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This is very unfortunate. I feel for the pastor.

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So you think Iya Risi who sells N100 pepper is not going to have sex with Baba Bola, the carpenter who lives two streets down if she wants to?

Casemiro:
nice suggestions there..




You can keep saying insecure all you want, but Everyman to his own..


some men want women working in big organizations and offices, while some prefer them stay at home..



Stories flying up and down especially on Nairaland are enough to make such men not change their mind.



from colleague colleague,

they start something funny.

Before you know one thing has happened and the do done.



It's not insecurity on the part of such men,

they just don't want their wives to always be in an occasion of sin, where there would be much pressure..





no need trying to sound politically correct, we know what really happens inside life..



once again thanks for your suggestions.

No third party interference does not include domestic abuse. Na so e dey start.

emeijeh:
Your wife went too far for calling her people (after your very first slap)
What happened to the "no third party interference" sermon on your wedding day?

But Op, are you sure you have not hit or beaten her before that day?

Just keep apologizing.
She has to come back.

I will stop living in lalaland and go get a job

She is not that old

DanDeeBoss:
Hehehe, Wonderful

If you could read and understand, you would have read the part everyone blamed their mothers' emotions for everything. I guess their mothers are always on their period. I blame their mothers. If they had handled their issues with the fathers differently, they won't here tagging them emotional wrecks.

Any parent who cares about his/her children would explore all options to be part of their children lives.

Nashoji:
people like you are the problem we have in this country. You justify one bad character when it suits you and you make case for another bad character when it doesn't go your way. You want him now to ask his mom the reason why she behaves badly towards the dad in other to justify what ever thing she was putting up to the day but you are at the same time saying the OPs dad doesn't have any reason to justify what he did. Who knows if the mom shuts the father out completely just to prove a point, who knows if the father tried several times to reach out to the children but the mom swore never to see that happen. See eh, you are a child today, you will also become a parent tomorrow, then you will understand how all these things works. Hope your husband don't manipulate your children in believing everything he says thereby abandoning you sha.

Yup and she is on WhatsApp too

vincentjk:
Lol does your grandma own a phone?

My Grandma or myself

vincentjk:
Sterope who'd you call?

Some obsession!

Why are you waiting at a certain age? You should marry her off immediately she is born.

Gbogbo yin ma wa alright.

He is already questioning his mum's story. He hasn't told us whether he has affirmed her story before undermining it.

NoToPile:
Its a valid concern that's just the truth and its because of situations like this, its not right but lots of women would endure all what not just for him to do his rights as a father, some even die in the process. Some are smart enough to take a decision and flee.


In this case some are already stating it was just for few years he was absent what a lot dont understand is that the mum was both mother and father during those years , during those times he failed as a dad and thats it.

My grouse is the OP saying he didnt get to hear his fathers side of the story for leaving them for those years, thats not fair. Theres no excuse for that abeg.

Let him reconcile if he wants to he should leave his mum's suffering out of it.

It is already a generational problem.

There are many fathers and mothers that abandon their children. Some seek for forgiveness and others merely act entitled.

Sooner or later, no one would care about being a parent.

Sunsets:
You are dead wrong. The young man wants to fix what would become a generational problem and all you see is this. I think you need to fix yourself. You need healing before you can advise someone.

Single motherhood is not a reason to drag your children into the mental turmoil you suffer because your once true love and father of your children turned into something else. Many mothers do this and it is unfair on the children.

There is nothing wrong in single motherhood if it is the best option for the wife and in extension, her children. A mother/parent should always seek the best for herself and her children no matter what might happen in future between the children and the father.

Graxie:
This is why I hate single motherhood, I can never raise up kids by myself alone except due to widowhood. God will not even allow me to be one. Every single mother should read this thread and wake up, you will raise this kids alone and they will go in search of their father. Some will even claim you manipulated them. Wake up and seek for child support from sperm donor, even if it means going public. Don't waste your life for nothing. Better still, go and drop those kids for your sperm donor family. Be wise.

Do you know that most women also voice this concern when you ask them to leave abusive men/toxic relationship?

They will tell you they cannot train their child alone only for their father to enjoy the benefits. The reason doesn't hold water where lives and emotional well-being are at stake but still taking care of child is not an easy task even for two people.

NoToPile:
Loool, so the moral is never ever train your child alone as a woman, las las the they would say they didn't listen to their father's point of view for abandoning them at some point in their lives.





A father has no excuse for abandoning his children even if he hs issues with their mum.


Op you can reconcile with your dad, but dont EVER try to water down the sufferings of your mum.


From the comments this thread going the lane of another operation blame the woman thread.

Inasmuch this could be true. It doesn't remove from the fact that some parents are cruel to their partners and their children. What on earth could his mum have done to have made his father absent from his life, both financially and emotionally? What stopped him from reaching out when he was in the University?

