Until we understand that marriage is not for everyone, there will always be stories of divorce. And reconciliation based on the welfare of the kids is never a wise decision.

@Bashy, i am good. Thanks for asking. How are u? Wifey?

@OP, you know what to do, so why are you coming here looking for stories? Cut that silly friendship and walk out of her life for good, she just wants to use you to satisfy her whoring self. How would you feel if your wife was screwin.g another man? Be a man and stop now.

@Bashy, lol! You are so funny. Yes, we can be friends here on nairaland, and why in heavens name will i tell your wife about your dirty public toilet girlfriends na? what is my own in the matter? And besides, from all indication your wife allready knows.

As i said, its not only single women that believe Will smith is hot. Seriously walter, you can not be so stuck up, you are not the only nice looking man to your wife, and i do not lust, i admire and admit that a certain guys are eye candy. I watch a movie with my fiance, and i see a hot woman and i jokingly cover his eyes and say 'do not look' and we burst out laughing. People are not suddenly covered with a cloak of ugliness because you are married are they? Anyways, i respect your view.

@Walter, you sound like someone i can have a decent argument with, without insults and petty shots at our personal lives. You do not know me and i do not know you. My point about novelty and variety, was that it is quite normal for humans to desire it sometimes, my point about attraction to someone other than a spouse, was the fact that just because we get married, our eyes are not shut to beautifull people, and my point of thinking Will Smith was hot, was that its something i laugh about in passing with my friends and fiance, certainly not something i dwell on.

@Bashy. You are so funny. You are right, you are telling the truth about your life, and should not be attacked for it, but remember its the truth about your own life and the life of every man in your circle of family and friends. Its your life, your wife, your d.i.ck and you can do with it whatever you will.

As a poster said, depression is something that should not be taken lightly, unfortunately, it is a disease that is pushed aside here in Nigeria. Society here looks down on any woman who can not have kids, seems she was from a rich home, she could have opted for 'gestational surrogacy', that way she could still have had her own biological child. This just goes to show how void and empty the word 'love' is. Just when she needed a guy who told her he loved her, he walked out. May her soul rest in peace.

lol! thread keeps getting funnier.

Puhlease, there is nothing selfish about @OP. Dude is shutting her out, how do u be a friend to someone who is shutting you out, and will not let you be a friend to them? She was not even told by him that his dad was ill. The relationship is just 3months, and i guess he does not feel close enough to her to open up, but still @OP deserves to know if he wants her friendship or not.

This girl must have had some deap seated issues. We can not and should not attempt to understand her reason, for we will never be able to. I feel for her parents/loved ones, what a horrible way to loose a child, what a selfish thing for her to do. Dude she killed herself for, is probably in bed with a chick right now. She messed up.

@Bashy, thank God you have stopped picking call girls, hopefully someday you will be faithfull to the woman you claim to love. I do not care for what reasons thos hos are dating you as a married man. They are dirty, low life pigs who are nothing but 2nd best, and pls stop making excuses for them. You can defend yourself, no need defending the public toilets too.

@dadoctor, lol! Are you male or female? I will take a guess and say female. I believe @Bashy will only stop cheating when he wants to, and from all indication, that day will never come as long as there are shameless public toilets for him to scre.w. Shame, but it is what it is. So leave him to his ways oh.

@OP, 3 months you say? Thats such a short time, maybe he has not bonded enough with you to share whatever he is going through. i say see him face to face, talk to him and tell him you want to be there for him, and ask him wtsup with both of you, listen to him and from his expression and words, you will know if you should just forget about him or not. You are obviously hurting, and if he ever cared about you, he should be able to see that. When you are in a relationship, its never just about you alone anymore.

This is crazy, sad and annoying @ the same time. What a selfiish thing for her to do. We may never know the real reason she did this, was it because of the medical condition(whatever it was), or because of the guy who broke her heart. I can not comprehend hanging myself over a man. No! No! No! no man is worth it, as a matter of fact, no human being is worth it.

@Bashy, lol! Dude i understand oh. you just sounded a bit callous when you said, you could have told your wife about your girls. Anyway, Its cool, as i said, play safe. i guess its a two way road, if those whoring women you call girlfriends had any morals and upbringing, they will not open their legs to you abi? After all from your posts, you always make sure they know you are married. If the dirty ho single girls just said no to married men who can not keep it in their pants, then i guess you will have no option than to do your fellow man abi? Just kidding!

@OP, you will still be the one to marry the old lady, lol! That is kind of sweet and sad @ the same time. Anyways, tell her exactly what you posted up there, i mean from all indication, you love her, and she should be able to understand you will not let her down. 24 is a bit too young for a guy to settle down oh, are you sure you still do not have some wild oats left to sow??

@sexkillz, seems you like to see the colour of your posts. Same goes for me how? Where exactly have i insisted that every person should be a pro choice(er). keep an open mind and understand me, i said i am and will always remain an unapologetic pro choice(er), the whole argument of life begins @ conception does not fly with ME. Mr, i said me and not the world. I realize that there are a lot of people who believe otherwise, and i am cool wit that. Why must i believe you strange post about a couple of cells writing a diary? Puhlllease. Believe what you want, and i will believe what i want. You must not force people into your way of reasoning, and you must not insist that EVERY human in the world reasons like you. That can not be so hard to understand can it?d i will believe what i want. You must not force people into your way of reasoning, and you must not insist that EVERY human in the world reasons like you. That can not be so hard to understand can it?

@Walterppk, when you finally have your brain back in its original position, you will understand that i never said i am thinking of cheating with those i mentioned, i only said i think they are hot and attractive men. Is it only single women who find Will smith attractive? Its a passing thought and something i mention to my friends or fiance when he is on screen, You should stop being so stuck up and self righteous.

