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placeofallure:
Many men won't like this your advice. My husband does same for me. He's not a 9-5 person. He's his own boss but I manage his finances. He's never had complains or anything cause he knows I'm a better manager. I get everything for him and for the house even up to shaving stick and boxers, foodstuff, DSTV and all. If anything, he's grateful I have taken the burden of deciding which one to do or forgo off him. We only communicate that's all. Sometimes, I add my own money to do stuff, nobody hears about it. I am happy to do it because I know he doesn't hold back. It's been like this even before we got married.

On the flip side, you can only do this with a woman who is not given to frivolity. A serious minded woman, who is purpose driven and have the overall interest of her man and home at heart. Not your everyday wig and eye shadow women if not OYO is your case.

You are 100% on point. All the mentions I have here are all tackles about my comment. This is simply reverse psychology.

Ficient:
If you give her the rest of your income, what will be left for projects, savings and others?

I replied one of the mentions so you will see the response to that. Thank you.

FreeConCiencE:
Chai! See what men are becoming! So, to have peace now, I must handover my salary to my wife to manage, after removing transport fare. This is a tragedy.

You're getting me wrong bro. If you read deep meaning in what I wrote, you'll understand better. I am not saying I don't have peace in my home. No! I want my wife to be empowered, manage the home properly now that I am alive and it's working out very fine. This is the reason when most men die, their wives will be left stranded, for in-laws to deal with them. Worse case they start sleeping with men outside to feed them and kids. If I tell you that since I started this, my wife has added 4 things in her business to expand it. Business ideas are coming in. She uses part of money given to her to run and expand her business and the profit she uses for feeding and kids fees. Many will not understand this and I won't blame them. Build your home the way you want it to be.

DavidEsq:
Does this mean she gets to takes care of the rent from the money u give her? So she gets to deliver at the end?

Exactly. She removes the monthly rent and she's into daily contribution as a business woman. She know how she does that.

UncleKoboko:
Give all money to your wife?
U no get ambition to build your own house and other projects?

I pity you.
Money she can start using to take care of her boyfriends...

Just as I answered one mention, I am into IT and I have a side hustle. What I owe my family is my salary which is okay. In the first 4 months when I started it, yes it was tough. Money was mismanaged without proper planning. My wife also runs her business. It's not everything that I need to expose online.

emmanuelewumi:
So what percentage of the household income do you invest for the long term to take care of your retirement, how long can the family emergency reserves take care of household expenses when the unexpected happens

I am into IT and I have side hustles. My salary belong to my family while my side hustles take care of the rest. Lest I forget, I have a pension scheme. It's not everything I will expose on-line.

valentinos22:
I can relate!
It is "over sense" that actually destroys the whole thing.
"I was out of job for 6months too and i didnt know " because we have been in the practice of "our pause" since day one..we had(still have) a bag we simply throw money into and we never bother to count. Now wifey is out of job and she doesnt know too, i only remembered when i saw this post.

So the case OP cited is yet cryptic to me!

You and your wife did a fantastic job. Kudos to you! Many couple don't know this.

DontBullshitMe:
Sorry to type this. But your friend is not a very bright person and I will assume you belong to that categorization for following that stupid advice.

Once again. Sorry to type.

Do you know the implication of what you highlighted? Most women do not know how to manage money. From what the op said, it simply meant that his wife
1. Is not the giving type.
2. Does not know how to manage money.
3. Does not appreciate a man's effort.
I wouldn't take offense on what you typed because you're beneath me interlectually and maritally.

reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I.made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride
I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.
My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come will every meal?
How do unemployed/ underemployed men cope?
What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home?

My brother, I was out of job for like 6 months and wife took care of all the bills excluding rent and school fees and nobody noticed or knew I was out of job. No negative attitude showed up and I will tell you why. A close friend gave me this advice and I will share same with you. When you get your salary or business profit, remove your t-fare/car fuel and give the rest to your wife to manage the home. I was very hard for me to do but t I summoned courage and since 3+ years I started it, I have complete peace. Infact, my wife was praising me on how I was able to pay all bills and manage funds. By the time your wife will mismange the home funds (feeding, rent, kids sch fees e.t.c) she will wake up and realize that paying for gas in the home is the least issue. You will have utmost respect bro. I have been married for 7 years now.

I am no private investigator but from the transaction output, it seems the POS company is this.

Romanoff:
Because the husband has refused to take his place as the spiritual head of the home.

The man is responsible for the family altar and the spiritual growth of everyone in his family. Many men leave this duty for their wives who end up looking up to pastors.

Na wetin dey cause am.

You're so on point. Most married men have failed as husbands and even fathers. I learnt and corrected mine from my father.

Davash222:
Any day my wife mistakenly call her Pastor Daddy, she's going to her father's house that day.

If you don't want your wife to call her Pastor daddy, then you need to start acting like one. Charity begins at home. A woman can be submissive to you but does not respect you deep down. Do you pray together with your wife? Do you attend same Church? If the answers are NO, I rest my case.

Op just give your wife your car and find your way to work. For your wife to stop following the colleague for a while, it means she hopped public transport to work. Do you think it is easy for a woman to hustle vehicle? She will take care of the kids in the morning and also in the evening while you do "The Boss". Give that woman your vehicle and find your way to work if you truely love her.

