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olab059:
Hey guys, I need your help. There is this phone number I nolonger want on my android phone, but it keeps showing up every time I delete it. I'm not too tech savvy, but I went online to search for a solution, and followed some of the tips I read about unsynchronizing my contacts from my mail/social media accounts and so on. But the damn number keeps showing up.

This things is really frustrating me right now, cos I nolonger want to be seeing status updates from the owner of the number. Can someone please help me out here. Please!

Thanks in advance.

Go to your google settings page and manually delete the contacts from your google. Also find where those numbers are coming from. They could be from your sim or phone or SIM cards. Use appropriate action.

Ausrichie:
Truth about the so called web development is that some of these developers don't even know how the internet works (OSI/four layer model, IP address, Three way handshake, encapsulation) na only library them sabi. If you tell them to learn how the internet works and how sockets work too they will start yapping.

ahhhahahha you are right but those knowledge are for the network industry. Anyone can learn web dev. CS is now dynamic that people can learn it without going to school. But theoretical knowledge is quite different from practical knowledge. Your point is correct.

Ephemeralbeing:
Good morning, please I really do appreciate this platform and it's inspired me alot during this tough and trying period.

Please I need the advise and opinions of other members in that platform. Keep my name.

Okay so i've been depressed, battling with anxiety.

I got married at 26.

Before our marriage, things we going pretty fine and okay.

6 years later with two female kids. I secured this awesome paying job for my wife. But eversince then they go for conferences in other states representing her company which I'm aware of.

But after the third conference in Calabar. she's LOCKED her phone with a new password and times without number I've requested for it but she would say that there's nothing to check on her phone. (Meanwhile before this job, we knew each other password and are entitled boths phones)

Long story cut short, she now communicate with men and Stay up late texting and if I ask her who she's texting with she said her female colleagues at work.

Until last weekend when a whatsapp text came in on the notification from JOHN saying I miss you and I want to be with hold you again.

I inquired about who John was and holding her means, she said I shouldn't mind him.

Then I asked for her password she said don't you trust me.

Please I want to know does this matter cos I've been worried?

Why would she change her passwords?

Why can't i know who she's texting up late?
Do partners hide phone passwords from eachother after years of knowing one another password?

Am I just feeling insecure or something?

Please I need the opinions of other matured minds in the platform so I don't ACT WRONGLY PLEASE.

hmmm
This one strong o.

Am I just feeling insecure or something?
No you’re not, if something look too good to be true then it is certainly too good to be true. Something has changed about your wife and now you can see it.

Why can't i know who she's texting up late?

Because she don’t wanna tell you, you deserved to know, you are worth knowing and she owes you the explanation. Demand it when appropriate.

Why would she change her passwords?
She don’t want anyone else to get access to her phone,

I've requested for it but she would say that there's nothing to check on her phone.
This means including you!! She don’t want you near her phone.


if I ask her who she's texting with she said her female colleagues at work.
She is obviously telling you what you want to hear, and certainly she mentions a specific gender, which makes things weird. Maybe you should stop asking the question.

Until last weekend when a whatsapp text came in on the notification from JOHN saying I miss you and I want to be with hold you again.


We can’t be sure what this means but it is rude to send that message to a married woman. I guess maybe JOHN don’t know about you.
Maybe it could still be a harmless message.
BUT THIS IS WHAT SHE DON’T WANT YOU TO SEE.

WHAT TO DO
Drop those insane question of who are you talking to and asking for her password. Desist from all method of inquiry and fact finding from her. Next time you need to know something she is doing secretly then go find it secretly. Lite note

Now here is it, arranged a table with good food and drink. Then make it clear to her
“I THINK YOU’RE CHEATING ON ME”
“I ALSO DON’T TRUST YOU ANYMORE”
“I THINK YOU ARE HAVING SEX OUTSIDE OUR MARRIAGE”
IF THINGS GO ON LIKE THIS I WILL DO .......(strong threat she would fear e.g discussing it with someone she respect or divorce).

Avoid too much long talk, spend most of the time hear her confess and try to defend herself. As she keep defending her self add more pressure to it. It’s a matter of psychology. She would crack and hand you the phones and password to remove her head from the string.

IF SHE DIDNT RESPOND OR GET DISTURBED, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. Her mind is made up and your marriage is gone.

No matter what never put your children on the line they have nothing to do with this event

Thank me later.

