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immortalcrown:
The same verse 34 contains the word submission. What does submission mean here? Does submission mean a woman should be in charge of the congregation when there is a man in the congregation? And does your explanation of the verse mean that only men are biblically allowed to speak in tongues? How does verse 35 prove me wrong?

We are not quarreling. But you need to prove how I carved out that verse to suit myself. [b]At first, you said my comment is pointless and that I should better keep quiet. [/b]Now, you have said I skipped verse 35 to suit myself. Please, explain the submission in verse 34 and explain verse 35 to justify your claims about me.

immortalcrown:
Different pentecostal churches have different doctrines and most of the pentecostal churches survive on wrong interpretations of the Bible. Therefore, your question is unnecessary and has no answer. If your question is about the Catholic, Catholic doctrines can be followed to answer the question.

Logically, a pastor's wife is not a pastor. She should be respected but any treatment or task that is specifically for pastors should not be given to her. The wife of a medical doctor can have knowledge of the husband's work but it does not make her a medical doctor. The wife of a lawyer is not a lawyer just because she knows most of her husband's legal activities.

Biblically, one may ask what if the pastor's wife is also a pastor. To answer that question, does the Bible permit women to be pastors? (1 Corinthians 14:34) is even a new testament passage. Do you now understand why I said many pentecostal churches survive on biblical deviations? Catholic doctrines does not permit women (Reverend sisters) to lead the church.

Iyaebe:
Please I would love to get a sincere and unbiased response from this question. Please who takes over the academic responsibilities(school fees,pocket money and others) when a lady still schooling decides to get married, is it the husband or the parents are to continue their responsibilities till she graduates?

Iamrespected1:
First is an area tout,if I put her for house me and she fit dy fight everyday
Second is very educated and dull as well,she can't seem to make decisions or even help in making decisions as well
Third can nag for Africa,always saying things I do or say wrong and never willing to help even in the most tiny of things
Fourth mind is very deep,she seem like someone that can hold a grudge even after apologizing and acting like all is cool,she be like person wey fit kill person for sleep
Last na coded olosho,truth is that na she dy satisfy me best in the other room but can she leave her olosho?

funshint:
Now let the soot begin

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it bact to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

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Mille:
On what caused the resentment.

I'm sure you all remembered when MTN network was down until the next day. Well, that day I and my daughter went to bed hungry. It was the first time in my 28 years I have ever gone to bed without eating dinner.

I receive my pay in my dorm account in USD. So I have a BDC guy who I transfer dollar to whenever I need cash. I didn't know MTN will fumble that day because I splurged all my Naira earlier that day. Evening came, MTN was down. I couldn't get across to BDC and it was already too late to go to bank to withdraw. I saw this woman's bank balance that same evening but she lied she didn't have any cash. I didn't challenge her and she chose to allow everyone sleep hungry that night including our baby. Don't even ask about breast milk because the whole night, all I was hearing was her whining that she hasn't eaten and the baby shouldn't disturb her with cries for breastfeeding.

The next morning by 7AM, I was able to get across to my BDC guy and exchanged the cash. That was the first time I have ever confronted her and I lambasted her that morning.

Still it is the same. When I have to pay PHCN bills, she'll rather have us sleep in darkness if my bank has network issues than use her own account.

Now the funny thing is, she will never go out without buying something on her way for me. So I'm a bit confused and resentful.

You're going through this simply because you were blinded by love not to discuss crucial things before you guys settled down.
I have always advised young men and women who want to get married to discuss bills.... NEPA, Waste management, gas, water, house rent, school fees, lesson fee for kids and so on. Bills are very important for married couples. Mr OP, get your wife a business, wait after 6 months for her to settle in the business then you sit her down and discuss bills who should pay what every month. For example: if you give her NEPA bill and she pretends not to have money, don't buy fuel for generator let her pay the bill or use her money to buy fuel.

Mille:
On what caused the resentment.

I'm sure you all remembered when MTN network was down until the next day. Well, that day I and my daughter went to bed hungry. It was the first time in my 28 years I have ever gone to bed without eating dinner.

I receive my pay in my dorm account in USD. So I have a BDC guy who I transfer dollar to whenever I need cash. I didn't know MTN will fumble that day because I splurged all my Naira earlier that day. Evening came, MTN was down. I couldn't get across to BDC and it was already too late to go to bank to withdraw. I saw this woman's bank balance that same evening but she lied she didn't have any cash. I didn't challenge her and she chose to allow everyone sleep hungry that night including our baby. Don't even ask about breast milk because the whole night, all I was hearing was her whining that she hasn't eaten and the baby shouldn't disturb her with cries for breastfeeding.

The next morning by 7AM, I was able to get across to my BDC guy and exchanged the cash. That was the first time I have ever confronted her and I lambasted her that morning.

Still it is the same. When I have to pay PHCN bills, she'll rather have us sleep in darkness if my bank has network issues than use her own account.

Now the funny thing is, she will never go out without buying something on her way for me. So I'm a bit confused and resentful.
You're going through this simply because you were blinded by love not to discuss crucial things before you guys settled down.
I have always advised young men and women who want to get married to discuss bills.... NEPA, Waste management, gas, water, house rent, school fees, lesson fee for kids and so on. Bills are very important for married couples. Mr OP, get your wife a business, wait after 6 months for her to settle in the business then you sit her down and discuss bills who should pay what every month. For example: if you give her NEPA bill and she pretends not to have money, don't buy fuel for generator let her pay the bill or use her money to buy fuel.