As for me, I have Bravo variant. Since COVID is dealing with codes.... Alpha, Delta, Bravo.... Over.

Immediately I heard her say she studied "Theology", I hissed. Little wonder white collar job no dey there except you open your own ministry. I always tell people, if you go to school, please study a good course.

zickyclef:
In other words Taliban will open new headquarter in uganda.

Exactly my thought.

samsam2019:
Abeg ooo, I don't know where to post this and this why you're seeing if here.


Please when a tenant refuses to leave what can be done to eject such tenant? Rent has expired and has refused to leave

You have not told us everything here.
Was there an agreement between you and the tenant duly signed?
Have you been issuing the tenant receipt of rent paid?
Is it a yearly rent or 6 months rent?
If the firsr two questions above are NO, calling a lawyer is a waste of time because you have defaultered full time.

SlayerForever:
Simply drop one name naaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I an sure the op is an Afonja that gives 12 names or more. At the end what a child will be he/she will be.

daneni1:
Truth be told, I grew up watching my parents spending time together, anytime both of them are at home, they spend the time together gisting about a lots of things, at times I even chip in a word or two when I have knowledge of the topic of discourse. Till this day, that attitude of my parent had followed me to adulthood, I always look out for a lady I can share my time with. Quality time have become my love language. If the woman I am into won't share her time with me, that's the end of that relationship as I don't joke with it.

What am I trying to say, the thing is, most times, the way our parents behave toward each other shaped our own relationship lives with our other half.

You were brought up WELL.
Period!!!
Many parents have lost it and it is seriously affecting a lot of adults.

dreu2fine:
Dnt worry ur kids will kiss each oda reply and u will clap for dem

Let me shock you that even my sisters (some of them married) I peck them when I visit them right in front of their hubbies and children. If you're not brought up well, you're not brought up well.

yommen:
What if kids try it? Present day children catch all these things faster than we did.

Not educating children is the problem here. You would be surprised that my 6 year and 3 year old kids have been educated about their sexuality, knowing how to protect themselves and report any I sensitive touch by a stranger. Parenting is a huge task which unfortunately many parents have missed out.

100% right for me. I show affection to my wife in front of my kids. I educate them on why. They know that daddy and mummy love each other. We tell our kids everyday that we love them. After praying in the morning or evening my kids say "daddy good morning, we love you. "Mummy good morning, we love you". That has been our ri g tone since 7 years. I am not boasting here but training a child/children in the right way matters. When they start getting to teen age, it won't be difficult both as parents to control your children. They already know which is right and wrong.

Restructuring:
so we should vote in criminals like tinubu

If Tinubu is voted, I can assure you that there will be toll gates in all states in the federation. What has been done in Lagos will be multiplied.

etrange:
My Chinese teacher said his country naturally doesn't do well in any sports that involves locomotion. He didn't say why but I think it has to do with height. They are mostly short and that's a major setback in most sports as height could affect other factors like speed, leaping ability, etc.. Table tennis, on the other hand, is a game of tactics and they have that in abundance.

Tell that your Chinese teacher that he is EFULEFU and dumb.

passyciao:
Am a novicewhen it comes to ICT, but the interest to pursue a career is there. Pls i need your suggestions/help in making my decision as to what aspect to focus on. Which area of ICT guarantees employment & good pay? Your opinions will help a great deal in choosing my career path. Thanks!

I would advise you choose your passion. I.T is vast.
Hardware - Networking and computer engineering
Software - Programming languages, web design, graphic design, software development
Cloud Computing - AWS, Azure, Office365
Database - Oracle, and so on.
There are so many branches so choose your passion and we go from there.

I have always known that Sunday Igboho is a poor man in need of money. Clearly he is not interested in the movement.
Copy copy na bad thing.

MattChidi:
I got this job invite interview and I wish to verify if it is legit or one of these fake jobs invites.

Any company bearing "global" should be avoided.
Na GNLD them

CarlScott:
Nairalanders are funny shaa .
What is "La click, La bend" on Nairaland? It is usually commented on a thread with links.
Does it mean, "If I click (this link), make I bend"? If not, then what is the meaning?

In french it means "a click, a bend". Funny how we misinterpret another language.

Haakeem:
Who knows how to view a hidden setting called developer option in an android phone,should pls help a brother.

Settings >> About phone >> build number >> tap 7 times

Havesomesense:
I have a girlfriend and I love her.
However I still feel like fvcking other girls too.

Funny enough other girls don't mind having fun with me even when I let them know expressly that i have a girlfriend.

It's been 6 months I cheated last and there's a very strong urge to wonder again.

Guys how do you manage to stay faithful when there are so many pretty girls?

The answer is very simple......



















Havesomesense

Jacksparrow7:
Hello nairalanders, and Doctors in the house.
Please I have been going to toilet since morning around 8 am. It started with my Tommy and stomach rumbling like the way bubbles boil in hot water, rumbling and rumbling to the point I could sleep anymore. I just rushed to the toilet and watery shiit came out with water mixed with it, like vomit.
I have been to toilet up to 4 times. The last time I almost shiit on my cloth because I taught it was gas. And am home.
Please what can I do.

You've been in toilet since morning? More than 12 hours without coming out? Op your lie dey run your belle nothing more.

Between op and his post which one get sense pass?