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teeo: And the women are shouting MYOB, don't MYOB. Just imagine yourself in his shoes and what you would do if you would do if you found out he knew your wife was cheating and he didn't tell you.

Imagine you being exposed to all forms of STDs, I find it shocking that the same women that shout heaven and earth when it's a man cheating are now forming MYOB. Talking of double standards

Onegai: The pain of Friendzoning is selfishness. Most guys like to describe themselves as "Nice Guys", which is a lie, because a truly nice person would do stuff for you without expecting anything in return. Yet almost all the guys on this thread are expecting se.x for being "nice" to a girl. So yeah, she gets selfish and takes you for a ride because you were selfishly trying to buy her emotions.

Guys friendzone girls too (she's not hot, she's not sexy, blah blah) and me, I never stay long in that situation: "oh, you want to just be friends even though you knew I liked you, couldn't say anything or worse, hoping to score in bed? Bye". Seriously, give them distance.

Most times, people regret friendzoning people. Both guys and girls. A friendzone is "I kinda like you, but even though I know Love should be calm, warm, strong and a bit boring (yep), I want the passion and excitement of Infatuation, Lust or whatever mad expectations of rushing emotions, so you're in my friendzone". A smart man or woman who has been friendzoned should immediately put some distance and then later on, build a casual friendship. I guarantee you, that person will start getting attracted to you, but most likely, you won't want them back anymore Because they'll see you with fresh eyes (looking prettier and confident or being more confident and manly) and you'll be suddenly more appealing yet they can't have you. Human beings want what they can't have.

Trust me

Anacksunamun: This is an absurd mentality!! What's this world turning into? So you'd want all the male friends to your sisters, female cousins, nieces and future daughters, to fùck them before they can be friends? WTF?!! So you can't be friend to a girl without wanting to fùck her? Wow!! Do you know the know the meaning of "friendship" at all? I hope you'll support your wife to fúck all her male friends while married to you, since a woman can't be friends with a man without sèx being involved. SMH.

obongproff: I tink I want to clear d air abt how bad 'friend-zoning' is. Its more like taking advantage of a guy u know likes you a lot but all you want from him is for him to meet certain of ur needs, while he gets nothing in return. I once had an experience with a chic dat lived on my street. She knew I was crazy abt her so she decided to take advantage of dat. She only calls me when she needs something, and each time I call her she must ask for recharge card. If u dont want to commit to him why make him spend his money or time on you? Its not fair oh!

On d oda hand, a guy and a girl can actually be very good friends, as in very healthy platonic relationships. I have a lot of cute female friends dat I need nothing from and we are good friends. If u say am being 'friend-zoned', I don't care. Day are more like sistas to me.

mencade5: God bless you too my brother. We shall spread this message to all guys. No to friendzone

Okiki_Oluwa: Please,
take your time to read & understand my epistle cos I also took my time to read & digest well your write up!

