[quote author=JapaHelp123 post=140837823]I want to share my experience so others can learn.
I applied for UK Care Assistant jobs from March to August. I failed 4 interviews. It was painful because I had 5 years experience in Nigeria.
The 5th interview I passed last month and I got my Certificate of Sponsorship. The difference was how I answered, not my experience.
Here are 7 questions they asked me in my last interview:
1. Tell me about yourself and why you want to be a Support Worker in the UK? 2. What do you understand by safeguarding and can you give an example? 3. How would you handle a client who refuses to take medication? 4. What is person-centred care? 5. Tell me about a time you handled a difficult service user. 6. What would you do if you suspect abuse? 7. What do you understand about CQC?
Most of us fail because we answer like Naija interview, not UK CQC standard. In UK they want you to mention things like person-centred care, dignity, safeguarding, reporting to manager, etc.
I wrote down 200 questions and model answers I used for my 5th interview and also how I changed my CV to UK format. I can share how I did it if anyone needs help. Just mention me.
Please send the interview questions: ehirim.kingsley@yahoo.com
Shemalerose: Tired of sitting idle 24/7 staring at the ceilings. What sort of life is this? I need a job, i need to earn. If no one wants to hire me. I'm gonna end it all and i won't be missed
What did you study? Any job experience? What skill/s do you possess?
You can't just be lamenting. There are people in this space willing to help but you have to give us a scope to look at
Oludiary: Statement of Events I was working with an elevator company as an Elevator Technician when I came to Nigeria. A few months later, I received a message on LinkedIn from a man who wanted to establish an elevator company. He told me he needed me to help build the company and serve as the Lead Elevator Engineer. I agreed to the offer, resigned from my previous employment, and joined his company. A few weeks after I resumed, I noticed that the man began involving me in some of his other businesses, including his paper business and other activities unrelated to elevator engineering. I did not initially complain, but this began affecting my career and the work I was employed to do.
I also observed how he treated some of his other employees. On several occasions, I witnessed him verbally harassing and physically mistreating staff, including slapping them.
Regarding my own employment, the man has little or no technical knowledge of elevator engineering. Whenever I made professional recommendations or raised concerns about technical decisions, he often rejected them. However, when the consequences of those decisions occurred, he would blame me heavily and make me feel as though I was incompetent or did not know what I was doing.
The major incident occurred on a Friday. After completing our normal schedule for the day, I planned to repair the company's generator because I knew we had a very demanding schedule on Monday and I wanted to ensure that the generator was functioning properly beforehand.
The man repeatedly ordered me to return to the office. I politely explained to him, "Sir, if we don't fix this generator now, it could delay us on Monday." Despite my explanation, he continued insisting that I return to the office. Based on the previous circumstances and my assessment of the situation, I refused to immediately leave the generator.
He then came out of his vehicle and approached me aggressively, appearing as though he wanted to physically assault me. I tried to move away from him to avoid a confrontation. However, he grabbed my clothing and pulled it forcefully, causing one of my buttons to come off.
There were police officers present at the scene. He ordered them to put me into his vehicle, but they refused after witnessing what had happened. He then called other police officers on patrol, who subsequently arrested me.
At the police station, he made several allegations against me, including an allegation that I was the person who assaulted him. I was detained from Friday until Monday. During this period, he allegedly gave money to the police officers. My mother eventually came to the station on Monday and secured my release.
I was told that he would only allow me to be released on the condition that I sign an undertaking stating that I would continue working for him. I was under significant pressure and had already spent several days in detention, so I agreed to sign the undertaking in order to secure my release.
Immediately after I signed the undertaking, his treatment of me became worse. At the end of the month, he deducted two days' pay from my salary. I asked him why the money had been deducted because, to the best of my knowledge, I had not missed those two working days. He told me that the deduction was for the days I had spent in police detention.
I became upset about this and returned to the police station to report the matter. However, the police were unable to recover the money for me.
I subsequently informed him that if he expected me to continue working for him, I wanted my salary to be paid weekly, with my monthly salary divided into four payments. He refused this arrangement. Since then, I have not resumed work.
