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Softmirror:
DID TINUBU GET UP TO 25%. HOW DO YOU DEFINE THIS LOSS?

Very simple....
He built Lagos since 1999 - 2006 left it as an abandoned project but Obi came and fenced it, roofed it, locked the gate and went away with the keys.....

Grace is just following Peter Obi everywhere. Who sabi Edeoga? Anyway, he will surely win.

Tit4Tat1:
Which kind mumu advise be this naa..
This is the most foolish advice I've ever come across on nl abi u think say na nollywood movie?

It is obvious you have nothing to offer. You're only here to rant and insult people that are higher than you.

Norah199:
Good morning guys. I need some matured minds and married men and women in the house to look into this matter and give me an ideal way to go about this. Would be a long read pls bear with me.

So late late 2021, I got married to my long time girlfriend. Before the marriage, my mom had a little reservation about the girl and her family for some odd reasons due to her tribe. She’s Igbo. Everything was funny because the first day I introduced my wife to my mom. She liked her and everything was cool. They where going on well until my mom started telling me she’s having some dreams about the girl and her family. She’s white garment member. I think her dislike started growing when she told my wife about her church and she said she can’t go to her church for any reason. I was a former member of the church when I was a teenager but with time as I grew I stopped going to the church not because it’s a bad church or something wrong with it. I just don’t fancy going there and also not a church type of person. My mom believe it was the girl that made me stopped going to the church which was funny. She has said that several times.

For the record, I’m an only child of my mother, my dad is late and she’s yet to marry again. I do everything for her like her rent, monthly upkeep, and also got her a good car. Initially I thought she was doing all these because she felt she hasn’t enjoyed me yet and another woman is coming into the picture which is normal for most parents. So I did everything I could to make her comfortable before my wedding.

We did the wedding and everything went on smoothly aprt from some normal family disputes and all but the wedding was successful. Deep down I know my mom still doesn’t like my girl because of her statement s most times but I don’t always give her that room so she’s always quiet and rather not talk what’s on her mind.
Later on, my mom started complaining of the money I give to her. She seems not to be ok with it. Trust me guys. I do more than enough for my mom. I just tried my best to handle everything well and sometimes allow her have her ways with her demands so she doesn’t see my wife as a stumbling block to her.

To cut the long story short, my wife took in and was due for delivery and her mother came like a month before the delivery. Actually my wife had a false labour that made us rush to the hospital and doctor said she has very high maleria and was in serious labor. I called the mother immediately and she started coming the next morning because she lives in the East. The doctor gave her some injections and drugs for the maleria and the labor stopped. Doctor told us it wasn’t the right time for the baby to come out because it was 8 months.
The next morning when she was strong, we went back home with the mother that was already in town.

The mother decided to stay till the delivery instead of going back and coming again when she delivers which I supported.
Two weeks the doctor gave us turned to 1 month and labor didn’t still come. All these while I never knew my mom was so bitter that my mother inlaw was in my house for that long. She once asked me why the woman didn’t go and come back. It was that bad. To make matters worse, I lost my child after a CS was done on my wife. It appeared the baby was in distress which the doctors failed to notice and came out with birth asphyxia. After about two weeks, she died. I opened a thread on that.

Problem started after I buried my child. Everyone was in sorrow and so much pains especially my wife. A day after the burial my mother called my mother inlaw and asked her why she hasn’t gone yet. Started accusing the woman of killing the child and all manners of things. How she had turned her husband to vegetable and now she wants to teach her daughter how to turn her son into vegetable too. It was really bad. They both insulted each other and quarreled seriously on the phone just a day after the lost of my child. She also called my wife and told her “shebi she doesn’t want children” my wife was quiet and didn’t utter a word.

I was in so much pain and so pissed at my mom for everything she did and didn’t even speak to her for like a month even though I still sent her upkeep money. I reported her to her uncle and a few respected people. I don’t know if they talked to her but nothing was done. No body called for any meeting even her own pastor that I reported to. Instead he told me it’s woman talk. That they both insulted each other and the rest..

After that incident till date. My wife, mother, and mother inlaw haven’t spoken to each other even though I have had more peace since then but the fact still remains my mom and wife are not in good terms. I have long forgiven and moved on with my mom even though that closeness is not there but I don’t fail to send her money for upkeep every month. My wife is cool with it and said she doesn’t want that closeness with my mom even though she has forgiven her too.