Your life lesson write up is good.
But use another thing as example.
Not Super Eagles,
not that match against France.
Any human that has the characteristics of the Super Eagles of 2014 World Cup can't even near success!
The team never had the hunger to win.
They didn't bother to score against France from the 1st Half. They still didn't know how they ll score until the French's late goals. Even if France didn't want to score against Nigeria, we won't win the match. It ll end in penalties.
Why?
Cos that Super Eagles team has alot of things working against it.
In life, you succeed by working hard or doing your assignments well. Whether you are raised from a poor background or from a rich home, you must pick your onus well.
Keshi brought incompetent players to the World Cup. They qualified by luck when they beat Bosnia Herzegovina by luck!
That team can't score goals. They lacked set piece takers, they can't shoot ball accurately, they can't even jump to head in a freekick or corner kick! They only relied on Enyeama. Do you remember how many corner kicks Ahmed Musa wasted? Didn't Musa or the entire team train how to score or defend set pieces?
Was there no other person that could at least try the corner kicks when Musa was playing rubbish?
All the inaccurate crosses that Emenike, Moses & Musa were floating to the French's box 18, why didn't we convert one or at least get close?
Do you even remember the last time Nigeria scored a goal from set pieces or head in a goal?
Need I say more.
Large portion of the mistakes & blame is for Steven Keshi. Cos he's the one that brought in talentless players like Mikel, Moses, Ameobi, Ruben Gabriel etc. He had 3 years to build that team but chose to bring amateurs to the World Cup. Do you know that over 40% of the team that won the 2013 AFCON didn't made it to the 2014 World Cup? Do you know that Nigeria's problem of gaining ball possession & not scoring goals but end up losing started at the 2013 FIFA Confedrations Cup?
Go & watch Nigeria Vs Tahiti & Nigeria Vs Spain's meeting at the 2013 Confedrations Cup. You ll see that Nigeria won Tahiti cos they were amateurs & lost to Spain cos Spain were professionals who took their chances. If you deal with a weak man in business, you ll v the advantage over the man & possible succeed better. But if you deal with professionals, you v to be steadfast & take your chances well.
Spain & France took their chances well. That's why they won Nigeria 3-0 & 2-0 respectively.
In football, if you miss your goals you don't win the match. The same in business. If you miss your opportunity, you pay dearly!
Coughs, enough said!

hannne: Matthew brings.....king of epistles.u always learn something from everything.dats a good quality.i love dat.will try learn dat


BTW,wats wrong with d guy putting long dots.na wah u o.hope u are not mentally deranged.attention seeking teenager.if i had a supernatural power,u wuld have received a slap whereever u are now for this display of stupidity.#nonsense nd alacrity#.d guy jus dey vex me

Matthewbriggs: I may not be a sports fanatic, or follow closely the exploits of the likes of messi and rolnaldo or understand the schematics of the UEFA champions league or FIFA world cup. But one thing I know is ... I am big fan of the super eagles. I try my best not miss their matches. Her encounter with France was of no exception...4days ago I sat glued to a Tv set for more that 90 minutes hoping and praying we would win that game. But alas we were beating 2-0 ... 2 freaking zero... till today those goals keep replaying in my head. *arrggghhh*. I had two option, to either feel bad for our failure or to see this as one of my numerous learning opportunities and instead focus on deriving insight and inspiration from this depressing encounter. Alas I chose the latter. Below are really key lessons I relearned from that encounter .


https://kicksocca.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/fra-vs-nga-2.jpg

In the first half we played strong, we shook their defense, we had more ball possession, nearly 80% of people I communicated with during the early phase of the match were positive we would win... but alas with several minute into the second half and few minutes to go, our hopes of moving to the quarter finals were dashed with 2 goals. What surprised me was not the two goals we conceded but France's strategy... It occurred to me that they had been conserving their energy for the latter part of the match, they also tricked us to underestimate them by not coming on strong. At the same time building a very strong defense, so even though we had more ball possession we couldn't score. Now with few minutes to go they started playing with more energy and vigor, their performance and speed increased.

To my surprise France started playing world class football, there passes became more sharper, at this juncture our players were already tired plus they were taken unawares by the spike in France performance level given that the French had physiologically made them to underestimate them. I believe France adopted this strategy after watching our march with Argentina paying more attention to how fast we equalized. They knew that they stood a higher chance to score a goal at the tail end of the march leaving the super eagles with no time to equalize after having noticed that we always wear out during the ending period of a match.

The strategy was simple Take them by surprise and never give them room to recover. On understanding this I smiled and gave a standing ovation for France.

The point is
To win you need a strategy not just any strategy a brilliant strategy : We all want to win in life, Win that juicy promotion, Win that scholarship opportunity, Win the heart of the love of our life. we all want to succeed in life ... but have you sat down to build a winning strategy. How you intend to get from where you are to where you want to be, have your understudied your opponents, the risks and challenges you would face on the way and have you built a contingency plan, or do you just live life by chance, moving towards any direction the wind of life pushes you to.

You want to excel, who do you need to know, what role are they going to play in your life at what time, what knowledge and insight do you require to get there, what steps are you making to reach for stars. What strategy are you building to outsmart your stumbling blocks.