I now believe that because the undertaking did not prevent me from stopping work, he has decided to pursue an assault case against me. I have now been invited to the police station tomorrow in connection with the alleged assault.
I maintain that I did not assault him. I attempted to avoid a physical confrontation when he approached me aggressively, and he was the person who grabbed my clothing and pulled it.
I am concerned about what may happen at the police station tommorow and would like proper legal advice and protection regarding my rights, the alleged assault case, the undertaking I signed under pressure, my unpaid/deducted wages, and the circumstances surrounding my previous detention.
@Op report the matter to three places:
Human Rights National Industrial Court of Nigeria. LIRS (If the company is in Lagos) This one will hold the man in his balls. Lagos no dey joke with taxes.
If you want this issue to be REALLY serious, go straight to twitter, tekk your story mentioning the company, then tag the above handles to intervene. Sit back and enjiy the ride.
Get a Lawyer who is hungry to win multi million naira case.
Victory662: I recently bought a Toyota Corolla 2005 model, Nigerian used. Since then I've had this constant problem of hard starting. It's not very bad though, it picks after second or third kick, although in some cases it could be worse prompting my battery to run down.
I have explained the issue to about 4 mechanics, each of them telling me what they suspected could be the cause, I paid them and at the end of the day, nothing changed. I've spent over 300k on this very issue.
The only option I'm considering now is that of the latest mechanic that told me it could be fuel pump system pressure or electrical fault or both. I'm just afraid of spending money again because I'm already afraid it may not work. So NL family, have your car ever had this "spiritual hard starting" problem? And how did u get out of it?
Your car issue would have simply be detected using an OBD-II scanner. From there, you resolve the issue headon. Since i discovered this tool, electrician no dey chop my money anyhow. Please go for proper car scan.
Content of conversation is the problem here. Retrace your steps op. There is a particular conversation youve repeated with them ladies that is making them uncomfortable.
MONEY247: Many factors can be factored for adult bachelors. Finance, frustration, manipulation lack of interest and many more. Many of my colleagues do not want marriage... They just want to "enjoy" Here is the thing....Relationships and... . Marriage is work...
Whats the reason many older men Avoid marriage this days..?
Op I think this issue is state based. Lagos in particular is difficult to find a wife who will remain faithful because of the environment. Have you seen other states?
Isreal couldn't penetrate Gaza tunnels to fish the terrosits. When U.S steped in, the war ended ASAP. So remember that Russia is a strong alia to Burkina Faso and AES. When they step in, Naija troops I pity them. The question is: does Nigeria have strong alia because ECOWAS is a joke here.
Feisu: My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends. I didn't have an issue with it. But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past. This doesn't sit well with me. I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
The issue here is not sending cash gifts in-laws. The reason for the divorce is. Now OP, you need to really dig in and understand the root cause of the divorce. Is it poverty, or childlessness, domestic violence, cheating. From there, I can advice. There is nothing like peaceful separation when it comes to marriage. And by the way OP, hope your wife's dowry has been returned.
I will advice when you're ready.... I am married too
If you're a Christian Op read Mathew 19: 3-9. It said it all. A cheating partner is a cheating partner. Cheating does not happen like magic. 1. There must be an attraction to the individual who desires to cheat. 2. There must be a decisive thought to commit it. 3. There must be a location or permission to do the act. It must have been thought through before the act is being committed. You can forgive a cheating partner but know this, it's a matter of time. It will repeat again. Sexual sin has a very strong spiritual tie especially for the married ones.
Betnomore: Na so some idiots go message person say make person send receipt of purchase. Una dey mental nii? It’s like going to market and asking seller to give you receipt of where he purchased his items from. Bad belle people just plenty for this thread. If you need receipt, I can easily issue you one as a seller but NOOOOO na that original receipt dem want so them go fit low ball. If you want receipt, go and buy new item and also ask dem to give u receipt from Manufacturer. Awon werey alaso
It simply means that IT IS A STOLEN ITEM. Most especially electronics.
akube34: shut up. Where did you get this fact from. My Anty divorced years ago and remarried. She has been in that marriage for over 35 years now
I suppose you lived with your Aunt for 35 years to come to that conclusion. It is not how far that matters in a marriage, but how well and peaceful it is. From your comment, I can deduse that you're not married so no base to argue with you.
