philiancoop:
Why remove it?

Remove food from your life let's see what happens.... You fit live?

Remove tax and natural resources revenue from government let's see what happens... Will police, army and social amenities work?

Remove school fees from schools... School go exist?

Remove pocket money and providing for feeding money from fathers and husbands... Will women marry?

Such a foolish question though

I concur

chikabmm:
What kind of action (legal and otherwise) can I take against my step mother who laid curses on me? The worst part is my that my father is not doing anything about it. Obviously he is on her side. I need good advise before I do something bad to that lady.

For the records, I didn’t do anything to this woman. We do not live together and my father hasn’t done anything for me since I was a child.

Mods please help me move to the right section and front page if possible. Thanks.

Your story is one-sided. Tell us the real truth here.
According to Ephesians 6:2....... Curses work big time. You may not experience it now but it will surely manifest. Whether your father took care of you or not, he is still your father while he lives.

Once again, tell us the whole truth or you go make amends with your father and your step mum

Aderewah:
For millenia, the mainstay of igbos is trade. They are good at buying at selling. Especially from China and other countries. Buying is not important. Anyone can buy. The important thing here is selling.

Igbos have enjoyed selling to yorubas and northerners for decades. Why? Yorubas are a very well rounded people. They are not into just one thing. Law, music, business, medicine, academia, transport, tech etc etc. This means Yorubas delegate the trading to the igbos, but when biafra comes and igbo lose right to sell to 65 million yoruba buyers, yoruba entrepreneurs will fill those spots igbos will leave open.

For hausas, they are also good with trading. After biafra I'm sure northerners will not even want to see igbos at all as they'll declare full sharia immediately.

What then do we have? 45 million igbos in their land locked region with no customers. They won't buy from each other as much because they have trading mentality. They can sell goods, not good at buying. SW and North will pass strong indigenous laws to shut out non citizens like China.

SW and North will be safe because igbos are not the main consumers of our products in the first place. But igbos will lose 150m customers and if they want to jump the rest of Nigeria, logistics will not be funny.

We can't wait for biafra to come.

Well-done op for the shallow minded review. Thank you for applauding the Igbos for selling rather than buying. Have you forgotten that what is actually ruling the world now is Service (selling a product). Take a look at what happened with MTN holding millions of subscribers at ransom or lest I forget Mark Zukerberg who held billions of users communication hostage. Op you also forget that an average Igbo man is not afraid of adventure. Tell me how many Yorubas are in the East living and trading or even in the north living and trading?
What happened in Singapore will happen in Biafra.

zangodangolo:
For years that we got married,it has been fantastic on the bed sleeping together in one bed as husband and wife which any of the parties feel each other sexually, can initiates sex, face and hold each other on bed with good communication.

Years back,there was a misunderstanding that lead to a temporary separation of like five months but we later reunited,though she confessed of having an affair to like two or three men during this separation period giving a reason for her action that she thought we won't come back together again.

Coming back after the separation seems like it affected our sex life for I could remember from then anytime we want to make love, she will be reluctant and uninterested and when we do, she will be complaining and mentioning such words as "this your small boys love making sef". I was shocked the first time she said that and when she repeated it next time, I caution her seriously never to repeat such words, and whether she is comparing me with those men she did something with during the separation. Since then she stopped saying such words.

Again since the coming back together till date, she had never being the first to initiate sex or feels me sexually ,and will always turn face the other side whenever we are sleeping. I am always the one that feels her sexually,begs for sex and initiates sex first with her since several years after the incidence till date and in some cases she turn it down and within me I feel a sense of rejection. I have called her and sat her down severally to address this issue because this is not how it was when we married till the time of temporary separation but to no avail. I have thought severally whether it's a mistake I made accepting that we reunited because I reason the incidence has adversely affected the marriage.

Presently I am thinking is there need sleeping together in one bed since she doesn't show in anyway that she feels me sexually let alone being the one to first initiate sex. Is it not better sleeping in separate room because sleeping with her together makes me get more sexual feelings than if I am alone sleeping in another room. I don't want to be subjected to sidechick even though this kind of act can push one to such. Please advise.

Both of you need to see a sex therapist but aside that, men and women are wired differently emotionally. A man can sleep with many women and still get back to his wife but it's different from a woman. A woman is moived more on what she hears and how she's been handled emotionally. All I see here is attitude. Oga, how has your attitude been since you reunited with your wife? Have you had the time to take her on a vacation? You need to show her your new you leave sex for some time. Cook for her. Do things you normally don't do to revive the love. Your wife just came home to see your old self. How does that ignite sexual feelings if you are in her shoes?

JaneYave:
Smiles. People think I am quiet till they over step their boundary.