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philiancoop:
Why remove it?

Remove food from your life let's see what happens.... You fit live?

Remove tax and natural resources revenue from government let's see what happens... Will police, army and social amenities work?

Remove school fees from schools... School go exist?

Remove pocket money and providing for feeding money from fathers and husbands... Will women marry?

Such a foolish question though

chikabmm:
What kind of action (legal and otherwise) can I take against my step mother who laid curses on me? The worst part is my that my father is not doing anything about it. Obviously he is on her side. I need good advise before I do something bad to that lady.

For the records, I didn’t do anything to this woman. We do not live together and my father hasn’t done anything for me since I was a child.

Mods please help me move to the right section and front page if possible. Thanks.

Aderewah:
For millenia, the mainstay of igbos is trade. They are good at buying at selling. Especially from China and other countries. Buying is not important. Anyone can buy. The important thing here is selling.

Igbos have enjoyed selling to yorubas and northerners for decades. Why? Yorubas are a very well rounded people. They are not into just one thing. Law, music, business, medicine, academia, transport, tech etc etc. This means Yorubas delegate the trading to the igbos, but when biafra comes and igbo lose right to sell to 65 million yoruba buyers, yoruba entrepreneurs will fill those spots igbos will leave open.

For hausas, they are also good with trading. After biafra I'm sure northerners will not even want to see igbos at all as they'll declare full sharia immediately.

What then do we have? 45 million igbos in their land locked region with no customers. They won't buy from each other as much because they have trading mentality. They can sell goods, not good at buying. SW and North will pass strong indigenous laws to shut out non citizens like China.

SW and North will be safe because igbos are not the main consumers of our products in the first place. But igbos will lose 150m customers and if they want to jump the rest of Nigeria, logistics will not be funny.

We can't wait for biafra to come.

zangodangolo:
For years that we got married,it has been fantastic on the bed sleeping together in one bed as husband and wife which any of the parties feel each other sexually, can initiates sex, face and hold each other on bed with good communication.

Years back,there was a misunderstanding that lead to a temporary separation of like five months but we later reunited,though she confessed of having an affair to like two or three men during this separation period giving a reason for her action that she thought we won't come back together again.

Coming back after the separation seems like it affected our sex life for I could remember from then anytime we want to make love, she will be reluctant and uninterested and when we do, she will be complaining and mentioning such words as "this your small boys love making sef". I was shocked the first time she said that and when she repeated it next time, I caution her seriously never to repeat such words, and whether she is comparing me with those men she did something with during the separation. Since then she stopped saying such words.

Again since the coming back together till date, she had never being the first to initiate sex or feels me sexually ,and will always turn face the other side whenever we are sleeping. I am always the one that feels her sexually,begs for sex and initiates sex first with her since several years after the incidence till date and in some cases she turn it down and within me I feel a sense of rejection. I have called her and sat her down severally to address this issue because this is not how it was when we married till the time of temporary separation but to no avail. I have thought severally whether it's a mistake I made accepting that we reunited because I reason the incidence has adversely affected the marriage.

Presently I am thinking is there need sleeping together in one bed since she doesn't show in anyway that she feels me sexually let alone being the one to first initiate sex. Is it not better sleeping in separate room because sleeping with her together makes me get more sexual feelings than if I am alone sleeping in another room. I don't want to be subjected to sidechick even though this kind of act can push one to such. Please advise.

JaneYave:
Smiles. People think I am quiet till they over step their boundary.

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emmanuelewumi:
Too bad you have to liquidate your Retirement Savings Account just to pay for consumption ie rent.

If you don't have personal Investment that is at least twice the fund in your Retirement Savings Account, you are a learner and have not done well for yourself making money, managing money and multiplying money

emmanuelewumi:
Haba, using part of pension to pay for rent? It shows you don't have enough emergency reserve, a minimum of 10% of what you earn is to be invested in income generating and capital appreciating asset throughout your worklife apart from the retirement savings plan of your employer, financially intelligent people have personal retirement plans.

Rubbiish:
Please how does this stanbic pension fund works? How reliable are they? How much do u pay monthly & is there a stipulated amount? Trying to research on it now, but hearing from an experienced mouth won't be a bad idea. Thanks.

emmanuelewumi:
One can't rely on the pension scheme, it is better to have a personal pension plan whose value will be up to 200% of the fund in your Retirement Savings Account

sayle1952:
@Spice123 do you do this after saving a little of your salary? Believe me women can be funny. I am married, we have tried this at some point because the madam kept asking what I am doing with my salary. Forgetting that after I have sent her money for upkeep there are miscellaneous I have to cater for before a new month comes. Meanwhile, the man's money is the family's while the womans money is hers.

Asour:
Tfare & fuel alone?

So you have no personal savings other than Tfare & fuel expenses from your salary?

I would really be surprised if your wife believes this.

Ha!

Gval123:
Baba also learn to remove ur savings oh, very important. In fact, why don't our men have joint account with their wife in Nigeria? You should, so both of u will know how much u earn, from that money, each should have separate savings acct, that will be proportionate to what both of u contribute to the act. that is, if both of u are working. Separate calculate ur household expenses, keep small 4 savings. Nor be big deal oh, just that some women nor know priority, even some men too. e fit go use money buy makeup or ogogoro.