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Korllami007:
I don't understand you. Because op has bleeped her for 3 years so you want op to wait for her till the new guy dump her. So, the total amount of time the girl dates the new guy will serve as punishment for op for f"cking her for 3 years.

This is interesting.

All I am saying is stop making the Op the victim here.

The loss of interest could be the fault of the OP, this is relationship, it doesn't work in one way remember?

AllenSpencer:
Great!

The institution should follow up with assault case and make sure culprits face a firing squad or death by hanging.

Bro abeg calm down na!!

gbolly1151:
Thanks so much... Got it,but is process the same as thread?

https://stackoverflow.com/questions/200469/what-is-the-difference-between-a-process-and-a-thread

I think this should explain it. Thread uses the same shared memory within a process. While process uses different memory(global) space.
But they are basically the same. and multiple process could need to access one resources and synchronization will need to make proper use of resources. Same for threads try to access a global memory space in a process. The idea is the same.

anslem04:
A lot of people view things from one perspective, d moment u av r/ship issues is either u're broke or jobless ... so wen d advice start rollin in, its all about go n make money or get a job or face ur career,aint yu pple tayad of these move on chorus. are there no solutions or way around tins other than discarding
2yrs ago my bestie had small issue wit his gf of 4yrs I was in position to resolve it but my chorus was move on, face ur career, make more money buh after 2guy my guy is yet to av even one serious r/ship that wil last 6months. most guys here are struggling dey don't knw hw hard its to find a wife wen yu are rich... d best time is b4 u make dat money.

No truer word than this, you speak deep insights.
Bless you.

Korllami007:
After the new guy have used her to cure konji for six month or 1 year and dump her, you want op to accept her back? But I don't think op is stagnant in life. He would have moved on with his life before then. The girl can start afresh by finding new guy to marry.


Please don't wish the op bad.

You're buying the victim mindset the OP might be selling, what gives you the impression that the OP hand is clean.
person wey go don chop this girl punna for like 3 years na. Infact you have to pity the new Guy.
Op is not masculine enough in my opinion, if your girl isn't sticking around you again then it means you don't appear charming to her anymore.

Korllami007:
Op would have moved on.

I don't understand, you mean the girl or the OP in question?

ugoadudu:
Please what do you mean by communication? You need to break it down further please.

Communication na scam. Try attraction it will safe you alot.

Starz825:
Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife....
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint....




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions.... whether u need to move on or make it up to her...(because I realized that the lady in question is not a random girl to you.. because if she was u had moved on without coming on the platform)

oga this your talk was making so much sense o until the last paragraph,
So at the end of tbe day, it is to call her and make one boring long discussion again abi
The OP should go and gather money and value, make himself look like an attractive husband material.
If the girl find him charming, she would come back and if she does, slowly and steadily let him do thing right. Make the Bold commitment of marriage.
If she doesn't not let him move on

EMPTY DISCUSSION IS JUST LIKE 10 MINUTE SEX, AFTER THE MOMENT, IT IS GONE.

quexhub:
this is so so frustrating and is making me to look depressed, when i finished my NYSC i had no job for two to three years thou i am a makeup artiste then, but the job is not giving me what i want, because is not constant, i met a guy and asked him whether if he can help me teach me about website, fortunately he voluteered and decide to teach me,the first thing i learnt is on how to design a website using wordpress, then jombla, using css, html, then i was designing a website for people, organization, because i studied computer science in school, i always like developing myself with any new idea that i feel like i can learn, to cut it short i just need someone who will answer this question for me, is it a crime for one to be passionate about what he/she loves.

It's rare for one to see women doing programming.
In my past experiences, most girls just waste me time, they just wanna know what it contains and after that, they run as fast as they can, this same goes for many of my guys also.
But to be sincere I am culprit of this but if I notice the girl has been really doing it herself or she is the really serious type.
Meaning she has invested resources and against all my initial unseriousness she still kept coming, I will respect her and give her my time.

Forumobserver12:
Now she has already won the psychological against you by that singular act of apology you render to her, now if both of you must continue just know that you have lost the right to know whom she goes out or talk to.

You be correct guy for that first line

Starz825:
Even if op go move on..it must be on a mutual agreement... because the lady in question used to be a responsible lady to the OP but changed suddenly..(check some of op's comment)..