Same with me.

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emmanuelewumi:



Too bad you have to liquidate your Retirement Savings Account just to pay for consumption ie rent.

If you don't have personal Investment that is at least twice the fund in your Retirement Savings Account, you are a learner and have not done well for yourself making money, managing money and multiplying money

People sell their house or land to either pay a debt or for education or even travel oversees. The main reason for investment is to solve problem without borrowing. I don't need to argue with you because its obvious you have no responsibility

emmanuelewumi:




Haba, using part of pension to pay for rent? It shows you don't have enough emergency reserve, a minimum of 10% of what you earn is to be invested in income generating and capital appreciating asset throughout your worklife apart from the retirement savings plan of your employer, financially intelligent people have personal retirement plans.

You think a pension contribution of more than 7 years with interests is not a good investment? Something that will take care of your old age after retirement? hahahaha. I should be the one to lecture you on investment my brother.

Rubbiish:

Please how does this stanbic pension fund works? How reliable are they? How much do u pay monthly & is there a stipulated amount? Trying to research on it now, but hearing from an experienced mouth won't be a bad idea. Thanks.

My employer remit my pension to them. Stanbic IBTC is from South Africa and I can say that they are reliable. I have experienced them first hand.

emmanuelewumi:


One can't rely on the pension scheme, it is better to have a personal pension plan whose value will be up to 200% of the fund in your Retirement Savings Account

Part of my pension helped renew my rent when I lost my job during the pandemic. 25% of my total pension was handed to me. I use IBTC pension fund. You can make your research.

sayle1952:
@Spice123 do you do this after saving a little of your salary? Believe me women can be funny. I am married, we have tried this at some point because the madam kept asking what I am doing with my salary. Forgetting that after I have sent her money for upkeep there are miscellaneous I have to cater for before a new month comes. Meanwhile, the man's money is the family's while the womans money is hers.

I can't remember the last time my wife questioned what I use my salary for. This was why I introduced this system. My fellow married man, ensure your wife has a business or has a 9-5 job for this to work. If she's a house wife, believe me it won't work. You also need a side hustle to Carter for yourself no matter how small. The business may not be regular but at least when it comes, it takes care of your basic need like clothing.

Asour:


Tfare & fuel alone?

So you have no personal savings other than Tfare & fuel expenses from your salary?

I would really be surprised if your wife believes this.

Ha!

I am into IT and I have a side hustle. You think I'm dumb right? Lolssss

Gval123:
Baba also learn to remove ur savings oh, very important. In fact, why don't our men have joint account with their wife in Nigeria? You should, so both of u will know how much u earn, from that money, each should have separate savings acct, that will be proportionate to what both of u contribute to the act. that is, if both of u are working. Separate calculate ur household expenses, keep small 4 savings. Nor be big deal oh, just that some women nor know priority, even some men too. e fit go use money buy makeup or ogogoro.

Your last sentence says it all. If your wife mismanges the money for Brazilian wig or bone straight, she will watch the kids stay at home without going to school. No woman wants that right? Or watch the kids go hungry and they cry to her for food? If she goes borrowing, that is on her. At the end, she will calm down.

placeofallure:


Many men won't like this your advice. My husband does same for me. He's not a 9-5 person. He's his own boss but I manage his finances. He's never had complains or anything cause he knows I'm a better manager. I get everything for him and for the house even up to shaving stick and boxers, foodstuff, DSTV and all. If anything, he's grateful I have taken the burden of deciding which one to do or forgo off him. We only communicate that's all. Sometimes, I add my own money to do stuff, nobody hears about it. I am happy to do it because I know he doesn't hold back. It's been like this even before we got married.

On the flip side, you can only do this with a woman who is not given to frivolity. A serious minded woman, who is purpose driven and have the overall interest of her man and home at heart. Not your everyday wig and eye shadow women if not OYO is your case.

You are 100% on point. All the mentions I have here are all tackles about my comment. This is simply reverse psychology.

Ficient:


If you give her the rest of your income, what will be left for projects, savings and others?

I replied one of the mentions so you will see the response to that. Thank you.

FreeConCiencE:


Chai! See what men are becoming! So, to have peace now, I must handover my salary to my wife to manage, after removing transport fare. This is a tragedy.

You're getting me wrong bro. If you read deep meaning in what I wrote, you'll understand better. I am not saying I don't have peace in my home. No! I want my wife to be empowered, manage the home properly now that I am alive and it's working out very fine. This is the reason when most men die, their wives will be left stranded, for in-laws to deal with them. Worse case they start sleeping with men outside to feed them and kids. If I tell you that since I started this, my wife has added 4 things in her business to expand it. Business ideas are coming in. She uses part of money given to her to run and expand her business and the profit she uses for feeding and kids fees. Many will not understand this and I won't blame them. Build your home the way you want it to be.