As you build your strategy Stick this into your head, "Brain will always win over might" Just like France beat us using their brain over our might. So it is in life. Design a brilliant strategy that is focused on working smarter instead of harder... As a popular saying goes..." If na by muscle bricklayer for become billionaire " ... Never forget that Smart people never stay poor.

The most important battles are fought in the mind: When France gave us the first goal. I could feel how demoralized our players were, they lost their cool and their performance dwindled... It was evident the French didn't just score they damaged their psyche. It was evident our players lost hope... they didn't believe they could equalize. This was evident in the way Osaze carelessly left the ball to go offside which eventually lead to the second goal.

The point is there will be moments in life where your faith will be tested, Where you will be put through fire & brimstone. Where the light at the end of the tunnel instead of getting brighter will shut right in your face. You'll feel like there is no need to hope again. In moments like this, It is very crucial you never say never, hope again, never stop believing in miracles, never give up. Because the moment you stop believing, in that same moment you fail before even failing.

If possible reach for greatness let your set back inspire you and drive you. Let it make you better. The good thing with this approach is that even if you eventually fail ... You would've have failed with class. Something we did during our encounter with Argentina... We lost by one goal but we still applauded them because they fought to the end... the played good football throughout.

Finally it not about how you start but how you end. The end RESULTS is all that matter in life no one freaking cares about how hard you've toiled, how many attempts or shot you made to achieve success, How you started brilliantly all they care about is results, end results.

It is evident that 70% of the time we played good football, we had more possession ... we dribbled we were on point but at the end we lost and we lost woefully, we made terrible mistakes. That is all we remember.. the mistakes, Yobo's own goal, Mikels poor performance, Osaze's misjudgement, Enyema's poor judgment that lead to the goals.

The world celebrate heroes, they celebrate winners, They never give f*uk about failures... do whatever it takes that is just and within the confines of your conscience ... to freaking succeed.
In all be smart and NEVER SAY NEVER.

#Mathew Briggs

masegodoris: Friendzoning a guy feels exactly like being USED. It is the female equivalent of being a guy's just "Bleep buddy" without him making the girl his girlfriend.
The problem lies in the fact that any form of friendship for guys involves sacrificing for their friend (even for their male-male relationships).
So naturally, in a male-female friendship the guys always gets used and feels dumped.

mencade5: please go and make friends with your brothers and male cousins,

if i cant fvck and kiss you then its bye bye

Lordabas: the fact that we have to watch you date some random guy not worth sh*t when we would die to have someone like you to love and care for. We want to wake up an be motivated to do everything in our lives for you. But you don't give us a chance you just want to be "friends".
Being in the friend zone is like failing at everything we've tried for. It hurts!

LogoDWhiz: The big deal is the way girls take advantage of the situation...

Why do u friend zone a guy, why don't u make it clear if he's a friend or he is more than that. And don't make him do things meant for your bf.. Cos that's why the issue lies..

LaurelP: D friendzoned guy is d one who gives all but gets notin in return
Other dan smiles
While d bad guy gets d punny, and sometimes gifts sef

princesa: Err... It's me again.

This time around I really wanna know what so wrong in 'friend zoning' a male friend like you guys on Nairaland so detest?

I mean, Is it wrong for a girl to want to have a male friend who she doesn't want to date or be intimately familiar with?

Every post on this zoning thingy I've read on here got me cracking and wondering the perception of the dudes because honestly I don't see the big issue in it. The girl probably sees the guy as a friend or a brother, so what's freaking wrong about it? She must not date every guy na? Haba!

Guys oh, come and answer clearly so that we can understand your stance.

millionaireman: @chino 72,
Let me tell you your problem: Chino72 from Uga, Aguata Lga of Anambra state. Whenever Chino 72 is placed side by with an Anambrarian fellow from say O'Sha or Ogidi, Chino72 is immediately imposed with inferiority complex.

So Chino72's only consolation is wearing the flag of Anambra state, or painting himself with Anambra state colours in any assembly, including on NL. Grow up Chino. Shake off inferiority complex.
Uli in Ihiala and Orlu share a lot of common ancestry.