Op have every right to want to Know what's up...there are some relationships that can't just end anyhow...u wanna know why at Least to avoid future occurrence

Dont go looking for what you are unlikely to find.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

You're acting unmasculine in nature

Jamin3:
i graduate with hnd pass in electrical electronic engineering and I want to upgrade my hnd I don't know which university will accept my kind of result cuz am not happy with that grade. pls if you know any school that will accept it for pgd just tell me. Thanks

How many have you tried?

uvalentine2003:
Good evening Nairalanders
Please am a Sixteen Years Old Boy Living In Kano State With A Good Knowledge of Computer
Please Can Anybody Teach Me Any Programming Language

You either apply for an online course if you can pay or learn using free books.
Or maybe pirate pdf copy of ebooks to learn programming.

gbolly1151:
I was trying to get the concept of threading.Lock() on python but can't really figure out how it work with the two method acquire() and release()

Can some explain in details how to use it effectively and when to use?

When creating app that run multiple processes(threads). There are chances that two or more threads may access one variable, which may lead to data leakage, to avoid this, you have to synchronize access to such variable.
Meaning you have to lock it and give key to a thread, to maintain linear access.

gbolly1151:
I was trying to get the concept of threading.Lock() on python but can't really figure out how it work with the two method acquire() and release()

Can some explain in details how to use it effectively and when to use?

what where you tryna do with it?

EFULEFU1:
I am planning to marry her. We Have courted for one year.

I have caught her stealing my money twice but in all cases, she wept, knelt and begged me, saying it is the spirit of succubus and incubus that makes her do that.

I forgave her because I am mad over this girl. I so love her.

Now I caught her via her phone chats, that she has been deleting her chats with a guy she claims is her classmate. After not talking to her for two days, she wept and knelt to beg me, confessing that, the guy has proposed to her and that the spirits of succubus and incubus made her delete the chats.

She says I should take her to a prophet for deliverance.

I so love her

Please what do you advise?

Thanks

Just get the Bleep off!
After you marry her and problem enter the marriage, you will come back and disturb us.

Since you love her so well, the go ahead

Johnmattee:
I know, thanks but it's the work that is burdening me.

Your work is nothing but a self-destruct. While it keep sustaining you, it ensures it keeps you busy from improving yourself.
To make things work, you have to find all way possible to learn how to code.
And most importantly, you have to learn properly unless it will end up wasted.

Johnmattee:
Hello guys, I'm a newbie in programming though I've started coding for more than a year but work and other stuffs don't afford me the time I need to code, there was a time I didn't code for more than 5 months straight because of the nature of work I was doing then, now I'm serving and I'll soon pass out, PPA work doesn't give me enough time too. so I'm looking for a way to achieve something worthwhile before passing out.
I'll appreciate your advice.

Programming needs time, I think you understand that?

faucon:
no you have to say something now

What's your aim?, why are we submitting codes to you? Why are you paying us?

let me nor say anything.

Olamyyde:
I started at 15 but was very lazy. 6 years later, i have average knowledge of python, java and c++ with a little html knowledge.


If i was more disciplined and consistent, i could have learnt 10 languages by now

No wonder you became lazy, you were learning boring languages you were not gonna use.

How I wish you realize that programming languages are similar to spoken languages, how does it make sense to learn many languages by just doing nothing.

Most people who are conversant with many languages was because it was important to them at one point in their live, either they lived in a new location or they were gonna work with some new people who communicate with another language.
Only mis-orientation would make some learn multiple languages locked in a room

Advice
Start learning how to solve problems, learn a new language if it only becomes necessary.

lies

BigDick70inch:
Lol..
Thanks bro..
Now I know where r u coming from..
Yeah..we started talking like a or 2weeks ago..tho we do say greet as per normal thing..but cared for her when I noticed she wasn't herself one Friday like that..
Even..had to like come to skool the followin morning to see how she was faring..before I left for my CDS..

I told her..i Wud have called but didn't have her number before I left dat day cos i was really in hurry to leave..which she eventually gave me the following day..

So following day..we were together had to compliment her and was saying lil things I cud think off not to be boring..
It was..from there I told her it Wud be nice if we get to hangout..so we could get to know ourselves better..