The bitter truth is: Anyone who has ever gone through divorce can never stay in a marriage. Quote me anywhere. Even if the fellow remarries, same cycle will repeat itself its only a matter of time. Go and do your personal research on people who have ever divorced even for once.
First of OP; The duty and responsibility of a husband is to love his wife no matter what.
You failed there.....
Marriage is not for the faint-hearted. You as a man really need to be matured both in mind and attitude. A wife is the reflection of what her husband is.
All women have bad mouth. No exception! But for a woman to go to the extent of threatening your life, hmmm you're in danger. You need to retrace your steps man.
That unborn child should not be experiencing this crualty between you and your wife. Put your house in order.
Jewessgratitud3: Lack of comprehension is a big problem. Please work on it. Next time try to read and understand before commenting cos you got the whole thing twisted.
Sorry i can't help you beyond this.
You got your whole caption wrong. It was meant to be "My Catholic Brethren, Are you forbidding meat today". It is very clear that in person, you speak before you think. WORK ON IT!
Jewessgratitud3: Is this still in practice in Catholic? cos since I left one and joined a pentecostal I don't get to see that practice any more..
Do you still abstain from meat on good Friday? If I see meat I go chop o but definitely not in the presence of those who don't believe in it.
If you can show me in the bible where you can't eat meat on good Friday or even where good Friday is written in the bible, then I won't eat meat. Christian zombies everywhere.
Fine face and good body shape does not put food on the table. When you get married and have at least 2 children, you will understand better. You pay house rent, feeding, schools fees, children clothes, utilities and co all by yourself without her input? I laugh...
Have you thought of when you die early after marrying her and how she's gonna cope with the bills? Let me give you a simple run down...
1. House rent --- minimum (500k yearly) 2. School fee (2kids) termly 200k (Good quality school oo) 3. Feeding monthly (40-60k) for family of 4 4. Emergency and utility / gas/ others (20k)
My bro, after 2-4 years of marriage, you will regret such a decision. Even if you open a business for her, It is still you that will hustle for that setup depending on the business. After 5-7 years of the marriage when you have exhausted yourself trying to proof breadwinner alpha male lolsss you will look older than your age
SenecaTheYonger: This has nothing to do with dream man. Many women don't marry their dream men, because their dream men don't even consider them as spec, so they marry who is available, but still don't starve them of sex because they too enjoy sex.
The OP's wife doesn't like sex.
@OP, it could be hormone, especially if it happened after she had kids. Pregnancy can really mess up a woman. Go to a hormonal doctor let them tell you the test to run.
That is part of the issue too. Hormonal imbalance.
addmole: I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.
Anyway sha, lets move on...
5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.
Omo... The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.
I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.
I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.
ANOTHER PART OF HER: My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.
There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.
We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.
I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.
I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.
Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.
i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.
Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.
She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.
What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.
Both of you need to see a sex therapist. It is going to cost you guys but you need it. That is one. Secondly, from my experience, women who don't like sex to the extreme as your case are women who have either been raped in the past or have had some sort of circumcision. Thirdly, OP diet goes a long way as your wife has low libido. Believe it or not. By the time you start natural sex enhancing diets at least 3-4 times weekly for 1 month. Trust me your wife will run begging you. Try these steps mentioned and thank me later. God bless and keep your home.
@Op, congratulations!!! The real world 🌍 has begun. All you need now is to concentrate on your area of strength as IT is vast. Once again, congratulations.
[quote author=Akalia post=123226367]Hello everyone. Good morning.
A quick question. Please does anyone know of universities in the United States where I can do HND to BSC top-up?
Expecting helpful responses. Thanks. [/quote There are universities in the U.S that accept HND for Masters. Some have scholarship opportunities for HND. Go to YouTube and search. Thank me later.
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