My mom and I talks once in a while and never for once has she asked about my wife since that incident and my wife hasn’t called either which I don’t blame her. The last time I visited my mom. She said some ill things about my wife and her family and even told me my wife is not my rightful wife and some other things. I usually don’t listen to her talks because I know how religion has turned so many people into something else.

The question right now guys. What do I do in this situation. The truth is nothing can change my moms mind about my wife and her family. But still as a husband, I still feel somehow knowing my wife and mom are not in good terms. My mother inlaw the last time told me she wants to make peace with my mom that they can’t keep fighting forever especially because of her daughter. But deep down I know the thought my mom have about them. So I just told her it’s not the right time and with time everything will be fine. I can’t force my wife to call my mom because she didn’t do no wrong. At the same time my mom won’t even listen to me for any peace making. There are more things to say but I will end here. Sorry for the long write up.
Your opinions would be deeply appreciated.
Thank you 🙏

Firstly, you're blessed amongst women. I congratulate you on that.

Now to the issue at hand...

You see marriage ehh, just thank God that your own Ziggy zaga stared early with this, you will know the true character of your mum, wife and mother-in-law. All you need to do right now is to take your time to study these women in your life. Give it a space of 3 months. You will be the one who will reconcile all of these at the end but live your life freely.

Secondly: after the 3 months or even more, tell your wife you need to visit your mum with her that it concerns you and it is very critical (you know how you will persued her). Then take a knife along with you (act itooo) when you get to your mum's place with your wife, bring out the knife and tell them that if they don't reconcile now in your presence, you will kill yourself. Your mum will have no son and grandchild and your wife no husband.

Period.

AbdulMagaji:
@Op

You are a big fat liar!

949 resumes?

I thought as much too. Where most companies and HRs use ATS (Applicant Tracking System) to sort out resumes with key skills. The OP is still in 20th century.

[quote author=IyaTola post=120358381][/quote]You forgot the part that most companies now use ATS (Applicant Tracking System) to sort resumes. Forgive me but if you still use the manual method to check resumes, it will wear you out soon.

gozmok1:
PETER OBI always talks about Economy, Education, Infrastructure, etc..cool

While dis Clownish Tinubu is always about Obasanjo, Atiku, Peter Obi, etc..and will NOT tell us how he intends of Clear the Damages done by his USELESS party, APC.

Honestly, Between Tinubu and his Supporters, I Nor know who Yeye Pass.

Example MissTemi1

MissTemi1:
Plz keep shut. Your women stay even in very bad marriages because they are sold off!! Ur women are like goods and commodities in marriage. Imagine a man complained he was given bride price of 2 million naira cash, 2 generators, 25 tyres etc. Go to Joel’s blog and see how men are complaining of ur useless tradition. All na fake o. The stupid tribe that don’t allow a female inherit Anytin from her father or her husband. A tribe that maltreats their widows. A tribe that sells their daughters to the highest bidder. Plz say somtin else, Una don cast. Na your ladies Dey do ashewo pass. We Yoruba guys will Bleep dem tire den pass dem to you to pay bride price tru ur nose. We re not complaining as long as we Bleep hell out of them

All you've been saying here is bleep bleep bleep so I can attest why your women are always in control of your men. I can also attest why you don't have a future since all your hard work (that is if you even do) all end up with sleeping with women. I've known that you're not intelligent, replicating your polygamous home where you came from.

ojotobiloba1:
50k Last October

Congratulations! Don't get me wrong but there are women and there are women.

EmiDon11:
I am planning to marry from owerri but friends told me to run, that thier bride price is high...

Why are some bride price higher than others?

Are they not thesame humans?

And how much is bride price in ur area?


Nlfpmod

They are not the same humans. It is called VALUE. Let me give you a simple explanation. You are a graphic designer in company A with 3 years experience receiving 100k and another graphic designer with same experience in company B receiving 200k. The question you will ask is: is it not the same graphic software? Now you understand what value bring to the table.

It is best you go on Tuesday and tell them your work terms.
Please I beg you OP, after the discussion let them put it in writing on your offer letter including the salary before you begin that job. Employers can do anything to get you on the job. Please thread with sense. If they do not agree with your terms, just leave the job. Job security matter a lot. It's not all about the money. I am speaking from experience.