Tho she also told me"SHE DOESNT LIKE HANGING OUT"THAT SHE HAD RATHER SLEEP,WATCH OR EAT..mind u she never said dis with seriousness Oo..


Even jokingly told her I'd like to take her with me to watch football..
And..told her I wouldn't take no as answer..which she didn't not object to..


Last week friday..i asked if had any plan for the weekend.. Which she said no to..
Then..again remained her we could just hook and promise tis gon be fun..

I told her to chose a day..but she only shock her head in disagreement..when I suggested days to her..MIND U SHE DID ALL DIS LAUGHING Oo..

THAT LAUGH COULD MEAN SHE IS LAUGHING AT YOU
So far you have acted the script so well, she giving you her Number was a nice hint.
But you seem to flop in the place you said you made compliment not to sound boring. compliments are compliments, they don't make conversation lively, BE SOFTLY-STINGY WITH COMPLIMENTS AS WELL AS GIFTS, GIVE THEM WHEN THEY LEAST EXPECT. instead make funny remakes about what you observe about her e.g "This skirt you're wearing is too common among ladies today" warning: only when both of you are around.

To sound lively, you have to be able to tease her, make funny remarks and crack jokes, tell short stories etc. silence is a virtue, maintain silence during conversation to not look clinchy and silence gives her the chance to speak by she breaking it.

Also your hangout invitations seem too fast making it look like it was a refund for your nice gestures while she was sick.

Your way forward right now is appear attractive to her, you need to show her some of your personality qualities:
Playfulness,
funness,
toughness,
hard-to-get,
not-an-ass-licker/not-a-woman-wrapper/not-an-errand-boy
bold-and-confident guy,
A-man-that-say-no
A-Little-hard-to-please
Unpredictable.
etc

I am tired!

BigDick70inch:
Okay..
"If she has accepted you the way you came, I would say she was doing you a favor"
Can u pls..put more light on dis if really wanna help out??.

Before I start let me inform you that you might have built a wall between you and her incase your previous actions has sent wrong signals in the past, The below advice might now become harder than it should be. meaning you will have to climb those walls in the future.

To ask a girl out, you two must have developed a good rapport.
Don't over think it, it means she is comfortable with you, it means discussion. Does she respond well to you in convos?

Now to ask a girl out for the first time, don't go like a police officer and tell her you are thinking you and her should hang around. ? ??

Hang go where?

How to
Just during conversation, tell her
you: "On Saturday I am going to the movie to watch ZZZ, I don't know if you're free?",
If she decline - fine, just tell her no problems
if she agrees, you get a hangout.

If she has mentioned an eatery, new place, park, just any places that seem interesting to her at some point in conversation before or some other places.
Don't do this immediately.
Later in the week.
you: "I plan to get checkout this GHH place on saturday, don't know if you will be busy by then?"
If she say no - just tease her of why and if she declined then fine.

Do this three of four times and if she says No then just stop doing it

THIS ARE TRICKS OF ASKING A GIRL ON FIRST HANGOUT, DONT MAKE IT SEEM LIKE YOU'RE objectify her by using words like
"let go out on of these days"
"I want to carry you out"
Reserve them when she has drop the guards a little.
She will will reject you out of fear, and she will think her pride will fall if she accept.

MAKE IT LOOK LIKE A BIT NATURAL, CONVINCING, MANLY AND SPONTANEOUS.

Also stop putting her on a pedestal with unnecessary discussions and compliments, she will sense desperation.
Do this at minimum and when it occurs let it be fun with joking around but LET IT BE SHORT.

Na Hanging out stage you dey o, You never enter big one You don dey sweat


Have a Good day

Jacktheripper:
Are they not desperate?

Everyone is desperate and insecure about something but you're finished if you fall in the wrong people ready to manipulate you on that desperation.

Fake confidence and safety until you find genuine people who you trust.

BigDick70inch:
Dis one no follow joor..
I have seen loads of ugly boy taking beautiful girls out on date nah..

Charming does not mean handsome, it means to look and act convincingly and unresistable.
Op you acted like a dick. If she has accepted you the way you came, I would say she was doing you a favor.