QVicky10:
I too I was wondering.

self marriage also called sologamy.
Although it is not legally recognized in most(if not every) part of the world.

highfaculty:
You made some salient points but some no follow at all.
Good advise that he shouldn't buy a gift and decides to collect it back because the girl misbehaves. But truth be told, he bought it for a reason and since the reason wasn't achieved, he is free to collect it.

Talking about frustration, showing or not showing his frustration has nothing to do with what is happening. Saying he isn't matured is even d most annoying thing to talk sef.... It depends really on the purpose.

I made a very clear statement at the beginning of my post. If it was a gift then let it be. And I also mentioned giving people gift because they are worth it. Not as a marker that they are in a relationship with you.
The OP made a terrible decision with his gift and now he wants it. He is no better than the girl he calls a player because he himself had some ulterior motive behind his gift. As a luck would outrun him he didn’t get what he hoped for. Next time buy people things because they earn it. Not because you expect to control their behavior.

He is free to collect his gift but that would be trading maturity for material. Whatever is important let him go for it.

Sulele04:
they will be respected as long as they know what they are doing well . alot of web developers i know didnt study cs, also a lot of cs graduate i know are not into web dev etc they are into project research and development

CS is a very wide field to be constrained just to web dev. Web dev is underProgramming. Programming is just a part of CS. which makes web dev a sub sub

Goto network settings and turn your network to EDGE or 2G. It will work fine

humilitypays:
I am sorry to say that you are writing theory and you don't have sense at all



The op should apply his style and collect the phone back from the stupid girl or even arrange boys to collect it from her, she cannot do any damn thing!!



My friend have collected a car he bought for a lady whose father is a lawyer and she too was a law school student and heavens didn't fall, this is Nigeria not sissy countries like UK!!



If I buy a girl a car and she starts to misbehave thinking she has chop me mugu, I will go any length to collect the car back from her and if she dares nonsense I can even mud her forever and she will be deleted from this earth, u dont play with every guy....she can cheat, she can break up with me but she cannot take my money or something worth cash and go free, oh yeah

Here is my theory, I advise you don’t give people thing unnecessarily. The moment I give someone something it means they have don what would make them earn it. I can’t buy my girlfriend a car because she is my girlfriend. Never!! Never!!! Never!!!

She must be a worthy person and must have done something’s worthy of me appreciating her for that. E.g I can buy my mom Anything on this planet. As far it is money and if I have it. I can do same for any person in the world if and only if the worth it. By following this ideology you will see a gift as a compensation and not a marker.

Sixfeetbelle:
Oga, walking away is always easier said than done. Even in America, people kill their spouses over little things not to mention infidelity in their own home. To walk away requires a great deal of emotional maturity and not a lot of people possess that.

From the way I speak I can walk away o. I can never ever be so angry and spend my precious life in cell even if for 1mins just because of one useless cheating partner

DominusPrime:
I still dey talk am. How you go send money to person wey you never see b4? Don't you reason what will happen if he suddenly disappears? Someone will come and tell me there are legit guys here who do online business. True but with so many scams around is it worth the risk?

As much as their are legit people, one should have an open mind and not trust anyone. Being vigilant is the best thing that can happen to anyone.

Depressedkidd:
Masturbation usually goes hand in hand with porn. But taken apart, masturbation on its own usually produces the same effects and is usually caused but the same underlying issues as porn.

Please do you have any reliable medical research paper to back it up? Masturbation is a normal body process that occur on stimulation. Unlike porn that could lead to erectile dysfunction Later in life

Sixfeetbelle:
I see you failed to get the picture. My bad. I should have been more explicit. Let's see if this helps.

Doing jail time for un-premeditated murder is nothing compared to the satisfaction you get for doing away with an adulterous, selfish and irresponsible spouse. (I put spouse here because this is universal). I mean, if you can kill someone, doing the time shouldn't fear you. So saying, the punishment by law is not as severe as many would like to believe. If you don't want to get your hands dirty with blood, poisoning them is always a welcomed choice.

I hope the comment above wasn't too graphic for you?

Only lunatic will kill someone because of adultery and go to jail. When the someone didn’t kill my child or my loved ones. God forbid, I will not spend 10mins in jail because of an adulterous partner. I will break the relationship and every benefit she has from me and let her go. Both of us was not born with chains tied to our legs.

iconix:
I sent this guy jagabanjhn $465 PayPal fund. He told me it's on his pending balance that i should confirm it on my end which i did. After that, he said we should wait for 24hours for PayPal to release the fund to him, i agreed. After 24hours, i messaged him back and he said PayPal hasn't released the money to him yet, i said ok. 9 hours later, i sent him a message, he didn't reply, i thought he is offline but after sometime, he removed his photo and name from WhatsApp but didn't even view my message. He is owing me N172k right now. If anybody knows him, pass this message to him. " I GIVE HIM 24HOURS TO RETURN MY PAYPAL FUND, IF NOT , I WILL JUST GO VILLAGE FOR HIM, shikina ".

where you wan pass go village? Abi you nor know say lock down dey?