Mathiasa:
I salute everyone in the house.
I have this issue with my wife with regards sex while fasting, I'm a Catholic while my wife attends redeem, we have our understanding with regards church so that's not an issue. We go to my church more often but atend her's sometimes. But I don't have issue with her taking part in their program. We got married last year.
The problem now is that redeem are having I think 51 days of fasting and she is partaking in it and now asking me not to have sex until after the fasting. I told her that after their own fasting, we the Catholic are starting ours for 40days.
I asked her does that mean no sex for almost 3 months?
I have told her my mind, it's either we make love after she's done fasting everyday or she doesn't fast at all. I don't want to go and look outside when I have a wife I love at home.
Pls my people in the house any advice?

1 Cor 7:5
Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting - but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it.

Tell your wife that she should behave herself. Ignorance is not good. When she ends the fast each day, what will she be doing? Or is her fast 24 hours every day? Show her this scripture and until both of you AGREE to abstain, she should do her duties.

[quote author=Rubyjade post=120241442][/quote]It all depends on the following:
1 Career path. I don't know what you studied and also the position involved.

2. Benefits. Most companies don't give 13th month, HMO, Life insurance or even pension. So if I am to advice you, choose the one that have better benefit. Any company that have good benefit is well structured and there is assured career path.

3. Connections or network of professionals. You can research more on the companies to know their review or impact in the society. Glassdoor or any other site can help you find out the working condition of employees past or present.
Congratulations on your new job!

dannyimo:
We don't make love at night as new married couple with the excuse that she is tired but I will always see her having sex and smiling while she is sleeping or anytime she sleeps. I will make every effort to have it with her but she won't let me. Next thing, I will find her having it in her dream with her legs wide open and punny wet

Please I need your advice on this.

And how do you know she's having it in her dream? Funny man. Sit her down and talk to her about your feelings. I always tell young couples that in marriage, communication is very important. You see all those pretence during courtship ehh, marriage will open your eyes. Both of you should be doing things together more ......
Going out more
Praying together more
Watching movies together
Visiting friends together.
There are lots of things to spice your young marriage. S*X is not everything.

pimplucious:
I am looking at investing in hospitality business but I’m not sure if 60Million naira will be adequate to erect a 20 room hotel and event hall with a capacity of about 500 people max.

Cause of the paucity of funds, I’m looking to make it a single story building such that hotel will be on the ground floor while the top floor will hold the event hall.

Engineers in the house do you think this amount will be enough to achieve this? Pls let’s have your expert opinion on this. Thanks in advance.

Yes, it can but it all depends in the city, location, and people involved in the project.

brandsoncharlie:
Your wife won't tell you, inner most discussion she's having with that guy whether they're both married.
A married man, a friend of mine with same scenario with yours, told me the woman regret marrying her current husband, that she never had feelings for the guy.
Back then my friend was broke, she left him because shi shi he no get, now the guy is even a known contractor that's currently doing well for himself than her current husband.
Try to get around with real men you will know sup not all these small boys with old age that no nothing just like you.

I don't need to check innermost conversations. Weak, insecure, broke and low self esteem men like you and the OP do that. You're the only one who I responded to "mentions". Normally I don't bring myself to your level.

tollyboy5:
I just saw a thread where a man is seeking advice from nairalanders and I see some bittered guys trying to destroy someone's marriage.

https://www.nairaland.com/7515822/suspect-wife

There is no crime in sharing piece of advice but because a lady acknowledge she miss an old school mate doesn't prove she's promiscuous.

Infact the mentality majority people have concerning marriage really shows why many ladies and guys end up as sadist after getting married or after divorce.

Some one gave an instance using his wife as a good example, some people who don't even have healthy relationship are critizing another person as a "simp" just imagine

Funny enough, I'm a marriage counsellor. This is a faceless forum so I was just enjoying the rant. I saved my wife's ex boyfriend's marriage from crashing and we're getting a treat for that. You know what it is to face divorce in the U.S?

tollyboy5:
This is one of the best advice sofar from the first page comments in that thread

You're the only smart and mature person in this thread so far. Many men these days (married) are unintelligent. Marriage is all about openness. No secrecy. The day you start finding out things that normally should be open to all, then prepare for calamity or divorce. The OP will soon get high blood pressure if care is not taken.

[quote author=spice123 post=119847718]My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.

