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i understand your fears. i have been in 2 accidents and both times i was driving . the first accident landed 2 men in hospital. i was without a scratch but i was traumatized to the point of hysteria. its hard to describe but when i drive now i have anxiety issues. i have panic attacks. i have overtaking anxiety, i have merging anxiety. just name it, i have it.

it will take a while for your children to get over it. but the only way you can reassure them is to be extra extra careful. even if it means you have to crawl to your destination.   . put on some music. try to distract them with other stuff. dont know if you are big on theraphy but that might help. you have to pray too. and take it one kilometer at a time. Good luck.  

I was returning from a wedding very late at night with my sisters when we ran out of gas. (we had noticed it was low but had hoped and prayed it would take us home).
The car "quenched" on Apapa oshodi expressway just before coconut bus stop the wrongest place to be stranded at night with all the touts and area boys crawling around in between the trailers parked there.
the driver took a container to walk to the nearest gas station and buy fuel. we waited nervously in the car. the area boys were hovering around when they noticed we were having car troubles and it was just a matter of time before they pounced. i was sweating bullets. i had heard that women were raped there everyday. they would drag you near the edge of the water and gang rape you. my teeth were chattering with fright.

eventually a group of about ten descended on us. they took all our jewellry and bags. we were coming from a wedding so we had on our finest. they almost cut our ear lobes trying to get at the ear rings. they also took the car stereo before running off.
i was scared men! i could smell the alcohol and marijuana on them.it was awful.
im just eternally thankful to jehovah they didnt decide to violate us. that would have been tragic.
luckily the driver got back minutes later with gas so we were able to get away.till date i get nervous when travelling at night. my eyes keep scanning the bushes looking for danger.
i definitely feel safer in the company of guys. a group of defenceless women will always be taken advantage of.

yes oh. babyosisi you've broken it down simply. if that doesnt work, i dont know what will.

@ cute-ass
thanks a lot.

@ samie
i don comot her name. her husband no go see am you hear?

there's a difference between spanking and torture. spanking is for a child's sake. talking sometimes just doesnt work lets face it.

jesus was not just crucified but crucified publicly. is there any contest about that?

it was an accident. unfortunate things happen. it has been determined that brandy wasnt drunk or high. if she wasnt celebrity would they have sued for $50 million?

by the way how did u edit your post?

@ samie
ha! she's probably married now so dont even attempt to upset the apple cart with your future thread!

kpele. dont know how to remove that one oh! ask seun.
anyway i guess its all past now. she has moved on.

this is the craziest thing ive heard this week. na you sabi. so you'll promote your business and dabaru business for hankie sellers and ac installers?

roflmao! na wa for you. what's wrong with being very black sef? tell me.

@ samie
em bros thanks for the detailed info but did you have to include her name and fathers position? take time  oh! 

love does exist. its just as scarce as rocking horse s**t!

so u are one of those guys who use "ncha"? i saw one okada man that was burnt in the face. im sure you never tell people the hazards. especially guys who already have razor bumps.

hmmmmmmmmm. dont you know that when you stop you become ashen?

all this prayer and fasting advice sef! sometimes you dont need God to come down and solve a problem for you . he has given you ability to make rational decisions to obvious problems!
the solution here? move out and everyone will be happier. Mother inlaw sef will be glad to get rid of you before you and your husband eat her down!

why honour him with your presence? even if you parted as friends what's the point?

new wives are supposed to call even the husband's younger relatives "brother". my co-worker when i was back in naija was complaining one morning about this. Her sister- in-law gave her a lashing cos she didnt call a 12 year old "brotha mi". (she's yoruba too but she definitely didnt find it funny).
na wa oh!

@ babyosisi
what do you have to do for seun to do that?

@babyosisi
i havent stopped laughing. how about you give me some lessons for free.

But enough of my rambling. I just wanted to address what someone on this post said about "coming home" to your own people, and how I feel it's just not fair for black Americans who really have no "home" to go to, or anywhere where we are not alienated.

@ lanegra
we would really love to welcome african americans to africa and have them affiliate with us but its funny how african americans sometimes think they are better than us africans. some of them think because they have now been completely americanized they can treat us as if we are still savages. how did mohammed ali put it again? "im glad my ancestors didnt miss the boat"?
we should be uniting to fight the racism we already have against us!

phew! thank goodness you dont believe in marriage! thank God
one less family pleaser to deal with. your type will let your family shave your wife's head while you stand by and do nothing.

its yoruba culture. though culture has been proven not to make sense always!

of what help will that be to you?
we have stars that retain their natural accents and are known worldwide like penelope cruz,salma hayek, rihanna, sean paul etc.

Seun:
Men that allow their wives to think that way are more trouble. If you can't put your wife first, stay single.

thanks seun. i was already hammering out the exact same response. im sure blackmamba is a mama pleaser! such people please everyone else but wifey.

if its easier for the family to have one name, he can as well take mine!

anyway just so you guys know they are about passing a law in the u.s to enable guys who want to take their wives names to do so. it has been difficult before now to legally change your name to your wife's name. i heard it on the news. progress!

If only some of you self righteous and know-it-all women really knew what your
own men do or can do, I am sure you will be a bit more hesitant to say throw him out
the door considering how much (time) you may have invested in the relationship. Its
always easy to advise someone to go for the jugular when its not your issue.

@ iyke- d

you cant take action on what you dont know. but how can you sit and a goat is eating the palm fronds of your chieftaincy cap and you do nothing?  

forget time invested. thats what guys always use to blackmail girls into staying in bad relationships!  .
they havent married he has already cheated thrice.thrice? abeg she has forgiven enough. it has come to the part where she's now playing FOOL. even peter was contrite after denying Jesus thrice. her man is still sharping mouth. abeg jare!

correct me if im wrong but there's no where in the bible i know of that says a woman should change her name. how did men bully us into taking their names sef? see wahala!