DavidEsq:

Does this mean she gets to takes care of the rent from the money u give her? So she gets to deliver at the end?

Exactly. She removes the monthly rent and she's into daily contribution as a business woman. She know how she does that.

UncleKoboko:

Give all money to your wife?
U no get ambition to build your own house and other projects?

I pity you.
Money she can start using to take care of her boyfriends...

Just as I answered one mention, I am into IT and I have a side hustle. What I owe my family is my salary which is okay. In the first 4 months when I started it, yes it was tough. Money was mismanaged without proper planning. My wife also runs her business. It's not everything that I need to expose online.

emmanuelewumi:



So what percentage of the household income do you invest for the long term to take care of your retirement, how long can the family emergency reserves take care of household expenses when the unexpected happens

I am into IT and I have side hustles. My salary belong to my family while my side hustles take care of the rest. Lest I forget, I have a pension scheme. It's not everything I will expose on-line.

valentinos22:


I can relate!
It is "over sense" that actually destroys the whole thing.
"I was out of job for 6months too and i didnt know " because we have been in the practice of "our pause" since day one..we had(still have) a bag we simply throw money into and we never bother to count. Now wifey is out of job and she doesnt know too, i only remembered when i saw this post.

So the case OP cited is yet cryptic to me!

You and your wife did a fantastic job. Kudos to you! Many couple don't know this.

DontBullshitMe:

Sorry to type this. But your friend is not a very bright person and I will assume you belong to that categorization for following that stupid advice.

Once again. Sorry to type.

Do you know the implication of what you highlighted? Most women do not know how to manage money. From what the op said, it simply meant that his wife
1. Is not the giving type.
2. Does not know how to manage money.
3. Does not appreciate a man's effort.
I wouldn't take offense on what you typed because you're beneath me interlectually and maritally.

reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I.made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride
I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.
My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come will every meal?
How do unemployed/ underemployed men cope?
What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home?

My brother, I was out of job for like 6 months and wife took care of all the bills excluding rent and school fees and nobody noticed or knew I was out of job. No negative attitude showed up and I will tell you why. A close friend gave me this advice and I will share same with you. When you get your salary or business profit, remove your t-fare/car fuel and give the rest to your wife to manage the home. I was very hard for me to do but t I summoned courage and since 3+ years I started it, I have complete peace. Infact, my wife was praising me on how I was able to pay all bills and manage funds. By the time your wife will mismange the home funds (feeding, rent, kids sch fees e.t.c) she will wake up and realize that paying for gas in the home is the least issue. You will have utmost respect bro. I have been married for 7 years now.

I am no private investigator but from the transaction output, it seems the POS company is this.

Romanoff:
Because the husband has refused to take his place as the spiritual head of the home.

The man is responsible for the family altar and the spiritual growth of everyone in his family. Many men leave this duty for their wives who end up looking up to pastors.

Na wetin dey cause am.

You're so on point. Most married men have failed as husbands and even fathers. I learnt and corrected mine from my father.

Davash222:
Any day my wife mistakenly call her Pastor Daddy, she's going to her father's house that day.

If you don't want your wife to call her Pastor daddy, then you need to start acting like one. Charity begins at home. A woman can be submissive to you but does not respect you deep down. Do you pray together with your wife? Do you attend same Church? If the answers are NO, I rest my case.

Op just give your wife your car and find your way to work. For your wife to stop following the colleague for a while, it means she hopped public transport to work. Do you think it is easy for a woman to hustle vehicle? She will take care of the kids in the morning and also in the evening while you do "The Boss". Give that woman your vehicle and find your way to work if you truely love her.

As for me, I have Bravo variant. Since COVID is dealing with codes.... Alpha, Delta, Bravo.... Over.

Immediately I heard her say she studied "Theology", I hissed. Little wonder white collar job no dey there except you open your own ministry. I always tell people, if you go to school, please study a good course.

zickyclef:
In other words Taliban will open new headquarter in uganda.

Exactly my thought.

samsam2019:
Abeg ooo, I don't know where to post this and this why you're seeing if here.


Please when a tenant refuses to leave what can be done to eject such tenant? Rent has expired and has refused to leave

You have not told us everything here.
Was there an agreement between you and the tenant duly signed?
Have you been issuing the tenant receipt of rent paid?
Is it a yearly rent or 6 months rent?
If the firsr two questions above are NO, calling a lawyer is a waste of time because you have defaultered full time.

SlayerForever:
Simply drop one name naaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I an sure the op is an Afonja that gives 12 names or more. At the end what a child will be he/she will be.