When I wrote the bolded, I was expecting the mentions. A lot of men here have low IQ. They don't understand reverse psychology.

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

False weights and unequal measures— the LORD detests double standards of every kind.
Proverbs 20:10

This is pure evil.

Djbond:
I'll summarize this as possible.

No one is perfect, yes I hit her cuz I was suspicious of her cheating. I bought her an Android phone and she started chatting with guys on FB and WhatsApp, talking about location on how to meet. I'm not always around though, I come home once in 2 days and I provide everything enough for she and our 3 daughters need to sustain on a daily. She doesn't work, our first daughter is 4, and our twins girls are 2 years old. So I believe she doesn't need to stress herself but just to take care of the kids.

Fast forward, she left a day after I beat her (I know it's not right but I couldn't hold the anger anymore) and i already apologized afterwards not knowing she had in mind to leave. I came home and couldn't find her and the kids, I called and started begging, my landlady, my friends, all our neighbors in the street called and begged her, she just kept lying that she will come back today, come back tomorrow but we never see her. I cried and cried, almost killed myself, didn't eat for days, just drinking and smoking, got admitted to the hospital, my neighbor called my wife that I'm in the hospital, she didn't care, never came to check on me.

I called her few days after I got discharged that I miss her and asked her why she didn't come to check on me at the hospital. She only gave an excuse that she has started some pos work in their street. She lives in her father's house now with her stepmom. Her junior brothers are the ones taking care of the children. Her junior sister told me all the dirty things she has been doing since she has got back to their house, like going to sleep in a guy's house overnight when her dad is on night shift. I called her dad to explain, but didn't give me the chance to explain. I called her last week Saturday to come see me, and i collected the phone she's using to do runs up and down from her. Now she uses her sister's phone to do those things now.

She called me with her sister's phone on Monday that i should move on when she discovered that I already know all the things she's doing. I have a problem moving on, I always think about her and my children.
I don't have appetite to eat even as I type this, I'm drinking royal circle. I hope this won't lead to my demise as I'm killing myself slowly. I love her. Why are women like this?

Pls nairalanders don't judge me or abuse me for hitting her. No one is perfect and there's no man that will take it if he sees his woman with another man

NB: I regretted hitting her and already apologiized and prayed to God for forgiveness

Instead of you to man up and visit your wife's family you're here feeling proud. I don't know your tribe but if it's in Igbo culture, getting your wife let alone your girls back you will spend real money plus the stress involved.
If you go to court for custody, that's even the worse of it all. Remember it's going to be a customary court. Your wife will bring human rights on you and then you're finished.
Once again, man up and visit your wife's family and apologize. If you claim to provide enough for your wife she won't be looking outside.
Proud Op, I hate nonsense.

So I believe she doesn't need to stress herself but just to take care of the kids.
From the bolded, I can sense that you're a proud man. You think taking care of 3 children is easy? Take a day off from work be with just the girls the whole day. Bath them, cook and feed them, wash their clothes, watch them play and cry around the whole day.

I need your opinions or input on the photo. How can I add accreditations on a post like the photo. Social Media managers please help.

Thanks.

oikirodah:
Source iReporteronline.
https://ireporteronline.com.ng/blog/odogwu-kashim-shettima-tears-the-internet-with-latest-south-east-attire-photos/

Point of correction Op, south east DO NOT WEAR AGBADA.

This is the clothing we wear.

Righteousness2:
Your Friend has been Fornicating for 8yrs and has 2 kids. His brother wants to deliver him from the Bondage of Fornication. Yet your Friend is forming big boy.
Tell your Friend to repair the altar of his life. Tell your Friend to humble himself and do the right thing which is to go marry that lady legally.
Op , If you are the Friend, humble yourself and repair your altar.

I am solidly behind you. Op please tell your friend to do the needful. Marriage comes with blessings of open doors. It is a spiritual thing.

ItIsWellAmen:
The thing about me I don't know how to say no (to pu**y) especially when I know I have that thing (d**k) and someone is really in need of it ..

Yes I need who to teach me G bro . You have update for me

Continue.....

ismhab:
This is the best advice, but don't you think for the husband to be, to move to Abuja na one wahala? because living in Abuja no be easy, life very expensive, from shelter, food, utilities e.t.c

Lagos is also expensive. It all depends on the location. Same applies to Abuja.
Not taking a risk is a risk on its own.

Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.