Donmarrius: Your opinion as regards whether some LGAs in Anambra,will be carved out or not,will be grossly insignificant,when the time comes.
Stop making it look as if Anambra statet is your family name!.
When time comes,those who holds the stake in Anambra,and Igbo nation,will definitely speak.
Or was Anambra not created from somewhere?.

VICTORCIZA: my big brother married from ihiala and the lady has been cursing and shouting about including ihiala in njaba state. Ihiala people should stay with their Anambra brothers.
orlu get your state and leave ihiala people alone

Engr DozzyMary: people lyk u r d probs we hv in d east! Smone 4rm d north dnt kia wat d name of d new st8 is or d mother state, dia interest is d northern region is xpanding. So, gentleman leave sentiments out! Wateva de cal d state, no issue @ al. Smtyms i wonder aw easterns ll manage Biafran if de r askd 2 go dia way 2day!

jakiedudu: Guys what do you expect? supporters of APC will always be supporters of APC. I wished he's first wife was Suares's sister. That would have fixed his wife abuse tendencies.

zeb04: Why is everything about ladies? D pple u insult all d tym,still the ones u nid the most. I ve com to a conclusion dat talking bad about ladies makes u all feel more like men....well if dat makes u happy,who are my to stand in the way of dat.

Vyolet: So i tried to make sense out of this thread as little as 0.5% but i couldn't see any in it. All i keep seeing is fish,fish,fish,do you want to eat fish? Lengthy with no sense..

ifedun2: Really?Thanks o.

Avedon: Gej till - 2019

Barister Sullivan iheanacho Chime till - 2027

If the country remain as single entity then the yorubas and their masters will settle it between them. Not even in politics, generally yorubas are arch enemies of Igbos that's why i will never trust Yoruba in my life. Never..! Poisonous insects

kwajay1: Why are the igbos crying that the yorubas are bending thier asses for the hausas when they are also guilty as charged bending their asses for the Ijaws to screw. This is politics my people, you don't expect every tribe to present a candidate for the position. Its so sad that Nigeria has come to this level where leaders are voted based on religious or tribal sentiments. Please igbos should present a candidate too and stop parading themselves behind an ijaw man.

Ikengawo: It's very sad how quickly the yoruba are able to bend over like a woman for any nationality that wants to use them.
If the igbos were more malicious they could have really taken advantage of our incredible amount of influence wealth and power in the SW...but we don't because we don't believe in such. The north on the other hand has time and time again turned the yoruba into women in their own home

ilorin
military rule
awolowo
abiola
and now tinubu.


If the Yoruba wanted to present Fashola as the president of the country, APC will fall apart. If the north wanted to present even a blind hausa beggar as president, the party will remain intact. Yorubas always feel that they 'need' the north and in this they are very quick to allow their birthright to be the play toy of someone else. Who speaks of Fashola again in Nigeria today? How is talking about Ipon Imo and all of the other things the ACN was trying to use to lift the Yoruba into greatness?

I didn't like ACN as a party when they were around because i didn't like Tinubu, but I respected what they were doing for the yoruba as a nation because it would be nice for the Igbos to have a united voice like that....but i will die before allowing a united igbo voice to be a whisper in an hausa home.




Keep thinking the SE/SS is the enemy. Keep thinking the igbos are the ones you need to fight. Keep thinking APC is a 'party' as opposed to an 'agenda'. Keep attacking Stella as if Tambuwal didn't walk into the house and, without doing anything for Nigeria, overshadow Fashola, Tinubu, and Rauf because he was born to rule and the other three weren't.

winniz: I knew it from the onset that yorubas were witch hunting Stella but God has vindicated you. This 2014 all your enemies shall be put to shame in Jesus name. APC can go and die chai.

baby_123: Rotflmao. I was expecting this. FFK must have a crush on this woman. He is always just available to throw small kerosene into the raging fire and then sit back and laugh. The day these two catch themselves in dark corner the explosion of heightened tension go be wah