying. You are starting to sound like your money and vice is the only thing you can point out to proove you are a man. Get over it.

@OP, you have made up ke? No wonder he uses you to play. You obviously are so in love with him, you can not tell the difference btwn your a.s.s hole and a hole in the ground. I feel sorry for you. All the best sha.

Aww, @OP, your post just screams pain, anger and heartbreak. Sorry! Unfortunately 95% of Nigerian ladies are leeches, parasites and feel the need to depend on a bf for every thing. Move on and be strong. Your girl is rude anyways, you do not need her. And yes, in the midsts of dung, flowers will grow, i have never ever asked a dude for as little as 100n recharge card   and   most of my friends are that way,   so do not loose hope, there are still a few good ladies out there.

Are you serious? What a joke! A randy woman who can not keep her legs closed is your chosen one? You are so funny. She is just using you to kick the boredom that has set into her life. You are the usee and she is the user, this can not be too hard to understand .

@OP, you did nothing wrong, and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Your bf as someone said is an a.s.s, he has just gotten the opprotunity to break up with you, so please just let him go. Hard i know, surround yourself with friends, family and people who appreciate you, go out, watch a movie, loads and loads of ice cream helps, do not try to rebound and make sure you cry your heart out, then you will be fine!!

The truth is that every human being craves variety, excitement and novelty in their sexual lives, it gets boring being with the same person year in and year out. That is the reason why 98% of men will cheat and 80% of women will cheat on their significant other. self control, self discipline and the fear of God who frowns on adultery is the only thing that will stop me from cheating. I am still allowed my secret fantasies of Tyson Beckford, Will smith, Johnny Depp and the guy who plays Dr Avery on Greys anatomy, mith, Johnny Depp and the guy who plays Dr Avery on Greys anatomy,

Why do some NL 'boys' always seek the slightest opportunity to bash ladies and pull them down? How do you come to the conclusion that she rejected eligible bachelors and was choosy? Some people get married in their twenties, some in their thirties, some in their fifties and some not @ all,

Nothing strange here, just another divorce. It has nothing to do with the West and their ways, culture, tradition and the fear of what people will say is the only glue keeping a million and one Nigerian marriages together. The institution of marriage is a failed one, but as a friend of mine will say, 'marriages are like planes, you only hear about the ones that crash'. Good luck to those keeping their marriages and vows in tip top shape.

Well nice debate going on here, i am an unapologetic pro choice, and will be till the last day. I am sorry, the whole abortion is murder, my mother did not abort me, and the unborn foetus has a heartbeat argument does not fly with me, my body, my decision and i will only keep a child if i so desire, and its possible to hold different views about touchy subjects like this without sounding self righteous and resorting to insults.

, seriously @Bashy, you need to get over yourself. you do not have to belittle and insult other men who have a different opinion and view to infidelity than yours. Granted majority of men cheat, and will cheat @ one point, that is the sad and horrible truth, but there are still a few men like the poster above who will not. You are not a specimen of every man in the world and how they reason, you keep talking like your brain and dick is the tool by which every red blooded male is measured. Very very few men will never cheat on their wives, does not make them any more righteous than you are, it just makes them men who wish to be faithfull, they will surely have their own vices also. Keep to your away match ways, i trust you are smart, love your wife and children, but accept that not EVERY man will cheat. Stop defending the wrong like your essence as a man depends on it. Really, you need to slow down, you sound really intelligent, but sexist and chauvinistic.

@Roymary, you flatter yourself: how does your declaration of my wor wro status diminish my 5'11 frame and almost illegal sex appeal?? (wink), was just kidding with the i hate ugly people statement, so ease up.

Only a prostitute will hang out alone at hotel bars, there is no other explanation for such behaviour. IMHO, high class hotels do not need this embarassment, they allready have their little black book of expensive prostitutes that can be arranged for any guest who chooses, they certainly do not need the hustlers on the street.

religious fanatics and their foul mouths, is that what yoour bible teaches you??schnapp ke, scnapp ni!!. is that what you take as communion wine?

i feel sorry for all of you who have an issue with looks when it comes to a lifelong institution like marriage. Its a sad sad day in the life of a woman or man who believes looks has anything to do with a marriage. let Mercy be, she can marry whoever she wants, black or fair, stop being so shallow, its pathetic!!

bla bla bla, and the religious fanatics are out blazing again. The man has decided to flee from the bondage known as marriage, let him be.

@op, almost everyone in this country will tell you to explain yourself, or eventually believe there is something wrong with you. I am sure you have the time to explain to them, so continue doing so. Just understand that no explanation you give will ever be enough. Listen to your heart, its your life, and you should do exactly as you please as long as you are hurting no one. Believe it or not, i know women who feel exactly as you do. I for one, wishes i coulld

@op, almost everyone in this country will tell you to explain yourself, or eventually believe there is something wrong with you. I am sure you have the time to explain to them, so continue doing so. Just understand that no explanation you give will ever be enough. Listen to your heart, its your life, and you should do exactly as you please as long as you are hurting no one. Believe it or not, i know women who feel exactly as you do. I for one, wishes i coulld

sweetheart, aint nothing in the world wrong with you. Marriage is a sham, and a failed institution. If i were in a more developed society, i will def do without marriage. its crazy how you are expected to live with one man in a house all your life, be there when you are angry, irritated, i mean its crap! I like my freedom, privacy and to top it up, how the hell am i supposed to have sex with just one man for the rest of my life?, never! Not gonna happen. monogamy!, marriage!, , all overrated!

judiciary a joke The entire efiing country is a huge joke.

he understands he is sharing her with some other dudes, same way she understands that she is sharing him with some random babes. They have a good understanding, the kind necessary for a good marriage. Their kind of marriage will last a lifetime. No suprise here!!!

it might not be a  curse, but i certainly dont think its fun. How can you be  having  sex  with one man all  your life??, nahhhh, i do not subscribe to that at   all. I know  i will have plenty side dish when  i   eventually  find my  hubby. Variety is the   freaking   spice  of life.  As for   the   other   aspects  of  it,  me  i do not  send  any one  as  long  as  i  get  my  weekly  dose  of  the  big   'o

i do not like ugly people. They are ugly.