Sixfeetbelle:
Derek Chalin is behind bars, George Floyd is dead. Similarly, Wifey is in jail, cheating Husband is dead.

Do you get the picture now?

very unrelated people put together to prove a vague point.

Depressedkidd:
Chronic masturbation usually points to deeper psychological issues such as depression, a fear of commitment or connecting with people. Usually comes with signs like wanting to always be alone or home at all times or avoiding people, in severe cases, patients might reject an actual opportunity to have sex, rather preferring to masturbate. Breeds erectile dysfunction, or premature ejaculation in some and/or sometimes inability to enjoy sex, sometimes they might need to look at pornograhic content in order to achieve sexual satisfaction with their partners. Masturbation leads to loss of confidence. It also causes many patients to lose their ability to maintain basic interpersonal relationships.
Overall, chronic masturbation can be cured or controlled by dealing with the underlying conditions.

This ain’t true. Replace that masturbation with porn.

IsaacRocks:
Yes am a testimony to that, I feel rejected and casted and stupid whenever am done

You hate what you don’t understand. Your feeling after masturbation is a sensor that is triggered by your brain to stop you from trying to continuously masturbate. If this trigger is not in men. People will die because they could have sex for like a whole day. This is a base on medical research. Read it anywhere.

Tillatalk:
even when you have sex that's the same feelings you get but the only disadvantage about masturbating is unable to perform well when you have the real sex or with your future wife

This is not true. Masturbation can never cause it. Porn can but not masturbation.

IsaacRocks:
Nairaland, like the it is on the topic, please am just curious and there have been alot of questions on this. One of my workers was asking me few days ago " Sir if I masturbate am I still a virgin " I too was like "wait are you still a virgin"

Now the question is, as a guy if i masturbate am I still going to be a virgin ?

complete virgin except you have a different definition. It takes two to be disvirgined.

Tim1212:
Not really comfortable doing clients work. Software is an intellectual property that you can't quantify with monetary value.

You can decide to create software that clients would subscribe to. Not giving clients the copy right of your code.

you still have the mentality before the introduction of copy left and free software. People don’t hide codes anymore they only hide ideas. Go out work for people, it is almost impossible for anyone will hire you to build Facebook or google. They are just small project that will give you the experience

codeigniter:
Guys I am been working on a forum with django for the past one month, I am almost done the only problem I have now is it is some how slow, not as fast as NL, I have problem with text editor, I think NL is custom made, I currently using tinyMCE but it is blank on mobile

Any suggestions
Fortifiedng olumyco stanliwise

Nairaland runs on a special server (So I heard o). Cloud server. If so don’t bother your web wouldn’t run like his

Sixfeetbelle:
No act of infidelity should be tolerated. Do whatever you feel like depending exactly on how betrayed you felt by such action.

overdo and spend the rest of your precious life behind bars

Tim1212:
My advice don't follow all these stacks programming.. learn any programming language of your choice. Don't bother seeking for a job or clients.

Create a software that will take over the world. Jack Dorsey of Twitter is a programmer. Mark Zuckerberg is a programmer. Create a program that you may wish to sell or live as a business.

My exact philosophy but then again I realized working for people gives you just the experience you need to develop your app

fortifiedng:
What do you guys think about this? Your opinion. Let's discuss.

Why? Is this language(PHP) not working well?

Pelecius:
Thank you for you humble response sir. I'm glad you know that Science does not negative God and that it works because of the idea that the universe operates according to some set laws (which only make sense if there's a law giver just as computers works because there's a program - instruction giver)

I use to be in the camp of Big Bang before I got to know that it is not coherent with my beliefs as shown by arguments from another Christian Organization (Creation Ministries International that run creation.com website) and of course, they gave an alternative which make sense to me
I would love that you check the site and go through their (more than 10,000) articles on different fields and discipline of Science and Technology. If you are still convinced with big bang, so be it and if you see their arguments to be better, it's still to the glory of God.
As they do say, it doesn't affect one's salvation. It just a thing of what ground is one standing to be able to give a good answer to questions about one's faith