You were eight in number. Have you wondered if your dad is one of those men that pressured their wives into shunning family planning? Perhaps, when your dad had money, he behaved badly. Have you asked your mum that question? However, I don't agree with her making the house a living hell in your presence but have you asked her why she acted the way she did?

chriskosherbal:
Easier Said than done, op first of all I want to use this medium to say you are a man, for trying to make peace with your Dad, there is a particular blessing that biological father's carry that NO man on earth no matter how highly placed in any field can give to you..Am quoting you because you are still trying to condemn and Judge his Dad, the OP said we never listened to his own side of the story cos men just know how to suck in emotions.

Being the last male in the family I stayed with family for a longtime before I left, and I must say mother's are wonderful but can choke a man to death sometimes if that man lack emotional shockabsolver when things start to fall apart especially finance, Seeing my mum cry complaining to me sometimes you will think Dad is just heartless until I grew to understand that mum most times just want things to go her way always forgetting Dad feelings, and the fact he still the head of the home, irrespective of finance and mum sometimes couldn't just be submissive.

You see when you grow older in life you will definitely love your mum but tend to appreciate your Dad's effort so far in trying to raise a family ( we were 8 in number, even though we lost 2), providing for everyone's need, food, academics, name it, and coping with mums constant nagging sometimes can be really frustrating and unbearable, you will see it practically clear when you start to have kids..

It takes God and a man that is determine to keep his family together irrespective of trials/temptation to still keep going, sincerely I love my mum no doubt but my RESPECT for my Dad have skyrocked when I came face to face with real life ...I love you DAD.

How is it contradictory?

You can forgive, let yourself heal and still not have a relationship. The forgiveness is not for them, it is for yourself.

Afamed:
Your quote is contradicting, how can you claim to have forgiven your parents but they still don't deserve any relationship with you?

@IceColdVeins, Good job on your part

And a good ending for deadbeat fathers and mothers.

Now they are going to eat their cake and have it.

Future mothers and fathers can as well decide to be deadbeat parents. We are all gonna guilt trip their children into forgiving them for the better good. So they don't get to be parents when they are needed the most but they still get to enjoy the benefits of having grown children. Imagine enjoying the best of both worlds without lifting a finger. Lucky bastards!

Damn! What am I going to do?

It will soon end

What did Sowore did against Jonathan that he hasn't fone against Buhari since he was elected?

I don't think you people use your brains at all.

NaijadrivaCars:


One part of me don't pity Sowore for all he did against Jonathan and is now reaping the fruits of his actions, while the other part says, "whatever happens to democracy and freedom of speech".

Every journalist/blogger should be concerned.

Either way, I am undecided

Expect wahala for Punch for speaking out soonest.

This tactic has been around for ages. Too bad for the shop owner.

What would you do under harsh working conditions? You are stuck, you cannot get your passport until after a year and If you do, what is the possibility of getting a job within 28 days?

Akiliogidi:
Oh OK, thanks for the clarity, the agent never told me this ...
But is it that easy to walk up to your boss to tell him you are not working again? what if he refuses? what next?
Success wishes though, one day be one day I will surely leave Naija

Nothing would have happened if it were in the US. The FBI might call him for a chat then monitor him if need be. The FBI wouldn't have disobeyed court order to release a man after his bail conditions have been satisfied.

GeoAfrikana:
Lalasticlala, other side of the story.

Emotions and sentiments apart;

First, sincerely when I watched the video yesterday I was confused. I didn't see any persona that looked like a DSS officer. I've once had an 'encounter' with DSS officers.
They escorted the corpse of a federal icon from Abuja to our village for burial. They arrived early in the night, witnessed the burial, shot guns in the air and drove off.

It was an intimidating experience. They were so organised and gallant. Their men were heavily built and their guns were sophisticated. No one in that video is similar to the typical DSS officer in my imagination.

Secondly, the word REVOLUTION that Sowore used is enough crime against him. I'm almost certain that if someone tried a tenth of such in the US he would be corpse in less than a month. Or at least be undead in Guantanamo.

Note: I'm opened to objective counter-arguments. If you rationally, objectively and politely debate my points then I'll listen to you. I'm willing to engage in intellectual debates.

But if all you have is insults and curses then expect no response from me.

Thanks for reading.

Buhari has outdone this time around. May he find what he is looking for!

Some of you don't have any iota of sense. Sowore has never played favorites between both presidents. Does it need to be shoved down your throat before you see clearly?

jasmine1600:
"I am the most abused and insulted president in the world but when I leave office, you will all remember me for the total ‘freedom’ you enjoyed under my government."

~ Goodluck Jonathan, 2014

He grew in Ibadan...that is enough. It would have been improper if he does not have a link to Oyo state.

He mentioned that about other tribes

Xbee007:
People have flaws, it is ludicrous to say an entire ethnic group is flawed especially when such statement is born out of stereotypes spread by people of little mind.

The flaw everyone and every tribe has.

Xbee007:
What stupid flaw are you talking about??

Does it mean the marriage drama is about your family?

Man of God ke?

Are they any closer to God than himself?

godumes:
PH is a hostile state. My master based in Lagos was scammed of a truck load of rice. I did trucking in the same PH. MY advice...If you know of any man of God that has special anointing, go seek him and deal with the situation from that angle. Second advice... ventureing into legal ways will result to threats of lives. My master tried it and the outcome was not friendly. Am speaking from experience.

How long did it take?