@WalterPPK, wow! Wow! I see you have started with the insults. Please do not put the frustrations of your cheating woman on me. Take a chill pill and relax, i have given you my opinion in this issue, stop throwing your toys out of the pram. i bet you have never seen a hot woman on the street, office or wherever huh? Or your eyes were shut close the day you got married or met your gf? You can assume what you want about me, call me a cheat who will sleep with hubbys friend, i do not argue such nonsense with strangers behind a computer. It will be someone like you who is probably screwi.ng his girls best friend, and you condemn me for finding other good looking men hot. My fiance knows damn well the celebrities i think are sexy, and unlike you, he is a confident dude and knows i can never cheat on him. Get the cotton wool btwn your ears out, and replace them with your brain so that you can comprehend what i am trying to say.

@OP, forget all this jist about the fatty cursing you, and praying midnight prayer. Fa fa fa , fowl! Did u deny her pregnancy? Do a blood oath with her? Were you in the bond of matrimony? Nah! Please, walk away from her now, and kiss her goodbye, maybe next time she would stay away from KFC and ice cream. Never marry out of pity, the institution of marriage is hard, you do not need to marry a fat woman out of pity. You will hate yourself.

@Bashy, you are under the illusion that you respect your wife, from the way you post, you are obviously a very sexist and chauvinistic male, you say you could have told her about your girls. You are so funny, and i see a bit of a complex hovering somewhere. I believe you have made your point, and maybe you and whatshisname can open the creepers thread so you guys can compare notes. Just keep playing safe.

seriously, just stop with the ALL MARRIED MEN CHEAT argument. Its so stupid. How do you go from saying only 10 out of a men will not cheat to arguing again that all will cheat? You need to take a chill pill @Bashy, you are acting like your life depends on this whole argument. most married men will cheat, 98% most likely, but will you and you fellow creepers stop the blind and ignorant argument like you know every single man. Jeez!

@Bashy, aww, i am starting to really like you. Lol! I appreciate your understanding of my point of view, and i also want you to know that i really really get you. I understand you much more than you think. 10/100 is not an absolute is it?, yes most rich men will cheat, still very few will not. I am not judging you oh, never, its your life, and you must live it in a way that makes you happy, and still be open minded enough to understand that just because you and every man you know , have around you and have heard of is cheating does not mean that there is no faithfull man rich or not who currently walks the surface of the earth. As i said, there is nothing strange under the sun. You will be suprised to learn about some things you consider impossible.

na wa for this marriage issue. @OP, maybe as cuddlemii said, you should do a small engagement/introduction, then you can go ahead for your masters, that way she does not feel so much pressure from family and friends. Never, i repeat never ever marry her without a job, guy that your irreplacable love will trun to hate and resentment.

@OP, people kill for? Die for? Seriously? Interesting question. I honestly believe the institution is a failed one. I think most people are pressured into it, they see it as an obligation, something that society and family expects from them to look responsible. Many Nigerian women marry the available man because there is no time. A friend of mine who was just 25 had her dad pressure her into marriage because according to him, paw paw will grow in her womb, if she does not get married by 25,

lol, seriously? Well, everyone is entitled to their beliefs and ideas about humanity, christianity, islam and every other religion under the sky. Let them be.

@Rasby, my view on abortion might be twisted i agree, but i also do not insist that every LIVING WOMAN must have my view. I am way too liberal and open minded to argue that every one thinks like me, @Bashy is like majority of men, they cheat, but to claim that ALL do, is what i have a problem with. choose what you believe in, twisted and annoying as it may be, but please do not insist that every body must believe in it to.

@Rasby, choose to understand what you will if you want, i really do not care. Go through my posts and you will see that i have not judged Bashy in any way, i have infact told him to stand by his views and continue cheating. My argument with @Bashy is his insistence on the fact that ALL men cheat. cheating might be wrong to some and acceptable to others, my point is there is no abosolute in anything, and you can not insist taht EVERY LIVING man cheats. On the issue of abortion, yes i insist, it is my body and i will only keep a baby if i so desire, i can not insist that every woman is so liberal as i am at do so, as i said, i respect pro-lifers, and understand their point, but life does not begin @ conception. can not insist taht EVERY LIVING man cheats. On the issue of abortion, yes i insist, it is my body and i will only keep a baby if i so desire, i can not insist that every woman is so liberal as i am at do so, as i said, i respect pro-lifers, and understand their point, but life does not begin @ conception.

@walterPPK:, your a.s.s hole, your opinion, you are entitled to both. what do you think i mean by secret fantasies? I only mean i find them sexy and hot, how in Gods name am i going to end up cheating with Johnny Depp? You are in denial if you believe your wife/gf of hubby/bf does not find another human being attractive. As long as we have eyes, we will always see new and attractive things, building, clothes and humans included. Self control, discipline and God is what stops you from getting to the point where you violate your body and vows. Stop sounding like a narrow minded person.

Enough with the counting of years. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Do you all want him to marry her out of pity? That is why there are so many failed marriages today. Women dragging men down the aile by their neck ties. What was the fatty doing there for 9yrs? Dating a man for 9yrs? Na primary school una start? How do u manage to get so fat without helping yourself? While i am not happy with @OPs excuse for not wanting her anymore, he does not want her again. Let her go.

If you care to notice, and open your mind just a little bit, you will see that most people arguing with you, are just asking you to not use the ALL word. Still, go ahead since you said you will stand by it. I have not judged you oh, as i said we all have our vice, some cheat, some beat , some steal, we all have a dark side. Just be wise enough to know that not every single living man(rich, poor, or whatever) will cheat. Some just do not, and as hard as it is for you to comprehend, there is nothing strange under the sun.