Thank you sir

Thanks for your warm response. I will check out the website

Pelecius:
Sir, the truth is that the theory is dead from its inception, just like the General Theory of Evolution.
It's funny that you said if there's any proof against it, "we scientists are glad to welcome it". First of all, Science is not limited to Atheist only. In fact, Christians were instrumental to founding of modern Science.
Secondly, if a Scientist provides evidence (and which they've been doing) against big bang, it would be rejected especially if the evidence tends to give credibility to what I'll call Creation Science.
These quotes from Evolutionists should give hint into why my claim is true

"We take the side of science in spite of the patent absurdity of some of its constructs, in spite of its failure to fulfil many of its extravagant promises of health and life, in spite of the tolerance of the scientific community for unsubstantiated just-so stories, because we have a prior commitment, a commitment to materialism. It is not that the methods and institutions of science somehow compel us to accept a material explanation of the phenomenal world, but, on the contrary, that we are forced by our a priori adherence to material causes to create an apparatus of investigation and a set of concepts that produce material explanations, no matter how counter-intuitive, no matter how mystifying to the uninitiated. Moreover, that materialism is absolute, for we cannot allow a Divine Foot in the door." (Professor Richard Lewontin)

Another from Dr. Stephen Gould says

"Our ways of learning about the world are strongly influenced by the social preconceptions and biased modes of thinking that each scientist must apply to any problem. The stereotype of a fully rational and objective ‘scientific method’, with individual scientists as logical (and interchangeable) robots is self-serving mythology."

The last quote shows again that there's bias in what folks shout "Science! Science!

I am also a Christian. Big Bang theory doesn’t negate God existence. Big Bang theory didn’t negate God created the earth. Remember Bible didn’t give us any explanation of the Universe and it’s theory and wisdom are for people of the earth. Science is the study of the physical world and observing it principle to reach a conclusion. Science is different from scientists. A scientist can due to his knowledge of science stop worshipping God. Science can’t be blamed, we can only say he was naive. God is the God of science. As so I am is son through Christ, I am also a scientist.

Prettychild:
Hi. I am new on nairaland! Please welcome me!

I am suspecting you!

MoneySavannah:
Thanks but

Could you shed more light on my questions above. HERE. I want to be confident before I begin

There is no one any where that cannot gal victim of data theft or insecurity, what can happen is that your forum will be highly guarded with advance wares and programs. E.g spam bot and verification against DDos attacks. For your way of control after site creation you are made to create strong password for security. You can sign legal documents if needed.
If you want to use it for highly sensitive document you can employ hackers to test run and penetrate the site to ensure it is bullet proof against hacking

MoneySavannah:
Hello Webmasters


I'm a newbie here. To be precise i don't know a thing about web design or maintenance, and I don't know Jack about programming.


However of recent I had a business idea. And I need a business website for it to actualize it's full potential.

And hence certainly need the help of a designer. But.. I am afraid because I want to know...

1. How I can excercise complete control over my Forum

2. How do I ensure that I don't fall victim to deception.


3. And how do I ensure my intellectual property is not stolen..


Will be indebted to You and Your replies...thanks

A good programmer will seal all part of your website properly. Any you will have a control panel with your won set password. Send me a mail Stanliwise[at]gmail.com

Pelecius:
Yeah!
Anything to avoid doubt on the story that billions of years ago, NOTHING exploded but created EVERYTHING.

If you have any proof against Big Bang we scientist are glad to welcome it. If not why no wait until you have one. Big Bang is still a theory as physicist are still studying and trying to understand the event.

Stewart883:
Liar!!! 80% of them are "Developers"

Abeg all of una wen know wetin dem dey do their, how do you people come about this stats? From which source?

j1mmy:
NIGERIANS NEED TO GET EDUCATED ABOUT THESE NEWS, THESE ARE MOSTLY IGBO DRUG DEALERS, WHO FLED INDIAN DUE TO POLICE AND OTHER VISA ISSUES - Don't let the word "Nigerians" confuse you!

Thousands of IGBO drug dealers are being killed and mistreated in India (for example) while Nigerian diplomatic missions, Diaspora commissions and other agencies describe it as Nigerian problem and everyone starts to panic.

Thousands of mostly IGBO criminals and miscreants started walking around China (during covid-19) and were thrown out of hotels and apartments, the world and Nigerian media described it as "CHINESE RACISM AGAINST AFRICANS"

Your younger ones are trying o. How do they cope with a big idiot like you. Has anyone ever told you “You nor get sense”? .
Incase you wanna clap-back I am not from the east but your tribalistic comment is so immature

Macro231101:
Second to comment I'm getting there

Try again next time